Reason's not to marry a soldier:
Single soldiers are usually young,
handsome and athletic. No wonder they so easily turn a girl’s head. However,
here are twenty-three reasons I think you should not marry a military man. You
will never make a bigger mistake in your life. You must use your head as well
as your heart.
Your loved one will be off for
months and years at a time. He may be back only days before being shipped out
again. This can be a pretty lonely life.
Unless he reaches high rank, he will
never be able to provide for you and your family properly. Many soldiers’ wives
live worse than those on welfare.
Yes, our government is cheap. What else is new???
You may be transferred over and
over. You have to pull up roots on a moments notice and move off somewhere
else. You have no say in the matter. If you have children, they become army
brats, children who never learn to socialise with other children since they are
never in one place long enough to make lasting friends.
Look at your sacrifice soldiers....this motherfucker can't even spell "socialize". Say it with me now...."education".
You will constantly dread that phone
call or knock on the door to let you know your husband has been seriously injured
or killed.
Are military wives the only ones who dread this?
Your husband can be killed at any
time. It is a sword of Damocles over your head for his entire career. He will
leave you to care for your family as a single parent.
Once again, luckily our Military Men are the only ones who can ever be killed.
It is common for soldiers to suffer
from PTSD
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He may panic at any loud sound. He may wake up
in the night screaming. He may attack you imagining you are an enemy soldier.
He may become paranoid. Make sure you learn what PTSD is before you presume
love will automatically give you the resources to deal with it.
True, luckily, as my husband would be the first to call out...."Free Medical!" Lol.
Soldiers often do some disreputable
things under peer pressure that they avoid talking about. This is includes
drinking to excess, whoring, drug-taking, raping, bullying and terrorising,
hazing, killing and raping children and torturing. The fundamentalist Taliban
had eliminated drug trafficking. Under US military control, Afghanistan has
risen to #1 heroin producer in the world, selling over a trillion dollars worth
a year. This could not happen if US soldiers were not complicit in the drug
trade. Recall that a significant number of US soldiers returned from Viet Nam
addicted to heroin. The remote control nature of much of modern warfare ensures
the primary targets will be children and civilians. A soldier often does not
even see his victims. When he kills blindly like this e.g. with napalm, cluster
bombs, land mines or white phosphorus, in a third world country like Iraq where
most of the people are under 15, inevitably he kills more children than adults,
and civilians than soldiers. In addition when American soldiers attack they
have a massive advantage in power, armaments and technology. This power
corrupts them to toy with the civilian populations, to torment them for
amusements like a child tormenting insects. The military likes remote control
warfare because it keeps their soldiers safe, and it protects the soldiers from
emotionally feeling the impact of their butchery. These soldiers look just like
anyone else. You would never guess from the soldiers’ clean-cut faces what
mischief they have been up to. Recall the pudgy boyish face of Lt. Calley of
the Mai Lai massacre in Viet Nam. The domestic charms of house and home don’t
quite do it for them anymore. These sadistic desires were always in the
background. The thrill of violence was part of the appeal for them enlisting —
to commit cruel acts without any possibility of legal repercussions. When you
marry a soldier, you are marrying someone more prone to abusing you and your
children too. His standards of what constitutes acceptable behaviour are warped
by war experience.
Every man in the military is just as prone to any of those things as any other human being on the planet.
A Canadian soldier returned from the
relatively gentle Afghanistan war with PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He
repeatedly abused his infant triplet sons, breaking 19 of their bones. He blamed the attacks
on his condition. Do you really want someone with PTSD anywhere near your
kids or near you? The New England Journal of Medicine reported that
American soldiers returning from Iraq are being sent home to their families
without treatment. According to MSNBC one in eight soldiers returning from Iraq
are suffering from PTSD and become abusive.
Well if MSNBC says it, it MUST be true. I mean, the news NEVER exaggerates anything!
Your husband can suffer a brain
injury or be made a paraplegic. This is 2 to 8 times as likely as death
depending whom you ask. Professor Stiglitz of Columbia University said
that as of 2006-01, there were more than 7000 servicemen with brain, spinal,
amputation and other serious injuries, and about 20% of those injured have
suffered major head or spinal injury. This turns him into a giant infant who
has to be feed, bathed and diapers changed. You are morally stuck with caring
for him 24/7 for the rest of your life whether you continue to love him or not.
This
apparently never happens to the THOUSANDS of car crash victims
everyday....and I would never be "stuck" caring for the man I love.
Never. I don't care if I have to change his bag 15 times a day...."For
better or for worse", learn how to take your vows seriously.
