I am doing research on a topic that is another facet of human sexuality that is never talked about: POSTPARTUM SEXUALITY.  I need your help, if you or someone that you know has had a baby please let them know about this project.  My goal is to get information from over 1000 women, so that I can shed the light on some of this topic.  Thanks in advance.

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Sexuality After Birth- The Road of Recovery
Postpartum for most couples is a whirlwind, a rollercoaster ride that doesn’t let you off. The last thing on your minds is having sex. For the woman there is a period of healing that needs to take place and men need to honor this time. The more that men honor her healing time the more likely it is that she will want to engage with you sexually once her healing is complete. The length of time that you spend healing varies from woman to woman and depends upon the type of birth that she experienced. If the birth was vaginal and there was no tearing of the pelvic floor, she will most likely be able to engage in sexual activity after her bleeding has stopped. (This bleeding period was a great shock to me. No one had told me that I would bleed for weeks after I gave birth, not even my own mother or sister.) If she has had a tear to her pelvic floor it depends upon the degree of the tear. I had a second degree tear that extended all the way to my anal sphincter muscles. My midwife expertly stitched me back together. I then took great care of myself by getting lots of rest and using essential oils to aid in healing. My midwife was amazed that my stitches had dissolved and I was all back together in less than a week. That didn’t mean that I was physically ready to have intercourse. My partner was so awesome that I really wanted to engage with him sexually. A recent study has shown that men who help with housework get laid more often. Postpartum was such an overwhelming time, it was a blessing to have a partner who also helped cook, clean and care for the baby. So guys if you just help out it can be a huge boost to your partner’s libido.

Here is my experience about two months after I had given birth...

“Our first attempt at sex after birth was depressing to say the least. It left me feeling angry and despondent. I was convinced that with a baby around I would never have sex again, which added to the feelings that my life was over forever. We had the stage set, the baby was finally asleep, we were alone in the house for the first time in a long time, and my bleeding had stopped weeks ago. We took turns showering (first mistake, but I like at least cleaning off the dried breast milk and day’s worth of baby spit up)by then the baby was awake again and fussy. I proceeded to breast feed him while my partner finished his shower and created an atmosphere in the room- candle, aromatherapy etc. He caressed my legs as I breastfed. My body welcomed the touch it felt like ages since I have been caressed like that, soft, electric, warm. The baby drifted off again and I put him down. We started cuddling and kissing and being close with our naked, freshly showered bodies. It felt so good, but I was distracted. The baby kept stirring and I feared he would wake again. We were also both nervous about intercourse, it had been over two months since he had been inside me and the last time we had intercourse sex it broke my water and started my labor. It was as if the baby knew what we were about to do and was scared or jealous, he doesn’t understand how much we need to connect; so he starts crying and I try to soothe him back to sleep, nothing works. We give up for the moment and I try breastfeeding again. An hour later my partner is asleep with the baby on his chest “just a little nap and I’ll have more energy” he says without opening his eyes. At this point I have tears streaming down my face. I NEED to have sex! I get up and leave the bedroom. Writing is the only way that I can think of to calm myself down and work through my anger. I come back a few hours later and they are still sleeping. I crawl into bed and cry some more the whole experience bringing up feelings of rejection especially around my body image.

