Gender: Female
Status: Married
Age: 37
Sign: Libra
City: Amman
Country: JO
Signup Date: 12/4/2005
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February 11, 2009 - Wednesday
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Current mood:  exhausted
Category: Life
Greetings and As salaamo alaikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatu sisters and brothers, Please refer to sister Shazia's heartbreaking e-mail: It has been brought to our attention there is a family at PGMA that is about to get evicted. The family has at least one child that attends An-Nur Academy and the mother is currently pregnant with another. The husband went to court this morning to fight the eviction. They are in need of money and of course du'as. Any donations can be sent directly to PGMA: Attention: Taqwa (for family fighting eviction) Prince George's Muslim Association (PGMA) 9150 Lanham Severn Road Lanham, MD 20706 Unfortunately this is all the information that I have on the family. Jazakellah Khairun -- Umm Hamza Shazia Khan
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February 4, 2009 - Wednesday
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Current mood:  wanted
Just sharing some inspirational tidbits, enjoy!
You'll never achieve real success unless you like what you're doing.
What you do is more important than how much money you make. How you feel about what you do is more important than what you do. The more you love what you're doing, the more successful it will be for you.
Don't set compensation as your goal.
Find the work you like and the compensation will follow. You don't pay the price of success, you enjoy the price of success.
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If you put a small price on yourself, no one else will offer to raise it.
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"We say there is a right time and place for everything.It's easy to say, but hard to understand. You have to live it to understand it." ---Rolling Thunder, CHEROKEE
The Elders tell us there is a right time and a right place. Don't plant seeds in the fall- wrong time. One way we find out about the right time and right place is our experience. If we are lucky, we have a few friends who will share their experience; this will help us too. The best way is to let God guide us. Only He knows the right time and the right place. So we need to pray and ask Him for guidance.
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January 27, 2009 - Tuesday
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Category: Life
In the spirit of B. Deutsch's The Male Privilege Checklist and Peggy McIntosh's White: Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack , I decided to create a Muslim Male Privilege Checklist. I realize these kinds of lists usually come from benefactor of privilege and not those who are disadvantaged by it. But I had to do it. Insha'allah I will keep adding to the list as I think about things. Keep in mind I have written it from a perspective of a Muslim man... As a Muslim man: 1. I can set foot in any masjid I like. No one will stop me at the door and tell me that I am not allowed in the masjid. 2. When I attend Jumah prayer I know that I will have full access to the main prayer hall. I can enter through the front door and I am not required to sit behind a partition, one-way mirror or placed in a separate room. Also, I can see and hear the Imam when he is giving the kutbah (sermon). I do not have to worry about a speaker or closed-circuit system malfunctioning thereby preventing me from hearing the kutbah or seeing the Imam. 3. My voice is not interpreted as being a part of my awrah (parts of the body that are not meant to be exposed in public.) I can stand up and speak freely in an Islamic gathering. I can ask questions or challenge statements made by the imam or visiting speaker without worrying that my actions will be viewed as inappropriate. I am not told that I must write any questions I have onto a piece of paper. 4. I can use my position as a sheikh, scholar or imam to perpetuate my own sexist, misogynistic beliefs as long as I incorporate those beliefs into my interpretation of the Quran and the Sunnah. When others challenge me about my beliefs I can use my Islamic education, command of the Arabic language and position in the community to effectively silence them. If the dissenters are women, I can always make them seem crazy, emotional or neurotic. I can also accuse them of being influenced by the West, Western secularism, Feminism or “the Kufaar.” 5. If I do not dress in accordance with Islamic guidelines, for the most part, I am left alone by Muslims of both genders. Few people will approach me and inquire about the way in which I am dressed. I will not be written off as a “bad Muslim” nor will my dress code be used as an excuse to prevent me from attending the masjid or other Islamic functions. 6. Interpretations of Quran and Ahadith, fatwas, kutbahs, and Islamic books are often biased in favor of my gender. The body of scholarship produced by members of my gender is available and accessible to all. Their texts, legal opinions and names have not been ignored or virtually erased from Islamic history. 7. When I read a book about marriage, my rights and responsibilities or gender dynamics in Islam, the author is almost always the same gender as me. It is the same when I wish to contact a scholar in regards to any questions I might have. 8. If I have problems in my marriage I can go to an Imam for counseling services and I don’t have to be concerned about sexism or his “traditional” views of women. 