Gender: Male
Status: In a Relationship
Sign: Aries
State: New Hampshire
Country: US
Signup Date: 6/22/2004
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Current mood:  overstimulated
Category: Life
I have had a lot of thoughts running through my head the past week as I prepare for this move to New Hampshire. Even though I am generally not one to worry about what others think, I can’t help but sometimes wonder if people think this is my “next big mistake,” or that I am “running away.” Generally I would concede that when I have made sudden life changes I have been reacting to situations in my life that became somewhat unbearable or painful to deal with in the moment. My move to Chicago in 1992 as my Dad was dying of cancer, leaving Plant City for Los Angeles in 1999 after an especially emotionally challenging time with my Mom and step-sisters, and also a repeat of that in 2004 for more or less the same reason, my quick jump back to Los Angeles in 2006 when Lori dumped me, my move to Utah initially from Los Angeles in 2005 when I became ill and my sudden exit from Chicago in 2007 after the Chiopolis fiasco are just some examples of times I have felt life was a bit “too much” and I needed to be elsewhere to rebuild and regroup. I will always maintain that Utah is the place I have come to refuel, in addition to Europe.
As I look at this new exciting chapter in my life I am filled with enthusiasm, fear, joy, sadness and an overwhelming desire to make it work. There are some clear pros and cons regarding the move. First and foremost, I have found someone who cares about me and wants to build a future with me. I feel that it’s worth the risk to try and make it work. No one, even I, as much of a loner as I may be, and as commitment phobic as I am, wants to truly go through life or end their time in this world alone. I am 40 now. My Dad was 40 when he married my Mom. Honestly, most of my major memories of my life are from after the time my Dad was 40. At that point, he married my Mom and began a new life with a new family in Palm Beach, Florida which soon led to us being in Plant City. I gained some opportunities I wouldn’t have had with him as a single parent. His willingness to start new companies and his entrepreneurial spirit built a future for me I could only have imagined. I gained a Mom, cousins, grandparents, friends and, for a while, didn’t feel lonely. I would like to do that, still, for the people I love, as well as their children. There is a con. I have always considered myself bisexual and open to the person I meet that touches my heart. As most people know my main relationships have been with women (Lori, Beverley, Teresa, Debi and a few other short term dating situations). I have never really had a relationship with a man before and while I think the dynamics are the same (Love unconditionally, be honest, be intimate, share dreams, live life, travel, etc..), I know that there will be some unique challenges for me especially since I have always been such a huge flirt and previously, quite the man whore. I dated a guy in Los Angeles in 2000. I did fall in love with Brett, who was straight as well as another “straight” guy, who was once a close friend. I also had some steady fuck buds that could have developed into more. What haunts me most often are the men I met in Europe who seemed so genuine and wanted me to stay and start a life/build a life with them through my many trips. However, since I was so young/confused/tied down/worried about what others would think, I failed to take their affections and willingness to commit to me seriously. Of course, that would have resolved my life long goal of living in Europe, but, alas, it wasn’t met to be.
There is so much at stake. Whenever we are impacting the life of another human being it is vitally important to explore every emotion, thought, fear and hope. Relationships do take work and compromise and I feel safe with Paul. (Yes, he has a name.) I also feel safe with Jef, in a completely different way since he is my best friend. I feel safe when I am with Gina or Jennifer, two of the female figures in my life who continue to nurture me unconditionally. Inside of me, still recovering after all of these years, is a little boy who watched one person after another die and then had the people he love most hurt him in the most vile ways. I continually went back to my family for love, acceptance and friendship. Sadly, for the most part I never found it. I need to feel safe and loved. I need to be able to explore my goals and dreams without being judged. I need to know that someone, at the end of the day, will hug me. Even if those days sometimes are weeks or months because of travel or job requirements, knowing I can come home to a hug, a hot meal and love is so vitally important for my mental health. My closest friends know that at my core I am a very sensitive person. I have a million more thoughts. For now, I just needed to get a few typed out as I prepare for bed.
The best part of falling asleep nowadays?
I think about someone who I know is thinking about me. It makes a huge difference as I drift away to dreamland.
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17 Jun 09 Wednesday 05:10
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Current mood:  impatient
Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes
So, here it is, 16 June 2009 -- 11:11 PM. I am sitting here in front of a computer screen after a day of accomplishing, well, nothing substantial. I mean...I did four loads of laundry. I met the landlord's new horse. I found out that roosters can have a crush on a single lady. I wrestled with Jef and Tammy's kids. I bought diet coke. I did the dishes. I even paid a few small bills -- well, I paid a small amount on some bills and debts -- one day these line items will all be gone and life will be in the black again -- which brings me to my point. It's so easy to live for one day or for the future. It's easy to just settle where we are in any given moment and not want to push the boundaries and limits further. I am working part time. I am volunteering quite a bit. I am rebuilding my mental health after a rough six months and it feels good to be mentally "back in the game." I had a great premiere for the film we all worked on last summer and reconnected with some old familiar faces which really seemed to help make me feel more grounded to where I am right now, in this moment. I can't stop thinking about my upcoming move though. I don't expect it to "fix" me. I don't expect life to be a whole lot easier. I don't expect that I will be all smiles all the time but I do feel a connection to the new life that is beckoning me and I want to get there sooner than later. However, it's not easy to just jump up and go. I have done that when I had to or when I needed to -- and it always seemed that when I arrived in a new place I was spending a few months playing catch up from where I had just moved from and that's never fun. Carrying stress is hard - especially when I am focusing on a new beginning with someone special.
Yet, I have to be practical. The last six months have been harder for me here than I thought and yet, I have survived. I do not like being in a position where others feel I have taken advantage of them and I have strived daily, sometimes hourly, to make sure all the people currently in my life know how much I appreciate them and that I am aware my dreams, choices and mistakes sometimes have impacted others in a negative manner.
You should see the book I have at all times. It's filled with to do lists, to pay lists, I owe people money lists and lists of life goals that I still want to achieve. I know that it is important to make good on all promises and slowly, over time, I do and have with many people yet there are scores of others who I wish I could just send checks to and help them at this current point in their lives but I can't. I can only do small amounts at a time. I won't live for my debts at the expense of giving up my life and my freedom. A life lived for credit cards, mortgages, new car loans and physical trappings is not a life worth living if it impacts the quality time we have with others or our ability to be happy and simply enjoy the quiet and simple moments in life. Too many people give up their dreams due to reality. I still believe I can have it all and when I look back on my 40 years...(wow, I still can't believe I am 40)..I am astounded by how much I have already accomplished. I will accomplish much more and I will enjoy the journey.
It's not here (in Utah) for me anymore. I thought, for sure, last March, when I found my apartment and was, well, hopeful with Brett, that I could begin building a future here but outside of relationship woes, I have also found that professionally my style of making movies doesn't gel with everyone else's style. Everyone is expecting a big fix with a new studio and more incentives but the entertainment industry is a fickle giant and won't change overnight. Hollywood is, and always will be, the entertainment center of the world. New York is a close second. Living here I am maybe 12 hours from Los Angeles. Living in New Hampshire, I am five hours from New York. Boston is an international city and Montreal and Toronto have tons of film projects happening all the time. I'd rather be centered somewhere with 9-10 metropolitan areas within a days drive.
