IS IT YOUR PARENTS FAULT…YOU ALL FUCKED UP IN THE HEAD?

How much blame can we lay on our parents…..for the messed up parts of us.  Where is the line drawn that says…on this side…all this shit on me….on this side….well aint my fault….its my parent’s fault.

I have yet to have gone to a murder trial, and the defense attorney not mention why the defendant is so screwed up.  Why this horrible crime happened.  It is the parent’s fault.  This person was raised badly.

I am sure much research has went into these types of questions, but I would like to get real and raw with it.

What I am saying…no matter how bad an upbringing is…..we still choose to live a life.  We choose to be good people or bad people.

I know it is too personal to ask, but I know some of us in this blog comment section have lived horrible upbringings.  Things many will never understand, but we decided…..made conscious decisions…to live our lives right. 

Are those trust issues from mom….or dad……or older siblings?

Are those loves issues fron dad…mom….siblings?????

Or did we learn these negativities on our own??????

HOW MUCH OF THE BAD STUFF THAT IS US…CAN WE BLAME ON OUR PARENTS??????????????????

Men Love To Be Flirted With Too.

Men who have been raised right and know how to treat their woman, know when it is appropriate to throw a compliment a woman’s way.  Many men learn from an early age the art of a well placed compliment.

On the other hand, I am noticing these days that compliments and flirts form women seem to be few and far between. 

When I mulled over this topic I thought about the compliments and flirts that I have either had thrown my way or ones that I have observed while out on the town.  What I discovered was many women I have noticed who are single, have no problem throwing a compliment or a coy flirt a man’s way, while those who have been married for awhile seem to have much more difficulty spreading compliments or flirts to their man.

I do not know how this evolved, but I want all you women to understand the power you hold…….by a simple flirt.

I am not suggesting that men be molly-coddled and lavished with fake compliments, I am talking about those things a man would love to hear.  I talked to several men and they all agreed, that women are very weak when it comes to compliments, but very quick when it comes to a complaint.

I will try to give you a few here to try out on your man, or a man you would not mind being yours.

A HEARTY LAUGH

Us men spend an enormous amount of time coming up with something funny to tell friends and family.  Many of us men value our humor.  It is almost like a badge most of us carry.  A hearty genuine laugh is as flattering as it gets.

I would also like to remind you ladies……….A man that is always trying to make you laugh…most likely wants to get in ya pants.

YOU ARE THE MAN

Us men hear this all the time……from other guys.  Be it making a difficult; bank the 8 ball pool shot,  or hitting a 3 pointer.  Men compliment each other by giving a loud…..YOU DA MAN. 

This is an acknowledgement from a man to man that says……I am bowing to your greatness.

When this is heard coming from a woman…………WELL WE TALKING ABOUT A TESTOSTERONE  SPIKING MOMENT.

This woman just gave me the high of all high compliments.  She is recognizing me in my full manhood.

This compliment should be given in instances like when he has carried that heavy ass TV from downstairs to the upstairs bedroom, or when he has fixed the toilet stool, without even calling a plumber.

WOW

NUFF SAID.  This one syllable word can make a man’s head spin, if uttered at the right moment.  It does not matter if he just got undressed or right after a session of sex.  I know it sounds a little like ego stroking, but I am hear to tell you……SAY IT TO YOUR MAN…..AND WATCH HIS REACTION.

I WANT YOU

Women do not need to talk about a man’s eyes, or his face, or muscular build,  the best way to tell that man that you approve of him…..is to utter this simple sentence.

It speaks loudly.  It tells that man that you have some animalistic instincts in you.  It tells him that he is wanted for primal reasons.  Attraction……

I am going to leave the rest of this list to you.

Please let us complete this list.  Do not just post a compliment or a flirt, but give the reasoning behind why it will be effective.

Fellas…Ladies..............

Have you ever been in a situation where all you thought about that day was some pussy or some dick? 

I mean every waking thought was bout getting ya dick wet…or your pussy pounded. 

Every woman or man you saw…be it at work or walking down the street…you just looked at her or him and wondered if the pussy/dick was any good….

Or wondered did they had sex last night…or this morning….shit…or at lunchtime.

Its like dayum…IS IT A FULL FUCKING MOON OR WHAT…….MY DICK HARD LIKE A FLINTSTONE NEWSPAPER.  OR MY PUSSY BEEN WET ALL DAY LONG

Ladies do it come over yall like it come over us men….

