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Tuesday, September 30, 2008 

See how much you know about how advertising and media affect your perception of body image and self love. Celebrate your body and join the fight against the negative media image! Take our Body Image quiz and spread the love by forwarding it on to other women, and always - love your body!

See how much you know about how advertising and media affect your perception of body image and self love. Celebrate your body and join the fight against the negative media image! Take our Body Image quiz and spread the love by forwarding it on to other women, and always - love your body!

1. What percent of U.S. women are dissatisfied with their appearance?
10% 20% 50% 80%

2. The average weight of a fashion model is _____ percent lower than that of an average woman?
8% 12% 23% 41%

3. The average dress size for an adult woman in the U.S. is _____.
6 10 12 14

4. In a 2005 report, _____ percent of fourth grade girls have been on a fad diet.
10% 30% 60% 80%

5. What percent of fad diets fail to result in permanent weight loss?
10% 30% 75% 95%

6. What percent of people with anorexia nervosa and bulimia are female?
25-35% 45-55% 65-75% 85-95%

7. In 2005, about _________ million people had cosmetic procedures performed in the United States.
3.5 8.5 11.5 16.8

8. A new trend of plastic surgery called ________ is when external folds of skin surrounding the vulva are snipped to better resemble images of "ideal" women.
fallopioplasty
vaginomentation
labiaplasty
uteraloptic
None of the above, this surgery doesn't exist.

9. Media messaging and images can contribute to:
low self-esteem and body image issues
eating disorders
dehumanization of women and girls
blame for being targeted with sexual assault
all of the above

10. Having a positive body image can lead to:
a healthy self-esteem
lower rates of depression
a better overall well-being
all of the above

 

1. Correct Answer: 80%.
The media, fashion, cosmetics, and diet industries all promote a beauty standard that doesn't come naturally (or cheap) to most women. Advertisers make us believe that our bodies need constant improvement, so it is not surprising that so many women are unhappy with their appearance (http://loveyourbody.nowfoundation.org).

2Correct Answer:
Twenty years ago, the differential was only 8%.

3: Correct Answer: 14.
Our society is obsessed with weight loss and body image. The media portray unrealistic standards of how women should look. These messages perpetuate social norms that are often based on misinformation. Even plus-size models are usually under a size 8 when, in reality, the average woman wears a 14. (UCSF )

4: Correct Answer: 80%.
Developing a positive relationship with food and one's body is complicated (especially during adolescence). The fact that young girls are growing up in a society focused on appearance makes it extremely difficult for them to be comfortable in their skin. A shocking 81% of 10-year-olds are afraid of being fat. (Social Issues Research Centre)

5: Correct Answer: 95%.
Diets are temporary -- once you begin to eat "normally," the weight is gained back. Statistics show that less than 5% of the people who diet lose weight permanently. Dieting lowers your metabolism because you take in fewer calories. This can reduce the rate at which the body burns up food in a resting state by as much as 45%! Also, diets cause people to think obsessively about food, leading them to ignore their body's needs (Barbara Cohen, Ph.D., "The Psychology of Ideal Body Image as Oppressive Force in the Lives of Women," 1984) .

6: Correct Answer: 85-95%.
As many as 10 million women and girls suffer from anorexia and/or bulimia in the United States alone. Young women with anorexia are 12 times more likely to die than other women their age. (http://loveyourbody.nowfoundation.org).

7: Correct Answer: 11.5.
In 2005, about 11.5 million people -- the vast majority of them women -- had cosmetic procedures performed. Of these, more than 290,000 women received risky saline and silicone implants to increase the size of their breasts. The number of breast augmentations of women and teenagers has almost tripled since 1997. (www.ourbodiesourselves.org).

8Correct Answer: labiaplasty.
Labiaplasty is a procedure designed to reduce a woman's labia. Some doctors perform 40 to 50 labiaplasties a month on women as young as 20 years old, even though they can cost upward of $4,000 and take several months to heal. The American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) began collecting information on vaginal rejuvenation in 2005. Growth in this area alone increased almost 30% from 2006. (www.labiaplastysurgeon.com)

9  Correct Answer: all of the above.
(http://loveyourbody.nowfoundation.org)

10: Correct Answer: all of the above.
(http://loveyourbody.nowfoundation.org)

Monday, August 04, 2008 

Who was your most inspirational teacher? Which one of your teachers was unforgettable and who do you want to purge from your memory forever?

