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Valorie Zimmerman


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Gender: Female
Status: Married
Age: 56
Sign: Taurus

City: KENT
State: WASHINGTON
Country: US
Signup Date: 6/11/2005

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Tuesday, May 30, 2006 

Current mood:  sad
Category: Life
I read a really disturbing article tonight over at QueerPlanet. It is about the new face of homophobia, the "anti-emo" movement. I had no idea that it was as serious as it is getting, with so much animosity, even hatred, behind it. Look at this little graphic for starters:


Read more about it here: Anti-Emo = Homophobia

I'm old enough to remember when the music that was nurtured in the gay culture finally percolated out into the larger culture as Disco, and the subsequent trashing of the music (and by extension, the gay movement and their music), culminating with the public burning of disco records after a major league baseball game!!!

Geez, do we have to bring hatred of others into MUSIC? This is something we should all be enjoying and sharing. It feeds our souls and spirits. If you don't like someone's musical tastes, fine! But let's stop trashing one another for listening to what we love.
Saturday, May 27, 2006 

Current mood:  cheerful
Category: News and Politics
Monday, May 22, 2006 

Current mood:  hopeful
Category: Life
What a great list! Stolen from Cheryl's blog:

The Seven Areas of Self-Esteem



Physical prowess: Feeling confident in your bodys ability to meet the demands of daily life through physical strength, endurance, and flexibility.

Social skills and social comportment: Knowing how to present yourself well and to act appropriately and graciously in a variety of social situations. Becoming someone others want to spend time with.

Self-discipline: Developing the ability to direct your will toward a desired goal in a sustained manner; to stay with a task even when youre tired, distracted, discouraged, or no longer interested; to keep your promises.

Self-trust: Knowing how to tune in to and trust what you know and what you feel; to assess safety and danger; to act on your perceptions even when others may not agree with them.

Financial literacy: Developing your ability to spend, save, give, and invest wisely; to value your time and energy fairly; and to understand the laws of prosperity.

A place in the sun: Developing a special skill or innate talent for which you will be recognized and valued.

Positive self-image: Feeling secure and good about yourself, which includes a positive body image, and a positive relationship with self-adornment and personal style.


He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe. - Marcus Aurelius
Thursday, May 18, 2006 

Current mood:inspired
Category: Life
So much great stuff in the Safe Schools Coalition newsletter today! I couldn't beat it, so I'm reprinting parts of it:

What's Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual/Transgender (GLBT) Pride Month Commemorating?



This international celebration marks the anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion on the last Sunday in June. In the 1940's, 50's and 60's, police had extorted money from the owners of nightclubs that served gay folks. They could do this because, in many places, it was illegal to dance with someone of your own gender or to wear any clothing "of the other sex" and it was illegal for a club to serve an LGBT clientele. They often raided the clubs to demonstrate their muscle, arresting the patrons, publishing their names (which meant you could lose your career, your family, your home), and sometimes beating or raping them in custody.

This police brutality was finally met with angry opposition one night in June of 1969, when the police raided the Stonewall Inn in Greenwich Village, New York. For the first time ever, instead of passively accepting the police brutality, the patrons, many of whom were young Puerto Rican and Black drag queens, fought back. They barricaded the doors and set off several days of rioting by their supporters and friends. Today, the holiday is celebrated as the anniversary of the modern movement for the human rights of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.

What happens at GLBT Pride Month Celebrations?



Many cities and towns all over the world have parades or marches. Some Pride celebrations are more political and focus on human rights abuses, discrimination and the fight for justice and equality. Some are more playful, more like a Mardi Gras, a celebration of freedoms won so far. Some celebrations include huge picnics in a park with hundreds or thousands of other families who have gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender family members ... or who simply care about other families' rights. Some have children's areas with art tents, swimming areas and cotton candy. Folks listen to singers, dancers and speeches; we relax and enjoy the incredibly diverse sea of humanity, where people of every race and generation come together.