I want to hear some horny ass stories…..Has this ever happened to yall?

For old times sake

I am almost certain that each and every one of us have been in a relationship that has ended.  We moved on and did our thang.  What I would like to discuss today is……SEX….FOR OLD TIMES SAKE.

Come on yall…I know there is someone from your past that you would just love….to fuck…..one mo gen.

You know what Im saying.  I mean we can close our eyes right now and imagine those sexual feelings.

Wasn’t it good….wasn’t it great….too bad they ass was crazy.  Seems like all those who click in the sex arena and take us to new levels always got to be crazy as a betsy bug.   Borderline flicktered crazy….yall know what Im tombout too.

When you finally realized the relationship was over……YOU JUST HAD TO GET ONE MORE SHOT……BEFORE YA CALLED IT QUITS.

If he or she broke up with you……..you asked for a shot for the road.

This blog is dedicated to the…FOR OLD TIMES SAKE SEX.

Sexual Addiction

Snoop's new song "Sexual Eruption" is the shizzzznit.  I really like it.  Please don't ask me the words to it.  When I hear the beat I put my own words to it.  The radio version is Sexual Seduction.

I have penned a new term to this song…..SEXUAL ADDICTION.

What are your thoughts on sexual addiction?

Are we so hung up on sex that it must be a daily, weekly, whatever in our lives?

Can you do without sex?

Do you have to have it?

Can you do without it?

Come on yall….TALK TO ME

Something came to my mind recently while pondering on the fact that so many young black men today are having such problems finding gainful employment.

This phenomenon got me to go back in time, when I was in my late teens or early 20's.  For me and all of the guys I grew upwith, finding a job was never a hard thing to do, here in Las Vegas.  We were all employed in the casino industry here.  Washing dishes, bus boys at casino restaurants, cooks helpers, porters, etc.

Please do not turn your nose at such entry level positions.  My father raised a family, bought a house and drove Lincolns on a job such as this.  As a young man I worked side by side with men and women who were grown and raising families on these salaries. 

Today the lions share of these type jobs are held by the ever bourgeoning Hispanic population.  Don't get me wrong.  I am proud of my Hispanic sisters and brothers for getting ahead.  It is not any different from when my father arrived in Las Vegas in the early 50's.  He got a job in a local casino and worked his way into a position of power.  Along his journey, he would call back to Louisiana and tell everyone back there how much opportunity was to be had in this city.

They came in droves.  These black people moved to a new city to better themselves.  They became maids, cooks, dishwashers, bellmen, porters, waiters and waitresses, all looking for a way to improve their situations.  Back then we all helped each other out.  When there was an opening at a hotel, they would tell their friends and put in a good word for them.

This went on well into the 80's.  Just as us black people helped each other out like this, others did the same thing.  Helping those they knew. 

Now I go back to my original thought.  Why are our young black men having so much difficulty in finding employment?  As an older adult, I often shake my head in dismay.  Sometimes I am quick to call them lazy, or trifling.  

How is it young man that you don't have a job?  Why are you hanging on this corner?  Don't you have a child to take care of?  Isn't that child support due?

So many times I hear the same response from these young men.  "I can't put a gun to their heads and make them give me a job", they say .

After hearing these same sentiments from so many of our young brothers, I got to thinking and comparing them to me and the men I grew up with.  What are the differences, between then and now?

That is when it hit me smack dab in the head.  PISS TEST.

In the 70's they surely had urinalysis tests.  These tests were new and cutting edge.  They could test for heroin, barbiturates and speed.  The test for marijuana was not perfected until the mid 80's.

Now I had to ask myself a question.  If those hotels and casino's would have tested us for marijuana back then, would we still have gotten those jobs?

<FONT size=5>I posed the question to some brothers I grew up with and they all gave a restounding……HELLL NO.

Yes I am surely guilty of over simplifying big problems, but to me I think I am raising a very valid point here. 

As a soldier in the United States Army, we had urinalysis tests in the 70's.  As I stated earlier, they tested for those hard drugs, not marijuana.  I remember when the test came out in the mid 80's, and so many of my fellow soldiers had to stop smoking that dreadful weed.  Many of us said we stopped, but we soon discovered who was still smoking, after the first few tests, and they were quickly severed from the military. 

