Gender: Female
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 40
Sign: Pisces
State: California
Country: US
Signup Date: 5/5/2008
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Tuesday, May 12, 2009
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Current mood:  curious
i have slowly come to realize that i actually have PTSD from past living situations that makes it difficult for me to deal with people being aggro in my face in my home. recently someone i thought of as a friend for many years dumped a bunch of weird shit on me that i have yet to decipher, and i noticed afterwards i was shaking for about three hours. i remained calm, but i was nerve-wracked. then a few days later, after a wall of silence, he came into my room and started in on me, and i was shaking and panicky again. i have had this happen in situations where i am approached aggressively, but not in situations where i am approached calmly and rationally. i also had severe nightmares when i was in a living situation that reminded me of west oakland house...not the crack or any of that, just, someone in the house up till 5 AM making tiny noises that took me back to west oakland because i was always on the alert there for the crackhead felix to sneak in, set the house on fire, or steal all of our copper from under the house (i would get woken up at 4 AM to see him climbing under the house). i did not have any of these effects before west oakland, but i do feel this is a culmination of all of the fucked up shit i have had to deal with in my life regarding living with people who are not healthy or emotionally safe to be around, beginning with my mother. i never want to have to pull a knife on someone in my house again.
sometimes the way a person reacts or behaves is a reflection not of how
bad they are as a person, but an underlying physical imbalance they may
not even be aware of. realizing that i do have PTSD and being able to understand my responses from that context makes a big difference to me in regard to being able to manage this. instead of just freaking out and thinking i'm an asshole, i understand now that i can do something about it. i don't lose my shit, mind you, i just shake hard and get panicked inside. i'm a pretty sensitive person when it comes to interpersonal relationships, i am probably overempathetic because i tend to see not other people's fucked up behavior but how unhappy they must be to behave the way they do. i'm working on finding my boundaries with that, and it's much better than it ever was before.
i need to be in a stable living space: right now, it's somewhat stable, and much much better than it has been. i can't live with people who are emotionally unstable or have communication issues. i have worked very hard to be balanced and neutral to this, but i can't have it in my home. as a parent, especially, i get particularly upset when other people's petty BS effects the well being of my child. my first priority is always to take care of my son and provide him with stability.
i am grateful for the opportunity to be where i am, to be creative and offer something to the situation which i feel is healthy. it's a good balance, a punk house without the crazy stupid shit. living with straights just doesn't work for me. i need this to work because i can't do the whole living with strangers and dealing with random shit anymore.
gotta get the kid to school and start busting ass on home projects.
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Thursday, April 02, 2009
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Current mood:  thoughtful
Category: Life
i had a dream a week and a half ago that i was moving from this place, in with my mom. in dreamspeak, for me, my home of origin is more about my REAL, punk rock family. i haven't spoken to my mom in over eight years, after she flipped out on me. i woke up knowing something was going down soon; it was one of those precog dreams, i could tell. so i waited for the other shoe to drop, waited for what i knew was coming but wanted to ignore, because i have been so happy where i am.
two days later, my good friend dave dictor (MDC) called me up and asked me to move into his house. one of his housemates was leaving, and the house would once again be dave's. he was worried about his cats, as he is currently on tour and leaving right after for two months in hawaii and then another two months on tour after that. i said i was really good where i was at, and we arranged for another friend (eddie, from condemned to death/ice 9) to housesit.
then my bitch roommate, the one who 'doesn't want to deal with it,' gets an email from our landlord saying he wants us all to move when she moved out. she had given her 30 day notice at the beginning of march. so, i call dave back and say yes, we do need to land, but not short term, we want to stay at the house till he finds the warehouse he wants to create and move as a unit. dave says fine.
so, we are moving to dave's place in may. and i am thinking about all of the shit i have gone through as a single punk rock mom, how hard it has been but also how rewarding...how i would never compromise who i am for where i am or anything else.
anyhoo, i've been kinda stressed, thinking about shit, and i hope to write an article about punk rock parenting in the near future. i need to process the things that come up for me when this kind of shit happens, and i thank dave from the bottom of my heart for being such a good friend for so long.
in the meantime, i am processing some shit...but nothing like i used to go through. perhaps more on that later. let's just say for now, it involves love, sex, romance, being a road dog, punk rock and some stiff little fingers.