This year, there will be some events of mourning and anger:

* There's been a roll-back of citizenship for lesbian and gay people in many U.S. states this last year or two. In a total now of seventeen states, the constitutions actually prohibit at least marriage equality if not other forms of equal treatment under law for lesbian and gay folks. In 49 states and Washington, DC, even in those places where there's not a constitutional prohibition, same-sex couples still can't get married. (Massachusetts is the only exception as of this writing; couples in Washington State are waiting to hear from their state Supreme Court.)

* In 42 states it is perfectly legal to discriminate against someone in employment and housing on the basis of their gender identity or expression. In 33 of those states you can also discriminate against a person because of their sexual orientation.

* In 2005, Exodus launched Groundswell, a traveling conference for youth and adults who work with youth. It promotes what they call "re-orientation therapy" and religious ministries that teach that heterosexuality is better and can be "chosen." It teaches young people how to get away with badgering LGBT peers to become "ex-gay" in the name of freedom of religion. This year Groundswell has been visited upon cities in at least 5 states: Washington, Georgia, Tennessee, Florida and Massachusetts.

* Some children in Utah, Nebraska and Arkansas may have had to leave their foster families when their states passed laws prohibiting same-sex couples from serving as foster moms and dads. And the same is true for children awaiting adoption by same-sex couples, who now can't be adopted in Nebraska, Florida, Mississippi, Oklahoma and Utah (and in North Dakota, the law leaves it up to each adoption agency whether to discriminate on this basis). We understand that 16 states may be considering anti-gay adoption legislation later this year, including Alabama, Alaska, Arizona, Georgia, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Michigan, Missouri, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, and West Virginia.

* Hate crime laws in 14 states do not include crimes based on sexual orientation or gender identity. And in 4 states there's no hate crime punishment with categories at all: Arkansas, Indiana, South Carolina, Wyoming.

* There are still some places in the world where you can get the death penalty for being gay or where you can be imprisoned for 10 years or more: http://www.ilga.org/statehomophobia/StateHomophobia3.jpg and http://www.iglhrc.org/site/iglhrc/content.php?type=1&id=77

In some places, though, there are things to celebrate at Pride.

* In Washington State, after thirty years of trying, the community will celebrate having finally passed a law that prohibits discrimination in employment, housing and public accommodations based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

* In Massachusetts, lots of children will celebrate their parents being legally married ... they are still the only place in the United States where children with gay and lesbian parents enjoy the legal protections that marriage affords. Many children in the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain and Canada will join in the celebration of their gay, lesbian, bi or trans parents' marrying this year. (Note: Some children with trans parents already had this right, depending upon whether the state recognizes their parents as heterosexual.)

* In 3 states (California, Connecticut and Vermont), if one of your parents is your biological parent, then the law says your other mom or dad can adopt you. Courts in another 22 states have allowed this family strengthening, called second-parent adoption, too, even though there's no actual law saying that they have to.

Other Dates of Note in June (besides the Stonewall Rebellion)



June 4, 1975 - Angelina Jolie Voight is born in Los Angeles. Dropping her last name, Jolie would grow up to become a huge Hollywood star and an openly bisexual role model. She had a relationship with model/actress Jenny Shimizu in 1996, before her marriage to Billy Bob Thornton and she told Barbara Walters, in a 20/20 interview in 2002, "I consider myself a very sexual person who loves who she loves, whatever sex they may be."

June 9, 1892 - Cole Porter is born in Peru, Indiana. A witty, smart composer and lyricist, Porter wrote songs that are widely loved to this day... "Birds do it. Bees do it. Even educated fleas do it. Let's do it, let's fall in love." GayToday says, "Cole Porter (1891-1964) belonged to a generation that did not openly discuss sexual variance. "Gentlemen" were allowed their flings -- and Porter's were notorious -- but they were supposed to be discreet about them." More: http://gaytoday.badpuppy.com/garchive/reviews/020199re.htm

June 10, 2003 - The Ontario Court of Appeal confirms a lower court's ruling that denying marriage licenses to same-sex couples violates Canada's Charter of Rights and Freedoms, part of the Canadian Constitution. This makes Ontario the first place in North America to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Two other Canadian provinces, British Columbia and Quebec, will follow suit in July, 2003 and March, 2004. Similarly, Massachusetts will become the first U.S. State to marry lesbian and gay couples, when its Supreme Judicial Court rules on November 18, 2003 that, beginning May 17, 2004 Massachusetts must begin treating them equally.

