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Saturday, December 19, 2009 
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Our Velvet Elvis
A Final Sermon From Br. Daniel Chapin
With Contributions By Pastor Rob Bell




I have a friend who owns a Velvet Elvis.... It is according to him an authentic, bought-by-the-side-of-the-road Velvet Elvis. To say that this very painting captures the "King of Rock N Roll" in all his glory would perhaps be an understatement to say the very least. After all it is not the young Elvis - the thin one with the slicked back hair in those black and white concert photographs. And, it is not the old Elvis - the big one singing to older women in Hawaii.. No, my friends Velvet Elvis shows the King with a touch of blue in his hair; a tell white collar and those lips.... He says if you stare long enough you may even see them quiver....

We agree that the best part of the Velvet Elvis is the lower left-hand corner; where the artist wrote simply a capital "R" and then, a period. --- R.
Why? I wondered at first.... Because when you're this good, you do not even have to write your whole name...

I wonder, what if, when the artist was done with his artwork, he announced that there was no need for anyone to paint anymore, because he had just painted the ultimate masterpiece? Well, we would say that "R" had lost his very mind wouldn't we? We might say this because inwardly we understand that art has to, in some way, shape & form - keep going, keep exploring, keep arranging, keep shaping & forming and bringing in new perspectives...

For thousands of years, individuals the world over, young and old alike, like artists, have understood that our search for faith has to keep going. We have to continue to explore what it means to live in harmony with our God and with each other. This is a long standing tradition filled with change and growth and transformation. Our challenge is to live with great passion and conviction, remaining open and flexible, aware for certain that this life is not the last painting..

There are countless examples echoing this ongoing process. The ULC Monastery is on of them.. And the process hasn't stopped. It can't!

I have been honored to be a part of this tradition for almost 17 years... I have served alongside brothers and sisters here in the ULC Monastery first as an ordained minister, then on as Secretary of the Church, and to present as Vice President. And my season as such has come to a close. For no other reason except that a new chapter is to be read. And I am confident that our next Vice President will do great things for the Church. As for me, I have found my canvas to be flipped over and I face a new, blank slate from which to paint on. I have been part of a global, historical movement, initiated in our Founder Rev. Hensley's day. It is a rapid stream of people, from all cultures, races, spiritual belief systems and orientations. It is a stream of people who believe that God, has many names and many faces and has not left us alone. Rather this force has been involved in our human history from the very beginning. And, as a part of this rich tradition, I have embraced the need and the requirement to keep painting.

In this, I do not mean a superficial change like better lights or sharper graphics to make this thing we call faith a better, "Feel good religion.." I mean continuing to redefine what it means to be human, to be stretched & tested, to reach out in ways never before to my fellow man - And, hence, to God...

We are facing a world in which the current paintings of Faith & God are simply not enough anymore. The churches, the books, the language, the methods, the beliefs; while there is nothing wrong with it needs more work - more color - more touch ups - more of you. That is what we are here collectively for. That is what the ULC Monastery exists for. That is what you are here for...

Don't you love it? We are alive in ways today that we never thought possible yesterday! We are caught up in something amazing & revolutionary! Imagine a worldwide collection of painters! Painting one extravagent single depiction of what being human and together is really all about!
We are just getting started.... Be encouraged...

As I close this final sermon submission as Vice President of the ULC Monastery, I find that I am learning more and more that what seems brand new at times is actually a discovery of somethnig thats been brewing inside all along - It just got lost somewhere and it needs to be picked up & reclaimed. I am learning that I come from a tradition that has wrestled with the deepest questions of human existence. I am learning that my tradition includes the Rabbis and reformers and revolutionaries and monks and nuns and wiccans and buddhists and hindiis and witches and writers and philosophers and artists and every person everywhere who has asked big questions about a big people and a big world and an even bigger God...

So Here's your paintbrush & canvas...

Welcome to the ULC Monastery - Welcome to our own Velvet Elvis...
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Wednesday, December 09, 2009 
The Universal Life Church Monastery offers the below as further illustration of our commitment to quality, professional service for a couple's wedding day. The below are some questions you may be asked to consider as a wedding officiant. These questions you should be prepared to respond to from potential couples seeking a wedding officiant.
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What type of Officiant or Minister are you? Are you able and willing to perform civil wedding ceremonies?

Ministers/Wedding Officiants themselves usually fall into two different groups. The largest and most ‘trusted’ group are those who are tied to a religious tradition (Jewish rabbi; Catholic Priest; Methodist pastor; etc). Although these are the most trusted or well known, this does not mean they are necessarily right for your wedding celebration. Many of their traditions have strict rules on with whom and where they can and can not celebrate a wedding. Often, unfortunately, the rule of thumb for many of them is if a couple does not belong to their tradition they will not be allowed to celebrate their big day.

The other group call themselves Non-denominational ministers. The name says it all. This group is made up of all ministers not tied to a “main line” faith tradition. A wedding officiant typically carries additional training, in addition to their specific ordination, in working with couples; for example in relationship counseling. Ask your officiant about these areas. How much experience do they have? Why do they serve as an officiant? The more a couple gets to know their officiant the more personal the relationship becomes, making for an even more relaxed and secure atmosphere as they progress toward their wedding day celebration. Serving as a wedding officiant, whether one is an ordained minister or not, is about the couple, not about religion.

A wedding officiant should be focused on creating an atmosphere and a wedding ceremony which focuses on highlighting the couple's love story, not about long winded sermons. The officiant or minister should be open to performing everything from non-denominational wedding ceremonies to more religious ceremonies based on what you desire. Our ministers here at the ULC have officiated over and planned: Civil wedding ceremonies, traditional Christian ceremonies, inter faith wedding ceremonies, informal beach weddings and more.

If Ordained, where are you ordained through? What makes you authorized to officiate weddings?