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Tuesday, February 17, 2009
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Current mood:  thoughtful
Category: Parties and Nightlife
i've been reflecting on being almost forty and getting to know a new scene...for the most part, everyone is a LOT younger than me; i'm totally fine with that. however, it is interesting to observe certain behaviors, from across that age gap. because i look so much younger than i am, i often have younger people approach me and assume i am maybe a bit older than them. i feel the difference in so many ways. i can't always relate because i am not trying to get laid, trying to prove myself, trying to be in the inner circle...yes, regardless of how enlightened your cause may be, these are universal behaviors. i recognize them not because i am above them, but because i have been through them. the difficult part is being impartial with people who don't know what it is like to see from the other side of that; so many misunderstandings and projections happen as a result, though to be fair this is by no means true of all people. oddly, i love to watch people go through their stuff. i love the crazy and the heartbreak and the fun. MY GOD i think i am turning into maude....(harold and maude)
i am so grateful i got to be a part of the early punk rock scene. i think my major culture shock in regards to age differences is what people listen to now. i mean, the catty twenty-something girl stuff, the manly testosterone pumping, the signifying monkeys...that's par for the barely legal course; but techno? rivet? that shit is so soulless it hurts. all day i have been thinking about punk rock, how much i love it and how glad i am for it. how i need to amp up what i do for punk rock so i find the other people out there like me, hiding out, and somehow make those connections.
now, i laugh a lot more. i care what you think a lot less. i do what i do for the love of being free, without infringing on someone else's right to be free and make their own mistakes; and we all make mistakes, there's no shame in that. but if you do it right, as you get older, if you are fortunate to have screwed up enough AND learned from it, you do it less and less. life gains perspective and laughs hard. the love of art, anarchy and autonomy just grows deeper.
i'll be forty on st. patty's day!!!
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Thursday, January 22, 2009
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Current mood:  betrayed
Category: Music
i only have 8% free space left on my computer.
SHIT!!!!!!!!! this computer only has 37 gigs of hard drive space.
this bites. i have to figure something out quick.
i desperately need either an external harddrive or to have more hard drive installed in this laptop. or buy an 80 gig ipod. i think my car stereo has an ipod outlet, if so, i may go with that.
i really like having it all in my comp though. my main concern is how it will effect radio shows, since i play everything through my computer, i do not use cd's or lp's or anything.
FYI if there were ever any doubt i do accept charity. or hot leads on where to get cheap ipods, ex-HD's, or HD upgrades for an IBM thinkpad laptop.
 | Currently listening: Grupo Sexo By Manic Hispanic Release date: 2005-07-12 |
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Tuesday, December 16, 2008
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Current mood:  contemplative
Category: Dreams and the Supernatural
is there something to learn from creative blockages? is it something asking to be healed? as children we are incredibly creative beings, and it is our childhood that is the root of all of our significant interactions with ourselves and others.
today i have been doing all of this soul searching over creativity, childhood, and healing the artist within. this is what i came up with this morning:
"we can only find our balance by revisiting the paths of our childhood, connecting again with the things that inspired and enraptured us as well as the things that tore us away from those moments of clarity. you don't have to have had a perfect, or even good, childhood to remember the things your soul yearned for, the creative expressions that felt the most natural, the exuberance of imagination and fantasy.
some people have the gift of being able to tap into that and stay with their muse most if not all of their lives, becoming amazing artists of one capability or many. some struggle to quiet the critical voices of parents, friends, peers, and find a way to express themselves in even the smallest ways.
i have found as time goes on in my life and i look back at what i loved to do as a child, though i may not have seen the pattern during the between years, my soul's primary desires are apparent in what capabilites i have developed, while the things that didn't fit with that primary drive never got off the ground. it is these things which do not fit that so many feel forced to employ for their fundamental survival, crushing and shushing that inner creative voice; the crappy jobs in cubicles, the poor relationships with people who have no desire to grow. i believe this is the source of psychosis. we all crave that source on some level, and the further we deviate, the more we compromise, the crazier we feel.
i feel like i have been struggling to tap back into my creative drive and not allow myself to be distracted by all of the other things i feel need doing, including other creative projects. there are so many things i want to do, so many ideas, and i need to start one at a time. i can't read every book on my shelf all the way through simultaneously, or make a quilt and a dress and a afghan at the same time. but how much of this is a deeper block, that needs resolution on a deeper level? it's almost another form of psychosis. shit, maybe it's all psychosis. that would be a relief!
for me, those voices of criticism and abuse from childhood seem to really play a role in this block's existence, always thinking 'why bother? it will not be as good as *that person's*' or, 'it has been done and done better.' like all of those times i 'fucked up,' things that didn't have to be an ugly scene if my parent had been a patient or compassionate person, things i was hit for daily when i was a kid, are going to somehow come back if i fuck up again, so i should just have ideas and think about what i WANT to do but never do them, playing it safe, cause what is in my head can't be attacked if it never comes out.
creativity is a healing process. the more i let myself fuck up and get it wrong and do it over and actually have fun with that, the more i will return to my souls' original blueprint for this time around. i'm ready!!! really! so sick of this other shit! i want all of these ideas to come out of my frackin' brain and be in the world for better or for worse."
i realized after writing this that because i tend to sabatoge myself with all of these ideas and no place to start, i should start by working on the little things: mending hems, adding trims, fixing the bits. once all of the mending is done, i won't have *that* excuse anymore.
then i can move onto finishing the projects i started over varying degrees of time, or just get rid of them.