9. If I become visibly upset during a marriage counseling session, I am not told that I am too emotional and therefore incapable of thinking logically or making major decisions about my marriage. On the contrary, any decisions I make are presumed to be well thought-out. 10. If I wish to end my marriage, my decision is not scrutinized by an imam or other members of the Muslim community. It is respected as the final one. I am not denied a divorce or told to make tremendous personal sacrifices in order to remain in the marriage. 11. When I convert to Islam, if I have the means (or the financial support of others), I can travel aboard to predominately Muslim countries in order to seek Islamic knowledge. I can be sure that my gender will not be a hindrance any way. At the same time, no one will ever tell me that I must wait until I am married in order to begin my travels. 12. I can stand up for the rights Allah has given me or challenge interpretations of those rights without people associating me with secularist Muslim movements. 13. If I cannot have children or suffer from a condition that interferes with my ability to have sexual intercourse I do not have to worry about my wife taking a second husband. Even if/when she decides to divorce me I can be sure that an imam or other community members will ask her to reconsider her decision. 14. If I am struggling with the temptation to fornicate, I know that I can discuss my predicament with an Imam or other Muslim men without fear that they will think I’m lewd or promiscuous. 15. I am not a visible representative of Islam. When I interact with non-Muslim colleagues, co-workers and members of the general public they may not necessarily know that I am a Muslim. Unless I make my religion/ethnicity known, I am not subjected to a barrage of questions about Islam, Muslims and my gender’s status in the religion. ( The exception here would be Muslim men who don a thobe, turban, and wear a lengthy beard. Also, brothers who clearly appear to be Indian/Pakistani or Arab in the eyes of the public). 16. When a visiting scholar/imam comes to the masjid, by virtue of the seating arrangements (men in the front, no partition between the speaker and the men), I am able to speak with him face-to-face. I do not have to worry about crossing into "the women's space" in order to ask a question or to make a comment. http://jamericanmuslimah.blogspot.com/2008/04/muslim-male-privilege-checklist.html http://www.amptoons.com/blog/files/mcintosh.htmlhttp://colours.mahost.org/org/maleprivilege.html
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January 9, 2009 - Friday
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Current mood:  working
Category: Life
I'm not obsessed with race issues (yeah right!), I always find it interesting how we (people of color) feel superior to other colored folks, yet inferior to Europeans. Perhaps we are the greatest perps of racisms and not the Europeans....same with Islam, we (Muslims) are the biggest threat to this beautiful religion. Incredible racism of (some) Iranians
by Setareh Sabety06-Jan-2009 Iranians can be extremely racist. I was first made aware that Iranians were perceived, by others in the region, as arrogant racists by a Pakistani professor of Islamic literature at Boston University. Professor Rahbar taught in the Religion department and most Iranians took his literature course for an easy grade. He also conducted the Farsi exams which, if passed, made the University wave the second-language requirement for Iranian students. The poor man, who was well-versed in Persian poetry and loved Saadi and Hafez, was routinely ridiculed by his Iranian students. This was mostly because of his Pakistani accent. Although his eccentric habit of cooking curry in his office, in the Theology building on Mass. Ave., did not help either. He opened the class that fall semester many years ago talking about the incredible arrogance of Iranians vis-à-vis others in the region. He quoted from non Iranian poets to illustrate that poetry and indeed Farsi itself was not just the genre or language of Iranians. He claimed that this beautiful language that served so wonderfully the poetry of the heart and spirit which in turn gave it such lasting resonance, was not worthy of the arrogant majority to whom it belonged. Those comments opened my eyes and made me realize that racism was not just the stuff of Malcolm X and the U.S but of ours as well. I remembered my elementary school friend Mojib, also a Pakistani, and how my friendship with him was ridiculed by my older cousins. They called him my nokar seeyah or black servant. I did not like their chiding but did not have the language, as a schoolgirl, with which to interpret it as hateful, racist and arrogant. I knew that the Professor was overly sensitive to the issue because of the treatment he was getting from the Iranians in his class but I also knew that he was not wrong. That first night after Rahbar’s class I called my mother, recently exiled from an Islamic Iran, and told her proudly about the ‘Islamic’ lit. course that I was taking. She shouted back that Iranian poetry is anything but Islamic! She yelled, “they want to take Hafez and Saadi away from us too!” For years I tried to explain to her and Iranians like her that