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City: Bay Area
Country: US
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Wednesday, December 17, 2008
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Current mood:  relieved
Category: Music
 After a year and a bit of trying to figure out what I was going to do with R-Three, I've come to realization that it's time to call it a day. Or, rather, make it official that whatever alchemy that was the R-Three music experience for me, ended some time in 2007 when my friendship with R-Three co-founder Brad Steffen came to an unexpected and seemingly unresolvable conclusion. Even though Brad was more of a recurring guest star in the R-Three project since about 1998, he was the reason it ever came into being and I always felt that in some way I was keeping it going so he'd have something to come back to, should he ever find both the time and inclination waiting for him in the same place.
Of course, it was much more than our friendship going sideways that's brought this about. A brief list of for instances include: in early 2007 I developed eczema in my finger tips, which prevents me from playing more than a little, still to this day. And there were problems with digital distribution, marketing with zero budget and a host of other music biz things that were getting me down, not to mention my friendships with Doug, Peggy and Lee all coming to an end. And, weirdly, Britt's death seemed to take it's toll too. Britt, who was such an enthusiastic dreamer, who chose to believe the best of everyone. Not only could I not play the music, I couldn't really remember why I'd ever wanted to. I felt lost without it but unable to go on with it alone.
Enter hiatus mode. I rediscovered my love of photography and am having a great time doing it. In a way, it's more rewarding than the music and, in some ways, far less satisfying. But I enjoy it and others seem to as well. I can do it with no clear goal, for the sake of making art and, as a plus, it doesn't cause my finger tips to split open. And because R-Three was so much about the friendships and the idealism we all shared, it would feel wrong to try and keep it going. I'm finally at a place where I'm at peace with the idea that R-Three was about a place and a time in my life that has come and gone. Not only am I okay with this, it's actually liberating to be able to put a cap on this part of my life, to appreciate the experiences I had, the friendships that made it what it was and the music that came from it all; and move on with a clear conscience.
I still think about music every day but I'm at a point where I believe that I'll make more again and that when I do, I'll do it for the joy of making music and not for the dream of "making it" in the music business or some misguided need for validation. If I ever release anything again, it will be under my own name or maybe something new with a new group of people. Who knows? I certainly don't and, for the first time maybe ever, that's okay.
I'll keep the Myspace profile up and the songs available on iTunes until someone takes them down. I'm proud of what we did, but also clear that what made the music what it was, wasn't just me and the relentless drive of my own hubris; it was, as I said before, alchemical. It had it's time and that time has gone.
Thank you, all of you who listened to the music and believed, even just a little, in it or in me.
Best always, Rhett R-Three
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Wednesday, December 10, 2008
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Current mood:  satisfied
Rhett just made this:Monochromatic Phot... By Rhett Redelings Check it out
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Wednesday, November 05, 2008
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Current mood:Elated
I have never been so overwhelmed by a Presidential election or so proud, surprised and optimistic about being a citizen of the United States of America. After the last 8 years, I didn't know if we had it in us but we did. Thank you, all of you.
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Monday, September 22, 2008
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Current mood:  confused
I got this from a friend of ours and I felt it was worth sharing. Please feel free to forward it to everyone you've ever met.
Thank you, R
I'm a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight....
If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you're 'exotic, different.'
Grow up in Alaska eating moose burgers,-- a quintessential American story.
If your name is Barack you're a radical, unpatriotic Muslim. -- Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you're a maverick.
Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you're well grounded.
If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate's Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran's Affairs committees, you don't have any real leadership experience.
If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you're qualified to become the country's second highest ranking executive.
If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 daughters, all within Protestant churches, you're not a real Christian.
If, however, you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you're a Christian.
If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.
If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state's school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you're very responsible.
If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family's values don't represent America's.
If your husband is nicknamed 'First Dude', with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn't register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.
OK, much clearer now.
