right heres a post for all the ppl with the less major mental disorders out there, we're talking depression, bipolar disorder, ocd. etc.
YOUR BRAIN HATES YOU! it will do anything to fuck you up, drag your mood down into a self loathing pity, drugs don't always help, and can often leave you feeling far worse than before (many anti depressants make the condition worse, the highs are indeed higher but the lows are incredibly low, soul destroying even)
specifically, im going to talk about relationships with other human beings, as these are most effected by the mentally-divergent patient.
conditions such as ocd and aspergers often lead to obsessive behaviour in the world of love. you feel like you "have to have" a girl or a boy in order to feel good. what this means in real terms is that you are NOT HAPPY WITH YOURSELF. you feel you need to go along the cliched hollywood movie plot of "getting the girl" in order to bring resolution to your life. in reality, you may still not be happy after you've got the girl as paranoia destroys your relationship, leaving you lower then before. often, some feeling of rejection or sadness FROM THE PAST, makes you have "delusions of subhumanity" its very easy to think "well, everyone else has a girlfriend, why don't i? i must be crap!" in reality, girls find this self pitying attitude sickening and will often make it EVEN HARDER to find a suitable mate, (unless of course, your incredibly hot, where you can pull some 1-dimensional shallow girl quite easily and be done with it)
so what are the ways to combat this complete self pitying crap? well here are a few suggestions:
1. DONT FORGET YOUR FRIENDS, girls will come and go but friends should always be there, look at your friends, they obviously like you for some reason? don't they? isnt that something to feel great about?
2. MOST OF THIS IS TO DO WITH HORMONES, yes indeed, you think you could love the girl, but you might just want sex from her, i would suggest having a wank before you go out just to make sure, your hormones will take some time to build up again and you will know for sure, AND be less uptight. if you still really want the girl, rather than JUST WANTING REGULAR SEX AND FAKE LOVE TO BUILD YOUR EGO AND STOP YOU FEELING SUBHUMAN, then go for it (i have made this mistake so many times, its now quite easy to tell between lust and love)
3. LEARN TO LIKE YOURSELF, if you can enjoy your own company and not let your brain make you feel down all the time, then being single is far more bearable, you can make new friends, who will in turn lead you to girlfriends, who will in turn lead you to other girlfriends. (this is a fantastic way to get a girl if your crap at pulling in a club! haha!)
4. HAVE A CREATIVE OUTLET, it sounds so obvious, but many people have no positive outlet for their obsessions/overpowering emotions, pick up a guitar, or a paintbrush, and turn those obsessions into something positive! (and don't write whiny emo songs, its NOT big, and its NOT clever!)
anyway, there we go, just some thoughts, i would say that a balance between self confidence and self improvement will make you into a well rounded individual, capable of finding the girl of your dreams :)
oh, and if your ugly, your fucked, don't even try ;) im joking of course ;)
just a few thoughts, im by no means i psychologist...
jay xx