I just received this in a bulletin, wanting it to be reposted if i thought he was 'cute'. Decided this guy wasn't so cute.....
This is a perfect example of a benevolent sexist. I'm sure everyone has heard of the hostile sexist (i.e. "women are bitches", "women are weaker than men"). Well, there is also the more subtle type of sexist, who actually seem quite pro social and therefore are rarely challenged on their opinions.
A benevolent sexist tends to view women in very traditional gender roles; women are good, pure, gentle, caring, and should be cherished and protected by the man. However, benevolent sexism shares common assumptions as hostile sexism in that women are viewed as the weaker sex and hence need to be cherished and protected by men. So what do benevolent sexists do - well, they may insist on paying for everything ("well thats what men do isn't it"), they will expect their women to justify the stereotypes he holds about her - i.e. he views women as caring and gentle, mostly hetrosexual, and incompetant. If you trangress these stereotypes (lesbian, career women, 'slut') the benevolent sexist will no longer hold you worthy of care and protection. The benevolent sexists only like good traditional women who only act sexually towards him (definately NOT to anyone else - you know the phrase "A freak in the bedroom but a lady in the street"), are soft and gentle, but incompetant.
When i read the below bulletin, to me it shows a great example of a benevolent sexist... gentle and protective, will pay for all the meals, but damn you if he finds out you have been a bad girl - flirting with other guys - he will find out "and he will be pissed". I find this quite a scary comment and i wonder what he means by pissed... so read below
Don't assume that guys won't care where you are, because we do.
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It makes us feel SO secure to know that our girlfriends aren't off flirting with guys we've never heard of.
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Also, don't talk about your ex-boyfriends.
We never have, nor ever will respect or like them, nor do we want to hear about them.
When you do, you're asking your boyfriend to be jealous.
You're asking your boyfriend to lose trust.
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On that, don't hump everything that walks into the room.
We don't care if you talk to other guys.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
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Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
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Yeah, you can quote me.
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Don't be mad when we hold the door open.
Smile and say "thank you."
Let us pay for you.
Don't "feel bad."
We enjoy doing it.
It's expected.
Smile and say - everybody together now - "thank you."
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Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know nobody's looking we'll be more impressed.
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You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have, put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you are.
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DONT flirt with guys when we're not around.
We'll find out. Trust us.
We have eyes everywhere.
And when we find out, we're pissed.
Not necessarily with the guys you flirted with, more-so with YOU.
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Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
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Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartny is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care.
You have girlfriends for that.
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Whatever happened to the word "handsome"?
Why does everything have to be "hot/sexy"?
I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey
handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
But seriously sometimes looks ISNT everything alot guys who arent exactly "hot" will treat you the way you need to be treated
Claiming girls or guys to be "hot" shows immaturity.
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Girls, I cannot stress this enough: IF YOU AREN'T BEING TREATED RIGHT BY A GUY, DON'T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE. DITCH HIS SORRY, DISCRACE-TO-THE-MALE-POPULATION BUTT, AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH THE UPMOST RESPECT
Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the
eyes....and say "i love you" ...
....and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance
Guys repost this if you agree
Girls repost this if you think it's cute
This is not cute. He is a sexist...