Stan Rosenthal's Tao Te Ching
42. THE TRANSFORMATIONS OF THE TAO
The Tao existed before its name,
and from its name, the opposites evolved,
giving rise to three divisions,
and then to names abundant.
These things embrace receptively,
achieving inner harmony,
and by their unity create
the inner world of man.
No man wishes to be seen
as worthless in another's eyes,
but the wise leader describes himself this way,
for he knows that one may gain by losing,
and lose by gaining,
and that a violent man
will not die a natural death.
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Biblegateway.com
"[For the director of music. Of David.] The fool says
in his heart, "There is no God." They are corrupt,
their deeds are vile; there is no one who does good."-
Psalm 14:1
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"JESUS CHRIST THE SAME YESTERDAY TODAY AND FOREVER."-
Frank J. Watson, Life After Death, Destination Heaven,
c. 1991.
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I had a good visit with my old friend Mike the other
day. He's staying at a daughter's house here on the
near east side while on vacation from his job. He's a
cook on a cruise line plying the waters of the
Hawaiian Islands.
We met while I was delivering restaurant equipment
around the country to cooking schools. Mike was a
teacher at one of the schools, I think Philadelphia
was the first location we met.
This would have been 20 plus years ago. I was writing
back then, journaling, and if I checked my journal
titled "Trips For Taps" there's a good chance I'd find
Mike in there, or memories of Philadelphia at the
least! And now Mike is thinking about doing some
writing. I am encouraging him in this direction for I
have found it helpful to me in many ways.
Writing connects me with friends and family that I
don't see every day. Sometimes it connects me to
those I see daily in ways that we don't touch on in
our day to day life.
I have enjoyed Mike's emails sent during the course of
his current job. I've been fascinated by his glimpses
of life on the medium seas...
Hawaii is not exactly "High Seas" from what he's told
me. The waters are pretty calm. It's water that
tourists go to in order to relax. The sun shines, the
trade winds blow to cool folks and keep them quite
comfortable, and the ship's crew sees to their needs.
The life that Mike has described for me on the "other
side" of the ship, the side the tourists don't see, is
hardly relaxed. Cooks work hard about any place you
go and a cruise ship is no exception.
There are six decks on this particular ship with
multiple kitchens and sometimes cooks go searching
other kitchens for supplies. Having found the
supplies, they then must get them back to their
kitchen. A stop at a bathroom which leaves unattended
supplies in the hall can mean starting over when
someone comandeers them!
Mike and I first visited in Indiana when he called one
day as I was leaving the house to go with a friend to
Martinsville, IN to visit her mother in a nursing
home.
I apologized when Mike said he'd like to visit, and
explained what was up. "Where is the nursing home?"
he asked.
"Martinsville" I said.
"No shit" he replied, "Where in Martinsville?"
When I told him he said "No shit! I'm looking at it
outside my mother's kitchen window!"
So we visited while my friend visited her mother. And
we met up again at several cooking schools around the
country, as far away as California. Those were
interesting times. I was seeing a lot of the country,
and doing business in Indy between trips.
During our friendship Mike and have always talked of
God and faith. Before he left for his job with the
cruise line, Barbara and I attended his baptism. This
was last year, when I was in a great deal of pain with
my back. I was honored to go for Mike is a friend now
of many years.
Old friends can be like mirrors for the soul. They
can often see things about us that hold true in our
lives that others might miss.
In this last visit home, I found myself saying to Mike
that I was incredibly busy. "That sounds like you" he
said. "You are always busy."
That's not how I view myself. Somewhere inside, I see
myself as kind of lazy. I'm not "really busy" with
stuff that makes a difference. I just happened to
have some meetings and stuff going on this week. And
last week. And next week. But after that, clear
sailing...
I'd have to make some changes to sail on a cruise
line! There seem to be too many meetings to leave
town for an extended period! Besides, I need to stay
close to where there are good doctores that are
covered by my health insurance!