This can be a touchy subject with some non-denominational ministers. Although it is a touchy subject it is one that every couple needs to ask. This is where a couple will get some insight into how much training and/or studies this minister or officiant has in the field of marriage and wedding celebration. Being ordained over the internet should not itself be a disqualifying factor. Quite a few ministers who are of religious traditions are not recognized on their own by the government. To be able to celebrate weddings with their congregations they have sought out an online ordination. However, regardless, your officiant should have ample experience, some additional education, couples references, should be flexible, personable & professional. They should also have some affiliations with recognized Wedding Referral Agencies. And, hopefully, they will be of good nature and fun personality as well. After all this is a celebration isn't it?

What type of ceremonies does the officiant celebrate?

An officiant worth their salt will have choices for a couple to choose from. If an officiant says that they have a copyrighted ceremony that a couple can not see or hear before their celebration, we would recommend finding a different one. This type of officiant is so closed minded that they think they know better then the couple what they would like as part of their wedding. Scary no? The same, incidentally, can be said for wedding planners. The couple is the one who gets to dictate their special wedding day! Often wedding planners, no matter how good may at times begin to tell a couple what would work or not for their ceremony. Some of their advice might be worthwhile. But, ultimately, this is the couple's day and it should be treated and prepared according to their own desires, dreams & love story.

If an officiant tells a couple that they will need to research and write their own ceremony with out their input, then will just read it the day of the ceremony, we suggest, in this case, that couple's end the conversation and find a new officiant. This is often a sign of an officiant who has no real clue as to what is legal and appropriate to make a couple's celebration celebration a valid wedding. A good officiant will seek a balance between what they like and what is necessary for a valid wedding. They will normally ask the couple what types of things they do and do not want in their wedding. Although it is natural for couple's to often have no idea what they might like or dislike, a minister or officiant who asks this type of pointed question is looking to guide the couple in the right direction. A minister/officiant worth their salt will have a ‘base’ ceremony that they will suggest and share with couples. This ceremony is typically the ministers favorite celebration and the one they work with the most and has the most popular components they use. A couple's individual ceremony, however, will branch off from that as they and you progress in plans collectively.

How much should I pay for the Officiant services?

The fee a minister charges does not always reflect the quality of the officiant. The fee varies greatly from location to location. A minister in Chicago is going to ask a lot more then one in Waldo Ohio. The main difference is the ‘going rate’ in the region. Before you agree to meet with any minister call up to 3 or 4 and ask how much they charge along with ask some of the above suggested questions. This will give you & couple's some idea of what is appropriate in their area and if, based on research, is even worth paying that individual.

In the greater Southern California area, for example, most ministers and officiants have a price range of $200-$300. If a minister is charging a lot higher or lower then the average we would be highly suspect of their services. On the other side, If they charge $95 they are usually not doing any type of real work for you. This is the “you write the ceremony and I will read it” types. If they are charging couples a few thousand dollars they are usually seeking to make their whole monthly income off of them and their wedding. Another concern to address is the "Same day" wedding officiants. We try to encourage couple's to steer clear of these services. These are usually Notary Publics and not overall Wedding professionals, ministers or officiants. Of course, there are a few exceptions to this rule.

We here at the ULC encourage couples to remember that their wedding day ceremony is perhaps one of the most important events of their life. Encourage your couples to not sell themselves short or hire someone who is not willing to go that extra mile in preparing a couple's ceremony. If it is a few extra dollars it might be well worth it. Also, an officiant or minister should not be in this business for the money alone. If a couple gets that impression, they will typically find another officiator for their wedding. If a couple's budget is minimal, work with them. A true individual worth their weight will work with a couple's budget if they really wish a couple's business & truly care.
What is included in the price?

We see a lot of officiants spelling out a laundry list of things they offer with their packages. ALL ministers and wedding officiants will file the paperwork with the courthouse. This is required by law in every state or province we have every heard of. Most states have strict filing requirements that spell out that the minister is responsible for filings. If an officiant is charging a couple for individual meetings held regarding their planned wedding ceremony, we would be suspect of their motives. A fee to write up a custom ceremony is not the norm. We do not see a reason for it in most cases. In most cases the minister is only reworking other English texts. The only way we could see is if a couple were seeking their officiant to have an ancient text read in English that would require the minister to pay a translator to write out or something else that would cost the minister to have reworked.

It is however common for an officiant to charge extra for a rehearsal. In a large percentage of weddings a full blown rehearsal a day or two before the wedding is a waste of time and money. If a couple only has a few attendants and a straight forward ceremony a minister could easily do a walk through an hour or so before the wedding celebration. If they have a large wedding party or if there is a lot of extra movement then a rehearsal might be advisable.

If their wedding is being held outside the local area of a minister/officiant (as defined by them) a travel fee is also often common.

This fee is typically charged a few different ways:

* Per the hour
* Per the mile
* Flat fee

Each fee should be spelled out in advance of booking how you the officiant arrived at the fee.

When should an officiant charge for a hotel stay?

This can be a touchy subject with some couples and ministers. There is no catch all right or wrong answer.
First to consider is how far the officiant must travel to arrive at the ceremony site. If they have to travel more then 2 hours then a hotel stay is likely. Secondly if there is a rehearsal the night before the ceremony and they are traveling more then an hour one way there is a chance that they may ask for a hotel stay. It would be cheaper then two round trips. Lastly would be the time of the ceremony. If a couple's ceremony starts at 7pm an hour travel time away, chances are that an overnight stay might be asked for.

Should I invite the minister or officiant to the Rehearsal Dinner and Reception?


There are a few things to consider.
How comfortable a couple is with their officiant? Some ministers or officiants are very "stand offish" and a couple might not like their interpersonal skills. If this is the case they will leave them off the guest list. Secondly, would the minister or officiant charge a couple to attend. We do not understand the idea of charging a couple to attend an event that they are feeding you at. Obviously if they are charging a couple for such a time, we would say no. Lastly is whether or not the couple would like a prayer or blessing said at the meal. If they would then by all means they should invite the minister. Please be aware that the minister may decline an invitation to dinner. In most cases the minister has other obligations that he must see to. Please understand that for the most part there are only 50 weekends a year to get married and of those 10 or so are the most desirable. On these ten dates a good minister might have 5 or so celebrations.

