When my daughter and myself decided to pay tribute to Robby, as the one year mark approached since his death, I wasn't ready for what would come. Since MySpace is so popular and I have worked all year to spread the word about Methadone, we decided to build a page for Robby. Since I am not so familiar with all the graphic designs needed, Robby's sister Cachet took over. I was so proud of how well she set up what she thought and knew would describe her brother.
We then set out to let everyone know about his page and observed the adds and comments everyday with comfort that we had done the right thing, or did we? After only a couple of weeks I started receiving a couple of messages full of anger and jealousy. As I tried to respond in a reasonable manner I only received another nasty reply. It all started by this person being offended by their placement on the friends list. Me, being new to MySpace had no clue that placement meant anything. I was just pleased that people joined and honored my son. Knowing Robby as well as both Cachet and I do, we know he would be proud of this site..Why was something that meant to do good was becoming a horrible ordeal? It was very clear this person's mind had been brain-washed to believe some very, very untrue issues. This person was taking advantage of being very cruel showing no remorse or compassion for anyone but themself. They even went as far to say "this site is stupid and whatever, because he's DEAD". By know you have not only disrespected me, my daughter, but DO NOT DISRESPECT my dead son, ever.
I had made several attempts to smooth this troubled, rude person but I knew after the last comment "he's DEAD" enough was enough.Even after that I still tried to make this person understand that this site was made for ROBBY, and to spread the word how deadly Methadone is. With a hope that maybe someone would read it and stop before they take that deadly pill that could cost them their life. This was not a race on popularity or how important anyone is or was to Robby. That occurred during his life not after his death. It amazes me how people come forth and express their closeness to someone after they have passed away. I have seen this so many times over the years with other families, now it was happening to mine. Along with coldness and a lack of respect for another person's feelings. The pure evilness came through in just a few words and I began to wonder how far was this going to go.
Thank God this person deleted themself from Robby's site. Because of who I am, I was still going to allow them to be a part of this page even though my first desire was to remove them. I thought O.K. this is over, I really do not need this bizarre behavior to upset me as it had been doing. Then, several messages with very mean remarks were left on Cachet's message board. We then blocked this person from contacting us and set Robby's site to private. I then sat back and asked my daughter to reset this site back to public veiwing. I was not going to let a very deranged person destroy what I was trying to do. That was to tell Robby's story and warn other's of how dangerous and lethal METHADONE is.
Today I went by my church and lite a candle and prayed for the negative ways that engulf this person. Maybe it is guilt that has turned into lashing out at someone and passing the blame, I don't know. But what I do know is we made this site for Robby, victims of Methadone and to reduce future victims. If you get offended by where you are located on the friends list, I apologize. There is no ranking here. Just to join, shows how much you thought of him and the cause we are trying to get across to others. Your love and kindness has meant so much to us. I should not let one person who obviuosly has issues affect me the way they did. You are all number one on the friends list and I thank you with all of my heart.
By the way, this was supposed to be a so-called family member, very sad.
Love to all, Nancy