That was two days ago. And now I sit here with a baby at my breast, my cheeks still warm and glowing from post coital bliss. Just a little over an hour ago, my partner came into the room with a little smirk on his face. He moved the baby from the middle of the bed where he was sound asleep to the opposite side, lucky for us he stayed asleep. He took off his red shirt and started undressing me out of my sweat clothes (hot I know). I put down my computer quickly, even though I was in the middle of working on something really time sensitive. It was mid day and I didn’t care if we had a romantic candle lit night or the right atmosphere or showers. I had been having body image issues all throughout my pregnancy and now post partum I still had an extra 25 pounds and lots of body fat where it hadn’t existed before, it was mid day and he could see it all, and I didn’t care. We started kissing, soft, wet, vulnerable kisses. He was caressing me and I could feel a rush of oxytocin (love chemical) shoot through me, this caused my milk to “letdown” and I became self conscious. Would I squirt milk all over? I expressed to him that it might get messy. He showed me that it didn’t bother him by taking my nipple in his mouth and drinking up the milk dripping from it. We hurried to get the rest of our clothes off and I was so happy to see that he was erect. I know from all my teaching that a man can be aroused and attracted to someone even if they don’t have an erection, but that erect penis make me feel sexy again. He started to touch my clit…my clit that has now had three different lives, pre-pregnancy, during pregnancy when it was so large and swollen, and postpartum it feels so small and very different. The clitoral stimulation moved into slow penetration with fingers. There was a little blood, but it didn’t hurt at all like I expected with the way that the scar tissue felt from my tear. I felt awkward at first, I couldn’t remember how to kiss, he reminded before to keep my lips soft. It was such a weird experience being that I am usually the one teaching other people how to have better sex. I still got it intellectually but my body was different and I am still finding my way. I went to what I know well, penis massage! He was so hard and I was so ready and I didn’t want to just have foreplay forever, so I pushed him down on the bed. I wanted to do this and I was ready. I looked him in the eyes and felt myself tearing up. “I love you so much” I said with an intense feeling of vulnerability for both of us. I had said those words often since the birth of the baby, but I hadn’t really felt it like the days before my pregnancy. Everything in our life had become about the baby and logistics to make everything work. Now it felt like us again and I remembered the connection that we had, and why we had been so passionate before. My body was practically begging for him as I was unusually wet for a woman who is breastfeeding. I felt better being on top even though I was anxious to get to some of the sexual positions we had been missing out on during my pregnancy, especially at the end. I got to control the penetration. I went ever so slow and made sure that I felt everything and really paid attention to my body. I thought it would feel like a gaping hole after having a baby come out of it, but surprisingly it felt really tight for both of us. I was so happy that, that was the case. As I took him deeper and deeper I felt a pinchy feeling on the left of vagina and I started to feel the scar tissue at the perineum. My first intercourse after birth felt like a strange mix of pleasure and pain. I kept moving through it and decided to add more pleasure to the experience by starting some self touch of clitoris. The baby started stirring and we both knew that our time was limited. I brought myself to an orgasm, which of course very different- not the type of clitoral orgasm where I can’t stand stimulation any longer, but I felt like I could keep going and going and going. I asked my partner if he wants to cum, he says “of course”…we both agree it won’t be inside of me, neither of us want any more munchkins at this point. He does the good old coitus interruptus and at the same moment the baby starts to cry, we look at each other for a brief moment of afterglow and say “I love you” and then I am off to tend to a hungry baby who wants to breastfeed instantly.”

Advice
Have sex when you can-don’t try to plan
Let go of sex being perfect
Communicate and be vulnerable
Know that you will have a sex life again- appreciate what you get when you get it
Go Slow and Rush
Have a sense of humor about it all
No Pressure, No Pressure= No Resentment

I am writing a book about sexuality during pregnancy, chilbirth and postpartum. I would love some true stories from women about their experiences. Everything will be kept confidential.

Thanks
Jaiya

With the holidays approaching I wanted to take a moment to check in with myself and give thanks...there are so many things in my life to be thankful for, but I am listing my top ten.

I am grateful...

1)  For the little baby kicking and squirming inside of me.  I can't wait to meet this little one.
2)  For my amazing partners Jon and Ian.  I am so blessed to have these male manifestations in my life.  I am so supported and well taken care of and most importantly deeply loved and adored.
3)  That I'm not freezing my butt off in OHIO right now, instead I get to live in Topanga Canyon and be warm throughout the winter.
4)  That I have a roof over my head, great food in my belly, and the majority of my basic needs are met. (Side note:  I saw a film last night called Slumdog Millionaire that made me feel so grateful for my life...it's a bit intense but very well done.)
5)  That my book and DVDs  (Red Hot Touch) are fullfilling their mission to get quality sex education out into the world.
6)  For my dance community.  I'm so excited to spend my Thanksgiving Morning shaking my pregnant butt with you all.
7)  For family...not just my bio-mom and sister (who is also pregnant), but also my extended family which includes some really amazing people.
8) For creativity.  I never seem to have a lack of great ideas to put into motion, and I am so grateful that art, music, theatre and dance exist in this world!
9) For my body.  It seems to be changing everyday, but miraculously it does it's job of growing a baby so naturally, and it tells me exactly what it needs in order to do that.
10)  For all the support that I recieve from others in so many varieties of ways.

As some of you may know I am now five months pregnant. It has really brought me to some places of really big transformation. Being that my work is mostly about human sexuality, I am curious about how other women and couples handled their sex lives during pregnancy.

