Things I learned from this wedding
1. Backyards make beautiful backdrops!
2. Groomsmens like to pee on walls?
3. Picture booths are a great accessory for any event!

Also, thanks to my second shooter Christine for getting some fantastic images.

Enjoy the sneak peek of their event!

It may not seem like it but I have a very optimistic personality. I always see the light at the end of the tunnel, even when it looks like I'll never reach it. This can be a real problem because I've been noticing that one of my terrible traits is giving people the benefit of the doubt. I always see the potential in people and let them disappoint me.

I do this with Lance a lot and it never works out. You would think that I would learn from this, but I never do. I still give him the benefit of the doubt.

I always think that things are going to get better before than get worse. The same goes for people. I want them to realize their own errors and fix it themselves rather than out right tell them what they are doing wrong. I'm starting to realize that, perhaps, these people that I am trusting to correct their own misgivings may not know they are doing anything wrong to begin with or maybe they do and don't know how much it bothers me. So then things get worse and never better.

...and now I'm all shook up and my cap is about to burst because now I have to be the bad guy and say things that I really think people should already know.

Do you ever read those articles that say 10 things that will ROCK your bedroom?

I'm sure you have and you probably think to yourself, "Gee, that is just ridiculous. I would never try that." or "That's pretty easy. I can do that."

Well, have you actually tried any of them?

....I have. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but the never turn out as HOT as they say it would be. I mean, the sex is the same. Not really mind blowing or anything....

For example, they always say you should leave him with anticipation. Hint to him that you want to have sex when he gets home and at the end of the day he'll be so hyped up that he will rush home and tear your clothes off.

I tried sex texting Lance once. I told him that when he got home I wanted to fuck the shit out of him and instead of texting back, "I can't wait."  or " I'm horny." He quoted Borat...and when he got home there was no ripping of the clothes. There was a calm walk to the bedroom.

And another time I was making dinner and about 15 minutes of when he was set to arrive home I slipped on some lingerie and when he came home he said, "What's this?"

"I dressed up for you." Duh!

"Oh really?"....and then we spent like thirty minutes talking about our day at work.

I meant, really....pathetic.

Or, like you dress up and it takes them like a freaking hour to get home. By that time I could've used my vibrator and been done 10 times over already.

What about mid-afternoon quickies? Does anyone really drive thirty minutes home for a 10 minute quickie? I mean, we only have like an hour lunch, people.

....and I LOVE watching the sex scenes in the movies with the girl
against the wall. They need to have some sort of warning on those.
CAUTION: Girl needs to weigh as much as a toothpick or else do not try
unless you have lots of upper body strength.

I also read this thing on an article one where this girl did this slight sucking on the tongue and it drove her man wild, so I tried it and Lance said it HURT! Haha.

Anyway, I would love to hear some actually success stories, but it not I'll laugh with you at your diaster ones too.

Memorable things about this wedding

1. Father of the Groom crying as he was giving the toast. Actually, all the toasts were pretty sweet.
2. The officiant's dancing was hilarious. At one point there were a couple of dance offs.
3. The flower girl getting down.
4. There were black and white pictures of the groom and bridal party at all the tables. I thought that was very endearing.

This is a really old topic, but something I wanted to talk about. Last year during election time there were two propositions that really struck some controversy. One of them was prop 8. You all know how I feel about that. But I'm also talking about prop 4.

If you don't know. Prop 4 was requiring all parents to be notified if their underage child were to have an abortion. This proposition was not about life or death. It didn't forbid abortion. It was about whether a child that is not legally of age had a right to privacy.

Well regardless, what the real "meaning" was behind it. The prop stirred up some emotions about abortion. So I wanted to talk a little about that first. Something that really upset me was when someone said, "Well, if people get pregnant they should take responsibility for their actions. They are just taking the easy way out and they are just being selfish."

Responsibility can be defined in several ways and can mean different things to different people. Some people may say that by having an abortion they are taking responsibility for their actions. I agree with this statement.

I think people underestimate how much thought that a people actually put into the decision to terminate their pregnancy. Yes, you are thinking about your life and your future. Some people call this selfish, but I think it's actually selfless because what you're actually weighing is what you really can provide for your child. Are you going to be able to give it the life that it needs? Children should be free and not have to worry about the hardships of life. They have many years of that when they turn eighteen. Just trust me when I say that it is not an easy decision.

In fact, weeks before my abortion I was walking around my house talking to mine and of course, I was sad about it, but I don't regret it. I still have lots of things to do and I don't want to resent my kids. When I have kids I want to be able to give it's my fullest attention. There are already enough kids who are born today that are not raised properly.

I feel that there are so many parents out there who have children that are not ready to have children. By "taking responsibility" sometimes you actually lack it when your child needs you the most. I do know lots of young parents whom love their children to death. As you should, but I also see lots of children who are neglected or raised by the tv because their parents are not done partying. Bottom line is they are not done being young. Who can blame them when they are young themselves. They have just turned 21 and have just earned the priviledge to drink, for goodness sakes, they don't even know what they really want to do with their life yet. Not that we ever do, but at least during some point in your life you accept that maybe you'll never figure it out.