My officiant is recommending other wedding vendors to me. Should I be concerned?

This is not an immediate reason for alarm. We would say that the first thing to do is determine why is the officiant or minister is referring a couple to this vendor. There are a few reasons that come to mind;

A) The vendor is paying the officiant a fee for every couple that books their service.

cool.gif The vendor is a friend of the officiant and he is just trying to throw his friend some business.

C) The officiant has worked with the vendor in the past and is comfortable that the couple will get good service with out getting ripped off.

If the answer is A then couples are encouraged to find their own vendors and maybe consider a change of officiant as well.

If the answer is B then we recommend caution. But the vendor might do great by the couple. We encourage couples to keep their options open.

If the answer is C then take a serious look at the vendor and might even give them preference over another vendor of equal statues. After all the minister is only sending couples to them because he has seen their work and liked it themselves. Many of our ministers through the ULC routinely work with vendors such as Florists, DJ's, Caterers, etc. as we provide detailed in house wedding planning as well as our officiation services. They are trusted and these officiants typically receive no compensation for referring clients to them.

How many meetings will you have?

Some officiates say no meeting is necessary, that he or she will just show up for the wedding and couple's can run their own rehearsal. Others want couple's to go through extensive premarital counseling. Some will offer one or two preparatory meetings and a rehearsal. Some are even unwilling to meet with a couple in person if they are just “shopping around.” What does the couple want? Can the officiate meet your wishes? Will the officiate be available to talk by phone as questions arise? Can the couple trust this person with family secrets if they just need someone to talk to about personal matters? Couple's will seek out & find an officiate who is as helpful as they want him or her to be but not overbearing.

Will the officiate run the rehearsal?

An experienced officiate at a wedding rehearsal can be very helpful, but he or she may not be available at the scheduled time. If the minister or officiate is unable or unwilling to attend the rehearsal, will other arrangements be made for someone to put the wedding party through its paces? Don’t believe an officiant who says that a couple can easily run a rehearsal themselves without some advance practical help! If the minister is running the rehearsal, will the facility also have an assistant there to help? If so, the best way to run a rehearsal is to have the wedding coordinator help walk the bridal party up to the front, then have the officiate rehearse the ceremony itself, and finally have the coordinator direct the recessional march at the end. They might ask the officiate if it is all right for them to face one another during the ceremony; the pictures will look much better!
Weddings - A Three Step Guide For Ministers--------------------
Peace, Love & Light;



Wednesday, December 09, 2009 
Universal Life Church -
From Day One Through Today


Reverend Kirby Hensley grew up in a Christian home in Western North Carolina. For over 65 years he studied and preached religion throughout the United States. He was a very educated man despite the fact that he could neither read nor write. Indeed, his classroom was the world & he was a student of Life. Rev. Hensley was ordained in the Baptist Church at an early age. After preaching for several years he left the Baptists and started attending Pentecostal Churches in the area. This is where he met his first wife, Nora. They had two daughters. He pastored in Oklahoma and California and established several churches. After his divorce he returned to North Carolina. After a short time there he was introduced to Lida, the woman he described once as the "only woman I truly loved." During their 46 year marriage union they had 1 daughter and 2 sons. It was only a short time after returning to California with his family in tow that Rev. Hensley began to wrestle with the idea of forming a church accessible to all people. He began the Universal Life Church in 1959 with the idea that all people should be accepted regardless of their faith and remained as President of the Church until his passing March 19, 1999.

Hensley fought in the courts for the universal right to life and preached throughout the United States for sixty-five years, dying in 1999 after seeing his message reach the entire world through the Internet.

The Movement

By 1977 the ULC revivalist movement had exploded and that is when the Universal Life Church Monastery (ULCM) was founded by Br. Martin to accommodate the personal needs of the homeless, marginalized and disenfranchised individuals, New Age seekers and newly ordained ministers. Through monastic training, Headquarters for the progressive Universal Life Church Monastery located in Seattle, Washington, legally ordains more ministers than any other church in the world. We here at the Universal Life Church Monastery carry the torch from Hensley's generation to a new generation.

Today, under the direction of our presiding Chaplain, our dedicated team members & ministers throughout the world; we champion the underdogs and the oppressed just as the legacy of Christ, King, Kennedy, Mother Theresa and Gandhi taught. There are no other International churches with the proven history of devotion to ministers for the sake of their own ministries such as this. Our ordained ministers, independent congregation members, or ministry leaders, while accountable to each other, do not bow before or kiss the rings of a hierarchy set of leaders. This is because we believe that we are ALL Equal Universally. We meet the needs of our ministers and bless their calling, whether they intend to change the world or to simply officiate a wedding for a loved one in their new found capacity as a legally ordained minister of the Universal Life Church Monastery.

With members around the globe we have an active Ministers Network and the largest worldwide web presence of any non denominational church. Our outreach campaigns & legal defense teams tirelessly work to aide the hungry and the poor, the discriminated against and the environment. We Hate what the institution of organized religion has done to our youth & to our planet. We will not stop until the kingdom of heaven is Here on Earth!

The Universal Life Church Monastery will not stand between you and your God and we recognize that each minister and clergy member has the right to choose his or her own spiritual path. Each minister legally ordained by the ULC Monastery is at liberty to follow any religious path so long as it does not infringe upon the rights of others.

And so The Movement marches on.... Will You Join Us?