I do love Utah. Utah has healed me time and time again. I will always have a home here with Jef and Tammy because I know they will always call Utah home. I also have made some wonderful friends but life has a way of making all of us busier than we thought we would be and days turn into weeks and months and so on...so, here I am, in my final two months in Utah, most of the time doing nothing, waiting for the next promotional gig, acting job, audition or fun opportunity, while I begin putting together the framework for a new future with someone I deeply care about and may very well spend the rest of my life with.
I was born in Long Island, NY. I guess, in some ways, we come full circle. I still plan on retiring in Europe. I also have a lot more stories to develop. I haven't given up on anyone, anything or any projects, just yet. I am just not sure what and who will make the transition with me as I, yet again, redefine who I am, and, in the end, remain me, because, after all...I haven't changed that much.
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Current mood:  tired
Category: Life
I knew that when the time came for me to leave my Jefferson Street apartment, move out of the Kiesel Building office and start to get my own life together again that it would be a wild time full of soul searching, keeping my options open and exploring possibilities near and far professionally, personally and financially. Fortunately I allowed the process to progress as naturally as possible and didn't force or push any major decisions immediately. For some it was painful watching me experience the confusion, depression and even hopelessness that sometimes enveloped me these past few months. Fortunately, as always, my lifelong friends jumped in the trenches with me and celebrated my victories with me while minimizing my mistakes. They all know I am my own worst critic and that if anyone can find something wrong with a situation they are experiencing, I tend to be hardest on myself. I have managed, in this otherwise dark time, to slowly rebuild and redefine who I am. It hasn't been easy yet it hasn't really been that hard. I needed some time to just feel and be -- to allow the lessons I learned from past mistakes to again wash over me. I knew that the setbacks I experienced, while certainly circumstantial and often unlucky, were still the result of the path I was on. When we are on the best path life seems to continue to open doors for us and allow us the insight we need to gain in a given moment to move forward.
I am moving forward. I was fortunate enough to meet someone who seems genuine, honest, caring and has a heart exploding with love and goodness. I just spent eight days in New England and allowed myself to just be who I am - warts and all. We experienced an intimacy in the quiet moments of everyday life that I haven't felt with many people. We have the same goals, the same passions, the same outlook on challenges and both value our friends and see the best in every situation. At the end of those eight days I felt better. I felt more complete. I felt that the world wasn't as dark and lonely as I once thought it was, and always would be, for me. I am now going to spend the next couple of months wrapping up life here in Utah, getting a "to do" list of priorities under control and relocate and give 110% to create the life I never knew I needed until I had glimpses of how wonderful it can be everyday.
My production company and projects, including my commitments and the debts, will travel with me. I will continue to create art, be an Actor/Producer and learn about another exciting region of this country. I will drive East with my wonderful dog, Oscar, and stop along the way to connect with old friends, make new memories and explore and learn. I will enjoy the journey and as I prepare to take that journey, I will also enjoy the time and friends I have left here.
I am tired tonight but more soon.
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Current mood:  mellow
Category: Life
As the month of May draws to a close and I look back on this past winter and spring, I realize that change is often a good development even if we are not sure it's what we wanted initially. When the New Year dawned I was in one mode - convinced that I would remain where I was, doing what I was doing, as long as it took to get my life back to the point where it was the prior late summer. I worked hard. I was honest. I faced my challenges and demons and simply at some point had to give in and accept the changes that were organically happening in my world. I wasn't meant to continue on as I had been doing. I again was becoming worn down, stress filled and most importantly, losing my confidence and desire to become a better person. I was falling back into destructive behaviors and instead of welcoming new opportunities was looking back to what had worked in the past to fix me and make me who I thought I had to continue to be as a person and professional. I am filled with lessons learned and perspectives that I hadn't previously had and while I am not abandoning who I was, what I wanted and what I need, I am optimistically embracing the future - aware that I can persevere and always 'keep on keeping on' when I must. And I must all the time. I enjoy my downtime. I enjoy the flexibility of doing what I want whenever I'd like. I enjoy learning new skills and meeting new people.
As I have spent the last week driving around Utah and exploring so many nooks and crannies that I previously was unaware of, I have discovered the best way to remain motivated is to simply keep exploring and never settle for what seems comfortable. Comfort makes us lazy and also lulls us into a state of being more passive in the world. We begin to worry about our small corner and nothing more. I know that for our own survival we must often focus on our basic needs or reach out to others for help but we can't really grow as a species if we don't share the kindness and love we experience at the hands of others and pay it forward. I know that every person I meet, good or bad, allows me the opportunity to learn something more about who I am, want I want, my fears, my goals and that life is indeed different for every one of us. Our internal satellite system will always lead us where we are supposed to be and while it may lead us through some dark places, if we simply have faith in ourselves and do what is right, and treat others with respect and love, we can grow. I often thought that when I was younger I knew so much and now I realize the older I get, the less I know. The more I see, the more I realize I have seen nothing. The more people I meet, the more I realize that my experiences are no more interesting and that every journey is one filled with pain, love and joy. It's up to us to make the best of each day - and that isn't always easy.
I am transitioning to a different place eventually, probably sooner than later. This week will be filled with work and volunteer opportunities - mostly at the Sundance Resort in Utah as I help the Sundance Institute Labs Staff prepare for the Sundance Labs for the incoming Directors, Writers, Screenwriters and Theatre Visionaries. As the week and weekend draw to a close, I will be poised for a new adventure as I leave early next week for a return to New England. If life continues to lead me in the direction I suspect it will then a move may very well be in my future. I struggle with these opportunities and often wonder what is best for me in the long run. Should I be in Los Angeles working 24/7 in the entertainment industry or continue to build a career in each market I live in so I have a more vast network of contacts? Should I focus more on writing and less on producing? My mind is full of questions. I use this blog as a tool to simply clear out my mind and to think as my fingers rush across a keyboard. This is my world and my stage and it's meant to serve as my therapy. I am closing in on a 1000 entries so I may suspend my blog when that happens. I haven't really decided. I don't know if this tool is serving the parts of me that were so empty when I began writing. I know in the busy and good times I tend to write less and when life is a bit more challenging or I am going through changes I tend to write more. This has served as a road map of where I have been emotionally, financially, professional and with my lovers/crushes and family over the past 4.5 years. I seldom reread what I write but several of my peers and friends have pointed out that there is a definite cycle in my writing and my life. I accept that feedback and maybe have discovered that we don't really change that much after all but I do hope, at the least, that I have matured and become less selfish over time. I know that I have few regrets, if any, at this point. I have always given 110% to whatever I am doing at any point - even if I don't understand the purpose it serves in the big picture.
On that note, I must go work on this holiday. I have a part time job working as a weekend merchandiser for a distributor. I enjoy the job. I work alone and at my own pace. It allows me time to think and I even get a bit of a work out lifting and moving cases of stock as I barrel along throughout my day. My muscles are getting a work out and so is my mind as I ponder what the future holds.