THEN, i can work on the new ideas and not be distracted by all the little things pulling my energy in different directions.
does that make sense?
i don't know if this will work, but, it's worth a try, right?
how do you process and break through blockages? what are some of the issues you might have that you find hinder your ability to move forward with your dreams, however large or small they may be?
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Sunday, December 07, 2008
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Current mood:  catalyzed
Category: Pets and Animals
this past month has been an exercise in folly...the housemates that magnus chose, sight unseen off of craigslist...well, they've left much to be desired. here's a blip from my livejournal to give you an idea of what i am up against:
"this morning gary shows up with a dryer...hallelujah! and i open the back door for him and all that goodness. J comes out of his room while i am explaining to gary (who knows about this sort of thing) that one of our burners on our electric stove is too hot, it actually melted the handle off my steel cooking pot (just melted the solder right off!) and had little bursts of flame coming from it though there was nothing there for it to burn...and though it had not worked when we moved in, suddenly it works now, which i do not see as a GOOD thing, considering this indicates a short in the burner. so gary looks at the coils and says the ones on that burner are smaller than the others and it is definitely a fire hazard, and to just take the knob off so people don't use it.
J decides to pipe in that HE used it last night and it was FINE, in a very self-righteous tone of voice. yes, he did use it last night...i had devlin check a couple times to be sure it was not catching on fire or shorting out, because J was not keeping an eye on it. he had a giant pot on it full of about a gallon of water (i am not exaggerating about any of this!) to heat two packages of top ramen, cause apparently that is what vegans eat when they are not eating animal products, and was not in the kitchen the entire time his giant pot of water was heating up.
so now in his infinite stupidity, i am certain that J is going to switch knobs because he HAS TO be right at all times about everything, and i am going to worry about the damned house burning down. also, i'm power hungry because i am keeping the knob in my handbag.
so long as the house doesn't burn down, this shit is funny as hell."
in other news, life has been FABULOUS, getting tons of shit done, running around and having fun, loving portland like nobody's business. it's sunny and cold and GORGEOUS. my online tarot reading says everything is great and i'm going to fall in love. uh. yeeeeah.
i'm off of caffeine now, i have one cup of bagged green tea in the AM and that's it, though i did splurge on two voodoo doughnuts this AM (the blood-filled voodoo doughnut, and the portland creme) before we went to get devlin his yule presents, 'munchkin-fu' and 'munchkin-fu 2.'
getting acupuncture at ouside in again, drinking vats of wretched tasting herbal tea. bleh. but yay.
my social worker is DOMB.
 | Currently listening: Pure Mania By The Vibrators Release date: 1990-12-29 |
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Saturday, October 11, 2008
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Current mood:  bored
a) think i am hot b) think i am cool c) aren't sure but are fairly certain i am at least tepid
....and want me to know it:
let's do something fun!
http://rhythmix.org/frightnight.html
or make a suggestion. i am farkin' BORED.
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Friday, July 25, 2008
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Current mood:  bitchy
the crackhead within
my son and i moved from an idyllic, isolated hell in mendocino county to west oakland at the beginning of june. the place was a fucking dump, but Sassy McWingnut, the girl in charge of the house, i intuitively felt to be a savvy little broad; little, but tough as nails and a fuck of a lot smarter. The place needed a lot of work, with eight untrained puppies shitting hither and yon, creating a mighty assault upon the schnoz while a bevvy of gangbangers made the scene as Sassy tattooed their homies; but experience has taught me that environments can change, and what's really important is the people you choose to associate with. i knew Sassy was someone i could trust and had enough life experience to be wise at her young age. i made a rare leap of faith in another human being when i handed over my $400 rent after she told me she wanted to fix the house and we would work on it together. we drank a few cobras and sealed the deal.
