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Gender: Female
Status: Married
Age: 29
Sign: Scorpio

State: Utah
Country: US
Signup Date: 2/12/2007

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Thursday, January 29, 2009 

Current mood:  refreshed

Over the past 8 months this site has been truly lacking my presence.  Life has been busy and I have been fairly selfish in not wanting to upkeep the page.  I had discussed several times with my husband about taking the page down just because I didn't think it was fair to have it when I never updated it or responded to anyone, but he always convinced me to keep it. 

So this past week, he slipped up ( It's been quiet awhile) and I was so upset and discouraged that I decided to give up and take down the page.  I logged in and posted a bulletin, then started the "cancel my account" process.  First, I got an error message, then I got through and was waiting for the email that you HAVE to respond to in order to really cancel the account... it didn't come.  I got ALL the other myspace emails, but not the cancellation one.    So I tried again... same thing...  I gave up and went to bed.   The next morning my husband and I had a long talk about things.  The things I always seem to forget is that WE are fighting an addiction, not just some sort of hobby... and that as his wife, WE are in this together.  After a long talk and some prayer I realized that God was trying to tell me something...  that I needed to keep this page up and continue to tell our story.
Thank you to all of you who sent your encouraging messages and prayers.   I really needed them.  It is very difficult to be transparent and share our story and struggles, but I realize how important it is.  I realize that even though my husband may slip and we may go through rough patches, that by sharing our story, we ( through the GRACE of Christ) give other people hope and hopefully encourage others so continue to turn to Jesus for strength and that even when you may fall, HE is always there to pick you up and clean you off and HE will always forgive and give us the GRACE and MERCY to move on.  I think so many of us forget that and have such a hard time accepting that.  It's something I need to remind myself of everyday.

So, quick update on us.  We recently moved back to the USA  after serving in Europe for the past 5 years.  what a HUGE blessing to be able to see so much of Europe and the World.  However, God blessed us even more with a HUGE surprise and we are expecting our first child, a boy, who will be named Daniel in May.  Because of my "high risk" pregnancy ( I'm also a Type 1 diabetic) the Military decided to send us back to the USA where I could have several Doctors oversee the pregnancy.  We have been in Utah now fro almost a month, bought our first home and found an amazing church that we are beginning to plug into.  So we look to this time as a new adventure and new beginning for us. 
SO keep the prayers coming for us and WE will continue to pray for everyone who is struggling and WE will continue to rejoice with those who are overcoming their addictions and struggles.  Please send your prayer requests!
May God bless each of you and your families.
Ciao!





Tuesday, October 02, 2007 

Current mood:  thankful
Ciao All! Summer has flown by and my beloved husband will be home from deployment in just a few short days. Thank you to all of you who have prayed for us over the past 4 months while we have been apart, it has been difficult but the Lord has grown us both so much! I have been away from the site again for a bit, so to those of you who are new, welcome and I apologize for taking so long to add and respond.
God has been doing amazing things through this site and through relationships I have built with many women. I ask you all to continue to pray for husbands, brothers, fathers, men who are struggling with their addictions, and the women it affects.
God Bless you all! have a great week!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007 

Current mood:  contemplative
Hey All,

Well this site is really beginning to take off. Complete with rude and offensive e-mails! It takes the Holy Spirit sitting on my hands not to type back something, well, human. LOL But that would defeat my purpose. Recently I had one guy send me a message....well, I'll leave out the first part, but the second went something like this "Porn helps people express themselves without spread of AIDS and unwanted children" Express yourself?!?!?! Write a poem, paint a picture.... try monogamy. ANYWAY.... I know have almost 400 people signed up on this site....SO I find myself asking God "Ok, you wanted me to start this site, now what?????" SO I'm looking for a few things. From those of you who are A) wives and B) have a husband / ex-husband currently addicted or recovering from Porn who are willing to send me your testimonies. Good, Bad, how God has been a part of your journey with this.... I'd like to be able to use other people's stories to witness to others struggling.
If you are willing to do this, please send it to me via a "message". I may or may not use your story or only part of it. Please let me know if you want me to leave your name out, I will honor that request no problem. In the mean time I am also looking for a new name. While I want to embody what I stand for, I also don't want to sound like an extremist. If God has taught me anything through what Jason and I have gone through in our marriage, it's GRACE! and "wives Against Porn" has never sat with me. It sounds Judgmental and angry. Which I am neither. So, if you ahve a suggestion, send it to me. Int he mean time, please keep ths site in prayer, and please pray for my husbad and I as we are apart this summer as he serves our country. Thanks to all of you for your support and prayers! You ROCK! Please e-mail me anytime if you need to talk....
BLESSINGS from OUR LORD! Ciao!!!!