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Current mood:  grateful
Category: Life
Cafe Marmalade Salt Lake City, UT
It's been a really exhausting week so far this week for me as I have adjusted to waking up before dawn to be able to start my day on time and do everything I need to that I have on my agenda. I have been volunteering for the Sundance Institute at the Sundance Resort in Provo Canyon, which is an amazing place. I had never been to Provo Canyon prior to this week but the drive is stunningly beautiful. Still some snow capped mountains, a raging river with fresh melted snow, the flowers in bloom and the beautiful reservoir. I enjoyed my first day driving from Orem to Heber City and then back to the Sundance Resort, where I wound my way up the mountain for some beautiful views.
The resort itself exudes "relax." Cabins nestled in the wilderness, a river running through the property, and rustic construction give it a feel unlike any other resort I have visited. I am staying busy as we prepare the resort for the onslaught of directors, writers and theatre types for the Sundance Labs where aspiring industry visionaries work closely with legends and mentors to further their art and learn more about their craft. It's a great opportunity that is allowing me to blend my production experience with my event management experience, all while making new friends and contacts.
Today I will be in Park City working at the main office and then tomorrow I return to the resort. In the meantime I have been fortunate enough to secure a part time gig with a major distributor and will work as one of their merchandisers in the Salt Lake City area which will help me to continue to get my finances in order.
It's been a relatively healthy trajectory for me the past few weeks and I continue to feel that I am on the best path I can be at the moment and while I am not completely sure where it is leading, I am confident that I will be less stressed as time passes and continue to become more complete in all areas of my life.
On some days I feel completely invincible, as if I can do anything and on other days I sometimes question what I am doing. I sometimes allow the bad choices of the past to play in my mind for a moment but I always remember that no matter what -- I am a good person. I never set out to purposely hurt others or to ever take advantage of their time, money, mind or heart. I know that I have learned from every choice I have ever made and that while I may not have a million friends and fans, my supporters certainly outweigh my detractors.
In the next two weeks I will meet someone new, someone who I met online, someone I have been speaking with daily, someone who I feel a connection with and, in that connection, and in that meeting, I will focus on the beauty of the world and the possibilities of what may very well be what I have needed and wanted and, honestly, ached for, for so many years. I will be open to the moments we spend together and I will explore the area, knowing that my destiny may lead me there, and, in the process, may continue to simplify my life.
I am not sure what the future holds for many of my peers and the projects and companies with which I am involved but I am certain that I can't be an effective leader and powerful force to move all that is important to me forward until I stand on some firmer ground. Then, in that moment, and in that safety, and in the arms and eyes of someone who possibly cares for me and about me, including all the positives and negatives, well, maybe I can finally feel safe about gliding on my own since I know I am no longer alone.
That's about all for now.
Time to drive to Park City for a beautiful spring day.
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Current mood:open
Category: Life
I really am starting to feel like the old me and the new me is starting to come together to form the real me. This time that I have spent at Jef's house, along with the trips to Philadelphia and Boston, losing my job at Olive Garden and reconnecting with auditioning, promotional work and volunteer work has certainly all come together and I have had time to evaluate what is truly important to me and where I hope to go with my life and the future I intend to build over the coming months and years.
I know that everything does indeed happen for a reason, even though we often don't understand why in any given moment. Sometimes it's just so we can learn and grow. Sometimes it is because we need a change and our bodies and mind can't handle where we currently are in life. Sometimes we just mature and all of us, no matter what, change. Ideally we change for the better and make the world a better place by being more kind to those people in our circle and more importantly, we exhibit kindness towards strangers, who, over time, may become a new friend and be a part of the new direction we will be going in our lives as we fulfill our destiny.
There are certain components of me that I feel will never change. I am an Actor. I love being a Producer. I enjoy working in marketing and promotions. I enjoy most of these endeavors because they allow me the opportunity to be exposed to new people, places and situations. I learn something from almost everyone I meet - even if it is something bad. These random mini life insights and lessons allow me to have a better road map of who I am and who I want to be and most importantly - who or what I may not want to become.
I know that I will always be loved, accepted and will never really have to reach far for help and support. I am blessed with a multitude of wonderful friends that have been there through the years. I have learned that Jef is my rock. Melinda is my muse. Gina is my sister. Jen is my cheerleader. Kevin is my voice of reality. All of them combine to make me a better person and through the years -- these lifelong friends, along with Gwen and a few others, have seen me through many transitions and changes. They understand that the most constant part of me is the part of me that is always seeking more and that, in the end, I simply want to be loved, like so many of us that go through the paces in our daily lives.
I am going to be spending the next month seriously exploring my wants, needs, desires and goals. I have discovered in the six weeks that I have been with Jef and Tammy I have gone through a spectrum of emotions and thoughts. I will be working promotions, volunteering at the Sundance Institute and traveling East to New Hampshire over the next 30 days. These experiences, along with a slow rebuilding of my financial health coupled with ideally some quality time with my Utah friends and peers, will help me gain the additional clarity I need for the next steps in my life.
I am, at this moment, much better than I have been over the past few months. Fear has been replaced with confidence. Insecurity has been replaced with allowing love to wash over me. Focusing on who I am and what I want and need to be as a complete person has replaced deflecting my own emotions and dreams as I focus on others.
I have met someone, granted a long way away, who I yet need to meet in person. We have a lot in common and we seem to understand one another. I will go and meet my potential new soulmate and see where it goes. If it is meant to be, I will be going through some major life changes and readjusting my life and location. If it's not meant to be, I will have a new friend -- although I am focusing on more and allowing the universe to reward us with the possibility of what we both need and want.
Stay tuned.
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Current mood:  productive
Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities
I am in West Valley City, UT doing casting for "Supermanny" today (10 May 2009) and on Monday 11 May 2009.
Think you need Supermanny's help or know someone who does? Please stop by Hollywood Connections in West Valley Center (across from the E Center) until 4p. Please spread the word also! We will be casting until 4pm -- but we can stay a bit later if I know someone is on their way.
"Supermanny" is a spin off of ABC's hit show, "Supernanny."
We will also be returning to this location on Monday, 11 May 2009, from 5-9pm, for additional casting.
Email questions to me at dalessiopietro@gmail.com
Also - please feel free to forward/repost this info!
Thanks!
Pietro D'Alessio Casting Director Salt Lake City, UT
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Current mood:  indescribable
Category: Life
I am aware that it has been a while since I have blogged substantially. I have, in fact, been laying low and trying to avoid the real world - a combination of depression, anxiety and stress. I seem to be feeling a bit better but this downward spiral started in mid November when I sensed the road I was on was going to get much more complicated - filled with professional, personal and financial pitfalls that I strived to avoid and managed to do just that until about the end of January. Come February I was optimistic that my new job at The Olive Garden would allow me the financial stability to rescue my own finances, the finances of my company as well as begin to get ahead. A few major car repairs and a few roommates later I found myself on the brink of eviction so I opted to let me lease end and I moved in with my closest friend to regroup and get my finances on order. Then, in Mid April I lost my job at The Olive Garden for a technical mistake I made -- one that I should have known better, but, alas, I was relieved of my duties so there I was days before my 40th birthday - unemployed, practically homeless, behind on every bill imaginable and had to step aside as I watched my office and staff/assistants/partners in crime disappear to focus on their own lives, which was, and is, only proper. I spent my birthday in Boston and had a great time, confident that I would find a job lickety split upon my return to Utah. It's now been a little over two weeks and I have had to file for unemployment, accept help from my best friend, who already struggles to take care of his own family and I am still far from where I imagined I would be at this point in my life.
