Let me preface this by saying that I’m known for staright-talk, so I hope no one is offended by this. But I don’t really care. I'm saying it with love because this is out of control. I’ve been bothered by the way children, especially girls, are having sex with any and everybody. As a parent, I’m concerned, and as a woman, I’m disgusted. This is the last thing I will say about it because I’m over it now. Can’t tell ya’ll nothing. 

What is a whore? Society says it’s someone who gets paid for sex. So what is a “ho?” My definition is someone who doesn’t care who they have sex with. They’ll do it with anyone for the sake of doing it. As I watch movies and television, all I see is people having sex like it’s no big deal. It is a big deal and just in case nobody ever told you, I’m gonna break this thing down and then I will not speak of it again.

            What’s really sad is that some parents have done all they can do to make sure their children don’t become sexually active too soon. But what’s sadder is that some of you haven’t been told anything. So for you who were given all the information you needed to make an informed decision about sex and you still went and did it, you should be ashamed. It wasn’t a mistake. You did it on purpose and you will one day regret it. And for you who never had this talk with anyone, read and try to understand this.

            When I was a teenager, boys were trying to get into the girl’s panties. That part hasn’t changed. That’s what boys do. But the difference is that the majority of the girls were saying “no”. Nowadays, the majority is doing it and you’d be hard-put to find a virgin. In fact, I’d be willing to bet that there are no virgins in high school or even middle school now. I think your last chance of finding one may be in elementary school. They start having sex fresh out the womb, it seems. Very sad.

            Sex was created by God as an expression of love between a husband and a wife. It’s main purpose was for procreation. Procreation means to make babies. Of course, people have taken the act itself and made it something perverse. It feels good and many adults do it with people they aren’t married to. That’s wrong. But at least they’re grown. Children should not be having sex. It wasn’t meant for you.

            When you have sex with someone, it’s not just a physical act. It’s spiritual. When you become one with someone that way, your spirits become one. That’s why it’s meant for people who vow to be one until death. When you do it with several people you become one with several people and their spirits hang on to you and go with you to the next person you have sex with.

            For instance, if Jane has sex with Jack, they become one spirit and one body. If Jane then goes and has sex with Bob, she takes Jack’s spirit with her and Bob brings with him the spirits of whomever he’s been with. Then Jane hooks up with Tim and she brings Jack’s and Bob’s spirits with her and Tim brings the spirits of whomever he’s been with.

            I was always taught and still believe that my body is a temple and my "stuff" is precious. I’m classy and I carry myself with respect. Not every man who tries to holla can get here, because not all are worthy. If Jack tried to holla at me, I’d have to consider him and that ho, Jane, and all the people they’ve been with and all the spirits he wants to bring to my bedroom.

            If you close your eyes when you’re kissing and you’re thinking about going to the next level, imagine all the people he or she’s been with standing naked all round the bed. All the girls before you and the boys before him. All ya’ll in there together.

            Your goodies are a gift from God to be reserved for your husband or wife. All the wonderful sexiness that I am is for one man who loves me. Someone I love. There’s no way I could just lay down with someone who doesn’t respect or care about me. If he’s out there wilding out, having sex with everyone, he couldn’t look my way, let alone see me naked.

            Men don’t go around giving diamond rings to every woman they date. That’s for the one they love. The special one. By the same token, you shouldn’t give your diamond to every guy you date. It’s supposed to be special for the one you love and who loves you.

            Young ladies, virginity is like a bell, once you ring it, you can’t un-ring it. Once you’ve given up your cherry, you can’t get it back. You only get one first time and if you waste it on some old bullshit brotha, how stupid will you feel when you’re old enough to understand all this and you meet “the one.” You gotta give him some old sloppy stuff that somebody has had, along with all the nastiness he's had or whatever. I’m sorry, but that’s nasty and if you don’t value yourself and the gift God gave you to give to your husband someday, you’re a ho. 

            That’s not to say that you can never get your life together or anything like that. I’ve seen girls who were ho-ish early on grow up to be good women. But believe me, they regret allowing themselves to fall for that old okey-doke. Don’t be dumb. If a guy really cares for you, he’ll wait for you. And you should wait because this time in your life is too important to be distracted. The things you do right now will shape your future.

