Hi Guys,

Sorry that I have not been on MySpace much lately. Starting today, I'm going to start trying to commit more time to commenting about the shows (Charm School) and posting more blogs.

So, to start with (since Vh1 edited out my explanation about my eating fish), I wanted to comment about that.  Obviously I did not hide the fact that I am an animal rights activist who eats fish.  So does that make me a hypocrite?  Well, here's my thoughts on that...

An "animal rights activist" by definition is someone who is active in fighting for the rights and wellbeing of animals.  So under that definition, I am an animal rights activist.  I attend protests, I write letters to corporations and politicians, I spread the word to others, and I even started my own pet rescue organization a year-and-a-half ago.  However, I also realize that many people do not want to become an "activist" because they do not want to make the types of sacrifices they think they have to make to become an activist, and therefore they don't do anything at all.  In other words, they think that becoming an animal rights activist is either all or nothing.  They think that by doing "all" is too difficult of a task, so instead, they do nothing.  They think that in order to fight for the rights of animals, they have to wear clothes made of hemp, and eat carrots for the rest of their lives.  I'm here to say that that is not the case.  What I have ALWAYS preached is to do SOMETHING, not NOTHING.  You don't have to do it all, but at least try to make some changes in your life, that will make the world better for people and animals.  I think that the hard core activists that tell you that you have to be the "perfect" activist, or you can't be one at all, actually drive people AWAY from the idea of being an activist.  I would rather have a country of 90% of the people doing several small things in their lives that will make the world a better place, vs. 3% of the population being "hard core", and the rest doing nothing because they think it's too difficult and too much sacrifice.  If everyone in the whole country did SOMETHING to make the world a better place, then collectively, the results would be huge.  I strongly admire those who become vegan and are totally hard core about animal rights.  Let me restate that.  I STRONGLY respect those people.  However, what I preach to people is this:  Pick some things in your life where you can make a difference.  For me personally, I don't eat beef, pork, or poultry, because I don't support factory farming.  I also don't wear fur or leather.  I do however still eat fish, and I am not a vegan.  I feel if everyone in the country picked a few things that will work for them, then collectively it will make a huge difference.  I feel that's much more effective, and will get WAY more people involved, than to try to get an entire country to turn vegan.  I'm not saying that's not a worthy fight, but let's start by going for things that we can actually get people to get on board about.  Let's fight for things that we KNOW we can win - like getting people to stop wearing fur.  Like voting for laws like Prop 2 in California that will give farm animals larger living spaces.  Like boycotting entertainment industries that notoriously abuse animals such as the rodeo and the circus.  Once we get people to get onboard ideas like these, then we can work on more difficult tasks after that, such as encouraging people that eating beef and pork is not only bad for the animals, but bad for you too.  In order to create a movement, you have to make it accessible for your average person.  And by condemning someone who works so hard for animals, like Dallas did to me, only discourages others from the idea of becoming an activist.  No I'm not the "perfect" animal rights activist, and no I'm not vegan.  Yes, we can always all do more!  But I do a LOT of good work for the fight for animal rights.  And I think that should be commended, and not condemned for that.  I wish that others would not be frightened away from the idea of fighting for animal rights, because they think it's too overwhelming, or that there are sacrifices that they personally cannot make.  But what I say is just pick some things that you can do to help animals (and people, for that matter), and stick with it, and encourage your friends and family to do the same.  Again, I think collectively, that will make a much bigger impact towards the rights of animals, rather than only having 3% of the population being "hard core" activists, and the rest doing nothing because they think the task is too daunting.  I do believe that you can still be an activist and eat fish (which I do) or wear leather (which I don't do).  Just like you can be a Christian, and not go to Church.  You can be a health advocate, and still eat ice cream on the weekends.  As long as you DO practice what you preach, which I do by rescuing dogs, not eating beef, pork or poultry, by attending protest, not wearing fur or leather, etc, then you're making progress.  These are MY choices that I make to help animals.  And you can make YOUR choices that you make to help animals.  There is no set of rules in fighting for animals' rights.  No one is perfect, and no one HAS to be, in order to make progress.  You just have to put some work into it, and commit to doing positive things, and progress will be made!

Take care,

Lacey

Hey Everyone!

I'm baaaaack!  ;-)  I will be one of the girls who will be a part of "Charm School 2" with Sharon Osbourne, which will air this fall on Vh1.  You thought Rock of Love was crazy?  Well you will love this one!  I am definitely up to my normal antics, and maybe I might have pissed off one or two people (who...ME???....NOOOO!), but I also made a few great friends, and I also got to talk about my pet rescue - New Dawn Pet Rescue - quite a bit.  Here are the girls who are on the show, in no particular order....

Me

Brandi C.

Brandi M.

Meagan

Heather

Rodeo

Kristie Joe

Angelique

Destiney

Dallas

Jessica (from Rock of Love season 2 - NOT Jes from season 1)

Inna

Courtney
Raven

Oh, it's gonna be fun!  Can't wait!