I am learning so much, and would really appreciate lots of feedback about this subject.

Here are some questions that I have had come up and also have heard from other women. Please feel free to post your own answers, questions and experiences

1) Is it safe?

In most cases it is totally safe. Unless you have a high risk of miscarriage, an incompetent cervix, your water has broken, or your doctor has told you "no sex", sex during all stages of pregnancy is safe, even beneficial. It gets lots of juicy hormones going that are great for you and the baby. And if you can't have intercourse there are lots of other ways to be intimate.

2) I feel awful and have no interest in sex, what should I do?

I felt really awful during my first trimester. I had the most horrible morning sickness and slept most of the day for about three months. I was very lucky to have such great partners. I was nurtured with massages, nipple stimulation and clitoral orgasms. I was never pressured to have intercourse and if we did engage in intercourse he did all the work because I was so exhausted. It helped to have a tantra practice, which for me was more about connection and bonding than about having really hot sex at this point.  I was also very sensitive to smells and my partner had to make sure that he showered and brushed his teeth before making out with me. I also developed a UTI and had to abstain from and vaginal touch or intercourse for awhile. I found that I loved nipple stimulation and firm touch...but it wasn't until my second trimester that I really started enjoying sex and having quite a high sex drive again.

3) What positions are best for pregnancy?

In the first trimester I really enjoyed the missionary positions or any other positions where he was on top. I kept thinking that we wouldn't be able to be in that position very much longer, so I wanted to try it as much as possible. Plus, I was so exhausted that the thought of doing much work and taking charge was not a turn on. In the second trimester it isn't good to lie flat on your back and missionary gets uncomfortable. We have been using side lying positions, woman on top, or doggy style. Just a few nights ago we came up with a great position. I was lying on my side in the splits (yes it takes some flexibility), one leg over his shoulder the other running along his leg. He's on his side and penetrating me from that angle. We could get really close this way and it was new and adventurous. In the third trimester ( I haven't gotten there yet) I have heard that penetration from behind is best, but you don't want to get too deep. I have also heard that sex later in the third trimester can bring on labor.

4)I'm really into making love, but my partner is freaked out about hurting the baby. How can I make him understand it will be alright?

All he needs is a little education. Let him know that there is plug in your cervix that will keep bacteria, sperm and infection out of the uterus. Let him also know that his penis is not going to hit the baby, your cervix is too small for that. Tell him about the benefits to all of you when it comes to sex. Your body will produce hormones that the baby will feel (oxytocin, dopamine, prolactin) and gives you all a sense of bonding and connection. Your orgasms also massage the baby as the Uterus contracts. And later in pregnancy you can use sex as a way to bring on labor.

5) I notice that my genitals and nipples are really sensitive. What's going on?

It is true that the genitals and nipple may be very, very sensitive. This is because more blood is flowing to these areas. During pregnancy your blood volume increases 40-50%. You may notice that your genitals are swollen as if you are aroused. You clitoris may be bigger and seem like it is always erect. Some of this is due to all the great hormones your body is adjusting to. My nipples and clit are extremely sensitive and I am having really intense orgasms from these two areas of my body. The nipples of course are more sensitive due to an increase in size, blood volume,and hormones responsible for your milk coming in.

6) I am having a hard time adjusting to my changing body. I just feel like hippo, whereas before I felt very sexy. How do I shift this and find myself sexy again?

This one has been very hard for me. I feel like I went from sex goddess to mom in sweatshirts over night. I gained 12 pounds in one months, which caused stretch marks from my ankles to my hips. Not to mention all the body fat I have put on. My partner tells me that I am sexy and beautiful everyday, but I don't believe him. This has been one of the hardest parts. I did have some photos taken recently where I could see that I actually do look pregnant and not like a marshmallow and that seemed to help. I am also doing some research on stretch mark prevention and starting to exercise which helps too. Another woman told me to go out and get some cute maternity clothes and stop wearing my partner's sweatshirts. I also have heard that the body image stuff stops when you really start showing and people know that you are pregnant.

7) How long before I can have sex again once I have the baby?