Who inspired you to greatness? Have you proven someone wrong who said you would "never amount to anything"?  Tell me about it.

I am transitioning into a teaching career and I would love to hear from you about the best-and worst-teacher you ever had.

I believe in the younger generation and I want to inspire
 them to reach for the stars, make a positive mark on their communities, their country, and the world and to be the best they can be.

I need your help. Post your story on my blog and you will be entered to win a $25.00 gift certificate from Blockbuster to be given away on September 30, 2008.

Friday, August 01, 2008 
Click to view next image Robyn McGee, top center, says black women need better roles in film.
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But according to some iReporters who watched CNN's "Black in America," these well-known actors' roles are not typical of how black people are shown on TV and in the movies.

Brad Bailey of Los Angeles, California, was one of the many viewers of the two-part documentary who continued the dialogue on iReport.com. The overwhelming response prompted CNN to initiate deeper explorations into the issues touched during the show.

Bailey held a viewing party at his home with friends who have been involved in acting and film production. He concluded that while he thought the documentary covered about as much ground as a special can, one of the issues remaining to be addressed was the image of blacks projected into theaters and living rooms.

Bailey says there aren't enough black roles on TV and in movies, which deprives people of all races from seeing black people in non-stereotypical roles or having their appearance become a normal, everyday aspect of filmmaking. Actors, too, struggle when they can't fit narrowly prescribed roles. iReport.com: See stories about being black in America

He cites a lack of black screenwriters as contributing to underrepresentation of blacks on television.

"For me, I think it's about who creates these roles," Bailey said. "I've only been successful when it came to roles that were specifically designed for being black."

Bailey himself has been on multiple sides of the same coin. He's auditioned for roles in the past as well as made his own projects. Now, he's moved to a documentary focus.
Blacks have a harder time fitting into roles than most people in an already-tough acting market, he said.

The Yale and Princeton graduate recalls one occasion when he auditioned for a role as an Ivy League "secret society type." He figured he'd have a good shot since he'd been in a secret society himself. He didn't get the role and noticed that it was given to a blond-haired white man.

"They were looking for the stereotypical version of what Ivy League was 50 years ago," Bailey said.

Still, no one ever came out and said why the choice was made, and he can only assume the reason behind the selection.

"Nobody ever says that directly," Bailey said. "They sort of go around it in coded language in order to say that."

He said he's had trouble auditioning for roles in which he would be dating a white person or married to a white person because directors look to match couples who look alike. People aren't used to interracial couples, but he thinks this image would change if people saw it more often.

"Maybe just seeing those pictures up there, maybe they won't react so strongly to it," he said.

Robyn McGee of Long Beach, California, singled out black women as a misrepresented group in film and television. Female film roles are prone to stereotype, she said.
iReport.com: See how McGee feels about black female stereotypes

She conceded that Smith's appearances in diverse films such as "Independence Day," "Men in Black," "I Am Legend" and "Hancock" were groundbreaking. Notably, Halle Berry won an Oscar in 2002 and Jennifer Hudson did so as well in 2007. But she said these examples of achievement are unique and must be built upon.

"Frequently, black women are still portrayed as loud, bossy or fat," she said. "The Pine Sol lady in commercials is a throwback to this mammy stereotype."

McGee wrote a book about black women's body images in 2005 and says she takes great interest in the subject of their appearances in film and TV.

She sent a photo of herself with her family and asked fellow iReporters, "Why are black women portrayed on TV, the movies, in magazines and online as loud, angry and desperate for love?"

Music videos of the 1990s influenced a new interpretation of women on TV in roles she characterizes as "hypersexual gold diggers."

These images, as well as portrayals of young black men, contribute to an identity crisis for teens in search of role models, says Beto Mario Lopez of Oakland, California.