Cheers,

Lacey

Wow, I sure have stirred up some STRONG emotions in people!  Haha!  I have posted quite a few blogs here, to give an answer to some of the things that are being said about me, and that are being asked of me.

Make sure you click on where it says "View all blog entries", on the front page of my myspace page, to be able to view all the different topics that I have posted about.

TO THE LOVERS:  I have received tons and tons of really kind, sweet, and encouraging e-mails and comments from so many of you, and I just wanted give you all a huge gigantic thank you.  I really want you all to know that I appreciate you all SO much.  Thank you for all of the support you have given me.

TO THE HATERS:  I know a lot of nasty things have been written about me on the blogs and message boards, but you know what?  It's okay.  My philosophy in life is that you embrace the people who are rooting for you, and you ignore the ones who aren't.  Those people don't effect my life in any way, shape, or form.  Also, I was the only real controversial girl on the show, so of course people are gonna want to give me a hard time about it!  But I would much rather be loved AND hated at the same time, because that shows that I actually made an impact! (which is what I was striving to do all along!).  In my mind, being both loved and hated simultaneously is far better than floating along, unnoticed.  "Rile 'em up!" is what I say!  Step on some toes!  Shake things up!  Kick some ass!  THIS is how you get heard.  THIS is how you get noticed.  THIS is how you get your message out.  I will NEVER sit quietly in the background. 

Anyway, I have a list of FAQs, because I keep getting the same questions and comments over and over again.  So once you read them, and if you find yourself on a "rock of love" message board, feel free to quote me if ya want!  :-)

Thanks everyone, and I wish you all well!

Cheers,

Lacey

FAQ:  "You're such a mean bitch. How can you talk about loving animals, but be so mean to people?  And you give all animal-rights activists a bad name."

Look, guys, everyone forgets that this is a TELEVISION show!  It is NOT real life!  When I went on the show, I purposely strived to be the controversial one in the house.  I WANTED to get people talking!  (which, my actions have done!)  In real life, no…I don't go around pushing people into pools, or getting in people's faces, or poking people on the forehead with my finger.  (Sometimes I may WANT to do these things, but in real life, I have a little more self control than that!)  Of course, I know that would be juvenile and inappropriate to behave that way.  But on the show, I wanted to do whatever it took to get me to stay longer, so I could spend more time with Bret.  And so far, my strategy is working!  Also, if I just sat around, and was nice, and talked about nice things, etc, YOU GUYS WOULD NOT BE WATCHING THIS SHOW!  Drama is what gets the ratings up.  I know for a fact that a couple of girls were sent home for being "too nice".  No one wants to watch that.  People want to watch drama, which I, and some of the other girls, created.  In real life, I have a ton of friends.  Why?  Because I like people, I care about people, and I treat everyone in the same way that I want to be treated.  I bet money to every single person that if you spent 10 minutes with me in "real life", and not on a TV show, you would probably find me to be sweet, funny, and kind-hearted.  Again, this is a TV show, and I purposely got the girls riled up.  But in real life, I enjoy being kind to people, whether it's my best friend, or the lady behind the cash register at the grocery store.  I like to make people feel good.  Yes, I CAN be a mean bitch in SOME circumstances, so that side of me that I show on "Rock of Love" is definitely real.  However, in "real" life, it takes a lot more than what Dallas or Jes (or who ever else) did, to get me to be mean.  But admit it, you love the drama!  Again, if I was this sweet, nice, Lacey, (and if ALL the girls on the show sat around talking about manicures and being nice), you wouldn't be watching the show, now would you?

Again, it's TV, people.  Not real life.  On the show, all the girls, myself included, take the most extreme part of our personality, and put it on "ON" - for the entertainment factor of the show.

Okay, wake-up call everyone.  BRET is on the show for HIS career!  Why do you think that "Rock of Love" is airing at the exact same time that Poison is on tour?  Of COURSE Bret is there to pump up his career.  But you know what?  That's OKAY.  Bret is a very smart man.  He knows how to market himself.  He's a businessman, and an entrepreneur.  And I think that's sexy as hell!  I want a smart, "take charge of life" kind of guy.  Now, as for me, if I was just there "for my career", then why didn't I - even once - say the name of my band to the cameras on the show?  Why didn't I bring any CDs with me?  I didn't even give BRET a CD of my band.  And the reason I talk about music so much is because I LOVE music, and I am passionate about my band!!!  If I was a soccer player, then I would probably have mentioned that a hundred times on the show too.  That's my personality.  I am a passionate person, and I tend to bring up things that I care about on a regular basis. I can't help it.  But I don't think that's a BAD thing!  Also, because I'm a musician, I relate best with other musicians.  I've always dated people who are musicians, because it works well to date someone that you have something in common that you're both so passionate about!  That typically leads to a successful relationship.  And the fact that Bret and I have that in common, in my opinion, is pretty significant.