"Let the word go forth from this time and place, to friend and foe alike, that the torch has been passed to a new generation of Americans, born in this century, tempered by war, disciplined by a hard and bitter peace, proud of our ancient heritage, and unwilling to witness or permit the slow undoing of those human rights to which this nation has always been committed, and to which we are committed today, at home and around the world!" - John Fitzgerald Kennedy
Tuesday, December 08, 2009 


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Sometimes Music Has A Way Of Bringing People To A Stop & Together in Ways They Maybe Never Set Out To Expect When They Awoke That Morning... Enjoy From All of Us At The ULC Monastery...
Friday, December 04, 2009 
We are all children of the same universe
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The piecemeal struggle for marriage equality in the United States experienced a setback as well as a victory this past week, when on Wednesday the New York Senate rejected a same-sex marriage bill, signed by Gov. David A. Paterson, 38 to 24, according to Jeremy W. Peters of the New York Times. On Tuesday, meanwhile, the DC Council voted 11 to 2 on a bill to legalize same-sex marriage in the first of three steps, the last of which the bill's sponsors maintain is almost certain, reported Tim Craig of The Washington Post. The sponsors expect civil same-sex marriage to be taking place in the District by Spring.

The idea behind the bill in Washington is not a new consideration, however, but illustrates the long, arduous struggle for equality by its proponents. According to Tim Craig of The Washington Post, "Council members and gay rights activists hailed the vote as the end of a decades-long struggle that started in 1975, when then-council member Arrington Dixon (D) first proposed legalizing same-sex marriage in the District." The fact that Dixon's proposal has taken over three decades to realize only highlights the controversial nature of same-sex unions in America, and the pressure that elected officials experience to represent the interests of their constituents while paying heed to considerations of constitutional law.

While in both New York state and Washington, DC, a governing body presided over the proposal, legal recognition of such unions has also been petitioned, put to public vote, and repealed, as in Maine and California, or approved in the form of separate-but-equal status, as in the case of domestic partnerships in Washington state, where same-sex couples possess all the rights and responsibilities of married couples except for the word marriage. The trend of legislatures approving same-sex unions and their subsequent repeal by public vote reveals the endemic belief in America not only that established institutions should remain static in nature, but also that minority issues should be subject to the will of the majority.

This belief begs us to ask what the definition of democracy is. One common-held belief is that a democracy is a system of government in which the people govern themselves through either public vote or elected representatives, and in which the majority opinion rules over that of the minority. We might flesh out this definition to reveal a fundamental principle: the reason an individual has the right to have their own opinion represented with respect to a given legal issue is precisely that the issue directly involves or affects that individual; if it does not, there is no fair or rational basis for the individual to demand a voice in the matter.

It is up to each of us to decide whether this is a satisfactory definition, but for the moment let us use it for the sake of argument. To relate this definition of democracy to the recent spate of bills and propositions in the U.S. concerning same-sex marriage, consider a simple syllogism: A democracy is a system of government in which the majority rule, through public vote or elected representatives, on issues which directly affect the majority. Same-sex marriage does not directly affect the majority, but only the minority. Therefore, majority rule on same-sex marriage is undemocratic.

In 1982, in the presence of then-Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau, Queen Elizabeth II signed the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, one of the chief objectives of which is "to protect minorities against parliamentary majorities", or "tyranny of the majority" in Canadian parlance. The creators of the Charter believed that majority opinion had no place in the affairs of the minority, and that therefore it was the duty of a democratic government to protect the minority from impingement by the majority.

Civil same-sex marriage would not compel ministers to officiate weddings in religious contexts, and these ministers would retain the religious freedom to deny recognition of any union they chose; meanwhile, same-sex couples would enjoy the rights and responsibilities of a bond recognised by a state which distinguishes between majority and minority concerns. Moreover, elected representatives would be fulfilling their democratic duties by representing their constituents only on issues which affect them.

We must ask ourselves whether such a distinction is long overdue in the legal struggle for marriage equality in the United States.

Image: Nathaniel Brooks for The New York Times
Senator Thomas K. Duane gave Senator Ruth Hassell-Thompson a kiss after she said she would support same-sex marriage.
Friday, November 20, 2009 

Current mood:  thankful
"The Thanksgiving Special"
Br. Daniel B. Chapin,
ULC Monastery Vice President

Thanksgiving, the holiday celebrated in the U.S. towards the end of November, is traditionally the beginning of the Christmas season here. This months sermon is offered as a story of one whose heart was heavy & challenged as the time for giving thanks began.

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Sandra felt as low as the heels of her Birkenstocks as she pushed against a November gust and the florist shop door. Her life had been easy, like a spring breeze. Then in the fourth month of her second pregnancy, an automobile accident had stolen her ease. During this Thanksgiving week she would have delivered a son. She grieved over her loss. As if that weren't enough, her husband's company threatened a transfer. Then her sister, whose holiday visit she coveted, called saying she could not come. What's worse, Sandra's friend infuriated her by suggesting her grief was a God-given path to maturity that would allow her to empathize with others who suffer.

Has she lost a child? No. She has no idea what I'm feeling. Sandra shuddered. Thanksgiving? Thankful for what? she wondered. For a careless driver whose truck was hardly scratched when he rear-ended her? For an airbag that saved her life but took that of her child?

"I have thanked Thee a thousand times for my roses, but never once for my thorn..."

"Good afternoon. Can I help you?" The flower shop clerk's approach startled her. "Sorry," said the clerk, whose name was Jenny. "I just didn't want you to think I was ignoring you."

"I need an arrangement."

"For Thanksgiving?"

Sandra nodded.

"Do you want beautiful but ordinary, or would you like to challenge the day with a customer favorite I call the Thanksgiving Special?" Jenny saw Sandra's curiosity and continued. "I'm convinced that flowers tell stories, that each arrangement suggests a particular feeling. Are you looking for something that conveys gratitude this Thanksgiving?"

"Not exactly!" Sandra blurted. "Sorry, but in the last five months, everything that could have gone wrong has."

Sandra regretted her outburst but was surprised when Jenny said, "I have the perfect arrangement for you." The door's small bell suddenly rang.

"Barbara! Hi," Jenny said. "I have your order ready. Just a moment." She politely excused herself from Sandra and walked toward a small workroom. She quickly reappeared carrying a massive arrangement of greenery, bows, and long-stemmed thorny roses. Only, the ends of the rose stems were neatly snipped, no flowers. "Want this in a box?" Jenny asked.

