We all have fears in life – some people are scared of going to the dentist, some people are scared of going to the doctor and some people are scared of clowns. Big or small they are what they are, they are real and they are hard to overcome. Our kids have fears also, some they've picked up on their own and many that they have picked up from us.
I'm not here to psychoanalyze why you're scared of the clowns, honestly it's none of my bee's wax. But I am here to offer some advice that can make, what should be, a joyous occasion exactly that, joyous – not a scary psyched-out freak-fest.
Now you're probably wondering what the heck I'm talking about. With all this build up you'd think I was about to discuss an arachnid invasion, but no – I'm here to talk about ear lobe piercing.
Yeah, the simple little pinch and it's done, ear lobe piercing. This common procedure can be performed in a variety of ways. The sewing needle and potato method, the ear piercing gun method, the sitting in biology class and cramming an ear ring through your ear method and the sterile needle method.
Oooh – I said needle. Did your heart skip a beat? Research shows that the sterile needle is the safest way to perform any body piercing – including ear lobe piercings (see the APP Frequently Asked Questions for more details on the inappropriateness of stud gun piercings @ safepiercing.org). Because so many adults are scared to death of needles they often opt for the many times more uncomfortable, potentially contaminated method of ear piercing guns for themselves and their kids. Why? Because of fear.
So many times I've seen loving parents, who only want the best for their kids, come in to get their child's ear lobes pierced. The child decides that he/she is ready. Mom did her home work and decides that sterile is best – no infections for my baby! Hurray! This is so cute – your little one is growing up so fast and now your big kid is getting his or her ears pierced, this is a joyous occasion……..right?
Then, on the big day, Mom/Dad comes in with the eager yet nervous child and Mom says – "you know it's going to hurt, right? They're going to USE A NEEDLE (insert under lighting and scary music). You have to hold really still. You can't cry. Are you sure you want to do this? It's going to hurt. And they have to do it twice – once for each ear – and you can't move, or cry and it's going to hurt. Did I mention that it's done with a needle and it's going to hurt?"
By this time the kid is pretty freaked out and, even though I know better, so am I! Then Mom looks at me and says –" is there any way you can do them both at the same time? OMG is that how big the jewelry is?! How big is the needle? Does it bleed? How long is it going to hurt? Does it hurt to clean? How about bleeding?" ........and on and on and on…...
Whew! So by this time the kid is practically in tears, Mom is equally scared and I'm standing there mouth agape trying not to look like a scary clown yielding a machete – No little girl this won't hurt a bit … MMwhaaHaHaHaHaaaaa (reinsert under lighting and scary music).
Now, fear is a nasty beast, but getting your ears pierced doesn't have to be. Like I mentioned before – it's just a quick pinch and it's done, seriously. Most likely your kid hasn't been around long enough to develop a fear of needles yet – but you have. And if you're scared of needles, for Pete's sake, there is absolutely no reason to instill those fears in everyone around you!
It may help to set you at ease if you stop by the shop before the big day and without your child. That way you can familiarize yourself with where the shop is, what it looks like on the inside, who is going to be performing the piercing, what type of jewelry your big kid gets to choose from, what the jewelry is made of and why it's better than "mall jewelry", what instruments are used to perform the piercing and why they're better than piercing guns or potatoes. Then you can ask all of those gory questions about bleeding and such without freaking anyone out.
This will help to set your fears at ease which will in turn make it much easier to set your child's fears at ease. Your kids look to you for help and guidance – let's try to make this a positive experience.
If you think it will help, you can also make another "tour" to the shop with your kid. Then you will appear to be the self assured, calm, cool and collected adult here to help set your baby's nerves at ease – there's nothing to be scared of honey, I'm here for you.
Once the big day arrives, it would greatly help if you make sure your child is well rested and fed. We all feel better when we aren't tired or hungry and this is especially true for anyone who is about to get pierced.
When all is said and done I bet you will be pleasantly surprised with how well your child will do. Kids are surprisingly resilient especially if they feel loved, safe and secure.
We are open 11 am -9 pm daily.
No appointment necessary.