I know that this is merely a temporary situation but my pride and confidence have taken major hits and I also have begun to question my skills, talents and desires. Have I merely been chasing a pipe dream and living a make believe life? Am I that off balance that I allow myself to continually make bad choices and empty promises or is my step mother right and the road to hell is paved with good intentions? Do I even believe in hell? Do I believe in myself anymore? Will I ever get back to a point of feeling invincible? I have learned that these ups and downs, both professionally and personally, certainly don't well for others opinions on my mental health so I spoke with a professional, yet again, and while it seems I deal with some basic depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD and PTSD, I am not, as they would say, crazy, or manic-depressive. This really was something that bothered me as I looked at the entire picture of where I have been, where I have gone and some of the many choices, both healthy and unhealthy, I have made.
I am no longer wealthy nor can I rely on the wealth I once had from my parents. I have no family that I am especially close to here in the States but I am incredibly blessed with friends who do love me unconditionally and I must admit that I wouldn't have made it this far without them. Those friends know who they are. My love for Jef is even deeper than it was previously. He is, and remains to be, my rock, brother, best friend and voice of reason. He is selflessly doing so much for me that is not expected and he, like so many other people who have helped me, has taught me that true love knows no boundaries nor do friends place expectations on one another or become overly intrusive. I sometimes laugh. I sometimes cry. I sometimes sleep all day. I sometimes sit and stare into the air and wonder what I will do next. Should I go back to school? Should I throw myself into a small town and just become a burger flipper? Shall I become a truck driver? Should I just hold on a bit longer, return to Los Angeles, and this time, no matter what, never let go of the opportunities? Am I getting too old? Have I lost my appeal and magic? Have I lost that special "something" that seemed to contribute to me living a charmed life? I don't know all the answers.
I do know that I am seeking someone special, a job and a new place/city to live all at the same time. I really am not sure what will happen or how I will weather the storm. I am trying, yet again, to be militant about my diet and nutrition and to rebuild my always fragile confidence. Mother's Day is coming up so my thoughts, as usual, go to my stepmom. I wonder if I will ever stop loving her and should I?
So, here I am - and I guess that's what matters most. I am. I always will be, I weather change quite well. I may end up in Phoenix, New England, San Jose, Florida, Los Angeles or remain right here in Utah. I really don't know. I do know that I will have to take the opportunities given to me and make the best of them and rebuild again. I know the cycle is annoyingly familiar to those that have known me the longest and have become the most frustrated with me, my choices and my life. I am learning, slowely. That's all I can do. I continue to learn, question, explore and wonder what my purpose in life truly is and how I will achieve it and when that will be - who will be there with me in the end or will I be alone?
I just needed to clear my head a bit and dump some of these random thoughts I have been having. I am not going to say I am okay or doing well. I am struggling. I am uncertain about my future. I don't know how I allowed myself to make some of the same mistakes or why I failed to see the signs. I do know that it's never boring in my life and that the universe has rewarded me with some incredible experiences. I will breathe and walk. I will drink water and think. I will take hot baths and relax. I will make lists and will mark more off of my to do list daily. I will not give up completely even if parts of me seem to want me to just quit. I can't do that. It's just not my style.
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Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities
It's been quite a while since an update regading "The Sex Doll She-Bitch." While there is nothing major to report I did want to update people since I am starting to get voicemails, emails and even myspace/facebook messages regarding the project and certainly don't want anyone to think we are ingoring them. It's much easier to send out a group communication then to communicate with everyone one on one.
The film itself is done and we should be premiering in The Dark Arts Festival 12-14 June 2009 in Salt Lake City, UT.
The DVD that will be sold to the public is almost complete also except for a few tech issues on some of the special features which need to be corrected. The gentleman mastering the DVD for duplication/sale for us is doing us a huge favor so we are on his timeline and grateful for his help since this has been such a challenging road.
This project was pitched to me a year ago during the 48 Hour Film Festival and I knew then that a short film about a blow up sex doll that kills would be a hard road -- even as a B Gore Horror Comedy which has a specific niche.
The artwork is done and some of the merchandising should be available soon - that will be handled mostly by the Surgical Dalliance side of the production entity. Alexius OmniMedia will be handling the distribution and sales, as well as festivals for the project.
Jaison and Matt Johnson are hard at work on a concept for another short and I am sure they would welcome any of your assistance, If you'd like to help them - please email/message me and I will forward your emails to them.
Regarding payment -- and I know many of you have been exceedingly patient, even on a deferral, please know that we have scaled back expenses at the office regarding our rental space and also scaled back on staff and other expenses specifically so we can generate more revenue ASAP.
Our mailing address is:
Alexius OmniMedia PO BOX 150204 Ogden, UT 84415
The total debt of the film is a bit substantial but once we start selling direct on amazon, createspace and itunes, we expect to generate some revenue and of course cast and crew will be paid first again, based on who is owed the most, even if it is partial payments. This may change because it also would be easier to just knock out the smallest invoices first to get at least some of you paid in full but I don't anticipate any money being paid out for at least the next 90 days.
I may have been overly optimistic in preproduction and production but we did face some uniques funding challenges to get this film complete and after the fact lost some funding which has created a hard road. Each project has its own budget and life. The beauty of film is that all of them eventually will make money. It's just a matter opf when. The positives for all of you involved are that we have Sitara Falcon and Melinda Chilton as two of our stars. Sitara is always in demand and Melinda has completed at least another 5-6 projects since SDSB, all which seem very promising. She also has a new publicist on her side promoting all of her work so that will only help the project gain some exposure.
I don't really have much more to add at this moment except to thank you again for all of your hard work and patience. For me personally this least year has also been a financial, professional and emotional rollercoaster. I sometimes damn art for controlling my destiny but I know that all of us as creative souls are addicted to the process and if we do what we truly enjoy it will pay off in the long run.
If you have any questions - please email me and please try to not make assumptions or spread gossip. I know how fustrating this process is and I have been there many times, including now, but all we can do is remain positive and be thankful that we brought another story to life that will soon be available for the public.
Regarding copies - there are a few key people that will get a copy of the film only for their acting and or professional reels. Copies will not be given free to everyone just because of the expense involved.
We do hope to have copies for sale at the Dark Arts Festival but there is no guarantee.
Again, Thanks for everything.
Pietro D'Alessio Producer, "The Sex Doll She-Bitch" Alexius OmniMedia
PS: (Robin, Andrew and Mary): Please make sure that this message gets forwarded to background actors and other crew I may have missed. -- Pietro D'Alessio
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01 Apr 09 Wednesday 19:28
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Current mood:  calm
Category: Life
...................... Monday, 30 March 2009
Approximately 19:30, I think.
