On Thursday Janury 29, 2009, at 10:36 pm... My mom passed away. She was at home, in her own apartment at California Mission Inn, in Rosemead, Ca.
Januray 19, while she was being fed dinner by me, she started choking on her food and had trouble swallowing.. I panicked and ran to tell staff, they came immediately to try to help her.. Mom struggled so much and kept coughing and unable to breathe properly... I called Dow and Barb and their voices calmed me a little.. as I cried and hugged residents that were watching and caring.. Staff took her out of her wheelchair and onto the carpet in the next room... they continued to work on her.. while the ambulance was on it's way.... When they arrived, they checked her out and tried to help her inside the facility.. and In the ambulance..
while it was parked in the parking lot.. Mom still wasn't getting better and she just did not look good... I wasn't ready to lose mom, though some* of you may have interpeted my reasons as being 'selfish'? I wasn't trying to be unsensitive or selfish.. I love my mom... and didn't want her to go this way....( I type this with tears in my eyes) The paramedics decided to take mom to emergency and off went their sirens.... as they rushed her to the Hospitial....
I drove in my car there and went to where mom was.... she was sitting up as about 6 medical personell were working on her and puting different things in her to try to get all the food out of her as she was struggling to breathe... like an asthma attack.. She was 'espasperating'..?
My son, Ryan showed up a few minutes after me and we just talked to mom with a loving voice and touch... after awhile..she actually had a smile on her face for a long time....and was calming down.... The doctor came in to check her and told us there was nothing else he could do, because she is on 'hospice'.... But if she wasn't he'd admit her to stay the night in the hospitial... Dow and Barb didn't want this and thought it was better for me to be in her own comfortable enviorment in her own bed, in her own apt.. That's a part of what Hospice is.... dying at home.. naturally.. YES!! This was hard for me and my son... we weren't sure about all of this and wanted mom to have the best care, thinking at the time.. that a hospital that is equipped with everything mom would need would be better...but, the decsion... was allready in stone..
Mom was sent back by ambulance to Mission Inn and within a day or 2.. mom had a high temperature and a mild case of numonia.. She was getting weaker and weaker as her body started loosing the abilty to function normal.. decline...
Mom lived 10 more days... we were hoping she'd come out of 'the woods'.. But, When I asked God.. about mom, he told me 'THIS IS HER TIME'. So, I knew I had to accept that..it was hard to go to work, I asked God to let me be with her when she dies, before and after.. I didn't want to miss this event.. though I feared it most of my life, and cried many times.. in my past. I was very attached to mom. We weren't real close, But I always felt for her when she was alone (without dad being there anymore)and struggling and mad and sad.. and isolated herself a lot of the times....
My sons birth brought Joy in her life....
Please join me and my family to say goodbye to mom...she deserves the attention..
she was a charished, loving mom.. and grandma..
Viewing 1
Tuesday, February 03, 2009
6:00 PM to 8:30 PM
Rose Hills Mortuary
3888 Workman Mill Rd.
Whittier, CA 90601
Enter Park through Gate 1
Viewing 2
Wednesday, February 04, 2009
8:00 AM to 2:30 PM
Rose Hills Mortuary
3888 Workman Mill Rd.
Whittier, CA 90601
Enter Park through Gate 1
Service
Wednesday, February 04, 2009 at 3:00 PM
(Please plan to arrive a few minutes early.)
Service: Funeral Service
Location: Rose Hills Memorial Park
3888 Workman Mill Rd.
Whittier, CA, 90601
Concludes: Concludes At Interment Site
Interment : Sequoia Lawn - Enter Park through Gate 1
Lot : 3414
Grave: 1
Phone #(562) 699-0921
Thankyou..
and as my dad once said:
TREASURE THE GOLDEN MOMENTS.... FOR THEY WILL NEVER COME AGAIN....
MOMS OBITURARY.. WILL BE POSTED IN THE LOS ANGELES TIMES AND PASADENA STAR NEWS TUES OR WED THE LATEST.. THIS WEEK... ( FEB 3 OR 4, 2009)
Jenny Parkes born Jul. 12 1918 in Ann Arbor, Michigan
daughter of Nicholas & Barbara Mshar, immigrants from
Russia and Austria. Younger sister to Al and Helen.
She eventually moved to Washington D.C and worked in
The Pentagon as an executive secretary. Met and married
A captain of the Army Dow Parkes, who also worked in the
Pentagon. Moved together to L.A in the late 1940’s, and
Eventually became a full time mother to 3 beautiful children.
Then became an employee of the The Broadway for 25 years
until her mid 70’s. Remembered for her sense of humor,
frugality and kindness towards others. Her grandson brought
joy to her life. Last 3 years of her life were spent at California
Mission Inn where she was well cared for and loved. Final year
of her life was under hospice care. Survived by her 3 children:
Barbara, Dow and Kathy and handsome grandson Ryan and
members of the Mshar family. Died Jan 29th 2009.
Services to be held at Rose Hills Whittier