That will depend upon the type of birth that you have and how long it takes for you to heal. I have heard from homebirth moms who had no tearing or episiotomy that they started having intercourse just two-three weeks after giving birth. Most women I hear that it takes 2-3 months before they can fully return to vaginal intercourse. Women who have c-sections may take longer or shorter depending upon the healing from the surgery. Even though they didn't have a vaginal birth, there is still abdominal healing that has to happen. Many women loose interest in sex after the baby is born. This is usually do to a drop in Estrogen and a rise in Oxytocin from breastfeeding. It is best to think about going slow. Have a few make out sessions, do erotic massage, pretend you are teen age virgins courting each other. This may help make it fun and take the pressure off. It is best not to feel pressured and to take your time, but also to realize that your partner wants to be included and has needs as well. It is best to talk about this before the baby comes and to have some ways to reintegrate with each other.

Again, I would love to hear from any moms or moms to be out there...or partners of women who have had children. How would you answer these questions? Do you have any experiences we can learn from? Do you have other questions you would like answers to around this topic?

The Economy of Love.

 

Q. What's invisible but doesn't cost 700 billion dollars?

A. Love!

 

In fact love defies anything to do with numbers, because the more you give away the more you have. With the perceptions of economic troubles, you may feel inclined to pay more attention to your spending habits. This is a good idea; I say stick with it and put your concentration on your love life. This is definitely one aspect of your life that can really flourish from some smart investing.

 

The average cost of dinner and a movie is $105.00. There are too many variables involved on a date to really calculate how one night could be an investment and create and economy of love.  I realized that it wasn't about not spending money, but the value of what you get for the amount of money that you spend, and sometimes it doesn't take a penny to get a lot of value out of time spent with someone you care about.   When I was doing research for my business plan to start my company New World Sex Education I learned that in tough economic times, people keep spending money on things they like, but they purchase more things that enhance their personal lives. In other words they spend money on things that last longer and have more meaning. For example; a couple will arrange something like a trip with family and friends to a nearby state park for a whole week instead of just the two of them going to Vegas for 3  nights.  They end up having many more laughs, much deeper memories and find themselves much more relaxed. They get more out of it than they thought, more enjoyment for the dollar, more memories per mile…this is the economy of love.

 

I invite you to create more value for your money by practicing simple ways to bring more love into your life.  That love feeds you in a way that no material object can.

 

Here are some tips to start implementing the "economy of love" into your life:

 

 

• Find the economic value of your choices, how much goes in (cost) compared to how authentic the experience you get coming out (pay off).

For example, you may want to spend a romantic evening in with a date or long time partner instead of going out to the theatre ($100-$300+) and dinner ($30-$100+).  During this romantic evening at home you may talk during meal preparation, getting to know each other better, and then perhaps give each other back rubs, fully body sensual massage, or simply gazing in each other's eyes.  The only cost to you would be food and drinks for your meal ($20-$75), massage oil ($2-$15) and perhaps learning sensual massage that lasts for many evenings to come ($0-$40- research on the internet or purchasing an instructional DVD/ $135-$500+ for numerous DVDs or a weekend workshop).  But the true value is the experience that you create.  An evening in creates an environment for communication, touch, and creativity.  And you save money on gas!

 

• Keep it simple: eliminate variables that can be costly.

Some of the best times I have ever had have been the simplest.  One of my all time favorite dates was spending a few hours hiking, preparing dinner at home and then gazing into each other's eyes while kissing.  It was only my second date with this person and we spent most of the day talking deeply about ourselves and just being together.  And the only costs involved were gas and some veggies that we grilled.  It was so simple and the value that we both got out the day was priceless.  A little over a year later we are expecting a baby together!  Maybe you have been with your partner for years.  When was the last time that you spent a few hours making out on your living room couch?  Why not try it?  The simple art of kissing can bring you closer together and create more magic in your life and it doesn't cost a penny.

 

• Extract emotion from the moment, go deep, feel more, and savor. 

Let the person you are with know who you are through the experience of being with YOU rather than some form of entertainment.  It is much easier to avoid really being transparent and authentic when you are out at a movie or event (not that these aren't fun, every now and then).  When you can be really present with the person you are dating, or the person you have been with for 30 years, then you are going deep and ultimately getting more value out of the experience with them.  What can you learn about them and what can you reveal about yourself?  How do you feel?  Are you enjoying their company?  This requires absolutely no money and the value is beyond the beyond.  What it does require is personal self esteem and overcoming some of inabilities to be completely present and open.

 

Don't let fear of what is happening in today's economy scare you away from love.  And definitely be creative in ways that express love: touch, talk, take time to be with each other and don't forget the value that you are getting just from being.