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Friday, November 30, 2007
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Current mood:  scared
Category: News and Politics
In the long, hot autumn of 2000, the world was shocked by the contempt for democracy shown by the Republican Party. They knew their man had lost the popular vote to Al Gore by half a million votes. They knew the majority of voters in Florida itself had pulled a lever for Gore. But they fought - amid the confetti of hanging chads - to stop the state's votes being counted, and to ensure that the Supreme Court imposed George W Bush. Today, that contempt for democracy is on display again. In California right now, there is a naked, out-in-the-open ploy to rig the 2008 presidential election - and it may succeed. To understand how this works, we have to roam back to the 18th century, and learn about the odd anachronistic leftover they are trying to use now to thwart democracy. Back then, America's founding fathers decided not to introduce a system where US presidents would be directly elected, with the votes totted up in Washington, DC, and the winner being the man with the most. Instead, they chose a complex system called the electoral college. This stipulates that American citizens do not vote directly for a president. Instead, they technically vote for 539 state-wide "electors", who then gather six weeks after the election to pick the President. The founders designed it this way for a number of reasons. They wanted the smaller states to have a say, so they gave them a disproportionate number of electoral college votes. They also believed that, in a country that was largely isolated and illiterate, voters wouldn't know much about out-of-state figures, and would be better off picking intermediaries who could exercise discretion on their behalf. It is the worst part of the Constitution, producing perverse results again and again. On four occasions there has been such a big gap between the national popular vote and the state-by-state electoral college votes that the guy with fewer real supporters in the country got to be President. It happened in 1824, 1876, 1888 and - most tragically for the world - in 2000. Today, the Republicans are trying to exploit the discontent with the electoral college among Americans in a way that would rig the system in their favour. At the moment, every state apart from Maine and Nebraska hands out its electoral college votes according to a winner-takes-all system. This means that if 51 per cent of people in California vote Democrat, the Democrats get 100 per cent of California's electoral votes; if 51 per cent of people in Texas vote Republican, the Republicans get 100 per cent of Texas' electoral votes. The Republicans want to change this - but in only one Democrat-leaning state. California has gone Democratic in presidential elections since 1988, and winning the sunny state is essential if the Democrats are going to retake the White House. So the Republicans have now begun a plan to break up California's electoral college votes - and award a huge chunk of them to their side. They have launched a campaign called California Counts, and they are trying to secure a state-wide referendum in June to implement their plan. They want California's electoral votes to be divvied up not on a big state-wide basis, but according to the much smaller congressional districts. The practical result? Instead of all the state's 54 electoral college votes going to the Democratic candidate, around 20 would go to the Republicans. If this was being done in every state, everywhere, it would be an improvement. California's forgotten Republicans would be represented in the electoral college, and so would Texas's forgotten Democrats. But by doing it in California alone, they are simply giving the Republicans a massive electoral gift. Suddenly it would be extremely hard for a Democrat ever to win the White House; they would need a landslide victory everywhere else to counter this vast structural imbalance against them on the West Coast. You can see this partisan agenda if you look at who is behind the campaign. It was set up by Charles "Chep" Hurth III - a Republican donor to Rudy Giuliani. It was drafted by Tom Hiltachk - a Republican attorney. Its signature drive was co-ordinated by Kevin Eckery - a Republican consultant. Its funds were provided by Paul Singer - a Republican billionaire and one of Rudy Giuliani's biggest donors. Its chief fundraiser is Anne Dunsmore - who went there straight from her post as national deputy campaign manager for Giuliani. Seeing a pattern yet? Indeed, this bias is so blatant that the state Republican Party itself has now chipped in $80,000 (£39,000) to the campaign. Of course, the campaign is not marketing itself as a Republican rigging escapade. They insist: "This initiative is not about helping any one party or candidate. It simply ensures that every vote cast in our state counts in the electoral college." But the best they can do to provide "balance" is to point to the fact that one of the men who has given them $20,000, Edward Allred, once also gave $2,300 to the campaign of Democratic contender Bill Richardson. Wow. There is a real risk they could succeed. They are close