Our first night, we all went to a show at a nearby punk house. while we were out, our house was robbed by a local hood rat; our cardboard doors were kicked in and my laptop with all of my music for my radio show and two digital cameras were stolen from our rooms. Sassy proved her mettle by shutting down the tattoo operation for several days and setting boundaries on who could and could not be in the house while she was working. security measures were discussed fervently. parental units were enlisted.
the second day we were at wingnut manor, the cops woke us up at 7 AM looking for a refugee pitbull, Sancho, who had been involved in an unpleasant dog fight incident which involved Sassy having her hand ripped open by a passing canine. we kept Sancho down-low while we found another home for him, and Sassy did her best to continue making the rent with her tattooing hand in shreds.
we began cleaning in earnest, and that meant not just the dog shit but the dead weight useless motherfuckers who were sponging as well; Sassy's ex, Clit, a couple of oogles, and the guy i fucked on the second night i moved in who would not leave afterwards despite my open hostility (which only seemed to make him want to stick around more). we meted out the puppies to worthy persons, and only two were stolen. the house began to resemble....a home.
When July rolled in, an absentee roommate (Felix, the boyfriend of the tweeker chick who lived in the master bedroom and had massive empetigo sores all over her face from tweeking on her scabs) was released from jail and returned to wingnut manor. Sassy had appraised me of his character, and i knew Felix was a potential problem: aggressive, thieving, and cracked out. i was assured that he was detoxed and knew he could only stay on if he did not revert, like a reptile, to his baser instincts. by the afternoon of the first day of his return, i could hear him screaming at his girlfriend from their room that he had not hit her and she was a lying piece of shit, among other extremely abusive epithets. having dealt with similar situations in the past, i refused to assist him in any of the scandalous missions he attempted to enlist me and my car in for the renewal of his crack addiction. So began the hate affair of Julie Generic and the Wingnut Manor crackhead known as Felix.
don't get me wrong: i know a lot of good people who happen to do drugs; and while i do not condone it, so long as they can handle their shit, it ain't no thang. however, when the drug abuse entails stealing, lying, raging, and jeopardizing the well being and stability of others, well, that shit just don't fly. Felix kept promising to pay the rent but never did, instead lying to people so he could borrow money from them. picture your run of the mill bottom-feeder con: that would be Felix. by no will of our own we paid his rent, bought him drugs, and lived with his threats and abuse while he stole and ate our food.
finally, july 18th, and excepting a few sundry items in the living room, Felix is out of the house. Sassy gets her master bedroom so she can do her tattoo work in a private space, and we are locked down for the night. the windows in Felixs' old room were jimmied so that they would not lock but i jammed some broom handles in them and they aren't going anywhere. nicki sicki moves in on the first. mischief managed? only time will tell
update 7/25:
felix still lurks and spanges but outside the fence now since i pulled a knife on him a few days ago. he threw a wheelchair at me and i kicked it back at him and he was ASS OUT for good. or else.
joe dread is ass-out as well for being a creepy fucking sexual predator kind of guy. fuck him.
visit with avalon was great. pics later.
i hope the man-whores move out so vaughn can take their room and i can get into house of voodoo free for life, haha!!!
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Saturday, June 07, 2008
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Current mood:  energetic
so we moved in with a bunch of younger punks, kinda nutty but also way cool. i have off-street parking, rent is cheap, roomies are good. 2.5 blocks from west oakland bart. right now i am at the treehouse, packing the last of our shit and getting out of here for good...i hope...but i might have to make one more trip.
so my apologies to anyone i haven't called back or chatted with online yet, i know it's been days, mark, and you're pining away but we're fine and we'll have internet at our new place sometime this month. also my phone 'roams' in the bay area so tomorrow or monday i will hook up my metro pcs phone.
the new housemates are really sweet, one girl does tattooing out of the kitchen and we need to set her up better for that. we get a lot of people from the hood in and out because of that, so i have a lock and shit. there are also like 8 puppies and they stink to high hell but that is getting fixed too. everyone is really into fixing shit up and making it cozy now that the ginormous onslaught of crusty travellers has trashed it and moved on. i see back yard tents in the future.
for some crazy reason i want to paint my room slate blue with lime trim. !!!! how wild am i?
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Saturday, May 31, 2008
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Current mood:  adventurous
we're staying put in the treehouse till end of june, when i will have at least $2000 to move with. still looking in the bay area, and if we do not find something by july we have diane's place to stay at until we do. leap of faith kinda situation at this point. :) i'm good at that.
i'm so excited about movingout of this place...it's been a great place but SO ISOLATED i can't take anymore. talking to eddie and mia has been helpful.
in other news, i keep dreaming about jak's team friends...first KO, then eric, and others inthere i do not know very well. hanging out with nosmo has tainted me.
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