"Each of us the Power to create an Extraordinary life through the Choices we Choose to make."

‘That we are two different people
 Trying to combine our lives
 And at times it’s hard.’
 Lyrics ‘Come with Me Baby’

 Relationships of all kinds are usually a challenge. We want other people to behave and believe more like us. This belief happens more often when we fall in love. The minute love happens we start combining our values/beliefs/life styles with the other persons.

We can be heard saying, “If only he/she would change, everything would be different.” Adjusting to each other is an ongoing challenge.

Right from the getgo I think it is important that we choose a partner whose morals & values are in alignment with ours. After that our unique differences can enhance who we are. We can learn & grow from our partner’s strengths & weaknesses as they can from ours.

The way we choose to resolve our differences either brings us closer together or further apart. Differences are an important part of a relationship. How we deal with them is an even more important part.Using the 3 C’s …..Communication, Compassion, Compromise brings us closer.

When we choose a partner, we need to choose someone we want to experience the journey with. It' s not always about holding hands running into the sunset. It’s about reminding each other of who we are when we forget. It is about working on our common goals for the relationship everyday.

My Mum reminds me of the day I said to George, "We are going to be together forever. We need to reinvent our relationship every day.”
To some that might seem like hard work. To me it is a fun, interesting challenge…always filled with surprises about myself and about George.

Love, Sara.

my voice your choice

 ‘You did the best you could do
I won’t put the blame on you.'
Lyrics ‘Never Walk Away

I remember a song publisher telling me how much he enjoyed my song ,’Never Walk Away’, except he suggested I make one change ‘I won’t put the blame on you’ to ‘I will put the blame on you.’ He said that when you blame others the song sells. As you can see I did not take him up on his suggestion. Putting the blame on someone leaves us powerless to move forward, to learn, to grow.

When I was 11 my Dad not only walked away from his marriage, he walked away from me. I was devastated. I could not figure out what was wrong with me. My Dad & I had always had a wonderful relationship.

I was clearing out a box the other day and came across a letter I wrote to my Dad when I was 13.

‘Dear Dad,
I just wanted to say that I love you and I always will. I wanted to ask you why you left, you just walked out and that really hurt me because I love you and wanted you to stay. If you would have told me why you left that would have made me feel better, even if I didn’t agree! I know you thought you were doing me a favour, but you weren’t. Maybe we can talk sometime!
Love you always, Sara!’

I chose not to send the letter. I was too afraid he would be angry and not see me at all.

One day I asked my Dad why he left without saying why. He replied, “I thought it would be better that way.”

Now that I am older I understand he did what he thought would hurt me less. This does not mean that I agree with it.I had a choice…to blame him or to accept him. I decided if I kept blaming him I would not achieve what I ultimately wanted….a relationship with my Dad.

Over time I chose to accept him for who he was and for who he wasn’t. I focused on what I enjoyed about my Dad, which was his humour and laughter. We may not have been able to have an indepth conversation, but we did have many laughs together.

In making the choice I did, I was able to feel loving toward my Dad and myself. I was able to break free from the ‘blame game’. I realized that every one makes different choices… whether I agree with it or not.

I learned that it is a waste of my precious time to blame and to try to change anyone. We omly have the ability to change ourselves and our perceptions.

My Dad and I created a loving relationship, not because he changed but because I did.

I stopped expecting my Dad to be the way I thought he should be. I chose not to take it personally when my Dad did or said something that I didn’t like.

I chose to see my Dad as a teacher, teaching me how I wanted to be and how I didn’t want to be.

This is not how I wanted to learn the lesson of ‘not blaming’. Too bad we don’t get to choose the circumstance, but we do get to choose what we learn and how we move through it.

I’m glad I saw the gift out of this situation.

Thank you, Dad!
I love you and miss you everyday!

Love Sara,
‘Let’s Start a Love Crusade’
my voice your choice

What if you learned to love yourself? lyrics 'Pretty Girl'

There is so much pressure today to look a certain way, to be a certain way. We are constantly at war with ourselves. We want to look like her/him. We want to be like her/him. If only we did, then life would be great.

We want to be confident, to love ourselves, to enjoy our life, to find that dream job or relationship...but how? It is not that we lack the motivation to achieve theses things, it is that often we lack the  tools to accomplish all these wants. Without the knowledge of these simple, valuable tools, it is easy to allow our determination to turn into frustration. Most times the knowledge of how to love ourselves and pursue our dreams eludes us.Wouldn’t it be nice to clean up the clutter in our brains, to say goodbye to the overbearing chatter in our mind telling us we are not lovable, we can’t achieve our dreams? 

I struggled for a long time learning to love myself. I wanted thinner legs, bigger boobs, to be less sensitive. I struggled with people saying things behind my back. I was constantly judging myself inside & out. I could hardly enjoy my day with all these negative thoughts going through my head. I was missing out on the things that were really important…like  family/friends who loved me unconditionally. Even when I got compliments I could not hear them because I was so consumed with my own loveless thoughts.

One day when I was complaining about my legs my Mum said, “ Cut them off then you won’t have to look at them anymore.”

“Cut my legs off. That’s ridiculous. I won’t be able to walk, run, wear my favorite boots, paint my toes.”

Then it hit me…I didn’t love myself. I wasn’t loving or grateful for what I had. I did not want to live in that dark place of self rejection. Slowly I began to realize that I was wasting so much time and energy criticizing myself that I was missing out on so much beauty in the world…mine included.

One of the gifts from loving myself was relying on me more. I slowly stopped worrying what others thought of me. I did not make decisions based on what others thought or react to other people’s opinions. It still bothers me but only for a short time because I know who I am and what I stand for.

The time has come for us to love, accept, and appreciate  who we are and to use our uniqueness to make a difference in our own life and the lives of others.

Using music and speech I will provide the hows by sharing my experiences and the tools that have helped me on my journey.

Each week I will use a lyric from one of my songs that will move us forward in loving ourselves and others unconditionally.

'Let's Start a Love Crusade'

Are you up for the challenge?

Love Sara

This has been a passionate journey for me and very rewarding as well.  I feel very blessed to be in a position to make a difference.  Here’s some feedback I recently received which illustrates the power of positive music.

“I had to drop you a line to let you know all the good you are doing through your music...
I was working on a difficult case and my job is to work with the victim as quickly as possible to help them deal with what has happened.
I will talk to them, getting them to focus on a happy thought, something they can think of that will help them to calm and relax themselves as best they can!
I got this person last night and she told me what she focused on and it was you! This was a turning point for this person and I am so grateful to you for what you do.
You write and sing to give hope, encouragement to someone so they can respect themselves! Your words, your presence gives this hope!”  Kim

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