I'm busy but I've been slowing down a little lately.
I talked to my cardiologist and he thought it might be
time to do a heart cath and peep around and see what's
going on. OK! Fun times! Been there before, and one
thing I know is that it is a real motivator for me to
take good care of myself.
That I've been successful in taking care of myself is
attested to by it's having been 9 years since my last
angioplasty. I think I might have stretched it
further if it hadn't been for having to stop
exercising during the back problems.
I find medical challenges are also motivators to get
stuff done! The "getting stuff done" makes me smile.
Given Mike's observation that I tend to stay busy, I
wonder how much of my business has been because I was
"getting stuff done" because I was concerned that I'd
leave Barb with a bunch of stuff to deal with that I'd
started and not finished?
I recall lying in a hospital room post heart attack
and being determined to recover so that I could
continue helping to pay bills! Those are not so
pressing now, and for that I'm very grateful! Not
that there aren't things that need doing...
I recall Barbara telling me about being a young mother
preparing for surgery on her thyroid. It was
February, and the children's coats were "well used"
and she spent the day before surgery sewing buttons on
and patching because, God forbid, if something didn't
go wrong she didn't want a bunch of kids in shabby
coats standing around her grave and people talking
about how she wasn't a good mother!
No doubt similar concerns move me today! But some of
my desire to "get-r-done" is of a different nature,
and has to do with the discipleship class that Jim
McCurdy taught at Westminster many years ago.
Jim asked "When you meet the Creator, the one that
gave you life, and hold up in your hands what you've
done with the gift, what will you have to show?"
It's easy to think about stuff like that when someone
has a tube stuck in your heart and is noodling around
with it! LOL! And it's easy for me to get motivated
by forced inactivity. The back problems left me semi
wacky because I hate to be unable to move around. Not
a good thing!
Recovery from a heart cath involves having to lie
perfectly still while the groin artery heals
sufficiently after the procedure to move without
causing it to open. It's enough to make you give up
red meat!
There is a humorous moment of sorts to look forward
to. When the procedure is being performed, dye is
injected into the heart to help the doctors see what's
happening. This results in a "hot flash" and when
that happens I always think of Barb! This has
undoubtedly added to my empathetic response to the hot
flashes she's had for years now!
And being empathetic requires a certain stamina when
it means going from peaceful sleep, to feeling a blast
furnace kick in beside you, to having the covers
ripped off exposing your traumatized buns to frigid
night air! (Barb likes to sleep in a cold room in the
winter! She doesn't waste heat, and views warm
sleeping as sissified!)
Speaking of The Duchess (like the Duke only feminine)
we went bike riding on our new bikes last night. I
was all over the Monon trail, and she dumped once.
But it was a very satisfactory trip.
The bikes are Giant "Suede SS" models and they are
single speeds with aluminum frames. The pedals are
slightly forward of the posts for easier pedaling and
they have gel seats. The handlebars are high and come
back a bit which means a learning curve over our
previous bikes. We love them.
After we finished the bike ride, I had a little steam
left, and got out my push mower (that's right-no
motor) and mowed some grass. It's a craftsman, and by
setting the reel a little high I mowed with much less
effort than I'd expected. Last year I was having back
problems and didn't use it much.
I'd got the push mower for a grandson to use. I
figured I'd pay him to mow a little and he could get
some exercise. He was totally freaked and so was his
father (a son in law) and I don't think they ever used
it.
Personally I got tired of buying mowers because in the
city there's so many rocks you take your life in your
hands when you use a power mower. And every rock has
the possibility of bending the engine crank. Spending
$75-150 bucks for a mower that's been ruined because
of a bent crank...hm. Do you suppose that's where the
expression came from? "Cranky?" Could be. Things
have to start somewhere don't they?
Well, hopefully I'll be around to wear that push mower
out. But if I'm not, I will feel better about having
bought it, and used it, rather than burning gas and
using oil to cut grass.