Sandra watched for Barbara's response. Was this a joke? Who would want rose stems and no flowers! She waited for laughter, for someone to notice the absence of flowers atop the thorny stems, but neither woman did.

"Yes, please. It's exquisite," said Barbara. "You'd think after three years of getting the Special, I'd not be so moved by its significance, but it's happening again. My family will love this one. Thanks."

Sandra stared. Why so normal a conversation about so strange an arrangement? she wondered. Sandra pointed and blurted out, "That lady just left with, uh..."

"Yes?"

"Well, she had no flowers!"

"Right, I cut off the flowers."

"Off?"

"Off. Yep. That's the special. I call it the Thanksgiving Thorns Bouquet."

"But, why do people pay for that?" In spite of herself, Sandra chuckled.

"Do you really want to know?"

"I couldn't leave this shop without knowing. I'd think about nothing else!"

"Barbara came into the shop three years ago feeling very much like you feel today," Jenny explained. "She thought she had very little to be thankful for. She had lost her father to cancer, the family business was failing, her son was taking drugs, and she faced major surgery."

"Ouch!" said Sandra.

"That same year," Jenny explained, "I had lost my husband. I assumed complete responsibility for the shop and for the first time, spent the holidays alone. I had no children, no husband, no family nearby, and too great a debt to allow any travel."

"What did you do?"

"I learned to be thankful for thorns."

Sandra's eyebrows lifted. "Thorns?"

"I'm a Christian. I've always thanked God for good things in life and I never thought to ask Him why good things happened to me. But when bad stuff hit, did I ever ask! It took time to learn that dark times are important. I had always enjoyed the 'flowers' of life but it took thorns to show me the beauty of God's comfort. You know, the Bible says that God comforts us when we're afflicted and from His consolation we learn to comfort others."

Sandra gasped. "A friend read that passage to me and I was furious! I guess the truth is I don't want comfort. I've lost a baby and I'm angry with God." She started to ask Jenny to go on when the door's bell diverted their attention.

"Hey, Phil!" shouted Jenny as a balding, rotund man entered the shop. She softly touched Sandra's arm and moved to welcome him. He pulled her to his side for a warm hug. "I'm here for twelve thorny long-stemmed stems!" Phil laughed, heartily.

"I figured as much," said Jenny. "I've got them ready." She lifted a tissue-wrapped arrangement from the refrigerated cabinet.

"Beautiful," said Phil. "My wife will love them."

Sandra could not resist asking. "These are for your wife?" Phil saw that Sandra's curiosity matched his when he first heard of a thorn bouquet. "If you don't mind my asking, why thorns?"

"I don't mind. In fact, I'm glad you asked," he said. "Four years ago my wife and I nearly divorced. After forty years, we were in a real mess, but we slogged through, problem by rotten problem. We rescued our marriage, our love, really. Last Thanksgiving I stopped in here for flowers. I must have mentioned surviving a tough process because Jenny told me that for a long time she had kept a vase of rose stems as a reminder of what she had learned from thorny times. That was good enough for me. I took home stems. My wife and I decided to label each one for a specific thorny situation and give thanks for what the problem taught us. I'm pretty sure this stem review is becoming a tradition."

Phil paid Jenny, thanked her again, and as he left, said to Sandra, "I highly recommend the Special!"

"I don't know if I can be thankful for the thorns in my life," Sandra said to Jenny.

"Well, my experience says that the thorns make the roses more precious. We treasure God's providential care more during trouble than at any other time. Remember, Jesus wore a crown of thorns so that we might know His love. Do not resent thorns."

Tears rolled down Sandra's cheeks. For the first time since the accident she loosened her grip on resentment. "I'll take twelve long-stemmed thorns, please."

"I was hoping you would," Jenny said. "I'll have them ready in a minute. Then, every time you see them, remember to appreciate both good and hard times. We grow through both."

"Thank you. What do I owe you?"

"Nothing. Nothing but a pledge to work toward healing your heart. The first year's arrangement is always on me." Jenny handed a card to Sandra. "I'll attach a card like this to your arrangement, but maybe you'd like to read it first. It's a prayer that was written by a man who was blind. Go ahead, read it."

My God, I have never thanked Thee for my thorn! I have thanked Thee a thousand times for my roses, but never once for my thorn. Teach me the glory of the cross I bear. Teach me the value of my thorns. Show me that I have climbed to Thee by the path of pain. Show me that my tears have made my rainbow. - George Matheson (1842-1906)

Jenny said, "Happy Thanksgiving, Sandra," handing her the Special. "I look forward to our knowing each other better."

Sandra smiled. She turned, opened the door and walked toward hope.

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Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. - Charles Dickens



Thursday, October 01, 2009 

Current mood:  tested
Category: Religion and Philosophy
By Br. Daniel B. Chapin, Vice President
ULC Monastery

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future... - John Fitzgerald Kennedy

As I pen this months sermon here at my desk in Southern California I sense a feeling of anticipation... it is Fall after all. And for me this season has always stirred within me this sense. Leaves colored orange and yellow falling outside of my office window are beginning to collect on the sill. Pumpkins are appearing on neighborhood door steps... And the air, while still undoubtedly California - Has begun to take on a bit of its own regional crisp. I suppose what I sense this time of year, as in all years past, is an Anticipation of Change. The Summer, long and warm, has given way to Autumn and Autumn inevitably will exit the stage allowing for Winters showcasing.... and so it goes. The cycle will continue. The seasons will change. This is perhaps the ultimate Paradox whispered to those of us willing to hear during this Fall 2009 season -
The one thing we can count on as Constant is Change...
Can you feel it?

The above quote by the late John F. Kennedy echoes this sentiment:
"Change is the Law of Life..."

This understood, the challenge I pose to each of you during this season of change and within the context of this October sermon centers around your ability to not only Accept change but to Effect change. Let me say it again...
Understanding that there will always be change In your lives, your neighborhoods, your state, your country, your world & even your viewpoints, do you accept it? Are you open to it, or do you resist it?