in academia ‘Islamic’ designated a shared culture spanning a period and an area that had Islam as its most unifying common denominator. It did not mean that Persian poetry was Arabic or religious just that it came from that time and place where Islam was the dominant culture. For Iranians, like my mother, freshly chased out of their country, who had seen many a friend die at the hands of the newly empowered mullahs, it was hard to feel any sense of empathy or identity with Islam. But when she went on to call the professor “martikeh Pakistani” then I knew that my own mom was not free of the prejudice and arrogance discussed by Professor Rahbar. For many Iranians believe that they have a richer culture, a better skin color, and are generally superior to all Indians, Pakistanis, Afghanis, Arabs and Africans. Through-out the years I have run into this kind of racism again and again. Of course there is concrete evidence of state-sponsored racism against the Afghanis who provide Iran, like the Mexicans in the U.S, with cheap labor. That is a problem, like the history of slavery in Iran that merits much more thorough and academic discussion than I can provide here. The kind of salon-racism that my Professor talked about and my mother betrayed by her comments is what I sadly run into again when I talk about what is happening in Gaza. Not from my mother, mind you, who has matured into an Al-Jazeera watching democrat. But, mostly from the ultra-nationalists and monarchists, with whom I have the privilege to live, here in Nice. Who are not unlike the ultra-nationalist monarchists that I keep running into, when I write essays, in the comments section of this site. To be pro-Palestinian amongst this bunch of Iranians is like being pro-Castro in Miami: extremely difficult. I have simply stopped going out to any parties and if I am in their company I try hard and against every instinct in my body to remain silent. New Year’s Eve I was invited to a party by a dear old friend. There I ran into a Zionist European who is married to an Iranian. He started talking about Gaza. I asked him if he was a Zionist, he said provocatively, “one hundred percent.” Then I started trying to say something that would make me feel like I have taken a stance but without ruining the party for both of us. He knew were I stood and had read my articles about Palestine many years ago. So he was not going to give up. I turned to my Iranian friend, highly educated and kindhearted Ali, asking him what he thought; he was an old Le Monde reading leftist who loves children so I was hoping that I would get some badly needed support. He turned around and said, “Good for Israel they should kill all those flea-infested, bearded, shit-smelling, cock roach-eating Muslim terrorists.” Ali has the kind of hairy Iranian look that I am sure gets him thoroughly checked at the airport each time he wants to fly somewhere. But he simply can not see that he looks so much like the people he so abhors! He feels superior to them because they are Arabs and he is Iranian! I just turned on my heals, headed for the bar and joined the women at the other end who were talking about diets: another favorite topic of mine! The days when I ruined entire parties with my zeal for an opinion are long gone! Another day I ran into some friends of my parents in a café talking to a younger realtor. This time I walked in the middle of the conversation. The old lady with an Azeri accent, who had a raspy voice from years of smoking, was saying, “Elahi hameyeh in malakhorhayeh reeshoo ro nabood koneh Israel.” (May Israel destroy all these bearded cockroaches!”) This time I had to say something and there was no party to ruin-- so I ventured, “why do you hate these poor Palestinians so?” What she said I have heard many times with different degrees of venomous passion and hatred: Palestinians helped the mullahs come to power in Iran, they are supported by the current Islamic regime, and they are therefore the enemy of “real patriotic Iranians.” The logic goes something like this: 1. The Islamic Republic supports the Palestinian cause. 2. IRI is an illegitimate theocratic regime that should be overthrown. 3. Therefore Palestinians are stinking Arabs who do not deserve our support. So laced with their hatred of the mullahs is their sense of superiority and hatred towards the Arabs. They go on to say, why should WE help these bastards, why should the regime give them money that is better used on Iran and Iranians. They are not OUR problem. They are not our friends; they are the friends of the mullah regime and are therefore our enemies. They are stinking Arab cockroach eaters! I kissed her and said that I had to go but that I was always pro-Palestinian since I did a project for Mr. Holmes on the Arab-Israeli conflict in the 8th grade at the Tehran Community School. What do you say to people who use such logic and are so racist? She turned around and said,” Setareh joon zaminaayeh babato pass gerefti az in akhoondayeh dozd? Setareh darling, did you get back your father’s land from these mullah thieves? I said no and left.
http://www.iranian.com/main/2009/jan/feeling-superior
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January 9, 2009 - Friday
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Category: Life
By BRIAN FEAGANS
Published on: 04/13/08
Twenty five years ago Catherine Donnelly's first day at Princeton was a surprise. She had a black person as a roommate.