Lopez said actors like Smith and Washington have carved a niche for themselves, but they don't speak to younger audiences the way TV and hip-hop culture do. Teens may feel like they have to act a certain way to fit in, when they might otherwise prefer a different style, he said.

"Kids are growing up today thinking you have to be hip-hop," Lopez said. "You've got regular 16-year-olds ... they're taking it too far with what you see on television."

He wishes more diverse filmmaking was available and said Spike Lee's comments in the special struck a chord. During his appearance in "Black in America," Lee said he has an easier time obtaining funding for projects including black stereotypes than for films that tackle more nuanced subject matter.
iReport.com: Watch Lopez talk about Spike Lee's interview and the perils of filmmaking

Young black males need to look at the media and see something with which they can identify, he said. Instead, he feels black men are portrayed in a negative light.

"You think, 'Oh look, there's another stereotype of a black going through problems.' "

Bailey said the importance of film imagery can't be ignored. He feels people are used to seeing black people as policemen, for example, but not necessarily in other capacities.

Everyone needs to see diverse representation in films for their own education, he said, and this need spreads beyond the United States.

"Hollywood starts these trends, but in these instances popular culture reacts to them," Bailey said. "Those images that are projected on screen are projected to the rest of the world."

Thursday, July 31, 2008 
Wednesday, July 30, 2008 

 

Myth 1:  Domestic Violence Must Be 

 

 Physical violence When a man hits, slaps, punches, burns, kicks, pulls hair, grabs or chokes his spouse or significant other. 

Psychological violence includes stalking in person, by telephone or through the Internet in an effort to elicit fear; partner withholds intimacy, is extremely bossy, making all the decisions in the relationship and dismisses feelings and opinions of their mate. Verbal putdowns, open adultery, lying, chronic unemployment, child abuse, pet abuse, drug abuse, isolating woman  from friends and family, even refusing to allow her to attend church. Monitoring her daily activities and establishing strict and rigid household rules that must be followed or punishment will be meted out. These are all forms of emotional and psychological abuse.

Sunday, July 20, 2008 

After dragging her by the hair, throwing her in the car and taking her on a high speed trip in the pitch darkness on a ..:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Los Angeles freeway, Tina found the courage after two years to break away from her violent boyfriend Fernando.  A twenty-two year old Latina who is preparing to graduate from college with a degree in education, Tina never imagined she would be caught up in an abusive relationship.  Tina is prepared to walk away from Fernando and not look back- except for one thing. Tina is pregnant with Fernando's baby and considering a "termination."

Marta, a model thin, pretty, twenty-three year old college business graduate from Kingston, Jamaica, got so mad at her boyfriend of four years, Larry who is also from the islands, she hit him over the head with a champagne bottle-in the middle of Los Angeles' busy Crenshaw Blvd. Believing he was cheating on her with one of his many, many female "friends," Daliah feels completely justified in abusing Larry. Their relationship has been a series of break-ups and reunions.  And now that Larry is married to another woman -supposedly so he can stay in the country legally-Larry and Daliah still see each other and still fight like cats and dogs.

At twenty-four years old, blonde and blue-eyed nursing student Ruthann's father married an African American woman who became a beloved stepmother to Ruthann and her younger sister Caitlyn.  Ruthann has never dated a white man but has always been attracted to abusive, older black men. Two years ago, Ruthann had a baby by Tim, an African American special education teacher. That's when the trouble in their relationship spun out of control. Tim, who was orphaned by his own mother when he was five months old, imagined Ruthann was cheating on him, stormed over to her house and choked her until she nearly passed out.  The only thing that stopped Tim from killing Ruthann that day was the frantic cries from their two year-old Michael who witnessed the entire incident.  Asked why she did call the police on Tim and have him arrested, Ruthann says she did not want Tim to go to jail and lose his job.

Sheila, a nineteen year-old, African American high school dropout has been in a hair trigger intimate relationship with her girlfriend Li-Li, a twenty-six year old mother of a four- year old daughter for the past two years.  While the father of Li-Li's child is soon to be released from prison, Sheila and Li Li, are living together and fighting daily. Neighbors have had to call the police to the couple's home more than once.  The last time the police came was after Sheila slapped Li-Li's face because Li Li was  "high and talking shit."  Sheila wanted revenge against Li Li so she got pregnant by a married man.  She and Li Li are still involved and still battling.