to getting the number of signatures they need to secure a referendum in June. (The Los Angeles Downtown News claims to have witnessed signature-gatherers offering homeless people food in return for signing.) The turnout for the referendum is expected to be extremely low, because the state-wide primaries usually held on that date have been moved forward to February. So the Republicans only have to activate a small part of their base to push it through - and they have the cash to do it. California dreamin', on such a winter's day. The Democrats in response shouldn't be trapped in the conservative position of defending the indefensible electoral college. There is an alternative way to reform it - one that would be fair to all parties. It used to be thought it was all but impossible to ditch the system because it would require a constitutional amendment, which needs the approval of two-thirds of both houses of Congress, plus three-quarters of state legislatures. But then constitutional scholars realised there was another way. The Constitution only requires that each state must "appoint" its presidential electors "in such manner as the legislature thereof may direct". That leaves a glimmer of hope. The Campaign for a National Popular Vote is campaigning for every state simply to commit its delegates to the electoral college to vote 100 per cent for the candidate who wins the popular vote. This would render the electoral college a forgotten technicality. It's very revealing that when the California state senate voted to introduce this genuinely democratic system last year, the Republican governor Arnold Schwarzenegger vetoed it, with the support of his party. It shows that the Republicans' rhetoric of wanting "fairness" and "equal representation" in California is a honeyed lie. They want a system that retains their power, even if it subverts the will of the people. It risks becoming Florida Part II: just when you thought it was safe to go back into the polling booth… Fasten your seatbelts - it's going to be a bumpy election.
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Thursday, July 26, 2007
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Current mood:  optimistic
Category: Music
I'm a few days late getting this out but Jason, the man behind the Mental Nomad Podcast invited me to participate in Episode 42 of said podcast which is a birthday tribute to my good pal and one of my favorite musicians ever, Mr. Gustav Bertha. Along with a couple of beautiful songs by Gustav, there's a beautiful song recorded in his honor and a song he and I worked on together last year that you really can't hear anywhere else but on the Mental Nomad Podcast. If you're interested (and why wouldn't you be interested in some excellent Gustav Bertha?), go check it out at on the Mental Nomad blog at: http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=165126984&blogID=291207568
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Monday, June 18, 2007
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Current mood:  creative
Category: Life
Taking a break ..To those of you who have noticed a resounding quietness coming from me, thank you! It's nice to be missed! And to those of you who keep asking about the new album, showing your support and your enthusiasm, thank you too. What have I been up to? Taking lots and lots of pictures, that's what.  I've rediscovered my love of photography and found that it's deepened into a full blown artistic sensibility. I am on fire creatively only it seems to be taking the form of photography, rather than music (more on that in a minute).  I think in photographs, I dream in photography. Instead of visions of Fenders dancing in my head, I see Lomos and Leicas, Canons, Mamiyas and Nikons, oh my! I see Hasselblad and Bronica, Voigtlander and Holga. I record the world in pixels and film, 35mm and 120mm.  Day and night I scan negatives. I upload them to the internet and am rewarded by supportive words from my new photographic peers.  I feel excited, rejuvenated and, yes, reborn! "But what about the music, man???"  Yeah. The music. Yeah. See, I could tell you about the music… but I'm not sure if that would really tell you about the music. You know? Yeah… Okay, here's what's up with R-Three music: About 3 months ago I was in a kind of dark place and, if you remember, I recorded myself playing a version of the Beatles' "Help!" and putting it up as a video.  What most people don't know is that two days later, the fingertips of my left (fretting) hand spontaneously split open as a reaction to the playing. This was like getting four really severe paper cuts across all my fingers at once. I tried bandages and Neosporin but nothing helped. Just when I thought they'd healed, I'd do some typing at work and just that gentle pressure would be enough to cause them to burst open again. I went to a dermatologist and he told me it was Eczema and that Eczema on the finger tips is very hard to treat. So I've been taking medicine and trying a little bass and guitar here and there but whenever I play enough to really get an idea down, 'pop!' go my finger tips. It is, needless to say, very painful. The doctor suggested sealing the wounds up with Crazy Glue (no joke!) because once they