June 14, 427 BC - Philosopher Plato is born in Athens. 365Gay.com says, "Platonic love today means love without sex. For Plato it meant sex with young men."

June 23, 1912 - Alan Turing is born. Turing would grow up to become a World War II hero, a world renowned mathematician, the founder of computer science, and an unapologetic gay man. In 1952, Turing was convicted for having a consenting sexual relationship with another man. He was sentenced to one year of forced injections with estrogen. Two years later, on June 7, 1954 at the age of 41, Alan Turing took his own life. http://www.turing.org.uk/

June 27, 2006 - National HIV Testing Day. More info (National Association of People with AIDS): http://www.napwa.org/hivtestinfo/

Quotes to inspire thought



"Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye. - Helen Keller

"To discriminate against our sisters and brothers who are lesbian or gay on grounds of their sexual orientation for me is as totally unacceptable and unjust as Apartheid ever was." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu

"Gays and lesbians stood up for civil rights in Montgomery, Selma, in Albany, Ga. and St. Augustine, Fla., and many other campaigns of the Civil Rights Movement. Many of these courageous men and women were fighting for my freedom at a time when they could find few voices for their own, and I salute their contributions." - human rights advocate, Dr. Coretta Scott King (April 27, 1927 - Jan. 30, 2006)

"I appeal to everyone who believes in Martin Luther King Jr.'s dream to make room at the table of brotherhood and sisterhood for lesbian and gay people." - human rights advocate, Dr. Coretta Scott King (April 27, 1927 - Jan. 30, 2006)

"We don't believe they have the right to marry. In fact, we don't think they have the right to exist." - Douglas Sadler, member of the Ku Klux Klan, in protesting attempts to legalize same-sex marriage in Iowa

"The most successful marriages, gay or straight, even if they begin in romantic love, often become friendships. It's the ones that become the friendships that last." - Andrew Sullivan

"When an individual is protesting society's refusal to acknowledge his dignity as a human being, his very act of protest confers dignity on him." - openly gay, Quaker, African-American civil rights leader, Bayard Rustin

"What have you done today to make yourself Proud?" - Proud by Heather Small

"Resisting being called 'defective' and 'broken' is not intolerant; it is standing up for one's rights as a citizen and one's value as a human being. Asking to not be hit is not intolerant; asking not to be called 'fag' is not intolerant, asking for the same rights that hetero folks enjoy is not intolerant. I will never accept that being 'tolerant' means allowing myself to be regarded as inferior. I don't care if bigots get hurt feelings because I fend off the hand that hits me." - "gobear," posted on the Internet

"Never do anything you are ashamed of. If you're ashamed that means somewhere inside you think it's wrong; and if you think it's wrong, you shouldn't be doing it." - Harvey Fierstein

"I pay your taxes. I take care of your loved ones when they are sick. I am the best I can be. I am tired of being debated." - Kevin Hook, a registered nurse in Indianapolis, responding to a recent City Council vote that killed a bill that would have extended equal rights to gay people

"Freedom means freedom for everyone. ... People ought to be free to enter into any kind of relationship they want to." - Dick Cheney

"First, they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

"Standing up for yourself can have consequences, but not standing up for yourself can, too." - Chris Crain, executive editor of the Washington Blade, in a blog entry about being attacked recently in Amsterdam

"Homo Nest Raided, Queen Bees Are Stinging Mad"


Read a July 6, 1969 mainstream press article (NY Daily News) describing the Stonewall Rebellion of the previous weekend: http://www.yak.net/ian/stonewall.html

