After 17 years of marriage my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who had been alone for 20 years, but the demands of work and my two boys had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called her to invite her out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked.
My mother is the type of woman that thinks a late night call or an unexpected invitation is a sign of bad news.
"I thought it would be pleasant to spend some tme with you,' I responded 'Just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment then said "I would like that very much."
That Friday night after work, as I drove to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing a dress she had worn to her last birthday on November 19th.
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going on a date with my son, they were impressed,' she said as we got into the white van. 'They can't wait to hear about our date.'
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Halfway through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw my Mom stitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read the menu to you when you were little.' she said. 'Then it's time you relax and let me return the favor.' I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation-nothing extraordinary, just catching up on recent events in eachothers lives. We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said "I'll go out with you again but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.
"How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home.
"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined." I answered.
A few days later my mother died of a massive heart attack. It was so sudden that I couldn't do anything for her.
Sometime later I recieved an envelope with a copy of a restaurant reciept from the same place mother and I had dined. Attached to it was a note: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure I could be there; nevertheless, I paid for two plates, one for you, one for your wife. You will never know what that night meant to me. I love you, son.'
At that moment I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in this life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve because these things cannot be put off "til some other time".
Someone said it takes six weeks to get back to normal after you have a baby.... Someone doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is history.
Someone said you learn to be a mother by instinct.... someone never took a three year old shopping.
Someone said that being a mother is boring.... someone never rode in a car being driven by a teenager with a driver's permit
Someone said that if you're a "good" mother then your child will "turn out good"... someone thinks that children come with directions and a guarantee.
Someone said that you don't need an education to be a mother.... someone never had to help a fourth grader with math.
Someone said that you can't love the second child as much as you loved the first.... someone doesn't have three children.
Someone said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.... someone never had to watch her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of school, or on a plane headed for boot camp.
Somebody said that a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married.... someone doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mothers heartstrings.
Somebody said a mothers job is done when her last child leaves.... someone has never had grandchildren.
Someone said that a mother knows you love her, so you don't have to tell her.... someone has never been a mother