When you rip off the pretty bunting,
what the military is about is killing, torturing, maiming and terrorising
people. In modern warfare, most of the victims are civilians and most of those
are children. On some level, your husband was drawn to this killing. There is a
cloak of respectability, even nobility that the government casts over it, but
when you get down to it, soldiers do the exact same thing as Mafia hit men —
kill just because they were ordered too. Though they give lip service to
personal responsibility, they are brainwashed to the point disobeying an order
becomes unthinkable. They consider deciding who has the right to live a
superior’s total responsibility. At Nuremberg, humanity proclaimed that claiming
“I was just following orders.” is not sufficient excuse for murder. Your
potential husband, agrees with the Nazis. He thinks he is morally off the hook
so long as someone else gave him permission to murder. How else could he make
up excuses for killing civilians and children? Do you really want this man
passing those sorts of dark genes to your offspring? Instead of spawning more
little soldiers, you could just as well spawn more little criminals. What sort
of woman are you to entrust your children alone with a child murderer?
Well
you learn something new everyday. Not only are we an underpaid mafia
family, but my husband is just like a Nazi, and I'm a Nazi's wife.
Obama must be, "Hitler".
You also might wonder about a man
that selected an occupation that would keep him away from his wife most of the
time, especially when he spends that time in the company of young fit men
excluding the company of women. If he is a closeted homosexual or bisexual,
getting married primarily to satisfy the demands of his parents and church, you
are in for a life of misery. He will never be able to truly love you. He will
never be true to you. Gay men used to sign on as sailors in the days of sailing
ships, but would have a wife, in name only. Even straight men in prisons and in
the military without access to women often resort to homosexual encounters.
If my husband is gay, he hides it well, especially when we have, "alone time" LOL.
Soldiers are often exposed to
teratogens like DU, herbicides (like Viet Nam’s Agent Orange laced with
dioxin), chemicals, chemical warfare, biological warfare, not to mention exotic
parasites and tropical diseases. This may cause cancer later, or even more
likely will cause your children and their children to be genetically deformed. Would you ever forgive
yourself if your child was born hideously deformed, or even mildly damaged
because of the damage these agents did to your husband’s sperm? Over half the soldiers
who served in the Gulf War, died of Gulf War Syndrome or were treated for it.
They were in Iraq for only weeks. Your husband will be there years. Not only
the returning soldiers suffered from Gulf War syndrome, but also their children
and wives. Soldiers brought back loathsome diseases, parasites, toxins and
radioactivity. The military, in most cases, refused medical aid.
If you love and cherish your
husband, you are encouraging and enabling him to do his job of soldiering.
Soldiering is a sickening, revolting job, and it takes the memory of a loving
wife for many to continue. You then became complicit is his war crimes. You are
morally tarred with his misdeeds. Today, Canada and the USA only fight in
illegal aggressive wars. They are not defending their countries as did soldiers
in past. You are sacrificing yourself for goals as evil as any Nazi wife did,
mostly killing civilians and children and teenagers who posed no threat to
Canada, the USA or Britain.
Well,
if I'm a Nazi Wife, then so be it, I love my husband, and my husband
loves his job. I'm not entirely sure my husband would walk up to an
innocent child, shoot him/her in the face, all the while picturing my
loving face in his mind....but okay.
If your soldier lover woos you, and
holds out the promise of marriage, but never seems to pop the question,
consider he may already have a wife back home, and he is just using you for
sex.
If
ANY guy in the world won't commit....use your common sense woman! But
it's okay, apparently only Military Members commit adultery.
Nazi soldiers were popular to start,
but as their deeds became more and more widely known, all decent society shunned
them. Soldiers who serve in illegal aggressive wars to plunder a small nation’s
natural resources, such as the Afghan war or Iraq war, will over time become
more and more pariahs, eventually subject to death threats and anonymous
attacks, just as Nazis and Nazi collaborators were hounded. They could even
face kidnapping and prosecution as international war criminals. The penalty for
engaging in aggressive war at Nuremberg was death. Today it would be life
imprisonment, an even crueller punishment. Consider how people who participated
in the Viet Nam war have over the years become more and more pariahs. The shame
of the Afghanistan and Iraq wars will be even greater because of the use of
banned weapons and torture, and the craven motive for the war.
Well
this sure won't happen anytime soon. Whenever we've been anywhere with
Ian in uniform we have people come up to him and say, "Thank you for
your service."
On 2007-10-15 a young woman told me
she had gone to a bar and met a pleasant young man, who turned out be joining
the military. The young woman recoiled, and asked “How will you feel
when you are ordered to drop a bomb? You will be killing innocent people, perhaps
a child. How will you feel about killing a child?” He responded, “It
wouldn’t matter so long as it was a foreign child.” This is every soldier’s
true answer. He could not kill children, a required side effect of modern
warfare, if it weren’t. You don’t want that sort of man anywhere near your
children.