 

         

 

 

 

A friend recently wrote to me about how I seem so confident in my body and asked how I deal with body image issues and coming to peace in myself. ..

Body Image is a big issue for women and believe it or not many men as well.  I used to be over 200lbs and let me tell you I loved my body then.  I was a belly dancer, and a nude model and for some reason I had no negative feelings about my body.  I loved my goddess belly and the fullness in my breasts.  I loved how soft I felt and I didn't really ever think that I was overweight or unhealthy.  Then I lost weight because I wanted to go to school for acting.  I changed my diet to mostly raw foods and I began an exercise program.   I dropped down to 125lbs, and I started to have the worst body image issues.  The outside world reacted to my weight loss, I got hit on all the time and I lost a relationship because of it. People everywhere told me how good I looked.  But I still felt "fat" and I was always worried that I would gain the weight again, and now I had stretch marks and cellulite and nothing was perfect.  Currently, I live in LA, the capital of superficiality and plastic surgery.  I am considered plus size here.  It does a number on your self image.  I went to a bodyworker recently who told me that I walk as if I still have an extra 100 pounds on me.  In my mind I am still carrying all that weight.  I still feel like I am over 200lbs.

Before I got pregnant I was working with a personal trainer he put me on a 1200 calorie diet and I worked out every day.  I started feeling really good in my body...then the pregnancy hit and I have lost all my muscle and am gaining weight...which is what is supposed to happen, but my body image stuff is coming up big time.  I just have the tiniest of bulges, and I feel like a hippo.  My breasts have increase two cup sizes already.  My partner is affectionately calling them "goddess goblets".   And I have already started to get stretch marks, which my mother says are the battle scars of pregnancy, but I hate them with a passion.  I am so afraid that after I have a baby my body will be ruined.   It's strange though some days I feel so sexy, like I did when my body was full and over 200lbs.  I feel the fullness of my breasts and the swell in my belly and it feels like I am a garden teaming with life.   I feel incredibly full of life and sexiness.

Why does our society tell us what is supposed to be attractive?  And why is it more about how we look rather than how we feel?  Body image is such an issue, How do I deal with it?

First I have to not compare myself with everyone else that I see in magazines.  I have spent a lot of time in nudist resorts and that is always great for my self esteem.  It makes me realize that everyone has imperfections; no one looks like the women in the magazines because those models have been plasticized and airbrushed.  That ideal woman doesn't exist, but it is what society tells us that we have to be and tells men that, that is what they should have on their arm.  At the nudist resorts I see obese bodies, plump bodies, bodies that have had babies, old bodies, young bodies, fit bodies, and even bodies that have been operated on to have sex changes.  It is here that I start feeling most comfortable with where I am because I am just another one of those bodies.  So put down the magazines and take a look at the variety of real bodies out there.

Next, I have to spend time feeling and being sexy for me.  This might mean gifting myself with something fabulous to wear, or taking a long bath and massaging myself with oils. It might means going to the gym and working on those parts of my body that wish to change, but not complaining about those parts, instead working on loving them.  I love having my body photographed, when I am photographed by a good artist I can see that my self perception is really off and that I look nothing like what I see in my head, or often in the mirror.  I think that photography has been the best healing tool for me when it comes to body image.

And finally, I just have to let go.  When my partner tells me I am beautiful I breathe it in, I accept it.  When negative thoughts about how I look pop into my head I take a breath and tell myself that I am perfect in all my perceived imperfections and I let go.  Other times I totally indulge myself in feeling fat, ugly, unlovable and not sexy at all.  And after a few intense moments of total indulgence I can usually laugh at myself.

What are some things that help you deal with negative body image? 

I am carrying new life inside of me and it feels like the biggest thing that I have ever done.

But let me back up and start with just how miraculous this is.  When I was 14 years old I was diagnosed with endometriosis and the doctor told me that it was so bad that I would never be able to get pregnant because I had fibroid tissues.  I kept this a secret for most my life.  Not really sure why, I just didn't want to have it reinforced.  Another doctor told me when I was in my early twenties that my Uterus was scarred and that the egg wouldn't be able to attach properly.  At that time I had already begun my Tantric exploration and my journey towards healing.  I did a lot of healing around my sexuality which I attribute to improving my condition.  I had pelvic floor work, I changed my diet, and I did energy work and emotional clearing.  But I never got pregnant.  A few years ago I went to yet another doctor, this one told me that endometriosis was not the problem but that my cervical opening (os) was almost shut and that if I wanted to have children I would need a surgery to cut open the cervix.  This seemed like good news; at least there was a possibility. 