Somewhere between Philadelphia, PA and Las Vegas, NV on a plane..Southwest Flight 1224
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It’s been a weekend of premieres, dining out, lots of beer, photos, a mini reunion and more.
Melinda’s film, “Saving Grace B. Jones,” premiered this weekend at the Philadelphia International Film Festival and Cinefest ’09. We came to town to attend the premiere, network and create additional opportunities while supporting the legendary Connie Stevens, writer/director/producer, on the promotion of the film, which was inspired by true events that happened during her childhood in Boonville, MO,
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The film is a solid piece of work that is both entertaining and thought provoking. It allows us to realize that each of us has experiences in our lives, especially during childhood, that are life altering. Connie successfully addresses the issue of mental health in an era when people didn’t know what to do when faced with someone who was mentally ill or mentally challenged. Tatum O’Neal turns in a stellar performance as the namesake character, Grace B. Jones. The cast, which includes Michael Biehn, Penelope Ann Miller, Joel Gretsch and the child actors Evie Louise Thompson and Rylee Fansler, all step out of their comfort zones in 1951 Boonville, as they are dealing with the arrival of Grace and the impending doom of a flight that will wipe out their small town of 375 residents. I’ll definitely write more about the film soon. It will find an audience and do well. Melinda, and I, as her Manager, are fortunate to have an opportunity to be affiliated with a quality project.
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The weekend was all about Connie Stevens and the film – as would be expected. Ms. Stevens is an American icon and is well respected in Philadelphia, a place not far from where she grew up in Brooklyn, NY. We dined with her and other VIP’s in town for the premiere three days in a row. A throwback to classic Hollywood and a woman of exquisite taste – we enjoyed some of the finest restaurants in Philadelphia. For me as an Italian American, I was thrilled that our evening were filled with wine and Italian cuisine, prepared authentically and served much like it is when I am in Sorrento with my family.
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The connections made over the weekend will be life-changing. I definitely met some new people who became fast friends. Melinda and I, as well as her mother, who was on hand and able to attend all the festivities as well as my younger sister, Stephanie, whom I hadn’t seen in three years, made the weekend even more memorable and as our guests, Ms. Stevens and her entourage made them feel as welcome as Melinda, one of the film’s stars.
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Philadelphia truly lived up to its name as the ‘City of Brotherly Love.’ I always felt that Chicago was the friendliest American city I visited. Now Philadelphia has earned that title. Everyone from the concierge at the Loews Hotel to the ticket seller for the regional train greeted us with a smile and was helpful and friendly. We explored Independence Hall, the Historic District, saw the Liberty Bell, ran up the same steps as Sylvester Stallone in “Rocky,” and had an authentic Philly Cheese Steak sandwich at Jim’s on South Street.
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I am tired and relaxed after a weekend of non-stop networking, socializing, paparazzi and drinking. I never really became drunk or did anything especially embarrassing – which is important. I did however stay up late connecting with new friends while celebrating the events of each day. Melinda and I are fortunate to have a lifestyle which allows us the opportunities we have to live an extraordinary existence.
That’s also the most powerful lesson learned this weekend. I am very good at what I do. As a Manager/Producer, I am in a unique position to assist others in making their dreams come true. Be it a short film a writer wants to bring to life like “Women & Menu” or “Decker,” or a feature film that a Producer is struggling to get organized and fully cast like “Lost,” or a TV Pilot like the travel show “Two Days In..,” I am in the unique position to help get a project done and ultimately into the hands of other industry professionals, which validates and assists a new writer, director, actor or production assistant on their journey of self-discovery and success. There are many days when I feel overwhelmed by life itself. I often feel like I may not have the energy to keep pushing forward but then I have a weekend or an experience like I have has in Philadelphia or at Sundance or even some smaller local event/festival like the Foursite and LDS Film Festivals in Utah and then I realize that I am indeed on the path intended for me at that moment and even though I may want to compare my journey and success to others, I have learned never to do that. I sometimes belittle my own success because of setbacks. I can’t do that anymore. I only can do what I do best – Act, Produce, Manage and Cast.
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I am going to continue doing housekeeping in my life the next couple of months while I prepare for the next steps on my upward climb to wealth and additional professional success. Returning to “real life” is never easy for me but I have to realize that my “real life” actually is one filled with excitement, films, stars, production, auditions, locations, sets, parties, premieres and meetings. This is the life I chose standing at the foot of my father’s bed in October 1991 when he was dying of cancer. He told me to live my life and follow my dreams. I sometimes have become frightened b y the success I am facing but now – well, it’s all or nothing. I was retreating a bit in the entertainment world – concerned that my setbacks would encourage others to doubt me or question my skills and abilities. Only one person has control over my success. I know that I am responsible for making the most of the opportunities I am given, while recognizing the signs in the universe that are leading me in a new direction. Sometimes you have to travel back down a road to explore some stops you may have missed. I will, in time, be returning to Los Angeles. First I have some issues I need to address and take care of in Utah. There is no immediate time line. There is no specific “to do” list. There simply are projects and people that need to be nurtured and completed in the interim. Utah has been good to me and I am sure I will always have a home here.
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I have moved out of my apartment (and will be completely out by the end of the day Tuesday.) I have a new address – which I can email to any of you who need it. I also have a great job that is allowing me to become stable again. I have a roof over my head with my “family,” my best friend Jef. I am going to simply get life and finances caught up – while dealing with Alexius OmniMedia, our projects and my clients. It’s not going to be easy but anyone who knows me knows I work best and excel the most when I am faced with the greatest challenges.
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18 Mar 09 Wednesday 21:38
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Current mood:overwhelmed
Category: Life
.................... 18 March 2009
14:38
Goodyear
Ogden, UT
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I am a bit overwhelmed and stressed. It seems that the game of life keeps dealing me the same hand that many people struggle with daily – real life setbacks that create financial stress and make getting ahead even more difficult yet I refuse to give in to the pressures and the odds, which at times, seem insurmountable.
I began the day with a physical. My health, in general, seems okay. There are some concerns about all of my GI issues and also my mental health, which seems to be taking a significant hit lately as I strive to stay in the game mentally with all of the stress I have been facing with my finances, the company, projects and personal relationships. When the stress becomes too much at times, I tend to become filled with anxiety, quickly followed by depression, which then leads to binge eating, excessive drinking and lots of anonymous sex with various strangers. This is a routine I recognize and because I was beginning to repeat these behaviors of the past I spoke candidly with my doctor about my concerns. I let him know that I am eating healthier, walking more often, drinking less, quit smoking and take my vitamins yet there are days where I feel that I can’t even catch my breath. He reviewed my medical history and family history and we agreed on some drug therapy for the next 30 days and then we will revisit the issues.
It’s been really hard for me to balance the company with my personal survival needs in my daily life and then to balance both of those with my career needs and my travel needs. I am not sure where everything will wash out in the end but I am aware that I simply must keep working hard to get not only caught up but eventually ahead – and of course in the mean time, real life expenses seem to continue popping up – last month it was brakes. This month it’s an electrical system problem, emissions and tag renewal.