split, that's really the only thing for it. Add to that, it's been a brutal year, following a couple of equally brutal years. Due to a series of false starts, physical / emotional setbacks, personal losses that are finally taking their toll and R-Three music becoming more about me sitting alone in a windowless room (everyone I love lives somewhere else) with a computer and instruments than about collaboration and musical exploration with friends and artists I admire, the music just isn't happening. I still play with the instruments a little (careful not to over do it), I write the odd lyrical bit and I still sing. But when faced with writing, recording and performing everything by myself and carefully planning every tiny step along the way if only my body will let me do it… well, it's easier to go outside into the beautiful day with my beautiful wife and take pictures than slave away in the little cave I call my studio. My day job is all about planning and managing and then, because I have no staff, doing it all myself. It's a grind. And somehow I've let R-Three music becoming a mini version of that instead of it being the escape. And it's not just the songs. There are distribution tangles to untangle, there are tax questions, budget for a new album, promotion, hardware and software to maintain, etc… And I'm honestly wondering: if I haven't had any real glimmer of success at this point, who am I really kidding here? It's the suits that make the choices, pick the talent and move the wheels. We artists are just the fuel for the big machine. And I've never written music that's particularly suited to pleasing suits or working in a machine. That's hubris talking. It's certainly likely that I'm not nearly good enough and I can't see that because I'm too close to it all. The point is, no one succeeds at anything alone and right now, with R-Three music, I am alone. Some of my fellow collaborators have left on their own, some I've had to forceably remove from my life, some just drifted or moved away and others have died. I had high hopes I'd finish the second half of what I've been calling "album #2" by now but I'm frankly overwhelmed by the task I set out for myself and I don't have the resources to really do it the way I'd intended. And I'm certainly not going to crank out something half baked. I'm not sure if I should just make the songs available for download via the SNOCAP store on my Myspace page or wait to see if my muse returns and complete the album in the right frame of mind. Thoughts? Opinions? "Uh, weren't you working on a video project? I think I sent you some pictures…." If you recall, a few months ago I said I was working on my first video project (think YouTube not MTV) for a song called 'Love is Stranger than Fiction' and I asked all of you for pictures of your loved ones. A lot of you sent me wonderful snaps of you and yours. Unfortunately not enough of you sent me snaps of you and yours for me to complete the video the way I'd hoped to; which meant that I'd need to make up the difference by taking more pictures myself. That's okay, only it's taken me far longer than I thought I would to do it and now I'm wondering if there's any real point in going through with it. So, if you sent me pictures and you'd like me to send them back or delete them or something, let me know. I'm not sure if I'll finish the video at this point but if I may, I'd like to hang on to the photos, if not for this project than perhaps another one. If that's not okay, just let me know. I'm grateful to every one of you who showed me some kind of support in doing this music thing.  I'm sorry if this is a bit of a let down. I'm not going away. I'll still be here, using the website and MySpace profile to stay in touch. And I'll still be creating; it just may not be music that I'm making.  Basically, I need a break and I need to out from under this mountain of expectation I've set up for myself and it seems better to write this and be honest about it than to stay silent and keep saying I'm working on new music when I'm really not. I'm not making new music and I don't know when I will again. Or if I will again. I do know that I'm a creative person and I think of myself as an artist. Right now that takes a visual form. Maybe it'll swing back. I'm not stupid enough to say "I'm finished" (that doesn't count, it was in quotes!) or "never again" but I am stupid enough to say I'm taking an extended break. This profile will still be here and I'll still be behind it but there won't likely be any new music for awhile if ever. If you want to keep up with what I'm up to, come see me here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/rhettredelings/. We'll get together again in some crazy way. Maybe make a movie. Black and white... Thanks again, every one of you. Best, Rhett Redelings R-Three 
 | Currently listening: Time on Earth By Crowded House Release date: 10 July, 2007 |
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Wednesday, April 18, 2007
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Current mood:  indescribable
Category: Music
Hey everyone,
The new album is far from being done but I wanted to share a song from the new batch that I'm pretty pleased with as kind of a preview of what's to come.