Most of us replaced the wacky weed for alcohol.  Now that's a whole nuther blog.

Now back to the young men of today.  They are playing under a whole new set of rules.  For me understanding this, and thinking how my life would have been affected I think I have a better understanding of the issue at hand.

I am not making excuses for them, I am just stating what I think to be fact, because if you understand the rules, then you either play by them or suffer the consequences. 

So I am sad to say young men.  No longer can you while away your youngdom, by smoking weed everyday, unless you want to go through life jobless.

What are your thoughts on this?  Am I way off base here?  Do you know young men who go to friends to get some clean pee to try and beat the system? 

LET US TALK ABOUT IT

The term Snake Oil originates from and old Chinese remedy for inflammation and arthritis.  The term evolved to describe many compounds marketed as miracle remedies.  Those remedies that had no scientific proof, but just those people who swore it worked for them.

Throughout the years we have had all sorts of con men and com women selling these miracle treatments.

In old western movies the snake oil salesman was often portrayed as a con man, moving from city to city, making a living selling these elixirs that promised to cure almost everything.

You would think that in today's time; as educated as we are, a snake oil salesman could dupe us into spending hard earned money into these bullshit practices.

Last night and early into the morning I was happenstance to channel surf on the television with a case of insomnia.  As I flipped from channel to channel, I spied one snake oil salesman to the next.

They were touting everything from miracle exercise equipment, to get rich on EBAY scams, to miracle acne treatment, to lose weight, to get muscles, to supplements that will make you feel great and live forever.

My research revealed that this is a multi billion dollar business.

The leader of the infomercial industry is Kevin Trudeau.  A self made almost billionaire.  All from the snake oil he touted on television.  The FTC banned him from television after he touted the snake oil; Coral Calcium Supreme; that claimed to cure everything from cancer to heart disease. Through a loop-hole in the FTC regulations Trudeau wiggled his way out of FTC sanctions and is currently still touting different snake oils.

If these snake oil infomercials are true…..I can learn a new language quick and fast.  I can have a sculptured body in no time.  I can become rich selling real estate with no money of my own.  I can become even richer selling shit on EBAY.  I can lose weight and get healthy without ever going to a gym.  I can have fantastic abs.  I can use this special toothbrush to whiten my teeth.  The list goes on.

How does the government allow this to transpire?  ALL THOSE TESTIMONIALS.  I got rich in one week……I lost 7 inches off my waist in 3 weeks….etc etc etc.

The days and times of the info-mercials.  You know what they are when you see that the cable company calls them  PAID PROGRAMMING……..I say they should list them as SNAKE OIL SALESMEN.

What are your thoughts on modern day snake oil salesmen……Have you ever purchased one of these products or courses??  Tell us how it worked for you?  

I have never understood why…..why oh why

Let us take a test….. I will say a sentence…and lets see how many ewwwwwwwwwws we get when Im done

Yes…your mother is still fucking………….

See what Im saying…I counted many ewwwwws.  Why is it so difficult for 30 years olds to envision…mom and dad….having sex?

STOP HATING.

A recent survey of married men and women showed that 87% of married men and 89% of married women in the 60-64 age range are sexually active. Those numbers drop with advancing years, but 29% of men and 25% of women over the age of 80 are still sexually active.

So clearly, the older years can be a time of relief that children are no longer lurking in nearby bedrooms, and there is no longer a need to jump up early in the morning for work. For some, older age is a time of freedom to explore sexual expression in ways never before realized. A time to cast away the "shoulds" of earlier years, the societal expectations. For others, they are more than happy to forget about sexual performance, and to seek other forms of companionship and interpersonal sharing.

What you need to be doing is praying that you still making whoopie when you hit late 40's early 50's and beyond.

Believe it or not…….us older peeps…is still getting our grooves on…..yes….we sucking….licking…sticking…..and grooving like you never imagined.

How the hell you thought you got here in the first place….wasn't no immaculate conception going on…WE DOING IT….HARD…SOFT…DRY…WET….UP….DOWN…..IN IT….ALL AROUND.

Please believe young folx….yall did not invent…HAVING SEX

People been doing it since the apple was plucked from the dayum tree.

Next time I hear an….ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Us old folx gone make yallz azz watch.

So what….we got bellys now….some of you young azzes got bellies.

Yes there are even web sites catering to seniors and sex.

