The most difficult part of being dumped is watching your BF or GF walk away for the last time.  While you are left trying to pick up the pieces, your ex has moved on to another chapter in their life.  It is easy to sit and wonder whether or not they still think of you.

But instead of feeling helpless about losing your ex, there are things you can do to reignite their interest in you.  The first step in rebuilding a relationship is to find a way to connect with your ex.  Here are some ideas...

Create Curiosity - do something out of the ordinary to make your ex wonder what's going on.  For instance, leave them a message saying you have something important to tell them.  When they call you back, tell them that you changed your mind and now you don't want to talk about it.  This will drive them crazy with curiosity!

Have the Time of Your Life - Nothing makes an ex second-guess their breakup quite like success and hapiness.  Make sure your ex sees you having fun and making a name for yourself.  Be cordial with them and pretend there are no hard feelings.  Eventually they will come back on a "friends level" and from there you can build the romance.

Stay tuned for the next blog post where we discuss other tactics like making your ex jealous...

 

A big difference in flirting with your ex compared with someone new is that your ex already knows all of your "tricks".  They can see right through your mind games, which means you need a new approach if you are going to attract their attention.

The most important thing is to keep them off-balance and curious about what you are up to.  You definitely don't want to move too fast as there will be some bad feelings left over from the breakup.  Work on making them more comfortable around you by listening, smiling, and joking with them.  Get them on your side before you make your move.

When it comes to flirting with an ex you have to have patience and persistence.  Even if you can hookup with them in the first night you shouldn't.  If you want to reestablish a long-term relationship then you need to make them want it.  Stay close to them but hold back on the hugs and kisses.  You want build up the anticipation and mystery.  The longer these forces go to work for you the more powerful your flirtations will be.

Last but not least – get a commitment before you let them back in your world.  We all want what we can't have and this will drive you ex to pursue you when you suddenly become "hard to get".  However, if you fold too soon the game will end and you will just be another conquest for them.  Falling in love is emotional, and it takes time to grow strong.  Use your flirting to get back in their life, but don't let your ex off the hook without a commitment.

I recently was trying to help a guy out over at Yahoo Answers.  He had just been dumped by his girlfriend and had no idea what to do in order to get her back.  I went on to give him a few good suggestions for his situation along with these 3 steps to winning back an ex.  He seemed very appreciative and excited to get started with the new ideas.

A couple of days later I searched his profile on the site to see if he posted any updates.  I come to find out that he posted a new question to the community about an hour after we talked.  Hs question was…how can I get my ex back fast?"!!!

This goes to show you why so many people have zero chance of getting their loved one back.  They think there is some magic button somewhere that will do all the hard work for them.  They spend months building a relationship and weeks tearing it down…yet somehow they think the whole situation can be resolved with a quick fix.

If you aren't going to take the time to work at fixing your relationship then you might as well move on to the next one.  The old saying still holds true today…if you really want something then you have to work at it. 

It is not easy to avoid the memory of your ex when every place you go there is some reminder of your old relationship.  It might be as simple as a picture on the wall or line from a certain movie you used to laugh at together.  But while these reminders are difficult to deal with, the hardest part is not knowing how your ex feels about you.

We can all picture our ex sitting somewhere and hearing a song that reminds them of us – but is this reality?  Was your relationship so powerful that you still pop up in their mind from time to time?  Of course we would all like to think so…but knowing for sure would be a lot more satisfying.

One way to find out the truth is by looking for these signs that your ex still loves you.  Some of us only need that one small confidence boost to help us resurrect an old relationship.  The feelings for our ex are still there, but we aren't ready to make a move until we know there is a chance.  Look for these signs in your ex – if you find them then your next love may be closer than you think!

http://www.getbackmyex.com/Does_Your_Ex_Still_Love_You.html

One of the most challenging aspects of being a good friend comes after a break up.  Your friend wants to vent and you are expected to listen and agree no matter what might be going on in your mind.  This is even more difficult if you didn't like their ex because you will be tempted to tell them what a loser they were.  But as all good friends know, this isn't about the other person.  It is a time to be supportive and help your comrade dig out of their unhappiness.

So what kind of advice should you give?  On one hand you want tot tell them to get over it, but you also know that it takes time to heal a broken heart.  This is why you need to be careful with what you say.  Give them some time to be depressed, but keep their focus on the future ahead.  There is more to life then one person could ever give another, though it can take awhile to realize this after you lose a loved one.

The bottom line is that you need to be patient and reassuring.  Help them see that better times are ahead, even if it doesn't seem that way now.  Think about what you are going to say before you say it.  One slip of the tongue could ruin a friendship during this stressful time.  A good place to start is to read these tips for helping a friend survive being dumped.

 

It is easy to stalk your ex or beg for their forgiveness when you are trying to get back in their life.  This is a natural reaction to the stress and anxiety of a break up.  Unfortunately however, this is not the best way to win them back.  In fact, playing the "feel sorry for me" role is more likely to send them running in the other direction.  In order to work your way into their heart again you have to play on the emotions that brought you together in the first place.

Think back to when you first started dating your ex.  What were the things that made you so infatuated with them?  More importantly…what was it about you that was attractive to them?  You might think it was a physical attraction that made your hearts beat as one, but there had to be emotional factors involved as well.  Reflecting on these emotions and using them to your advantage is the key to getting them back.

Every relationship has a special blend of feelings that makes it unique.  When you follow the advice of others to try and win back your ex you can drift away from the core emotions that brought you together.  Anyone can give advice on fixing a relationship, but only the two people directly involved knows what made things work in the past.

People grow and people change, but their need for love affection remains constant.  Figure out what it is that your ex needs right now and use it to turn their focus back towards you.