The song is called 'Overcome'. Please come by, give a listen and consider ranking and commenting it.
Only a very select few have heard it so far, so this is an unveiling of sorts. I can't wait for you to hear it!
Thanks, Rhett Redelings R-Three
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Monday, April 16, 2007
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Current mood:  accomplished
Category: Art and Photography
Just a quick note to say there are a bunch of new pictures up on my photostream in case you're interested and you haven't been paying close attention to the photosensitive materials I've been exposing to the light. Click the picture below to go to my photostream:  Cheers, Rhett R-Three
 | Currently listening: Somewhere Else By Marillion Release date: 24 April, 2007 |
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Wednesday, March 21, 2007
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Current mood:  determined
Category: Life
It's been awhile since I've gotten up on this old soap box of mine. Not that I don't have strong opinions about a lot of what's going on in the world today, but lately I've been trying to think and write about something other than activism. Lately I've been letting others carry the burden of taking a stand. After the last few years of writing and blogging and singing about change to a world that would rather watch American Idol, I felt I deserved a break. Okay, break over. I'm reposting this because when I read it, I feel ashamed. Not because I hate gays, because I don't. Not only do I not hate gays, I love quite a few people who just happen to be gay and I'm proud to say stand up, say so and be counted. But I am ashamed because Larry Kramer, who wrote this article, isn't wrong. I'm ashamed because I can't help but think that maybe the reason the world isn't getting more tolerant, more compassionate or more loving is because more people like me are taking a break from speaking out. We're tired carrying the burden, boo hoo. Imagine the burden of being hated just because of who you love. I'm ashamed because I'm in a position of priviledge and it's worth nothing if I can't use it to help those who can't enjoy the very rights and priviledges that I enjoy simply because my orientation matches that of those currently abusing their power. Read this and please forward it to everyone you know. Blog about it, talk about and sing about it. Break over. Rhett R-Three Why Do Straights Hate Gays?An Aging 72-year-old Gay Man Isn't Hopeful About The Future. by Larry Kramer DEAR STRAIGHT PEOPLE, Why do you hate gay people so much? Gays are hated. Prove me wrong. Your top general just called us immoral. Marine Gen. Peter Pace, chairman of the Joint Chiefs, is in charge of an estimated 65,000 gay and lesbian troops, some fighting for our country in Iraq. A right-wing political commentator, Ann Coulter, gets away with calling a straight presidential candidate a faggot. Even Garrison Keillor, of all people, is making really tacky jokes about gay parents in his column. This, I guess, does not qualify as hate except that it is so distasteful and dumb, often a first step on the way to hate. Sens. Hillary Rodham Clinton and Barack Obama tried to duck the questions that Pace's bigotry raised, confirming what gay people know: that there is not one candidate running for public office anywhere who dares to come right out, unequivocally, and say decent, supportive things about us. Gays should not vote for any of them. There is not a candidate or major public figure who would not sell gays down the river. We have seen this time after time, even from supposedly progressive politicians such as President Clinton with his "don't ask, don't tell" policy on gays in the military and his support of the hideous Defense of Marriage Act. Of course, it's possible that being shunned by gays will make politicians more popular, but at least we will have our self-respect. To vote for them is to collude with them in their utter disdain for us. Don't any of you wonder why heterosexuals treat gays so brutally year after year after year, as your people take away our manhood, our womanhood, our personhood? Why, even as we die you don't leave us alone. What we can leave our surviving lovers is taxed far more punitively than what you leave your (legal) surviving spouses. Why do you do this? My lover will be unable to afford to live in the house we have made for each other over our lifetime together. This does not happen to you. Taxation without representation is what led to the Revolutionary War. Gay people have