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Gender: Female
Status: Single
Age: 40
Sign: Pisces

Country: NG
Signup Date: 8/26/2005

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Saturday, May 30, 2009 


http://hangingoutwithbill.blogspot.com/2009/05/fre...

Fresh faces is a new feature on my friend Bills blog.

Sunday, February 15, 2009 
First I have another blog www.pdbraide.blogspot.com and Im more active on facebook. So... Ive been writting but not here. Ill have to link my blogger to this cos I miss my Myspace friends.
.... My latest blog
I have been transfixed on the recent Chris Brown and Rhianna story not because there arent enough issues surrounding me on a daily basis but because the reactions tell a thousand different stories.

For those who might go Chris who? Rhianna what? Ill give a brief over view. Two extremely popular young (20 and 19) R&B/Pop stars are the subjects of an alleged assault case.

Couple leaves pre grammy party in rented Lambo.
Couple pull up to the side of the road and apparently have an altercation.
Witness calls police and reports that a man is assaulting a woman.
Brown takes off on foot.
Police arrive and Rhianna bearing visible facial bruises confirms Brown is her attacker.
She is treated in Cedar Sinnnai Hospital.
Later on Brown goes to police station and is charged. Court date coming up soon.
Rhianna flown out at once to parents in Barbados.
Both missed performing at the Grammys and have cancelled numerous engagements.
Both have not spoken to the press.

The fact that they were alone and havent spoken hasnt stopped a tsunami of opinions, judgements and frenzied fights in support of or against. Mainstream news outlets have thrown all ethics to the dogs and actually are quoting gossip blogs as sources and the NY times was the first to unethically confirm Rhianna as the female involved.

The cult of celebrity turns everything on its head.

What floored me were the divisions, stereotypes, deep seated prejudice, and the brain eating effect of celeb worship highlighted by the comments gracing the internet by fans, cats, dogs and even aliens. I cant deal with it all.

Inconclusive or not it shows how unable we are to deal with domestic violence especially when it comes to people we "know" and "love".

Ive observed that many black women (i guess his fans, he is cute) defend his actions. Comments like, she deservered it, clingy crazy island bitch, carrribean voodoo bitch, she gave him herpes, yeah smack that bitch down Chris I LOVE U BOO, she hit him first... leave me weak, shaky and a little afraid.

Overall I get the impression that young black girls feel that its ok to be punched in the face if they are out of line.
Far more than I though possible.

Why.

Please lets have conversations with our daughters, sons, nieces, nephews, younger friends. Dont preach just listen, share and guide.
Wednesday, August 27, 2008 


Some pictures of those rocking green and white... UP NAIJA!














Monday, August 18, 2008 

Current mood:  bouncy
Monday, June 02, 2008 
 
 
By now we have all heard about the anti foreigner violence in SA.

This is indeed very sad, however signs of this were long coming (a burning here, a murder there) and the Government of South Africa looked on until this conflagration. The saddest part is that they are attacking Africans from the same countries that supported the fight against apartheid. I as a Nigerian know how the injustice in South Africa hurt us and that was the one issue the (usually non commital)Nigerian Government never dragged its feet about. Firm support, lobbying at every possible level and funds were made available to the ANC. We never hid it.
When America, Britain and other countries refused to take a stand,  Africans did.
President Thabo Mbeki was a guest of the Nigerian Govt at Ahmadu Bello University when my relatives were lecturers there. Naija school kids donated thier pocket money to fight apartheid, neighbouring countries sheltered ANC fighters and exiles and now this...


We are now the enemy. Zimbabweans, Somalians, Mozambicans... the list goes on... supposedly responsible for taking thier jobs, raising the cost of food and committing crimes even though the law enforcement agencies have (now) come out to say foreigners are responsible for only 2 - 3% of crime in South Africa.

The PR triumph of the Rainbow Nation has obviously concealed deepening inequality and poverty of the majority who are now lashing out at the nearest scapegoats... Black Africans...Mirror images of themselves.
Now that it is an embarrassment capable of denting its National image and internal stability perhaps the SA Govt will now do more to address the immeadiate and underlying causes of the crisis and its effects... Though I do realise controling situations in other countries like Zimbabwe which has foisted 3 million refugees on SA is impossible, in the face of this mess, trying is not an option, its a necessity. President Mbeki now has to take a stand on his embarrasing shuffle around President Mugabe.

It wont end.
 
Rwanda, Sudan, Nigeria, South Africa, Kenya... wanton incomprehensible murders of former neighbours, colleagues even relatives.
 
Where poverty and inequality deepen with no discernable hope for improvement, the flashpoint for intolerance of every persuasion lowers. The nearest scapegoat "responsible" for your plight is usually the one closest to you.
 