Not that I don't burn some hydrocarbons. I do. But
I'm looking for every way I can NOT to. And it's
funny how many times it's healthier in the first place
to not burn them. I read a recent estimate that
replacing meat in the diet would reduce hydrocarbon
use by %50, as opposed to maybe 1% by having a hybrid
car. I wonder how much is saveed by biking or walking
a mile instead of driving??
Paying attention to these concerns brings me to my
great desire to lead a life that is NOT sinful. It's
my understanding that "Sin" is originally an archery
term for missing a mark, or target. The opposite
would be to hit the target. Perhaps to "connect" in a
sense?
I hope to finish my life living in ways that connects
in good ways with God and man, and which leave my work
caught up when I get called home!
Mom and Dad did pretty well at that. Their funerals
were prepaid and the arrangements made. We didn't
have to worry about the details...we could give them
ALL our attention!!! LOL! Especially Mom, though Mom
and Dad both appreciated attention. Don't we all at
one time or another? The joy of remembering is not
just what but how! Like Mom rattling pots and pans in
the morning, or Dad dying his hair (and chest hair)
red to distract a niece who had just come home from
the hospital...he knew how to get attention for sure!
I think my greatest concern is that I not be feeling
discombobulated when it's time. Discombobulated may
not be the exact right term...Dictionary.com says:
3 results for: discombobulated...
Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1) - Cite This Source
dis·com·bob·u·late
Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled
Pronunciation[dis-kuhm-bob-yuh-leyt]...
–verb (used with object), -lat·ed, -lat·ing. to
confuse or disconcert; upset; frustrate: The speaker
was completely discombobulated by the hecklers...
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BroDale: Not quite right...
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[Origin: 1825–35, Americanism; fanciful alter. of
discompose or discomfort]
—Related forms
dis·com·bob·u·la·tion, noun
Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1)
Based on the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, ©
Random House, Inc. 2006.
American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source
dis·com·bob·u·late
(dis'k?m-bob'y?-lât')
Pronunciation Key
tr.v. dis·com·bob·u·lat·ed, dis·com·bob·u·lat·ing,
dis·com·bob·u·lates
To throw into a state of confusion. See Synonyms at
confuse.
[Perhaps alteration of discompose.]
dis'com·bob'u·la'tion n.
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BroDale: Still not quite right...although the word
"discompose" is close to "decompose" which I DON'T
want to dwell on when having folks noodling around in
my heart makes me feel close to that outside "edge" of
life...
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adjective
having self-possession upset; thrown into confusion;
"the hecklers pelted the discombobulated speaker with
anything that came to hand"; "looked at each other
dumbly, quite disconcerted"- G.B.Shaw
WordNet® 2.1, © 2005 Princeton University
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BroDale: I think this last comes closest. "Having
one's self possession upset" references something that
has "upset" one's self...and while we talk of the
"self" freely, and without giving it much weight, the
"self" is that deep inner part of us that our
identity, and our very "ground of being" is found in.
In looking backwards I believe that having this "self"
upset is very upsetting indeed!
In my experience what is involved may have to do with
that phenomenon known as "existential anxiety" to
scholars and perhaps referred to by non scholars by
the word "discombobulated" and which involves not just
an "upset" but a feeling at least of disconnection.
My friend Ed introduced me to a book a couple years
back called "the Pentagon's New Map" and while I never
read the book I did read enough to understand some of
what it talks about.
In the global community a North Korea would be an
example of a "disconnect" in that they are cut off
from the rest of the world. In the book "disconnect"
equals "danger" and I can see that. There is no
reciprocity, no collegiality, no caring about the rest
of the world.
I think this happens to entities of various sizes.
For instance a ghetto or a slum will be disconnected.
Until it's isolation creates something strong enough
to escape. Perhaps that could be a disease or a
criminal gang or something that is culturally new?