Personally, I never hung around the fast girls when I was in school. Some my mom said I couldn’t hang out with. But mostly, it was my decision. And as an adult, I still don’t hang out with promiscuous women.

I had a friend who, when we went to a club, she’d hook up and go home with perfect strangers. If she was feeling him and he was feeling her, it was on. Most of them she never saw or heard from again. She was a ho and I stopped going out with her because I didn’t want anyone to think I was that easy. Dogs run in packs and so do ho’s. 

For the parents reading this, if you have a daughter and she has sex with someone, your hands aren’t tied. If she’s underage and he isn’t, prosecute his ass!!!! That’s statutory rape and it goes both ways. If some older ho gets your little boy, send her ass to jail, too.

I’m all in ya'll business because I want you to become men and women who value yourselves and know that all the good stuff God put in your pants is meant for one person . . . someone you love.

I can only hope you won’t go out and be cavalier about it because it really is special. And remember young ladies that it’s different for boys. A guy can screw every girl in a one block radius and people will call him a playa. When a girl does it, she’s a ho. Sorry, but it is what it is.

Don’t be a ho. Don’t give your diamond to the first pretty smile or sexy body that comes along. Hell, if you get hot and bothered, take a shower or something. But once you let him see you naked, it’s done. You can’t take it back.

With all this "Onion Booty" and "Bang Bus" stuff all over the place, I can see how young people can be curious. But let me ask you. How many men would really marry a porn star and have her be the mother of his children? You should be saving yourself for your Barack or Michelle Obama.

I had high hopes for some, but they’ve disappointed me. I’ll be chilling from now on. I was really hurt by what I saw our young ladies doing, how they were behaving and how these boys were using and disrespecting them. But I’m so over it now.

I mean, I’ve talked to them and tried to be a good example for them. But the pull of that nasty must be stronger than self-respect and class. Hell, not everybody has class. Jay-Z said, “You can go to school, but you can’t buy class.” Either you have it or you don’t. Perhaps you just don’t. In which case, please, just practice safe sex.

Always use a condom because pregnancy isn’t the only thing you have to be concerned about. Sexually transmitted diseases can be transferred orally as well as through intercourse. I wish there was a mouth condom.

Some of these boys couldn’t touch me with rubber gloves because they're nasty. They've done nasty things with nasty people. The same is true for you guys. Some of these girls are nasty. But if you insist on doing it, regardless of everything I’ve said, your parents said, your pastor said, your health teacher said and anyone else has said, at least protect yourselves.

I had to come back and revise this because when I initially wrote it, I came straight from my heart. I'm frustrated because I see so many beautiful black men and women with so much talent and it seems they're just throwing it all away. I just don't get it. But I wanted to be sure I wasn't misunderstood. I'm not judging anyone.

It's not just concern for my own kids. It's concern for every person who's been to my house. Every person who's been in the booth. Every person who's joined me for a 4:20. I don't want nothing to happen to none of ya'll. That's why I'm saying if we chill out and focus on making some money, we can put our little city on the map for something more than a high crime rate. That makes sense to me.

From this point on, the only thing I'm gonna think about is what I want my life to be like. I want peace. I want to be able to go to any store and buy whatever I want. I want to go anyplace I want. I want to eat, drink and smoke whatever I want. I want to drive anything I want and live anywhere I want. I want to be free. Barack can't do that shit for us, we have to do it ourselves.

I feel a little bit better. Once I got in rotation, everything cleared up for me. Some of the tightest rappers, poets and singers have crossed my threshold. I know competition is normal, but only healthy competition. Not hating. Everyone has to focus on getting paid and getting out of here. If it's rapping, singing or slinging, do you and let's get paid. Then let's have the biggest friggin' bar-be-que we can throw!

Things have just been so wild lately. Everywhere you turn, someone's fighting or shooting. That ain't cool. We gotta chill. Make love, not war or in the words of Shuudupp Green, "Ganja Ganja, roll up sump'n!" Whatever it takes to calm down.