The story of Sylvia Rivera


Ms. Rivera was one of the courageous transgender teens who fought back against police at the Stonewall Inn. Here are articles from the Village Voice and the Dallas Voice about her life: http://srlp.org/index.php?sec=10&page=riverabio

"A Cop in the Stonewall Inn"


Read an interview with an officer who was there that night: href="http://www.nycop.com/Stories/Jul_99/A_Cop_in_the_Stonewall_Inn/body_a_cop_in_the_stonewall_inn.html

Links to Pride event sites around the World


Look at what's happening in various cities this year during GLBT Pride Month:

365gay.com: http://www.365gay.com/travel/Pride/PrideList.htm

Interpride: http://www.interpride.org/12/2006_Events.htm

StoneWall Society: http://www.stonewallsociety.com/intlpridedir.htm

Gay.com: http://channels.gay.com/pride/calendar/

A Hundred and Six LGBTIQ Heroes and Role Models



The Safe Schools Coalition offers this listing of individuals your history text left out ... or "forgot" to identify as a sexual minority ... from Jane Addams to José Zuniga (PDF file). Go to: http://www.safeschoolscoalition.org/herorolemodelcards.pdf

Before Stonewall, After Stonewall, & Out of the Past [great videos for classes & GSAs]



Before Stonewall: The Making of a Gay and Lesbian Community: 87 min. video. Emmy-award winning documentary of gay life in the U.S. before 1969 and After Stonewall: From the Riots to the Millennium, the sequel to Before Stonewall: 88 min. video. Chronicles the gay and lesbian experience since the Stonewall riots. Both videos are available in many video stores, or call 1-800-229-8575 or go to http://www.firstrunfeatures.com/ (type "Stonewall" in the search box)

Also, Out of the Past: 60 min. video, 1998. The first documentary about lesbian and gay history ever produced for a high school audience. This film, winner of the Audience Award for Best Documentary at the Sundance Film Festival, recovers facets of our history that have been left out of the textbooks and follows one young woman making history today. Starting at $3.95!!! from Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1578482003/gaylesbiandst-20/102-1519868-1278559
Monday, May 08, 2006 

Current mood:defiant
Category: News and Politics


Congress will vote on the discriminatory Federal Marriage Amendment as early as June. Your members of Congress need to hear from you!

PLEASE go to this link and send your Senators a note telling them you OPPOSE discrimination.

http://www.hrcactioncenter.org/campaign/fma_postcards

Pass this on to your friends, FAMILY, coworkers, etc!

And to you STRAIGHTS that have rights to visit your loved ones in the hospital, WE THE GAYS need your help more than ever!!!


As a straight person passing this along, I'll say that it is high time for every straight person cares about equal rights for their gay loved ones, or who cares about equality before the law to stand up and TAKE ACTION! Write real letters to your Senators along with the emails, call them, send postcards and faxes, send letters to editors of local newspapers, and talk to others about this issue.
Sunday, May 07, 2006 

Current mood:  depressed
Category: News and Politics


Friday, May 05, 2006 

Current mood:  frustrated
Category: News and Politics
I have to file this under news and politics, although the problem is that it is NOT news. My friend Bruce has written an explosive blog, full of stuff you have to read! However, he tells the story in a very calm, reasoned manner. Everyone who cares about the state of equal rights around the world, and within the United State, should read this blog. And leave a comment, and blog about it, talk about it, spread the word.

So, go read: http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=19024318&blogID=117296358&Mytoken=C3AA4057-B1C5-4D8D-91A76F99772EB574530401062

Go on........

"Remember these names: Scaife. Olin. Bradley. Coors. Smith-Richardson. Carthage. Koch. Lambe. Earhart. DeVos. Ahmanson."
Thursday, May 04, 2006 

Current mood:  thoughtful
Category: Life
How about if we do a bit more then pass these things around myspace? How about if we do something REAL to counteract this kind of hatefulness?