In April of 2007 I had a partner who seemed really excited about creating new life with me.  We started to attempt the glorious act of child making.  I had some of the best orgasms of my life; orgasms that tore through my entire body.  And I became pregnant, but that partner freaked and said that I should get rid of the child.  I was devastated and seven weeks later I had a miscarriage.  It floored me.  I made the mistake of keeping all in, not talking to anyone, going into deep despair.  And my partner left me.  I thought that the window had passed and I resigned myself to a childless life. 

A few months later I would meet someone who would challenge that resolve.  We both had strong projections early on about having children together.  My relationship with him healed so much in me and I continued to receive sexological bodywork and to clear shame.   But I was convinced that my body just wouldn't allow me to carry life.  My sister was having trouble conceiving and got diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), which I guess genetically runs between sisters.  I had a lot of the symptoms, so I scheduled an appointment to go through the testing.  Meanwhile my partner and I were conscious of the fact that for a little less than a year we had been having unprotected sex.  We made the agreement that if I became pregnant we were both aware that it was not an accident, that we are conscious that we are not taking precautions against it.  We talked a lot about why we would want to have children, and asked big questions about child rearing and strong beliefs around it.  Then I put off talking about it because I didn't want to get my hopes up, I wanted to wait until after the fertility tests.  But a week before the fertility tests came I discovered that I was pregnant!

I am now almost through the first trimester.  I've had horrible morning sickness, which lasts all day, not just in the morning.  At first I was ecstatic about being pregnant; it felt like a miracle, or a testimony to the power of sticking in there and continuing to heal sexually.    I found out when I was in Philadelphia and away from my lover.  I couldn't wait to tell him.  When I got back to LA the morning sickness was starting to set in, but my spirits were high.  How would he react?  Would he freak out like my last partner?  But he didn't.  He kissed my belly and said "Wow" with tears in his eyes.  We kept the news mostly to ourselves at first, trying to figure out the logistics so that when people asked we had some answers.

We are definitely doing this in our own style.  We aren't getting married; we don't really see the need.  Our connection is strong and I am careful not to invite that archetype in just because we are having a child together.  We are going to have a home water birth and I am working with some incredible midwives.  I am hoping for a birth that is ecstatic, orgasmic and filled with transformation.  Although I am not attached to that outcome, how the baby decides to come into the world is how it will happen.  I just can't wait to get through this first trimester.  The morning sickness has had me bedridden and I have to eat constantly to keep my stomach full.  This has put me into some dark shadow work about the sacrifices of becoming a mother.  I know that my life will never be the same and this baby growing inside of me already has needs that I must meet.  This has slowed my ambitious life down quite a bit.  I hear so many women say that they love being pregnant.  But I question why anyone would want to go through this: constant nausea, depression, hormonal bouts, migraines, bladder infection, gagging, dry heaves, extreme fatigue, disconnection from your partner because he smells like rotting flesh…I could go on.  But everyone says that it will pass and I will feel better and ultimately I will have a child.  I have no idea what it will be like and at times it is terrifying, but I know that I will love being a mom.

I will keep all of you updated about my adventures and may even being doing a documentary about all of this.  Wish me luck!!!

Red Hot Touch Release Party w/ Jaiya and Jon....

At Last!  Somatic Sex Experts Jaiya and Jon reveal their secrets to a fantastic more fulfilling sex life and it all begins with the power of your hands.  ....

You are invited to share a special evening with them that celebrates the release of their first book Red Hot Touch: A Head-To-Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms.  Take part in an exclusive book signing and preview the exceptionally high quality DVD series.  You might just learn a thing or two!  Immerse yourself in the Red Hot World of Jaiya and Jon with complimentary Aphrodisiac Treats and the Red Hot Touch photography exhibit by Lawrence Lanoff, director of the Red Hot Touch DVD series.

Be one of the first 5 people to purchase a book and you will receive a free DVD from the series. 

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July 10th 7:30PM-10:00PM

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Also, I should be on PlayBoy TV's 1 show Foursome this month.  I will keep you updated about exact dates and future appearances.

Lots of Love

Jaiya