You're
right, I don't want that sort of man near my children. No one I know
would say "If it was a foreign child it wouldn't matter". No, if my
husband knew he was killing innocent children, knowing him, he would
have a permanent scar on his heart for the rest of his life. That's
generalizing, and that's not cool :)
What do you think of the wife of a
serial killer, someone who murders dozens of innocent women and children?
Someone like Karla Homolka. You feel revulsion. You wonder what sort of
perverse motivation attracted her to such a killer. You wonder how she could
bear to lie in bed next to such a creep. That is how many people will feel
about you if you a marry a soldier, aka a hit man, a serial killer paid
by the military to butcher and torture innocent people with illegal horror
weapons such as napalm, cluster bombs, white phosphorus and land mines. To
create shock & awe, they use weapons that kill as more painfully than any
civilian serial killer would devise. Even after you come to your senses and divorce
the creep, the shame will stick to you for the rest of your life.
That's
fine, I do not feel any shame. Fuck, since he has no morals and uses,
"Napalm, cluster bombs, land mines, tortures innocent people, etc.",
I'm glad I'm on his good side...sucks to be you.
Many returning from Iraq become mental basket cases unable to deal with the
horrors of war and the guilt at what they have done. They beat up their
children and wives and are emotionally distant. Friends and family reject them.
They can’t hold down a job. They become homeless. Look at the way American
treats the homeless vets of the Viet Nam and Iraq wars begging on the streets.
Watch some documentaries about the shell shocked vets. One grabbed a clerk by
the throat when she did not hand over the change with sufficient respect.
Others wake up screaming in the night decades later reliving trauma. Most have
marital breakdown. The sound of packing bubbles popping sends a vet to the
floor in cover. Another found he could not handle his job clearing up road kill
since he could not shake his fear there were bombs hidden underneath the
carcasses. You will become, at least to some extent, a nutcase. 28% of Canadian
soldiers returning from Afghanistan are classified as having serious mental
problems such as suicidal tendencies, post-traumatic stress disorder or
depression. The Veteran’s Association estimates 37% of American soldiers
returning from Iraq are classified as having serious mental problems. Even the
Bush administration admits 15% of soldiers returning from Iraq suffer from PTSD
(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). On 2007-11-11 CBC Newsworld Sunday Night
aired a documentary called PTSD: The War at Home about Iraq vets
suffering from PTSD who snap and kill their families and neighbours. According
to the documentary, to get treatment for PTSD, there in a terrible catch 22,
men must sign up for another potential tour of duty in Iraq. They can’t face
that so they go untreated. According to CBC Newsworld documentary, aired 2007-11-13
16% of Canadian soldiers returning from Afghanistan have a dangerous drinking
problem, e.g. drunk driving.
Sweet! I'm already a mental basket case! I knew we were meant to be :)
There are many additional reasons
not to marry a soldier. Many
of those penalties, you will feel too.
Probably, but my husband works on something that can fuck up your world with the push of a button, what does yours do again?
Perhaps your soldier boy has snowed
you that he is a brave fighter for freedom, nobly protecting his country from
the bad guys. This was true in WWII, but it certainly is not true today. First,
neither Iraq nor Afghanistan attacked the USA, Britain or Canada. The Afghans
and Iraqis have not killed a single civilian (unless you count mercenaries in
Iraq) in a war that has waged longer than WW II. Bush claims that Saudis, not
Iraqis or Afghans were behind 9/11. The USA attacked unprovoked. Even the WMDs
turned out to be a lie. Aggressive war is illegal under international law.
Under the Nuremberg principles, to aid or abet such a war is a capital offence.
My
husband has, "snowed", me that he is brave.....thank you very much.
"Under Nuremberg principles....", well phew! Thank God this is the
United States and not Germany.
The problem with marrying a soldier
is that his is already married to the military. You will always play second
fiddle. He will always do what they want, not what you want. The military will
decide what country you live in, whom you socialise with, when your husband
will leave you and for how long. They will decide whom your husband will kill
next, and what risks he will take. They will even decide what sort of haircut he
has and how he wears his facial hair. They will decide where your kids go to
school. They will decide your income. You are marrying a Momma’s boy who likes
being told what to do, and by someone who is not you.
About
this haircut deal....I would like to personally extend my gratitude to
the United States Air Force. Without you, Air Force, I would not know
how ridiculously attractive I find my husband bald.
However, if you are foreign born,
and just want to get a meal ticket to the US-economy gravy train, marrying a
soldier might make sense. He will be away most of the time, so you won’t have
to have much sex with him. There is a good chance he will get his head blown
off by an IED or turned into a mental vegetable. You can then marry someone
else, without all his drawbacks, while you are still young.
And what an "economy gravy train" we have today folks! Come on down!