If you didn't know, music people are looking at us. I've heard positive feedback about a lot of the music here. I'm talking major players in the industry. Something amazing is about to happen. I can feel it. I know some of you have, too. If we can focus on that and keep the other stuff from getting in and messing us up, we can force the damned universe to release what belongs to us.

Maybe I'm just a typical mom with the normal worries for her family and friends. But I just think these things happen when the enemy knows you're about to break through. That's why it takes single-minded focus and sheer will to make a dream into a reality. They ain't gonna know what to say when we up and out of here. But it's destiny and ain't no changing that.

My girlfriend in ATL sent me this and I immediately brought it here. I'm gonna post it everywhere I can think of so that all my peeps can see and understand what's really going on. IT"S A TRICK! DON'T FALL FOR THE OKEY-DOKE, FOLKS!

As an African American woman, I am proud that Barack Obama has been nominated for the Presidency of this United States of America. Our ancestors fought, bled and died for this very purpose and I wish they were all here to see it. But as I sat trying to watch Sarah Palin (it was hard. she's a nutcase.) give her speech at the RNC, I began to wonder about the people of this country. I'm afraid we're a pretty stupid nation and I'm terrified that the majority (stupid people) are going to control this election just like the last two.

Here's what I base my opinion upon. First, after the disaster that was George H. W. Bush's presidency, I would think that no one would want to see, let alone vote for another Bush for president. But they did. Not once, but twice. It seems that the people of this country don't really care about whether the people they elect are good for the country. As long as they win. It's partisan politics at it's rawest. And here we go again.

McCain is a mealy-mouthed dunderhead who mumbles when he speaks. If you watch him closely, it doesn't even look like his lips are moving when he talks. He's a ventriloquist! That in itself is enough to make me distrust him. I mean, he appears to be a nice guy and he's a war hero. Respect. But he shouldn't be president and he knows it. So, knowing that Obama is a formidable opponent and Biden ain't nuttin' to sneeze at, he goes out and finds himself a girl to take all the Hillarians (they're hilarious) who refuse to vote the party since Hillary didn't win the ticket. And these dummies are falling for it. They're eating Sarah Palin up like she's manna from Heaven. It's a trick and I hope that someone will expose it for what it is. It's a ploy to appear as if they are rallying for change, but it's all an illusion.

Sarah Palin ain't no role model, ya'll. She's a chick who has a huge family who obviously need her attention. Otherwise perhaps her baby wouldn't be having a baby. I'm not one who's quick to judge other people's actions. Everyone has difficulties and struggles. But let me say this. My mother raised me, my sister and brother all by herself. My dad dipped when I was about five. She worked her ass off and was pissed and aggravated a lot because she got NO child support. We did things that kids do. We sneaked beer and I even developed a fondness for cannabis. But one thing none of did was have any kind of sex before we left her house!

She wasn't having it! She was tired a lot and she didn't get to many of my brother's football games or my sister's ensemble choir performances or my basketball games. But she made sure we made good grades and stayed out of trouble. I didn't get pregnant as a teen, neither did my sister and my brother was grown and in the military before he had a kid. I got married and so did my sister. We all have children now. But we were taught that only the hot girls, the fast girls, had babies early and she was determined that it would not be one of her children. Back in the day, pregnant teens were objects of disgrace and so were their mothers. People used to ship pregnant girls out of town until their babies were born. So what has changed? It's OK now for teens to have sex and make babies? That movie, Juno, made it alright? Jamie Lynn Spears made it cool? And now Sarah Palin's pregnant daughter is all in the spotlight and no one has a problem with it? That crap ain't cool and neither is Sarah Palin. If she were running for PTA president, that would be different. But not president of my country. I can't have that.

I have a daughter. She's sixteen and I know she has feelings and is curious. I talk to her about everything. From boys hitting her (NOT HAVING IT!) to whether oral sex is considered sex. Basically, I told her if she got pregnant before graduating college, I'd kill her. Of course, I didn't mean that, but the threat was real enough to make her think when some boy wants to see her very beautiful and ample bosom up close. She ain't having it. But if she does find herself in that situation, I believe she knows not to do anything raw. No jimmy, no nookie!