As long as African leaders as a whole do not committ to tackling the embeded systems and culture of patronage that fuel inequality, deepen poverty and reward a few with fabulous wealth invested in foreign economies then expect more chaos.
 
As I said in a reply to a friend.... this is coming soon (or already came) to a neighbourhood near you... just fill in the blanks.
 
African leaders must do better. We must do better. When climate change forces a savage battle for resources.... I dont know.

For more read the following links

http://africa.reuters.com/wire/news/usnBAN928966.html

http://allafrica.com/stories/200805190001.html

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080518/ap_on_re_af/south_africa_immigrant_attacks

Thursday, April 10, 2008 

Current mood:  angry
Category: Blogging

British Airways removes 136 Nigerians from Flight
http://www.nigeriavillagesquare.com/index.php/content/view/8937/55

This is an interview on bbc http://news.bbc.co.uk/media/avdb/regions/south_east/video/164000/bb/164327_16x9_bb.asx

Would this happen to enmasse to customers from any other nation? Have we no balls? Must we continue to enrich an organization whose staff serve Naija routes as if theres a bad smell in the air and charge you double or even triple for it?
Im heard tons of BA horror stories from Nigerians, Im am tired of hearing stories, but honestly this takes the cake.

My little 2kobo doesnt count but as things stand I will not be using this airline. Colonial times are over. If your charging me double what you charge in other countries then serve me.

If you are Nigerian please just stop. STOP USING BA!!!!

Wetin?

Abi dem jazz us?

Vex wan kill me so...

Friday, March 07, 2008 

Current mood:  ecstatic

 

I saw the V monologues....a Nigerian Tale yesterday

I clapped

cried

laughed

watched the audience watching

gasping

squirming

shouting

laughing

standing

jumping

male female young and old

to give a well deserved ovation.


I must confess that I was frightened that the adaptation of Eve Enslers Vagina Monologues to a more culturaly specific Nigerian context could sacrifice its edge on the alter of our bothersome quest to offend no one, becoming bland and accessible to all and affecting none. I am delighted that didnt happen. It is proudly Naija and will definitely push us to think.

Ashionye, Kate, Bimbo, Yinka, Omonor, Kemi, Tunde, Jennifer blew me away at the Abuja performance... I bow and tremble...

Do yourself a favour. Tell everyone you know. SEE IT!!!!

Abuja
National Women Development Centre Abuja March 7th
Lagos
Agip Hall Muson Centre March 12th and13thNational Theatre March 19thTerrakulture March 20th

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 

Tuesday, March 04, 2008 
 
V MONOLOGUES
 
 
Abuja


Shehu Musa Yardua Hall                                  March 6th

National Women Development Centre Abuja    March 7th



Lagos


Agip Hall Muson Centre                        March 12th and13th

National Theatre                                   March 19th

Terrakulture                                          March 20th
Friday, February 22, 2008 

Current mood:  angry

The first time I heard of the proposed bill on indecent dressing sponsored by the Chairman of the Senate Committee on matters concerning women, youth and social affairs, Sen Ekaette, I laughed and then wondered at the disconnect between the ruling class and reality. Then when it reached a second reading I realized that we don craze finish for Naija. A woman is calling for laws that will ensure the harrassment of fellow women on the basis of some skewed perception of morality in a paralel plane where the length of my skirt is the cause of my oppression, rape and of course all the decay around me. She does this apparently to restore my dignity and gaurantee my immunity to sexual harrassment and in bad english too. Do I weep, laugh, rage or just give up?

Ive written about it severally but will showcase the opinions of two friends below

....I feel it is time to spit in the eye of these pseudo moralist bigots who the nation spends a fortune to keep in the luxury they have become accustomed to....If I had my way, I would march a million women stark naked to the national assembly to demand a removal of immunity for public offenders, the death sentence for corruption and election rigging and long jail terms for nepotism and favouritism which are the true moral cancer of our society.....  Funmi Iyanda

 

Below is an opinion from another friend of mine


Braide,

Your expectations, like many others are too high.

For some reason, you think that because this woman is a Senator, she can think through the challenges that women and girls in Nigeria face and come up with creative ways of addressing them.

Like most members, Senator Ekaette needs an agenda. This is clearly the best she can come up with. Again, this is hardly suprising - she probably doesn't have any good legislative or research staff, no one who can articulate issues and discuss policy alternatives.

You guys, all of you working in the NGO space, need to think about how you can help these people shape agendas. As long as the members get their photo-ops, and you can make them shine (and you can make them some money), they'll work with you.

May be then, this sort of nonsense will not be debated on the floor of the Senate.

These guys really need help, honestly.

Nneka

I really have nothing to add.

There are scanned copies of the bill at jeremys blog www.naijablog.blogspot.com