I could just work full time or wait on tables everyday working doubles but then I will miss opportunities in the entertainment industry and not be able to take these trips that I so badly desire and need. I know that the average person doesn’t have the luxury of doing what they want whenever they want and to many people my choices may come off as irresponsible since I am not playing by the rules and live as if I expect preferential treatment. Many others simply stop pursuing their dreams or they go further in debt to fix what must be fixed. I won’t do that. I won’t allow myself to settle into a comfortable life that meets all my financial needs but in the process forces me to give up the freedom to which I feel I am now entitled after all of these years of more or less doing what I want. I especially won’t change my behavior now after all of these years. I simply must find a way of doing less, making more and maximizing my time.
And in these choices, I take responsibility for my current station in life – an unfurnished apartment with an ADD roommate, no heat, no hot water, no cable and none of the finer parts of life to which I became accustomed growing up with in Florida living with my stepmom and dad. Most people would look at my life and consider me a failure and they are certainly entitled to their opinions and perspective but they haven’t lived my life or faced the challenges I have faced in the past. I do have a roof over my head. I do have clothes to wear. I do have a car. I do have food to eat. I do have friends who allow me to shower at their homes. I do have a job. I do have a dream. I do have a passport. It’s much easier to focus on what I do have versus what I don’t have because, in all honesty, that list would be much longer. I have learned to adapt and survive. I have learned to be honest and to just do what must be done. I have learned that I can survive without all of the comforts of life because I still manage to have some of the most luxury filled moments any person could ask for simply through my life experiences.
I do not have the time to get caught up in other people’s drama or insecurities. I don’t have the time to be the person who fixes everyone else’s life and reassures them that they are important, loved or needed. I have to remind myself first daily that I am loved, needed and important and that the love I have is the love I have for myself. The desire to be needed is based in my ongoing battle to make the world a better place. I know I am important because I believe it to be the truth and ultimately what I think of myself is what matters most because I have to spend more time with me than any other person.
And finally, I am paraphrasing Jack Canfield’s book with this quote – “It’s not about you!”
I am frustrated that some people think that everything I say, do or write about is about them in particular. My blog, status updates and mass emails are simply ways I communicate with the world and my peers and most of them are about me and about what I am experiencing, feeling and thinking in any given moment. People who know me best should know by now that if I have something to say directly to someone – I will. Don’t read between the lines and think something is about you because it isn’t. It may be about the generic “you,” or the world in general. These communication tools merely allow me the opportunity to communicate.
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Current mood:  indescribable
Category: Life
Today was an odd day where I felt like I was going to get a lot accomplished yet ended up feeling like I accomplished nothing at the end of the day -- but I guess as long as I didn't sit back and wait for anything to happen and created some new opportunities I am ahead of the game. My car is still not fixed or ready for safety and emissions so tomorrow it's back to the DMV, a new mechanic and the process continues. Of course the money being spent on my car could be better utilized on responsibilities like rent and car payment but, alas, I seem to always have something come up - but don't we all? I mean we never really get ahead in life unless we continue to remain optimistic and not allow the negative or the mundane smother us to death. I have found that I have little patience for people who hinge their emotional and professional development on others without taking advanatages of the opportunities they are given. Not every day will be easy or exciting and many of the days we have are downright boring or frustrating but all we can do is continue to strive for excellence and not settle or shift blame to others regarding our happiness, careers or situations.
I am planning trips right and left and I still don't have as much money as I need and I am sure on some level it drives people fucking nuts that I am taking off to Philadelphia, Boston and eventually Florida, as well as Los Angeles and Europe --- but you know what? I am aware of my responsibilities and commitments and as long as I am doing my best and working in good faith to clear up the messes and financial obligations I have either directly or indirectly created, it's really no one's business how I spend my life. I want to be even happier and traveling seems to be the only drug that truly helps me relate to my place in the world so a trip, no matter how short, expensive, inexpensive and so on, is generally just the medicine I need.
I will continue to make positive inroads in my life but if someone is in a bad situation, it is due to their choices and decisions so don't come to me with sob stories about "if you had done this...or if they had done this...then..." Well, you get the idea. I am a compassionate and very giving person when I have something to give. When I have nothing, I am twice as likely to help another person. I seldom utter "I don't have any money." Or "If so and so had done this and that then I wouldn't be in this situation." I made the choices and decisions in my life that have led me to where I currently am and while I would love to have heat, hot water, a reliable vehicle and an Academy Award, I recognize that at this moment I need to keep working hard to get ahead and maintain my ground. I don't begrudge others for their success or compare myself to others of bitch about people behind their back. I find the people who relish in my struggles and the negativity that others try to spread about me simply amusing. Yes, if you want to badmouth me, please go ahead but understand that I see you as a toy to play with -- and not as a contributing human being. If someone wants to give me more of their energy by talking about me, my company, my friends, my projects and so on - please -- give up that energy and send it my way -- I only become more strong and a better person.
I am mildly depressed and frustrated at times but aren't we all? Just because I have stumbled doesn't mean I won't reach the finish line. No body has ever counted me out or finished and they never will. I am a survivor. I am a hard worker. I am talented. I am honest. I am the best person I can be in any given moment and strive to always improve and when I look at the expectations I set for myself, I know I must work harder and more efficiently.
I am on a unique path and will claw and climb my way back to my throne and I will look down and say "See, if I can do this -- anyone can."
There is no reason to send negative energy towards another person or obsess about the past and what can't be changed. There isn't any reason to feel compelled to know where someone is or what they are doing at all times. I certainly am aware of my competition but I wish them success - not failure.
I wish only happiness to most people and I will continue to do so.
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Current mood:  quiet
Category: Life
I haven't really blogged in a while mainly because I have been so busy working and living life -- even though at some point throughout the day I often think about various stuff I want to blog about -- generally everything from politics to sex to religion to my fiber intake and so much more. Maybe this is a good sign and indicates that I am spending more time offline than online -- or maybe it's just all that extra time is being spent on facebook -- I am not really sure.
It's been a good month. I completed three shorts, a commercial, attended a local film festival, a workshop and have had a slew of auditions. My mind still wanders daily and I look for validation that I am on the right path and then something new will develop and I feel much more calm.
I certainly am at a point where I must continue to make the best and healthiest changes for me, my career and life all while making sure I don't forget the obligations I have from the past - which I seem to be doing a great job at acknowledging and I am also always doing housekeeping and making sure that every penny and moment spent will have a return in the big picture of life.
I have several trips coming up. First up will be a film festival in Philadelphia - a place I haven't been since one drunk night when I was a Lumberjack at the New Jersey State Fair in Cherry Hill, NJ. I was a completely different person then and felt like I knew so much. The balance of that year was spent on promotions, tours, doing extras coordinating and in Chicago and Texas, I believe.
I also have finally planned my birthday escape. I will be going to Boston - a place I have never visited and have always wanted to go. I figure it's a grown up town that will allow me the space and opportunities I will need that weekend since I am sure I will be on an emotional rollercoaster.