The challenge deepens when we step outside of ourselves even a bit more. We might say, Yes, I accept the change that happens in my life, I am willing and open to allow for change in my experiences and even my biases. We might even assert that we embrace the change that occurs in the viewpoints and lives of those around us.
While you may accept, embrace and even encourage change within yourself, your communities & those around you - Let me ask you something -
Do You Effect change? Meaning do you work for change?

You see friends, we can be open to change while still being complacent to the type of change that develops. And, in that complacency we are then to be held fully responsible for negative changes that manifest around us. Let me use a specific example. In your community do you witness poverty? Are there certain groups of individuals who are discriminated against due to their spiritual or other belief systems?

Does this ignite a "Holy Discontent" within you?

If so, you more than likely are open to see these things change. Good for you. But Do You Effect This Change or simply stand by and accept whatever change might come hoping for the very best outcome? Oh yes, I can hear the brains working now....
So we might get this. I think I do.  But getting it and doing it is something entirely different. Accepting Change and Effecting Change is something entirely different...
Are you getting this? So what next? You might say, yes I accept change and I'd like to Effect change for the better; but I am only one man - one woman... I'm too old, too young, too uneducated, too inexperienced, too straight, too gay, too poor, too religious, not religious enough, etc., etc., etc.,

We here at the ULC believe you are ALL fully qualified to Effect positive change in the world around you. But you each, all of us each need to get off of our couches and our computers and do something to Effect Change. Don't simply talk about it.

As a church we could simply release dictates and essays encouraging some of those things we believe strongly about such as equal rights for all regardless of where they come from or what they don't have.. That's not enough and we recognize this. So we are doing much to Effect Change.

Allow me to use a Pastoral example geared toward you, the individual.. As Christ was leaving this earth, he encouraged his disciples to remember that the very same spirit that they witnessed residing in Him and which allowed for the dead to be raised and the poor to be fed and the sick to be healed - Also resided in them..

Here's some amazing facts to consider and hopefully which will empower you a bit more to this Effect:

1. At age 17, Joan of Arc led an army in defense of France...

2. At 21 Fred DeLuca co-founded Subway with just $1,000 in the bank...

3. At 14 country singer LeAnn Rimes won her first two Grammy awards...

4. At age 7 Mozart wrote his first symphony...

5. At 83 architect Frank Lloyd Wright was asked which of his masterpieces was the best. "My next one," he said...

6. At 43 John F Kennedy ran for the U.S. Presidency and won...

In closing friends I leave you with this piece of the Inaugural address of 1961 by Former President John F. Kennedy --

"Let the word go forth from this time and place, to friend and foe alike, that the torch has been passed to a new generation of Americans, born in this century, tempered by war, disciplined by a hard and bitter peace, proud of our ancient heritage, and unwilling to witness or permit the slow undoing of those human rights to which this nation has always been committed, and to which we are committed today, at home and around the world!"

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Happy Fall 2009!!!
Monday, September 14, 2009 
By Rev. Daniel B. Chapin, Vice President
ULC Monastery

This month allow me to recap on some great wisdom - brief, but meaningful teachings & general life "smarts" obtained from years of experience & struggle, victory & defeat, joy & sorrow, young & old, traditional & not so traditional...
So, please take a moment, grab a cup of tea & read on - You won't want to miss these pearls... You might even recognize some of them. Oh, did I forget to mention that this compilation did not come from my own vast wisdom??
(I jest here of course!)

You see, I will always have my own personal stage from which to submit upon & preach from; but many go unnoticed or forgotten. It is to these that I relinquish sermon stage to this month. It is my hope that they might rekindle something within each of you - and perhaps, prompt within you what the great poet Walt Whitman once challenged:

"What will your verse be?"

In fact, that's a good place to begin - Mr Whitman, your opening remarks...
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"O me! O life!... of the questions of these recurring;
Of the endless trains of the faithless--of cities fill'd with the foolish;
Of myself forever reproaching myself, (for who more foolish than I, and who more faithless?)
Of eyes that vainly crave the light--of the objects mean--of the struggle ever renew'd;
Of the poor results of all--of the plodding and sordid crowds I see around me;
Of the empty and useless years of the rest--with the rest me intertwined;
The question, O me! so sad, recurring--What good amid these, O me, O life?

Answer.

That you are here--that life exists, and identity;
That the powerful play goes on, and you will contribute a verse."
(Walt Whitman, Poet)
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"We understand the vision, religious freedom; we have the vehicle to attain this freedom, the Universal Life Church; we must begin to teach people who they are. Religion does not make people free, it only binds them down. Politics does not set people free, it only ties them down. The only way to set people free is to awaken their consciousness to the fact that they were born free. We must show mankind who God is, where God is, and what God is. We must teach mankind that this planet, Earth, belongs to us, all people, and that we must set up a kingdom of peace, joy, and love; the Kingdom of Man.."

(Rev. Kirby J. Hensley. Founder of the ULC 1959 - 1999)

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"Christians? Christians have all too often become famous for what we oppose, rather than who we are for..."

(David Kinnaman, The Barna Group_
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"Before Enlightenment, Chop Wood - Carry Water... After Enlightenment, Chop Wood - Carry Water.."

(Buddhist Parable)
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"Forgiveness is not so much about forgetting; rather it is about letting go of another's throat..."

(WM. Paul Young, The Shack)
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"Nine Tenths of the news, as printed in the papers, is pseudo-news, manufactured events. Some days ten tenths. The ritual morning trance, in which one scans columns of newsprint, creates a peculiar form of generalized pseudo-attention to a pseudo-reality. This experience is taken seriously. It is one's daily immersion in "reality." One's orientation to the rest of the world. One's way of reassuring himself that he has not fallen behind. That he is still there. That he still counts! My own experience has been that renunciation of this self-hypnosis, of this participation in the unquiet universal trance, is no sacrifice of reality at all. To "fall behind" in this sense is to get out of the big cloud of dust that everybody is kicking up, to breathe and to see a little more clearly..."

