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I kept hounding my man to be honest with me and Finally He Was...

Just ask Terry Smith

issue raised by a reader seeking the truth

Ms. T: It is better to know something you didn't want to hear, or to go on being ignorant but happy?  I kept hounding my man to be honest with me about things like his feelings, our relationship, or how long he expected to be gone when he left the house, because it seemed like he was gone more and more.

Finally, he disappeared for three days.    When he walked in, I screamed that I wanted him gone, and all he said was "Thank you.    What the hell took you so long to throw my ass out?"  He told me I was too "needy".  He was tired of the relationship, but wanted me to end it so he could leave without hurting me.  Then he wanted to know if the truth made me happy.  And I didn't have an answer.

Dear Truth: I tried the honesty thing, and when I honestly told him that I did not enjoy the way he made love, the guy flipped out. Is it me, or is he being unreasonable asking for honesty, then going wacky when he gets it? 

Sorry, I got off on my own problems.  What is my point?  Oh yeah… Do not ask for something that you are not big enough to handle.   But remember, if someone is asking you to tell them the truth, lie, because you know from experience the truth can hurt.  Next!

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith

Just ask Terry Smith:

issue raised by a reader seeking the truth

Ms Terry: I don't understand why this man I dated for ten months, broke up with me.  The last five months of the relationship, we never spent a night apart.  It was love on my part and I really believed he felt the same. I introduced him to all my friends, and sometimes one or more of them would go out with us, including my next-door neighbor.  Then suddenly it was like he forgot my number.  He didn't return calls and I couldn't find him.  His home phone was changed to an unlisted number, and his cell was never answered. 

A week ago, I ran into him at our favorite nightspot.  He was at a table in a back corner with my next-door neighbor.  What was crazy to me is, I thought that my boyfriend felt uncomfortable around him, because he is gay. 

It has been six months now and I'm dating again, but nobody can top him.  My friends tell me to get on with my life, but I need some answers.  Should I try to find him and confront him with the "Why's?"

Ms. Blind-sight: Okay, here is a case of another down low lover man and a blind-sighted woman –is he or isn't he 'in the closet'.  Was your mind on vacation for ten months?  You "thought" he felt uncomfortable around your gay neighbor?  Trust me, if your gay neighbor sensed that your man was uncomfortable, he would not have stuck around.  Call me a cynic, but I just can't believe that your "Whys" weren't answered the night you saw them together.  Next!  

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,
Terry Smith

I Wonder?

Have you ever wondered what you would be willing to sacrifice to find happiness with the perfect mate?  Of course you have.  Everyone has questioned motives, theirs or others.

But if questioned, I wonder what would you be willing to compromise on and if you were lonely, would you end things even if it meant you would be alone?

Possibly some things you may have thought of yourself, but would never consciously make them an issue.  Or would you… if guaranteed you could get away with it?

He's not a virgin.  Would the number of someone's past sexual partners matter if you were considering marrying them?

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,
Terry Smith

I Wonder?

Have you ever wondered what you would be willing to sacrifice to find happiness with the perfect mate?  Of course you have.  Everyone has questioned motives, theirs or others.

But if questioned, I wonder what would you be willing to compromise on and if you were lonely, would you end things even if it meant you would be alone?

Possibly some things you may have thought of yourself, but would never consciously make them an issue.  Or would you… if guaranteed you could get away with it?

Do you believe a man can be trapped into becoming a father?    If for whatever reason(s) he deems it safe not to put on a condom (he was told that she's using protection and not to worry or the feeling is more stimulating without), then he consciously chooses not to use protection.

If a child is conceived, was he tricked into fatherhood?

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith

I Wonder?

Have you ever wondered what you would be willing to sacrifice to find happiness with the perfect mate?  Of course you have.  Everyone has questioned motives, theirs or others.

But if questioned, I wonder what would you be willing to compromise on and if you were lonely, would you end things even if it meant you would be alone?

Possibly some things you may have thought of yourself, but would never consciously make them an issue.  Or would you… if guaranteed you could get away with it?

You love Oral Sex,   but if you met a nice Prince Charming and he were a bad, bad, "REALLY BAD" licker,   would you tell him if you knew it would crush his ego?

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith

I Wonder?

Have you ever wondered what you would be willing to sacrifice to find happiness with the perfect mate?  Of course you have.  Everyone has questioned motives, theirs or others.

But if questioned, I wonder what would you be willing to compromise on and if you were lonely, would you end things even if it meant you would be alone?

Possibly some things you may have thought of yourself, but would never consciously make them an issue.  Or would you… if guaranteed you could get away with it?

If you thought you were in a committed relationship with someone like a Bill Gates (money)    who provided you with all the riches, treasures and comfort you could desire.  If suddenly he acknowledged that he is cheating, but wanted to continue in your relationship.  What would you do?

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith

I Wonder?

Have you ever wondered what you would be willing to sacrifice to find happiness with the perfect mate?  Of course you have.  Everyone has questioned motives, theirs or others.

But if questioned, I wonder what would you be willing to compromise on and if you were lonely, would you end things even if it meant you would be alone?

Possibly some things you may have thought of yourself, but would never consciously make them an issue.  Or would you… if guaranteed you could get away with it?

If after the third or fourth time, your mate doesn't please you sexually but was thoughtful, kind, considerate and stimulating mentally, in a way you never experienced with any other.  Would you continue in the relationship, even if it meant sacrificing your sexual desires?

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith

I Wonder?

Have you ever wondered what you would be willing to sacrifice to find happiness with the perfect mate?  Of course you have.  Everyone has questioned motives, theirs or others.

But if questioned, I wonder what would you be willing to compromise on and if you were lonely, would you end things even if it meant you would be alone? 

Possibly some things you may have thought of yourself, but would never consciously make them an issue.  Or would you… if guaranteed you could get away with it?

If what you don't remember can't hurt you… If after 10 years of sex with the same person you were guaranteed that you would not get caught, no one would get hurt and after 24 hours, you wouldn't even remember.  If you wrote the script yourself, would you have sex with another person? 

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith 

The "BIG Meat" Market

Why do you think some people refer to a nightclub as a "Meat Market"?  Meat Market doesn't sound very complimentary.  Are you just a piece of meat on display until someone chooses you?  Can they just trim off the unwanted parts, tenderize, sauté and serve you up?  No, if that were the case it would be called The Gourmet Market. 

Now, some people do display themselves as the daily special in the meat section at the Piggly Wiggly.  But the definition of meat, is the flesh of an animal used as food that's edible – the fleshy inner part, the essential part, the core.  I mean really think about it… the purpose of going to the meat market for most people is to find someone to hunt, kill, skin, cook and devour.  Then you burp, and toss out the leftovers.

It is a superficial atmosphere, with superficial people.  Oh, there might be many people in a nightclub with substance, the material kind or the personal kind, but it's hard to distinguish between who has substance and who doesn't, because it isn't a requirement to get in the door.  You don't have to show your social status card, Noble prize, or Heisman trophy.  You don't have to be a scholar or a brain surgeon.  Usually, all it takes is cash, borderline dress code or a homey hook-up.

Do you really think you would be happy meeting your mate in a nightclub?

FEEDBACK: TELL ME

I promise to keep telling it, the only way I am certain that you will listen- Straight!

Peace,

Terry Smith