I feel compelled to change some of the people and locations in my life that aren't working. Fortunately, a lot more is working now than in the past so I don't have too many changes to make. I am still remaining focused on my financial, mental and physical health. I feel like since my Mom died at 36 and my Dad at 56..well, I am almost done, you know? I don't mean to be morbid but genetics are genetics and not many people in my family have lived to be very old. I ask myself so many questions daily -- should I have kids and do I want them? Will I ever meet the right person to spend the rest of my life with and will it be a woman or a man? Should I stop focusing so much on saving the world and more on saving myself? Am I too old to still wait on tables while pursuing an acting and entertainment career? At what point will people view me as 'some old guy' who really never amounted to much and should I care what they think? Why, at my age, do I still allow people to affect me? Is it selfish to think of myself first as long as I continue to, in good faith, make good on all the promises and financial obligations I have from the past? Is it likely that this circle of friends, like so many others, will fade away and do I want to fight to keep it together or should I just realize that friendships and relationships evolve and that we are meant to constantly be in a state of flux? Should I stay in Utah? Should I go back to Los Angeles? Should I go somewhere warm since I hate the cold weather or should I stay where I am and build a life here since Utah generally seems to work for me even though I am getting frustrated with all of the conservatism, wal-mart shoppers and seeing children everywhere?
These are just some of the various thoughts that run through my head in any give moment and for the most part, I am happy. Yet, I always want more. I don't want to settle. I don't want to be in a loveless marriage or locked into a life that isn't authentic. I only want to do what I want to do and for that, yes, I am selfish. I don't see many more changes occuring in the basics of who I am as a person.
Today I shot a commercial, this afternoon I had lunch with a friend, right now I have coffee and a wireless connection and tonight I am going to a movie so, in summary, life is great and I feel happy. Why do I still feel compelled to push the envelope and do more and accomplish more?
Only I can answer these questions and the next month - until after my birthday - will be a time that I will be seriously considering what I want. I know the people I care about - be in professionally or personally - will always be part of the focus of my life because I find genuine joy in helping them become even more successful and happy. I'll just need to make sure I am taking time for making myself just as happy and successful.
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11 Mar 09 Wednesday 03:16
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Category: News and Politics
Frank Silva is a friend of mine who is an accomplished and published author and columnist. He is also a SAG Actor and was career military. Read his comments and share them/comment and pass them on. He can also be emailed direct - contact info below. SOLUTIONS
This is not funny or sarcastic. Hopefully it is thought provoking. I don't know why I'm still trying, but maybe as long as I still have breath in my lungs I can't help myself... If you can be so kind to take the time, please read on...
Aside from the fact that we're already in deeper poop than that kid from Slumdog Millionaire when he escaped the outhouse, and we have been for some time now due to actions undertaken in our history, maybe we can still make an effort to fix our great nation before it's too late...
People keep telling me to stop bitching and provide solutions, and I keep saying that most of the solutions are unacceptable to the people with wealth and power because they might lose a little of both... Nevertheless, it is time for real solutions and real change and here's some of what I think needs to be done... feel free to comment or enlighten me if you think I'm wrong...
Attitudes that Need to Change:
The first attitude that needs to be adjusted is the concept that the government is our enemy. That's true if you are obscenely wealthy, want to be left alone, want to be free to profit in safety and security provided by a tax-paid military but don't want to be taxed at all to fund that military, and feel you are above any law. For the rest of us, however, Our Government is not our enemy - it is OURS and it is supposed to serve us and provide things the free-market cannot or will not - which it can do if we demand it and get the "monied interests" that Jefferson warned us about out of it. Legitimate governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, just as it says in our Declaration of Independence.
Expansionism and the misguided concept of Manifest Destiny set our nation on the wrong path and we became downright Imperialist in our quest for increased commerce and profits... in the process we claimed global leadership and the moral high ground, along with the "right" to interfere in other people's business - which, unfortunately, traditionally has only been for purposes of blatant greed and not related to freedom, democracy or human rights - if human rights were the issue the first country we would have bombed and invaded would have been Saudi Arabia. In addition, places like Taiwan and Tibet would be free countries and other nations would be stable, functioning democracies, including Cuba, Iran and all countries in Central and South America.
Third, we must come to terms with the fact that the United States is not the be-all and end-all, with morally superior chosen-by-God people that are without a doubt better than everyone else, that always thinks of the children and always does what Jesus would do. While many Americans may in fact be pious and follow spiritual or religious beliefs, the interests in control are nothing more than greedy, hypocritical, common criminals and they are the ones manipulating the discussion and policies, and it needs to stop. But first we need to acknowledge that the powerful do things that benefit the powerful and when things are done anywhere, domestically or internationally, chances are 99.9% that it is not for the children or in the interests of freedom and democracy, despite the rhetoric we are inundated with through their biased, corporate-controlled media.
Things that Need to Change:
Redesign our Political System:
- We
must revamp our political system and do away with career politicians from two sides of ONE CORRUPT PARTY. Term limits need to be instituted for Representatives, Senators and Supreme Court Justices. Military service (or approved and verified community service) should be a requirment to run for and hold public office - this might on its surface seem stupid or petty, but people that have served in the military are more likely to be diplomatic rather than hasty in starting wars or sending other people's kids to war. On the reverse, records prove that our most pro-war politicians have never served in uniform and a great many ducked out of service when the opportunity presented itself (and chances are their own kids have not and will not serve either).
- All
members of the Executive, Legislative and Judicial Branches, along with all their staff members (and immediate family members) should be restricted from holding stocks in any company whose share prices would be impacted by legislation they are, or would be involved in, proposing, passing, signing into law or reviewing through the judicial process. They get paid very well - much higher than average Americans - that should be sufficient for them - that's the "service" part of public service and should not be too much of a sacrifice while holding office. Violations of this law should be a felony, with instances involving companies that make weapons or war materials a capital offense.
- Mandatory
and independently verified drug testing should be immediately instituted for all members of the Executive, Legislative and Judicial Branches, along with all their staff members - or outlawed for everyone except those persons operating commercial transportation or heavy equipment, with sobriety testing done just prior to their shifts or flights, etc., but at no other time.
- The
American political system needs to introduce viable 3rd and 4th parties. In addition, all presidential candidates should be required to participate in debates, not just Democrats and Republicans, with questions posed by truly independent, unbiased actual journalists, historians and economists. Only questions related to public policy in a Democracy and administration of government should be allowed and no mention of a candidate's religion or questions requiring a religious precept or opinion should be included.
- Outlaw
lobbyists. Let the free-market system function as a free-market system and let supply and demand, consumer wants and customer service & satisfaction dictate who succeeds and who fails. We must revamp our education system to one that actually educates. Independent Critical Thinking and Creative Minds might be dangerous to those in power who have all the wealth but they are the only things that will advance freedom and democracy, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity and get us out of the mess we are currently in.
We must create a truly independent, government-run and operated print, radio and television media and populate it with truly independent, unbiased, actual journalists, historians and economists, not political pundits or corporate shills posing as journalists.
We must reverse the Supreme Court decision that gave the same Constitutional rights that Citizens have to corporations. Citizens deserve the rights and protections detailed under our Constitution - corporations do not.
