Ladies, be honest. There is no relationship more complex complicated and demanding than the one you share with sex and the men in your lives. Jamaican men are celebrated for being "bedroom bullies" but chastised for being "old dawgs".

We have entertainers, film-makers and even authors telling men to "put it on the ladies" and make them "drop it like it's hot" while the church and society rebuke men for not being "gentle lovers". Then, we have the women themselves requesting "rough stallions" and then turn around and complaining that there is "no romance" and that "chivalry is dead". So the question remains: What do women really want? Do you even know yourselves? Again, be honest.

To help us get the lowdown, we recently invited four of the entertainment industry's hottest and sexiest PYTs (pretty, young things) to the Observer offices in Kingston for a candid, open and honest conversation about the intimate desires of women, their thoughts on relationship issues, what they admire about the opposite sex and what Jamaican men really, really, really need to know.

all woman: What do you wish Jamaican men knew about pleasing Jamaican women?

Tifa: To please a woman, you have to be able to understand her first. I want to be understood and it really takes time to understand me (Giggles).

Natalie: Jamaican men need to be better listeners.
Coco: Not just that, but to truly please a woman like me, you have to be open-minded when it comes to certain things.
Timberlee: Sometimes men need to delegate less and be less aggressive.

Coco: Yeah. We want romance in our relationships, not just roses and flowers, but the little things that count. Every now and again.

all woman: Okay, I see. So how do you let a man know that you're feeling him, that you're physically into him?
Coco: Well, I don't have a problem saying it to him (Laughs), even though I'm usually approached by the guy. But I will compliment him so that he gets the message (Laughs).

Timberlee: I flirt a lot and I love to touch gently (Smiles).
Natalie: I don't have a problem going up to him and telling him, straight.

Timberlee and Tifa: [immense laughter]
Tifa: Well, I am very shy so sometimes I use my friends or his friends to get the message across.

all woman: What is the most attractive thing about a Jamaican man?

Timberlee: His aggression. Most of them don't hesitate to say what's on their minds and I like that. I like straightforward men.
Coco: I'm really into the artistic guys but it depends on my mood and the chemistry. I look at how a man carries himself because that is important.

Natalie: I like guys that make me laugh and Jamaican men know what to say.

all woman: Do you think men can be too sexually adventurous?

Tifa: Yes, Jamaican men can be too sexually adventurous because there is always that one girl out there who will go there with them.

Timberlee: I think it's a part of the whole Jamaican masculinity thing to be sexually adventurous but, to be honest, not all men are like that.

Natalie: It's a 50/50 situation. Both men and women can be sexually adventurous.

Coco: It depends because there are some men who will come to you with some things and you are shocked.
Tifa: I think it also depends on who the man is with. Plus, you have to remember that a lot of them are on the down-low.

all woman: What type of guys do you girls go for? Do you have a particular preference?

Timberlee: I have never dated an uptown man. They tend to get on my nerves. I have a thing for those quiet guys who often have bad tempers. I find that exciting (Laughs). Oh, and clothes and style are very important!

Tifa: I like the thug appeal. There's nothing sexier to me. You have to be a boss and you have to have street smarts.
Natalie: I like the mamas boys and the young, inexperienced ones that I can teach. I like the young guys that I can groom and control.

Coco: I have a weakness for bow-legs but I really don't have a specific preference overall. I have dated all types of men. There will never be one specific type for me but it is important that he shares a good relationship with his family.

all woman: What are your thoughts concerning sex on the first date?

Timberlee: No! That sends the wrong message about you. [The man's] original view of you is going to change no matter what. Trust me.

Tifa: As a lady, you do not do that because the guy is going to believe that you do it with all the other guys on the first date. To me, sex plays a very important role in the relationship. I like to be pleasured and properly too.

Natalie: Sex on the first date is definitely not a good idea because there is supposed to be that build-up, that romance leading up to the first time.

all woman: Okay, since you girls brought up the topic of "doing it", what is the best sexual experience you've ever had?

Timberlee: Well, I was in Boston earlier this year and I ended up making love to a friend of mine by accident. I was fully dominated. I think I [climaxed] like eight times!
Coco and Tifa: [Giggling]

Natalie: I would say the second time I had sex with my current boyfriend. It was the first time I climaxed so often. I just wanted to sleep like a baby after we finished. Oh, and it was the first time I got spanked.

Tifa: My best experience was also my most romantic. There was music, dancing and wine. He just knew what to do. We did a new position and it was like he was an extension of me. It was magical (Laughs).

Coco: All my encounters have been fabulous but there was this one particular time that I was trembling and could not move for about half-an-hour after it was over. I had to call him back into the room and ask if we could go again.
Everybody: [Laughing]

all woman: Wow, that was a lot to digest (Laughs). What would you say is the key to a lasting and successful relationship?

Natalie: I have been in a relationship for two years now and I believe that you just need to understand each other and compromise. When something bothers you, talk about it.

Timberlee: That is true. Effective communication is important to any relationship.

Coco: The sex has to be good too, the understanding has to be there and it is important that you are sure of how the other person feels about you.

all woman: Finally, what should Jamaican men take away from this conversation?

Timberlee: They need to slow down and pay attention to the women in their lives. They can learn a lot that way.

Natalie: Sometimes the girl just wants to hear "I love you". The signs are always there on a daily basis.

Coco: Have more respect for us as women and make an effort to bring out the positives and make us happy.
Tifa: It's simple. Stop, look and listen and you will learn.

Meet our passion panel

Get to know the four girlfriends we interviewed for their thoughts:

1. Natalie "NS" Cole, 20-something, is a singer-songwriter and dancer, who plans to pursue studies in psychology at university next year.

2. Latifa "Tifa" Brown, 20-something, is a recording artiste and talented choreographer, who holds a degree in psychology from the University of the West Indies (UWI), Mona.

3. Camille "Coco" Sinclair, 20-something, who hosts the popular 'Hype 411' on cable television's Hype TV, pursues full-time studies at the University of Technology (UTech) and is a budding writer and publicist.

4. Timberlee "Timmie" Heaven, 20-something, is a dancehall-pop artiste and songwriter and is currently an undergraduate at Canada's Concordia University.