(Faith & Violence, University of Notre Dame)
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"There is only one vocation. Whether you teach or live in the cloister or nurse the sick, whether you are in religion or out of it, married or single, no matter who you are or what you are, you are called to the summit of perfection; you are called to a deep interior life perhaps even to mystical prayer, and to pass the fruits of your contemplation on to others. And if you cannot do so by word, then by example..."

(The Seven Story Mountain, Harcourt Brace Jovanovich)
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"One of the first things to learn if you want to be a contemplative is how to mind your own business. Nothing is more suspicious, in a man who seems holy, than an impatient desire to reform other men. A serious obstacle to recollection is the mania for directing those you have not been appointed to direct, reforming those you have not been asked to reform, correcting those over whom you have no jurisdiction. How can you do these things and kep your mind at rest? Renounce this futile concern with other men's affairs! Pay as little attention as you can to the faults of other people. And none at all to their defects and eccentricities...."

(Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation)
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"I've had it with you! You're hopeless, you Pharisees! Frauds! You keep meticulous account books, tithing on every nickel and dime you get, but manage to find loopholes for getting around basic matters of justice and God's love... You're hopeless, you Pharisees! Frauds! You love sitting at the head table at church dinners, love preening yourselves in the radiance of public flattery. Frauds! You're just like unmarked graves; People walk over that nice, grassy surface, never suspecting the rot and corruption that is six feet under." (One of the religion scholars spoke up saying, "Teacher, do you realize that in saying these things you are insulting us?")
He said, "Yes, and I can be even more explicit. You're hopeless, you religion scholars! You load people down with rules and regulations, nearly breaking their backs, but never lift a finger to help...."

(Jesus Christ, The Message Bible)
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"If one loves Krishna, he must love Lord Jesus also. And if one perfectly loves Jesus he must love Krishna too. If he says, "Why shall I love Krishna? I shall love Jesus," then he has no knowledge. And if one says, "Why shall I love Jesus? I shall love Krishna", then he has no knowledge either. If one understands Krishna, then he will understand Jesus. If one understands Jesus, you'll understand Krishna too..."

(Srila Prabhupada - Room conversation with Allen Ginsberg, May 12, 1969 Columbus - Ohio)
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"Wicca is a religion that teaches connections to Nature and to the forces behind Nature ( the elements ). Its purpose is to align an individual with the flow of energy on this plane and to teach rapport with deity. In most cases, it involves worship of both a goddess and a god and reverence of the natural world, although there are some Traditions which revolve around the worship of a singular deity. It is not a Satanic-worshipping religion, as Satan is a creation of the Judeo-Christian culture, whereas Wicca is not. We believe in the sacredness of life, not in the willful destruction of it.."

(Donald Perry, Wicca Wisdom)
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God said: "The religionists would have you believe that I created you as less than Who I Am so that you could have the chance to become Who I Am, working against all odds--and, I might add, against every natural tendency I am supposed to have given you. Among these so-called natural tendencies is the tendency to sin. You are taught that you were born in sin, that you will die in sin, and that sin is your nature. One of your religions even teaches.....there is only one way to heaven (salvation) and that is through no undertaking of your own, but through the grace granted you by God through acceptance of His Son as your intermediary. Once this is done you are "saved." Until it is done, nothing that you do--not the life you live, not the choices you make, not anything you undertake of your own will in effort to improve yourself or render you worthy--has any effect, bears any influence. You are incapable of rendering yourself worthy, because you are inherently unworthy. You were created that way. Why? God only knows. Perhaps He made a mistake. Perhaps He didn't get it right. Maybe he wishes He could have it all to do over again. But there it is. What to do..."
Neale said:"You're making mock of me."
God said: "No. You are making mock of Me. You are saying that I, God, made inherently imperfect beings, then have demanded of them to be perfect or face damnation. You are saying then that, somewhere several thousand years into the world's experience, I relented, saying that from then on you didn't necessarily have to be good, you simply had to feel bad when you were not being good, and accept as your savior the One Being who could always be perfect, thus satisfying My hunger for perfection. You are saying that My Son--who you call the One Perfect One--has saved you from your own imperfection--the imperfection I gave you. In other words, God's Son has saved you from what His Father did. This is how you--many of you--say I've set it up. Now who is mocking whom?
No one else will judge you ever, for why, and how, could God judge God's own creation and call it bad? If I wanted you to be and do everything perfectly, I would have left you in the state of total perfection whence you came. The whole point of the process was for you to discover yourself, create your Self, as you truly are--and as you truly wish to be. Yet you could not be that unless you also had a choice to be something else. Should I therefore punish you for making a choice that I Myself have laid before you? If I did not want you to make the second choice, why would I create other than the first?
This is a question you must ask yourself before you would assign Me the role of a condemning God."

(Conversations With God - Book I, Neale Donald Walsh)

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Monday, August 17, 2009 

Current mood:  blessed
Category: Religion and Philosophy
August 2009

By Br. Daniel Chapin, Vice President
ULC Monastery


A Person of faith does not avoid questions; we embrace them. In fact, to truly pursue the living God, the True Creator, the Same one who lives in you as in me, we as men and women of faith must embrace questions.

Questions, contrary to some beliefs, are not in fact scary.

What is scary is when thinking, feeling, pliable humans such as we are - Don't have any questions... What is beyond scary and even tragic is faith that has no room for questions. This is a close minded faith, a faith with no room for growth & increase. A faith with no free will to choose and stretch and expand.

A friend recently sponsored a "Doubt Night" at this church a while ago. People were encouraged to write down whatever questions or doubts they had about God and Jesus, the Bible and Faith & Church & Various Religions - Anything.... They had to acquire a large box to hold all of the scraps of paper. The first question was from a woman who had been raped and didn't press charges because she was told that doing so wasn't the "Christian thing to do.." The man then went on to rape several other girls and this woman wanted to know if God would still forgive her even if she hadn't forgiven the man who raped her...