Lula, a bubbly, petite Filipina who is in graduate school and who teaches fifth grade has a unhealthy pattern of becoming involved with emotionally abusive men.  Lula and her last boyfriend a N.Y.P.D. cop were engaged-until she found out he was sleeping with other women and going to strip clubs during his working hours. Lula cannot face many of her old friends now because she had showed off the big engagement diamond, bought her white wedding gown and put a down payment on the reception hall.  Lula was so humiliated she quit her job and moved to Maui...:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

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How do young, ambitious, attractive women find themselves bonded to men or other women whose chief means of communication is through clenched fists and raised voices? Which is more damaging, the physical abuse that Tina suffered or the emotional and mental damage brought on by the lying, cheating partners that Lula always seems to fall in love with?  Are African Americans always supposed to act like tough, fierce women who put up with nothing from a man, never holds her tongue and who works to keep the family together at all costs?   Do young men really believe that Latinas are always red-hot and ready for sex? Must Asian women forever suffer in silence?  How much damage do these stereotypes do to the women in intimate relationships?  What role does the media play in shaping the way in which young men and young women interact?  Why do violent relationships seem "normal" to some women of color and what can be done to re-program their thinking, so that what seems natural becomes repulsive? 

 

Monday, February 04, 2008 

But I did watch on TV. It had all the exitement of watching paint dry.  I do think though Hillary/Barak or Barak/Hillary would be an unbeatable team...unfortunately, egos may get in the way...

 

Thursday, January 24, 2008 

Hey Everyone!

The Presidential campaign season is fast and furious and before you know it, November will be here and we'll be hailing to the Commander in Chief with a totally different name and hopefully a different attitude than our current White House occupant.

What would you ask Hillary Clinton, Barak Obama or John Edwards the three contenders to the throne?  

Would you vote for someone just because of their race or gender?

  What about your finances, is your job secure?  Is your education affordable and relevant for you and/or your children?  Have any of the candidates talked about things that matter to you, or is it all heat and no light?

What qualities are you looking for in a leader?

 I am hoping to attend the Democratic debates in L.A. at the end of the month so I can blog about it as it happens.

The good news is I have never seen folks this energized about politics in a long time.   It's a beautiful thing that people care so much about our democracy.  Because as they say, if you don't use it you'll lose it.

Hit me back and let me know what you think.  How much does this particular election matter to you?

Monday, December 24, 2007 

Hope everyone has a safe and happy holiday season and brand spanking New Year. Saying goodbye to 2007 and hello to 2008 which will be a year of major transition for me.   I am working on my memoirs so you can read all about the good, the bad and the scandalous. As always I am keeping it real and uncut.

 

Love you all,

Robyn M

Monday, July 16, 2007 

     According to many psychologists, verbal harassment in childhood often leads to severe depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, and social phobias (or social anxiety disorder). Negative coping patterns such as drug and alcohol abuse are often the consequences of childhood teasing. Children mocked for being fat, for example, sometimes display a measure of self-hatred by making fun of themselves by becoming the class clown. This helps them mitigate the hurt and lack of self-confidence they may feel. 

     Teasing is often the result of historical racism in African American culture, according to Dr. Tiffany Herbert, a university psychologist who uses group therapy as a means of empowering young black women. It recalls an era when African Americans were pitted against one another; taunting became a way to show superiority and assert one's individuality. "We as African Americans have historically been taught that European culture is the standard of beauty, wealth, socialization, and other traits perceived to be so-called 'right,'" Dr. Herbert says. Taunting someone for being fat or for some other perceived flaw often reflects the low self-esteem of the bully and may be a manifestation of internalized racism.

     "The idea is to make someone feel as bad as you feel on the inside," says Dr. Herbert, "and through taunting, the teaser gains some level of superiority over someone else."

     On the other hand, being the target of name-calling often has a profound impact on a person's sense of self, her gender, or her race. It can also create a beneath-the-surface rage that may eventually explode violently.