 I also see parents who spent the last ten years of their life raising kids and have a mid-life crisis because they have let their life pass them by. I know some people say, "it's never too late," but one day you'll wake up and look at your life and you'll feel like it was too late. My parents are living proof of that.

Lastly, I think that people shouldn't talk about such things that they have not experienced themselves and people should not act like that they don't make mistakes. I find it funny when people act like they don't have sex and are immune to such things. You are not, stuff happens, we shouldn't judge people for that.

The other day I was reading a blog on the prop 4 controversy, in which the writer confessed that since she's had children she is supporting it. Since she's had her child she felt like every child was a blessing and should have their chance at life.

So here's the underlining question, "Do teenagers who have the right to privacy?" Is it any of our business if our children are having sex?

I have to say I'm on the fence. Since they are legally tied to you until they are eighteen, you are legally you are responsible for supporting her and her baby. In that sense, I feel that maybe you should know, but the pro-choice advocate in me says that they should have the right to love and be intimate with another without us looking over their shoulder.

Also, I feel that as we get older we start to forget about what it was like being that age. I had boyfriends at 13, lost my virginity at 17 and started drinking around the same time. Why is it so hard to accept that your kids are doing the exact same things?

I believe that prop 4 is not very much a privacy issue, but more of a control issue. By knowing about their sex life we can someone determine that outcome of what happens. Ultimately the parents get to make the decision of whether they keep their pregnancy. Maybe we can control some things, like curfew and what time they watch tv, but I feel that people should have the right to control their own bodies.

Also, I think that prop 4 is really a test of what your relationship is like with your parents. Meaning, if your child doesn't want to come to you about their trouble, it's for reason! They already know what you're going say. If they trust you, they'll come to you. Prop 4 is only forcing them to tell you. Don't you want your children to come to your on their own?

Those are my thoughts, what about yours?

Lately I've been thinking about the difference between kissing and sex. This subject occurred during conversation with Lance about teenagers making out in the park and then somehow that lead us into another conversation about people who have sex for money and their no "kissing" policy.

A couple of things to think about. How intimate is kissing versus sex to you?

I feel that the majority of people feel that kissing is more intimate. Sex is just sex. Except we forget the mere fact that you are naked and vulnerable and someone is inside of you. Is it because you actually have to like someone to kiss them? But if you're exchanging fluids anyway what's a little tongue action, really?

And how important is kissing to sex in relationships? Couples who are new always have the 15 minute makeout session with the heavy petting. But let's say your in an 8 year relationship like me. The kissing and heavy petting eventually turns into a couple of pecks on the lips and like two rubs to get a hardon. Chop, chop, we know what to do so we don't need to drag it out right? So it makes me wonder why people put such a big emphasis on the kissing factor when people who love eachother don't even do it sometimes.

Like the other day, on our way out the door to a party I told Lance, "Okay, we can do it, but don't kiss me because I just put my make-up on." Haha. Makes you wonder how our intimacy scale differs from those who are not in relationships.

I'm sure that many people want to know, especially people whom know me on a "real" life basis, why the hell I write such fucked up shit or why I air my diaper of crap out for the world to see.

Sure, I could write about my daily life of work, being a wife and such....but lets face it folks. It's boring. If you write blogs about having babies, making dinner, cleaning the house....people are gonna come and switch the nightlight on. Snooze-a-roo. Really......

Not that I write all the time for the mere fact that people are reading, but at least I'm not boring. At least when I talk about my life people listen....and at least my life doesn't just exist between the hours of 9-5. It's a 24/7 thing and I live it that way.

For those of  you that wake up, go to work, make dinner, go to bed, and do that 7 days a week....get a life. I mean it. :)

And boy it was a good one. First, I want to say congratulations to the newlyweds Ryan and Debbie. They were so nice and great fun.

Things I ABSOLUTELY ADORED about this wedding
1. I been to a wedding with a few tears, but never have I been to a wedding where the bride and groom were both crying. See the cute picture below of them whipping their tears. It was really endearing.
2. The venue was fantastic. The grounds were spectacular and the staff was so friendly. I've haven't been to a wedding yet where they staff attended to the vendors working the event as much as they did for the guest of the wedding.
3. Dancing. I know I almost always say this, but I really love it when everyone really gets out on the dance floor. There are tons of weddings where the DJ is a waste, but not this one. There were people signing along, there were people cheering as songs came on, they had a dancing circle....it was so energetic and fun. Definitely a good representation of a new year wedding.
4. The toast. What can I say I love toast that tells a story and makes me laugh!
5. The DJ made the groom do a sexy dance before he could take the garter off the bride. It was super hilarious!