Thanks to the internet and some resourcefulness here is her address and phone numbers...

Brent and Shirley Roper
3640 SW Churchill Rd
Topeka, KS 66604
785-273-7262
785-273-0277
785-273-1080

LESSON



OK, but what are you going to DO about it, other then key-board activism on myspace? Here in Topeka, we've been putting up with, and been victimized by Phelps for decades. The Phelps family has truly helped make Topeka a crappy place to live, and sucked the life, culture and tollerance out of Topeka.

But what TCOMM was brought to life for is to help bring a little sanity (And fun) back to Topeka. So as you are passing this around the internet, how about taking a nickle, dime, quarter or dollar out of your paypal account, and donating it to TCOMM

Help the city that has suffered the MOST from Phelps and their hateful crap.

It is one thing to "Raise Awareness" of what hateful nut-bags the Phelps are. But it is quite another thing to actually DO something about it.

For those without a paypal account, TCOMM also has a PO box that donations can be sent to. (And being a 501(c)(3) registered non-profit, larger donations are tax-deductable)

Go to: http://www.myspace.com/tcomm and see what TCOMM is about, and for info about how to help TCOMM

Hit reply to bulletin and copy and paste and do not let this get out of circulation people need to know about this woman.(And her cult)




Tuesday, May 02, 2006 

Current mood:  hopeful
Category: Goals, Plans, Hopes

Objects Of Power

Talismans

For millennia, mankind has found peace and solace in objects of significance. When cleansed and consecrated through ritual, such objects - be they gems, amulets, herbs, or written words - become talismans. A talisman is any item imbued with a specific power by its bearer to serve a specific intention. Ancient Egyptians used massive stone tablets as healing talismans while the Greeks and Romans used lead talismans to communicate with the spirit realm. Traditionally, a talisman acts to anchor energy in the physical plane. That energy may be protective in nature or may be intended to draw abundance, wealth, or a wide variety of blessings to its user. Today, a talisman may be made of wood, metal, paper, stone, or natural elements such as plants. Often, talismans are small enough to be easily worn or carried, and they may be marked with words or symbols that the talisman's owner deems meaningful.

Creating and owning a talisman can reassure you and also serve to aide you in attracting what you want in life. You may use your talisman to help you attain health, security, or good luck. Or you may simply want to carry an object with you that will remind you of your search for soulful tranquility. In order to create a talisman, you must first determine its physical properties. This can be as innocuous as a strip of paper bearing the word "Love" and carried in a wooden box or cloth sack. You may prefer a more visible talisman, such as a metal amulet or a gemstone worn as jewelry. Before your object becomes a talisman, however, it must be charged. This can be done by cleansing the object - with water or with incense - and holding a ritual of your own making. Or, you can leave the object in moonlight or sunlight or bury it in the earth for a time. To preserve its effectiveness, talismans should be reconsecrated regularly.

Almost any object can be transformed into a talisman of protection, good fortune, health, love, or serenity. It may be strung on a cord and hung around the neck, worn on a belt, or carried in a purse or pocket. But the physical properties of the talisman are not as important as the intention of its bearer. If you are grounded in your desires, your talisman will give you a focal point that you can concentrate on to affirm your intention and help you achieve your goals.
From the wonderful
Tuesday, May 02, 2006 

Current mood:  hopeful
Category: Life

A friend posted the most interesting link the other day, which opened up to a wonderful article and discussion about introverts. I might not seem like an introvert, but I am. And I'm married to a man much more introverted than I. So these links were very interesting, and I think I'll go back and read them more than once. Thanks for posting this, Val!

Caring for Your Introvert:The habits and needs of a little-understood group by Jonathan Rauch: http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch

The Introversy Continues: http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200604u/introversy

Introverts of the World, Unite! http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200602u/introverts

If you are an introvert (are exhausted rather than energized by others), then read these articles, and pass along the links to those who love you. If you love an introvert -- use this information! It's good stuff.

Those who dwell among the beauties and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life. - Rachel Carson