*Elaine*
Currently listening:
Fly Away
By Paul Wright
Release date: 02 December, 2003
Sunday, June 17, 2007 
Hey All,

I've been in Chicago for the past 2 weeks at a Christian Arts conference that was just amazing God has been doing much in my life through it, I've been a bit of a Jonah and I'm finally coming out of my whale. In the mean time Jason recently deployed for 4 months and so that leaves me in this very uncomfortable position... I am no longer in control. I wasn't in control of what he does before, but I guess I thought I was...silly me. LOL! Now I must really trust in God to keep Jason safe and free from the snares of Porn and people that are unhealthy for him...not to mention I must trust Jason and to be honest, that's almost harder. I still have so many scars and scabs from the past... the tiniest thing rips the scab off and I send myself into turmoil. I'm not sure what these next 4 months hold for either of us. I can almost see GOd's "to do" list for me, but for Jason, I don't know... I can only Pray, have faith and TRUST....
Currently listening:
Abandon
By Jason Morant
Release date: 08 June, 2004
Wednesday, February 28, 2007 

Hi all,

I just wanted to check in and let everyone know that I haven't given up on this myspace page or slacked off in updating all that I want on here....I've been desperately wanting to finish up this page with resources, my testimony, etc. But I started a new job which is taking up some time transitioning from one office to the next...as well as being involved in my other love (the theater) has had me out at rehersals every night the past 2 weeks. Thank you to those who have e-mailed about the opacity of the page...I plan on working on it this weekend. Anyway, I've been blessed and overwhelmed by the freind requests...24 just today and I have not had time to add everyone yet and say hello.

I pray that God blesses each of you this week and that you will find time to nuture your relationship with Him!

Blessings!

Elaine - Wives Against Porn

Friday, February 16, 2007 

Current mood:  hopeful
Category: Religion and Philosophy

An Article I found on relevantmagazine.com  It seemed fitting to share. God Bless you all this weekend....

True Healing - Brandon Andress

A good friend of mine was cleaning out his car a couple of months ago, and when he reached under one of the seats a plastic fork pierced his hand. Like the average guy, he wiped off the blood and continued to work. After he was done he went into the house and washed his hands.

After the long weekend was over he went back to work. At one point during the day he picked up a sledge hammer and got ready to swing it when he felft an intense pain shot through his hand and arm. He took off his glove and noticed that his fingers were beginning to swell. Before long the swelling consumed his whole hand and started up his arm. He called his wife, and they went to the emergency room.

After arriving at the emergency room and having his hand examined, he was told that he would have to undergo emergency surgery. His hand was infected and had he waited another day he would have lost some fingers—and maybe his hand.

Some wounds are not just physical; they are emotional. They affect us at the heart level. Some wounds affect us so deeply they rip the fabric of our soul. Many times we are wounded by those closest to us—those who mean the most to us, those who we allow into the most intimate parts of our lives. It may be the friend who cheated with your husband, the dad who sexually abused his daughter, the mother that never said she loved her daughter, and the list goes on and on.

The wound is sharp and piercing. It isn't just a scratch or a surface wound that heals in a couple of days. The wound is deep. No matter how much time you spend washing the surface—unless you actually go into that deep area and clean it out—it gets infected and begins spreading until it completely consumes you.

If you are like me you may have read Matthew 8 a million times and missed out on this subtle but profound nuance. Beginning in the verse 5, a centurion (a professional officer of the Roman army) approaches Jesus telling Him about his servant (the translation could also mean child; so it may be his own child) that is paralyzed. Jesus tells the centurion, "I will come heal him." The word "heal" here is the Greek word therapeuo, which means "to heal, to cure, to restore." Jesus responds to the centurian and basically says, "No prob … I will go to your servant and heal him from his paralysis."

Now here is the kicker: The centurion looks at Jesus and says, "Lord, I do not deserve to have You come under my roof. But just say the word, and my servant will be healed." To the casual reader it may seem as if the centurion offers up a very nice gesture and compliment to Jesus by being so humble and believing that Jesus could heal his servant from a distance, and that would be partially right. The compliment is so much deeper though. You see, the operative word here—again—is this word "heal." One would think that it is the same Greek word describing curing and healing, but it isn't.

The word "heal" used by the centurion is the Greek word iaomai which means "to heal, to cure." But it also means "to make whole, to restore, to to bring one's salvation." The centurion says that he not only believes that Jesus can heal his servant (or child), but can restore the servant, making him whole and free from sin! This is profound! Jesus had simply offered to physically heal him, but the centurion said, "Dude … I believe You can make him whole!"

Our lives are so busy at times that the last thing that we do is take time to come to terms with the wounds that we have been carrying around for so long. I would highly encourage you to take some time to self-examine, look deep in your soul and resolve to once and for all ask Jesus to begin mending your soul back together. Jesus longs to take your pain, your brokeness, your woundedness and to make you whole if you (like the centurion) just believe, and invite Him to come.