Here's the deal.  Yes, I am against wearing animals as clothing, but many of my friends wear leather and other clothes made of animals, and I still accept them as my friends.  My goal is not to be the "perfect" animal rights activist, but instead, to live my life in such a way that negatively impacts as few animals as possible.  My goal is also to educate people about the harm that many animals endure.   Not every friend that I have is an animal rights activist, and I'm not looking for that.  However, ALL of my friends are compassionate, and THAT is what I look for in a friend/companion.  Usually if someone who is kind-hearted and compassionate spends enough time around me, then some of my views and opinions usually rub off on them.  I don't shove my beliefs down their throats, otherwise, obviously, they wouldn't hang out with me.  But just being in my presence, and seeing how I live, and how I don't eat meat or wear animal skins or fur, people will  usually ask me about this, and what I say to them makes sense.  A couple of my friends have stopped eating meat, because of me.  A few of them have stopped wearing fur.  Bret is such a kind, compassionate person who loves animals, and that alone is enough to appease me.  My hopes are that spending enough time around me will cause him to change some of the ways that he lives.  But if it doesn't, then that's OKAY, because at least, for the most part, he is kind to animals and compassionate about them.  And in my book, this is "good enough" for me.  I can't expect everyone to be perfect.  But I DO expect everyone to be compassionate, which Bret is.  Dallas, on the other hand, does not have a compassionate bone in her body.  Talking about hurting animals and slitting their throats, and FLAUNTING fur, is hateful, spiteful, and decadent.  Even if she was just saying these things to spite me, there are just some things that are not a joking matter.  I would never joke around about child abuse, animal abuse, or ANY kind of abuse, even if it was just to get under someone's skin…you just don't joke about those kinds of things if you have ANY morals whatsoever.  Dallas even told me, off the cameras, that she had a dog once, but she got rid of it because she didn't want it anymore.  What kind of person does this?  Bret would never just get rid of one of his pets.  Again, I'm not looking to date an animal rights activist – I'm a little more lenient than that.  However, I DO want someone who loves animals, and is compassionate, which Bret is, and that's the bottom line.  And this is why it is not hypocritical of me to like Bret, but not Dallas.

OF COURSE, I believe that women should be represented as intelligent, sophisticated individuals.  I have a college degree, I always maintained an A average through junior high school and high school, I was salutatorian of my high school, and I had a 4.0 in college. I consider myself to be intelligent, ambitious, and sophisticated. HOWEVER - I believe that a woman should not always HAVE to "act like a lady". To me, that way of thinking is oppressive. At work, yes, a woman should live up to a certain standard and expectation. In front of children, same thing. At school, again, same thing. Any situation where the woman is representing herself in a serious or business-like setting, a woman should behave in a classy, strong, sophisticated manner. However, I also feel that as a woman, I have the right to "let loose" and "party" - in the appropriate setting - ie: in a rock 'n roll house with a "rock star" like Bret - without being labeled "a slut". I notice how often the girls from "Rock of Love" get called sluts and whores, yet no one ever makes a comment like this about Bret. Yet he's the one making out with 10 different girls in 1 day. In certain situations, a woman has just as much a right as a man does to be wild and act crazy. And when the party is over, she can still go to work, run a business, conduct a seminar, or what have you, and be respected. Being a woman does not entail acting like a librarian 24 hours a day. Hence, the meaning behind "women's lib". I believe that women who call other women "sluts" and "whores" are way more damaging to the female gender than anything I've ever done on "Rock of Love".

Look, I am not just solely a supporter of Peta.  I am an animal-rights activist who supports MANY animal-rights and welfare groups…Peta just happens to be one of them.  I have heard many bad things about Peta, for instance, Peta euthanizes dogs and cats that they cannot find homes for.  The reason that Peta euthanizes animals is because there are too many animals, and not enough homes for them.  This is not Peta's fault. It is the fault of the law-makers who do not pass mandatory spay and neuter laws.  Many groups, even the SPCA, unfortunately have to euthanize animals that they cannot find homes for.  If they didn't, then they would do what I call "animal warehousing", which means they would have cages upon cages upon cages that are filled with cats and dogs.  What kind of life is that to live?  To spend years sitting in a cage?  Until people stop saying "oh how cute would it be if my little dog had puppies" and until law-makers pass laws forcing people to spay and neuter their pets, we are going to continue having this problem of too many pets and not enough homes.  Also, yes, I know Peta says and does things that are controversial, and they say and do things that even I don't agree with sometimes.  However, that can be said for just about any group or organization.  Some things you'll agree with, some things, you won't.  Even though I don't agree with EVERYTHING Peta says or does, I DO believe that they do more good than harm.  I feel that Peta is the one organization that pretty much put the "animal rights" movement on the map.  Because of their crazy antics, they attract people.  In fact, I heard about Peta, and looked into what they were all about, before I even knew what the concept of "animal rights" was!  They attract celebrities and are often in the media, again drawing attention to the atrocities that animals must face.  Because of their outrageousness, they put the spotlight on animal-rights, and to me, I think this is extremely significant.  I definitely think that the good that Peta has done for animal-rights as a whole, outweighs the bad.