What kind of mother is Sarah Palin? Well, she's pro-life. That's why she CHOSE to have her Down's baby. That was her choice and she's entitled to it. It wouldn't have been my choice, but hell, I've exercised my right to choice on two occasions and if I hadn't, I don't know what my life would be like today. I think perhaps she's needed in her home and taking on the responsibility of a whole country might be more than she can handle. If her daughter ended up pregnant while she was governor, her whole family may fall apart while she's president. She obviously can't multi-task.

I didn't have a problem with Hillary. I didn't think she was right for the presidency, but if she'd won the ticket, I wouldn't have had any trouble voting for her because I agree with her ideas and most of her ideals. She withstood the whole Lewinsky-Gate ordeal and stood by her man. That was her choice. It wouldn't have been mine and I gladly exercised my right to divorce my sorry-assed husband when he cheated on me. But hey, we're different women. Nevertheless, I respect Hillary and how she handled herself with quiet strength and grace under pressure. She raised a great daughter who's successful in her own right and I think Hillary is a role model. Sarah Palin is not.

According to the news, McCain's people didn't meet with Palin until the day before McCain announced her as his VP choice. She's getting people fired for messing with her sister. That's corruption, right? McCain had no idea who this woman was or whether they would vibe or not. That's a lack of judgemtn, right? They look so stiff and uncomfortable together. It's a far cry from the love fest at the DNC. But I said all that to say this. Don't be fooled, especially my people, by this whole thing. Barack is a Black man, but that's only because when a child has Black DNA in them, they are classified as Black. I have to wonder, would white people accept him so enthusiastically if he looked like Bernie Mack (RIP)? Don't get me wrong. I love Bernie Mack. He was one of the finest Blackety-Black men out there. He had that "Black that don't crack" skin and his smile was just radiant. Barack is a good-looking man, too. His skin is fair and his hair is soft and wavy. That's them white folks in him. I think that's what white people see in him and that makes them comfortable. If both his parents had been African, ya'll know Obama's name wouldn't be on the Democratic Presidential ticket. Don't fall for the okey-doke!

I believe that Barack and Biden could whip this country back into shape. I believe in his ability to talk to foreign leaders and he has the charisma to turn things the way he wants them to go. I really like him and his relationship with his wife, Michelle, is a true example of Black love. Like Ruby Dee and Ossie Davis or Will and Jada. I want to believe and trust that cooler heads will prevail this time around. But I voted for Al Gore and he got stolen. Then I voted for John Kerry and he got stolen. So, forgive me if I ain't turning flips because a Black man is running for president. If he looked like Chris Rock, this wouldn't be happening. So, please, people, don't let your guard down. Racism did not end with Obama's nomination or that wonderfully inspiring speech. Do not lapse into a false sense of security. It's going to take every vote out there to make this happen and even then, that might not be enough because you know the Republicans take what they want. While we're basking in the glow of our ascent to the mountain top let us watch as well as pray. And if you know someone stupid who thinks Sarah Palin and John McCain are what this country needs, please slap them upside the head and tell them they're under some kind of evil spell. The only way to break it is to vote for Obama.

The first time I saw Bernie Mack was with my girlfriend, Erika. He was on Def Comedy Jam and I had never heard of him. She kept talking about this fine black man and how funny he was. She was right. When that fool walked out on stage and said, "I ain't scared of you muthafuckaz!" I fell out. It was love from that point on. I was a radio DJ then and we hoped that Bernie would come to our city (or at least Tampa) so we could meet him. That never happened. The closest they got to St. Pete was Orlando.

Bernie did some very powerful and creative work in his career. His TV show, where he talks to "America", was some of the best TV on TV! My heart is really broken this morning because the Mack man is gone. Rika died in child birth several years ago. She never got to meet Bernie, but I know she'll track him down in Heaven. The two of them together up there must be a party all day every day. It's a sad day for us, though. Bernie Mack, we will miss you! Damn! Another good black man gone. RIP, baby!