What are your thoughts on this….do you think your moms and dad are still having sex?????????????????????

How old do you hope to still be sexually active?????

I let it slip one day.  While talking to some white coworkers about a new movie, I was asked have I seen it.  I responded a little to quickly.  I said no I had not seen it and don't plan on seeing it if I have to pay for it.

When the coworker asked me why, I let him know that I do not pay for movies if no one in the movie looks like me. 

This started and argument that maybe I was racist.

Of course, I don't think of myself a racist, but I do consider myself very pro-black.

I tried to explain to the coworker that this was my own silent protest, to not purchase a ticket or dvd of a movie without black actors in it.

While pondering this conversation I analyzed my opinion on the subject.  I not only decided to hold fast on my silent protest, but came up with a novel idea.

I think that it is time to give some shouts out to the dark skin brothers of entertainment.

For so many years light skin actors got all of the accolades.  Now it is time to honor those dark skin brothers who doing it big

The first dark skin bro I would like to give props to is Charles Dutton.  Any man who can come from prison and parlay it into a budding acting career and get his own TV show......I have to give mad props to the dark skin brother.

I must give shouts out to the old school dark skin bro.  Sydney Poitier.  He took being black and proud to a whole new level, at a time when most black actors were light bright and almost white.

Yaphet Kotto

Many people think because of this brothers anme and his darkness he is from Africa.  The brother is from New York City and has done us dark brothers proud........go head Yaphet.

Another dark skin brother with a hard name to pronounce.  Don Cheadel.  I need not give a running list of his accomplishments, but I will say.....he stole the fame in the Denzel movie, Devil in a Blue Dress.  YOu remember...he played Mouse.

I will hold it here and give you all a chance to post some dark skin men who belong in the dark man honors blog.

I had to repossess my son's car.  I get a call from my wife saying that he needs $200.00 dollars to get his car out of the tow yard.  His story to her is that he was downtown by the courthouse and his car was towed.  He was at the courthouse trying to take care of the traffic ticket warrants that he has.

Now keep in mind this car will be 2 years old in April and already has 35,000, miles on it.  I make the payments and pay the insurance too.

Finally my wife does what she is supposed to do…….CALL YOUR DAD.

I am so sure that these were the last words he wanted to hear.  So he calls me with the same story hours later.  Being the good detective that I am, I already know what the real deal is.

Seems as though the car was towed from Tahiti Village, a local time share complex on the South end of the Las Vegas strip.  I am so sure he was there visiting some lady tourist and decided to park right up front with all the no parking signs.

I had already gotten the car and have it parked in my drive way.  Of course driving it from the tow yard I was afraid of running out of gas before I found my way to the closest gas station.  $20, and the tank was almost of full.

My truck $20, will not even be ¼, of a tank. 

Therefore I was glad to have this little gas saver to scoot around town in.  SON CAN NOT GET THE CAR BACK UNTIL HE BRINGS ME $250.00, IN CASH…..NO CHECK……

This blog is not about my son or his exploits.  I want to delve into the materialistic attitudes I carry.

Driving this car for the last couple of days has been a learning experience for me.  When I pull up to the red light, I do not get the person in the car next to me admiring my ride.

When I pull up to valet, the worker doesn't run up to me after stopping doing whatever he was doing, to open my door and welcome me to the establishment.

When I come out of the place……valet has not put my ride right there in front for all to see, as I proudly hand him a tip and step into my ride as people wonder who I am.

That's when it hit me.  I bought this truck not only for my enjoyment, but with it comes a certain prestige.  An affirmation that I have made it.  Something to show the masses that I am a part of society that few make it to.

When I discussed this with my wife, I told her that I am going to trade in my truck….AND HER BENZ……..

And buy us 2 matching Toyota Prius'.

I think she is still cussing.

She said something to the tune of….I have worked hard all these years and this is the reward I have for myself.  I then reminded her how when we first bought this car and we'd be at the red light and people would give us the thumbs up.  Or when the young man at the grocery store asked to be adopted by us after seeing that ride.

I am still dealing with my thoughts on this issue.  Is it so important that people know, you can afford such a luxury, or is it truly a reward for yourself when you buy something like this???????

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE SUBJECT?

DO WE BUY THINGS TO MAKE US FEEL GOOD, OR DO WE BUY THEM FOR THE PRESTIGE IT BRINGS US?