paid all the taxes you have. But you have equality, and we don't. And there's no sign that this situation will change anytime soon. President Bush will leave a legacy of hate for us that will take many decades to cleanse. He has packed virtually every court and every civil service position in the land with people who don't like us. So, even with the most tolerant of new presidents, gays will be unable to break free from this yoke of hate. Courts rule against gays with hateful regularity. And of course the Supreme Court is not going to give us our equality, and in the end, it is from the Supreme Court that such equality must come. If all of this is not hate, I do not know what hate is. Our feeble gay movement confines most of its demands to marriage. But political candidates are not talking about — and we are not demanding that they talk about — equality. My lover and I don't want to get married just yet, but we sure want to be equal. You must know that gays get beaten up all the time, all over the world. If someone beats you up because of who you are — your race or ethnic origin — that is considered a hate crime. But in most states, gays are not included in hate crime measures, and Congress has refused to include us in a federal act. Homosexuality is a punishable crime in a zillion countries, as is any activism on behalf of it. Punishable means prison. Punishable means death. The U.S. government refused our requests that it protest after gay teenagers were hanged in Iran, but it protests many other foreign cruelties. Who cares if a faggot dies? Parts of the Episcopal Church in the U.S. are joining with the Nigerian archbishop, who believes gays should be put in prison. Episcopalians! Whoever thought we'd have to worry about Episcopalians? Well, whoever thought we'd have to worry about Florida? A young gay man was just killed in Florida because of his sexual orientation. I get reports of gays slain in our country every week. Few of them make news. Fewer are prosecuted. Do you consider it acceptable that 20,000 Christian youths make an annual pilgrimage to San Francisco to pray for gay souls? This is not free speech. This is another version of hate. It is all one world of gay-hate. It always was. Gays do not realize that the more we become visible, the more we come out of the closet, the more we are hated. Don't those of you straights who claim not to hate us have a responsibility to denounce the hate? Why is it socially acceptable to joke about "girlie men" or to discriminate against us legally with "constitutional" amendments banning gay marriage? Because we cannot marry, we can pass on only a fraction of our estates, we do not have equal parenting rights and we cannot live with a foreigner we love who does not have government permission to stay in this country. These are the equal protections that the Bill of Rights proclaims for all? Why do you hate us so much that you will not permit us to legally love? I am almost 72, and I have been hated all my life, and I don't see much change coming. I think your hate is evil. What do we do to you that is so awful? Why do you feel compelled to come after us with such frightful energy? Does this somehow make you feel safer and legitimate? What possible harm comes to you if we marry, or are taxed just like you, or are protected from assault by laws that say it is morally wrong to assault people out of hatred? The reasons always offered are religious ones, but certainly they are not based on the love all religions proclaim. And even if your objections to gays are religious, why do you have to legislate them so hatefully? Make no mistake: Forbidding gay people to love or marry is based on hate, pure and simple. You may say you don't hate us, but the people you vote for do, so what's the difference? Our own country's democratic process declares us to be unequal. Which means, in a democracy, that our enemy is you. You treat us like crumbs. You hate us. And sadly, we let you. Larry Kramer is the founder of the protest group ACT UP and the author of "The Tragedy of Today's Gays." Published on Tuesday, March 20, 2007 by The Los Angeles Timeshttp://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-kramer20mar20,0,4477514.story?coll=la-news-comment-opinions Copyright © 2007 Los Angeles Times. ### Hi. Me again. If your response to reading this is to say "But that's not me. I don't hate gays.", don't tell me about it. Instead, repost this as a bulletin and a blog and post a link here to your blog. Spread the word. Thanks, Rhett
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