How and where disconnect takes place would be a good
thing to study, as well as how to reconnect. There
was a book titled The Reconnection" that was more on
the psychic level which Eli had me read which
suggested that healing is a matter of reconnecting.
All I know is that sometimes my relations with
someone, or with the world, will take a nose dive.
I'll be left feeling like I'm lost, and will never
find my way home. It is a feeling of not being
"synchronized" or being "out of sync" or "out of tune"
and where I can't find the tune.
Being disconnected leaves us vulnerable. The
philosopher Eric Hoffer said "Strong communities are
our best defense against tyranny" (approx) and when we
are disconnected from friends, family, jobs, we feel
our vulnerability.
My feelings of connectedness also run to the past and
the future. I am concerned that justice be done for
those who have been wronged, and that we look to
create the best possible conditions for children of
the future.
So it is that I stay busy. Keeping in touch with
friends, working for a better neighborhood, learning
about the past, and living a life that leaves as small
a footprint as possible in use of resources that will
be needed in the future. And being a part time
security guard, which is more work than you'd think...
My questions for myself include "How can I do the
things I do in such a way that I spend more time doing
stuff like riding a bike, playing music, or working in
the yard instead of sitting in front of a computer?"
For losing touch with one's own physical life is also
a source of discombobulation. For me it accelerated
seriously in kindergarton. Sitting still did not come
easy. I have become something of an expert at it.
It's required in my line of work... Now if I can just
remember how to move!
For that I have a good role model...Barbara! She
finds her time to read and watch tv, but she gets a
lot of moving packed into every day. She walks or
bikes to work, gardens, does laundry, and in general
is an inspiration!
Lord, I seem to need a lot of connecting, and you've
given me friends and family who take the time to read
my thoughts and share my concerns. This is a great
blessing! Thank you Lord (and thank you friends and
family!) for connectedness. Now as we go on with our
lives, let us do so knowing that when we are connected
to you we are connected to each other and that our
connection is eternal, and that disconnection is an
illusion that will pass. Amen.
Love & Prayers,
Brother Dale
PS Our first "disconnect" would be the umbilical cord
wouldn't it? And our first "connect" would ideally be
with our mother in being held and fed. A reconnect
really...
PPS Well, it's time to head for the hospital. Freshly
shaved, toenails trimmed, trash taken out a day early,
and just enough time left to pick something to read.
I'm hoping that might help make the recovery time go
faster. Oh, and grab some earplugs. If they put me
in a room with a TV watcher I want to be prepared!
Bless you for hanging with me! I'll get back to you
asap, and I will undoubtedly be writing about further
lifestyle changes! Changes aimed at getting more of
my life back! And cats. Because they are a constant
source of amusement, and amusement helps make the work
part possible!
Speaking of which, did I tell you about Ottis? They
call him "Moose" and he's a big old man with a big old
belly. Wears a booney hat a lot. He's a retired
factory worker who lives in my neighborhood and he
goes around finding code and zoning violations and
harrassing the city about them. He interrupts folks
terribly, and you can't have a conversation with him
that goes in a straight line, and he is what he is,
but other than being big and Moose-like he's really a
decent fellow. Anyhow, Moose has been trying to teach
his cat to walk on a lease. More on that later...(;c)
BroDale
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Hi, I'm home now and will write more soon. Just wanted to follow up the meditation by letting folks know that I made it through the day.
I do have some things to be attended to. Barbara and I will talk to a surgeon, Dr. Muhammed, on Monday. In a week or two I expect I'll be having a double bypass.
The prognosis is good. My heart is in pretty good shape to respond to a bypass, and I believe that having the heart cath done in a timely manner was the best thing I could have done. The choice was whether to do an angioplasty and stent or to do the bypass. I'm told that the results should leave me feeling better, and be more long lasting than a stent.
Thank you for your positive thoughts and prayers. I'm tired and still have drugs in me so that's all for now.
Brother Dale