We must abolish the Federal Reserve. Volumes have been written on this subject, look them up. The bottom line is that it is not "Federal" at all other than in name; it is a private bank that railroaded Congress, Woodrow Wilson and the People into claiming the unjust authority to print U.S. currency and "lend" what should be the People's money to the People at interest - thereby perpetrating, for all practical purposes, an economic coup of our nation and starting us on our road to insurmountable debt. The U.S. Treasury should authorize, print and regulate the People's money - and the People need not pay anyone a profit for that.
End all Income Tax. This eliminates one Class Warfare argument. In addition it is and has been illegal since the 16th Amendment authorizing income taxes was never properly ratified under our Constitution, it was just bullied into existence, then enforced by a corrupt, tyrannical IRS.
Institute a National Sales Tax. If you buy it you pay a tax on it - with the exceptions of food, clothing, shelter, medication and specific healthcare items approved by the People as recommended by qualified medical professionals, not lobbyists or insurance companies.
If we are truly at a point in the evolution of "civilization" where we cannot survive without banks then they need to be regulated and limited in power and scope, with fees on all their services, including credit cards, capped so as not to gouge consumers - we have laws preventing price gouging on things such as gasoline and generators after natural disasters like hurricanes, the current economic crisis should be no different - except this isn't a natural disaster, it was perpetrated by the same small group that has profited, is profiting and will attempt to continue to profit off of it at our expense unless we stop them through an efficient, functioning government accountable to the People.
We must create a truly benevolent not-for-profit Universal Healthcare System that treats everyone at affordable costs and take insurance companies out of the process.
If we must continue our cultural demand for individual vehicles rather than investing in efficient, economical and environmentally sound mass transit, then we must get rid of the obsolete and polluting internal combustion engine. Electric was better from the start, but killed by powerful interests that greedily favored the technology of our current engine design. Then GM killed yet another efficient electric vehicle in this very decade. GM would be solvent today and not in danger of collapsing if the EV1 was in mass production - and Middle East oil or the false arguments about excessive union labor costs would not even be factors related to their operations.
Stop the insane War on Drugs. It's failing miserably and draining resources we can't possibly afford to waste today. Pot is something Americans want and free people should be allowed to have, like alcohol and cigarettes; make it legal, sell it openly and tax it.
Legalize prostitution. It is happening and it is not going to stop. It too is draining resources best used elswhere. Consenting adults should be allowed to engage in what they choose to engage in as free citizens in a Democracy. Legalizing it addresses the health issues involved, lowers the rates of disease, crime and drug use associated with it as it occurs in today's underground economy and has the added benefit of generating revenue through taxation. I suspect the politicians most opposed to this do not necessarily oppose prostitution so much as they oppose paying the tax themselves and getting caught in the hypocrisy of promoting traditional family values while engaging in this type of behavior.
Cut military spending to a third of what it currently is - which would still be significantly higher than most other countries combined. We can keep our nation secure and at the same time break the back of the military-industrial complex that Ike warned us about. Then we can take that money and put it into programs to do "nation building" here at home and increase manufacturing, rebuild our infrastructure with a vision toward the future and raise the standard of living for all American citizens. In addition, we should pull all soldiers from Iraq, Afghanistan and all other nations on the planet, closing all the bases we can no longer afford to keep running. In short - End the Empire. This will go a much longer way to keeping us safe, especially in respecting the sovereignty of other nations and not give them reasons to hate us due to policies that allow American corporations to destroy their environments, enslave their workers, take their resources for practically nothing and keep all the profits with no benefit at all to those nations or people. It will also help us tremendously in getting out of this massive debt hole we allowed a small, greedy, powerful war-profiteering group to get us into.
Immediately invest in wind and solar power and take advantage of our land mass in that respect - make the wind and solar craze as big as the Texas and Oklahoma oil craze in the last century. Someday maybe someone will write an Oscar winning film about it.
Create a real American Dream based on talent and creativity, not power, lobbyists and corruption and let people look into the future of humanity, the planet, freedom and democracy, in which case, I believe, with corrupt influences marginalized, people will choose the right path... then we can move on...
By doing these things we could, sooner than later, and with a lot less hardship or economic and social turmoil than we are most certainly heading towards, fix OUR nation, start a new manufacturing base in America, creating abundant, stable, middle-class jobs and produce things that people in the world want and will import... then we can go into a future world as a beacon of Liberty, admired by actions worthy of emulation, rather than feared or hated for our heavy-handed hypocritical tactics.
Destruction doesn't have to be our destiny. The choice is ours.
If this makes sense to you, fellow Patriot, pass it on.
Copyright 2009 - Frank Silva
filosfr@mindspring.com
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Category: Life
There has been so much going on lately in my life that is positive that I haven't spent as much time online as I generally have in the past - which I think is a good development. Life happens when I am out and about meeting new people, auditioning, going to meetings, on sets and at film festivals, parties or spending time with new and old friends. There is no doubt that I am going through some type of positive change for the better. I am more efficient with my time and money. I am very focused on what I am doing at any given moment and striving to waste as little time as possible. I am sure that this is due to the fact that I am still playing some level of catch up in my life and that I also need to develop healthier habits that guide me more in the specific direction I'd like to be in the big picture. And, to be quite honest, I am concerned that time is running out. I have a major birthday coming up in a little over a month and I am striving not to go into panic mode and allow it to affect me in a negative manner. It's very easy to compare my life to others and wonder how I am doing in the eyes of the universe or to wonder how people view me -- which really shouldn't matter since what other people think is all subjective to their own bias and belief system.
New habits supposedly develop over 21 days and, if that is the case, it does seem that I now have different priorities and goals then I had even a few months ago. Reconnecting with my acting has truly inspired me. Since last Saturday I have acted in three short films, booked a commercial and had auditions frequently. I have been so busy that I have been unable to connect with those people that I spent most of the summer/fall/winter with and now feel that everyone is evolving and we are all slowly drifting down different paths - which is healthy. We can't hold on to what isn't working and keep repeating the same habits over and over. While I am fully committed to getting my company out of debt, as well as myself, I can't live in a fantasy world that I can begin new projects until the old issues are resolved. We have set up specific plans for both the short film and the TV Pilot about what must be done next - and we know what we will do. I also know that placing the clients with an LA Based Management firm and local agents/managers will allow me the freedom to be more of a mentor and guide their careers. Transitions take time. I work so often and so hard that the day often slips away - and I seem to be able to only make phone calls when I am driving. I generally don't like to make calls in front of others because what I am doing in my personal and professional life is no one else's business unless I want to share the details with them. I think that because I have always been so accessible via the phone, email, office, facebook, myspace, IM and such - people have come to expect that they should know where I am and what I am doing at any given moment.
I do change my mind frequently and yes, I am certainly evaluating situations constantly to make sure that I am on the best track that is needed for what must be done yet I am far from a fortune teller and while I am always confident that I am where I am supposed to be at any given moment and that the universe will unfold as it is meant to, I can't reassure everyone else that what they want will occur. We are all motivated differently.
I do want to continue living a better life. So today, like every other day, I will play the roles that are needed to drive myself forward. The stage and players may change in the process.
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