Did I make note that this was the First Question? Here are several more that filled the box & were asked during that evening:

"Why does God let people die.... So Young?"
"Why does it seem that mean people get the most money?"
"Why does the killer go free and the honest man die of cancer?"
"Sometimes I doubt God's presence in starving Africa."
"If we can ask God for forgiveness at our last breath, why strive for a Godly life in the present?"
Either God is in control of everything and so all the crap we see today is part of his plan (which I don't want to accept), or it's all out of control (which sucks too). What's up?"

The above is a random sampling. Personally I get dozens, sometimes hundreds of emails a week with questions. Heaven and hell and suicide and the devil and God and love and rape and religion - some very personal and heart wrenching and some very philosophical...

Most responses my friend and myself gave to the questions that particular evening were about how we need others to carry our burdens and how our real needs in life are not for more information but for loving community with other people around us in this "So Called Life..." But what was truly powerful for those who spoke with us was that they were free to voice what ran deepest in their hearts and in their minds.

Questions, Doubts, Struggles, Fears...

Questions - Questions - Questions...

It wasn't the information we provided to their questions that really helped them - Rather, it was simply being in an environment in which they were free to voice what was inside.

This is why questions are so central to faith. This is why we at the ULC Monastery encourage you and you and you of all faiths, cultures, backgrounds, ideologies, etc., etc., etc., to come with your questions, your ideas, your beliefs. We want to nourish them, support them, uphold them even if we don't see eye to eye with you; Your questions, you own them, Your facts, you own them... And we encourage you to support others in this same light...

A question by its very nature, no matter how shocking or blasphemous or arrogant or ignorant or raw, find their roots in humility. This is a humility that acknowledges that there is a God. And there is more to know... Questions bring freedom. Freedom that I don't have to be God and I don't have to pretend that I have it all figured out.

In the Book of Genesis, God tells Abraham what he is going to do with Sodom and Gomorrah, and Abraham shoots back, "Will not the Ruler of the Earth do right?" Abraham seems to believe God to be in the wrong and that the proposed action is not in line with whom God is, and Abraham questions him about it. And, as the dialogue continues God does not only not get angry with Abraham, but he engages Abraham even more...

Maybe this is what God is looking for - People who don't just sit there and mindlessly accept whatever comes their way. What is the first thing Mary says to the angel who brings her the news that she is going to be the mother of the "Messiah?"

"But how can this be? I'm a virgin?"

Questions - Questions - Questions...

What are some of Jesus' final words as he hung upon the cross?

"My God, My God, Why have you forsaken me?"

Jesus on the cross. Questioning God... Central to our faith is questioning. Not raw, belligerent arrogant questioning with no respect, but naked raw questions, which arise out of the desire to know and connect with the God of our understanding. This type of questioning frees us indeed. It freews us from having it all figured out. It frees us from always thinking we need to be right. It allows us moments when we can come to an end of ourselves and our ability to understand. It allows us the opportunity to learn about ourselves and our Makes, to learn about each other... Isn't that why we are here?

It allows us Moments when the very silence is plenty enough.

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Friday, July 17, 2009 

Current mood:  blissful
Category: Religion and Philosophy

From the Desk of Br. Daniel Chapin
ULC Monastery Vice President
July 2009

How Comfortable Are You?
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I recently spent some time in a Hostel in ....Santa Monica.., ..California..... You see my work takes me all over the country, but if you are anything like me, you can relate when I tell you that Hotel rooms are for tourists... Hostels, however, are for travelers.... and, yes, there is a difference. This being noted, another reason I enjoy staying at hostels is that there is such an eclectic spirit within. Many cultures, languages, personalities, backgrounds all coming together under one roof.. We eat together, sleep together & we learn from one another outside the comfort zones of fancy hotels & dining halls... The fact is that I'm that type of traveler; and in fact, that type of individual who does not want to go where many have gone before. I don't want to see what the eyes have already seen and the ears have already heard... I don't wish to sleep in a queen size bed with a mint on the pillow.
Life is rarely so comfortable - So why should my travels be?

OK so now that I have gotten your attention, all of this is said to introduce this month’s message which I can also preface with a question -
How Comfortable Are You?

We live in a society of comfort. While our nation indeed faces a financial recession, walk into any Starbucks Coffee on a Monday morning and you might have second thoughts on this as you watch dozens line up to order their $4.00 Venti Soy Caramel Macchiato... Or perhaps consider that here in ....California.... we are facing a drought - We have been for years and yet - We Play in Water.... Water Amusement Parks rake in thousands of tourists a year and tens of thousands of dollars....

How Comfortable Are You?

Beyond our Means of Living as a Nation of Comfort we are also a nation of the uncomfortable. Last year a group of youth from a youth group I was involved in visited one area of ..Kentucky.. largely considered to be within one of the poorest counties of the ....United States..... It was Christmas time during that visit and one of our youth presented a playstation to one of the resident youth who I was told kept saying over and over - "Now all I need is a T.V. to play it on...."

How Comfortable Are You?

Comfort, friends, is more than a state of economics, it is also a state of mind. Perhaps it originates there and expresses itself in our ways of living & thinking, viewing & treating one another..

One of the beauties of our Church is that we in many ways stand collectively outside the comfort zone which exists in many a "Brick & Mortar" Church across this nation & world for that matter. Others used to tell our Founder Kirby Hensley that what he taught was uncomfortable at times to hear. Good. We needed to step out of our comfortable spiritual boxes then & we still could benefit by doing so today... Here we stand as ministers collectively but not necessarily comfortably at all times. We represent many cultures, languages, personalities, backgrounds all coming together under one roof.. And yet, we do not always see eye to eye. We have Christians & Pagans, Buddhists & Atheists. We have Progressives & Traditionalists. We have heterosexuals & homosexuals, Republicans, Democrats & Independents. And yet, we stand - Somehow we stand... Visit our Ministers Network one day and you'll see how everyday we make what may seem uncomfortable well, comfortable.

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