Her name was Michelle Robinson.
She walked into the historic Nassau Inn that evening and delivered the news to her mother, Alice Brown. "I was horrified," recalled Brown, who had driven her daughter up from New Orleans. Brown stormed down to the campus housing office and demanded Donnelly be moved to another room.
The reason: One of her roommates was black.
"I told them we weren't used to living with black people — Catherine is from the South," Brown said.
Today both Donnelly, an Atlanta attorney, and Brown, a retired schoolteacher living in the North Carolina mountains, look back at that time with regret. Like many Americans, they've built new perceptions of race on top of a foundation cracked by prejudices past — and present. Yet they rarely speak of the subject.
Barack Obama's run for president changed that. When the Democratic senator from Illinois invited more dialogue on race last month,
Shock to the stereotype
The acceptance letter from the Ivy Leagues was really the culmination of two peoples' hard work. "My mother was thrilled," Donnelly jokes, that she got into Princeton.
Donnelly, now 44, captained the basketball and volleyball teams. She was the homecoming queen. And she racked up science and math awards, often with the help of her mother.
But the "Three R's" weren't the only thing Donnelly learned from an early age. There was a fourth one. Her mother and grandmother filled her head with racist stereotypes, portraying African-Americans as prone to crime, uneducated and, at times, people to be feared.
Brown, 71, explains that she was raised to think that way. She recalls hearing her grandfather, a sheriff in the North Carolina Mountains, brag about running black visitors out of the county before nightfall. And Brown's parents held on to the n-word like a family heirloom. In fact, upon learning that her daughter had a black roommate at Princeton, Brown's first call was to her own mother. Her suggestion: yank Donnelly out of school alive and well on a prestigious campus in the Northeast. The university's private eating clubs, host to frat-style parties, were largely white. The social scene for many minority students, including Obama, revolved around an activity building called the Third World Center.
'I was inspired ..... I was envious'
When Donnelly first saw Obama's wife on TV, she was struck by how tall and graceful she looked. Then she studied her more closely. Michelle Obama looked so familiar, down to those long fingers. Could that be Michelle Robinson?
A Google search gave Donnelly the answer. Obama was far more than a first-lady hopeful. She had gone to Harvard Law School, had been an associate dean at the University of Chicago and rose to vice president at the University of Chicago Hospitals and was making over $500,000.00 at the Chicago Hospital plus receiving $51,000 as a director of Wal-Mart and the associate dean salary was unknown.
"I was inspired," she says. "I was amazed. And I was envious of all she had accomplished."
Donnelly called her mother, who in turn phoned the friend who had traveled with her to Princeton all those years ago. The friends had stayed up that night calling everyone they knew with a connection to the university, hoping to get Catherine moved out of the room. "We thought this is so ironic," Brown says. "[Obama] could be the first lady, and here we wanted to get my child out of her influence."
Some empathy for lingering anger
Living as a gay woman has made Donnelly far more aware of what it's like to be judged by a trait beyond your control. "Being gay is such a small part of who I am." Now she wishes she had reached across racial lines at Princeton. "I don't think I ever set foot in the Third World Center," she says of the popular hangout for minority students. "It's like this mystical place."
When Brown heard about Barack Obama's former pastor — his angry rants against white America — she didn't like it. But she understood. "If I had been treated the same way blacks have been treated," she says, "I'd be resentful, too."
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January 8, 2009 - Thursday
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Current mood:  peaceful
Category: Life
Self-Examination at Depth
There are times when life urges us to seek more. Small changes to our comfort zone may fail to alleviate any sense of stagnancy or frustration, and we may need to examine our lives and ourselves more deeply to find the right place to start. Everything we need for success and joy lies within. But so often, life's debris accumulates, building layers around our core that makes it difficult to access the truth that resides within. To reach the depth we wish to access, we must dive below these layers to the deepest parts of ourselves.
The first layer can be found in our minds. Our to-do lists and busy work are usually less important than we think, so we must look past them to examine the thoughts that matter most to us. The next layer can be found in our hearts, where past hurts and disappointments can sometimes cover up our vulnerabilities, as well as the truth of who and what really stirs the love within us. We can choose to go even deeper – to our center. If we can go beyond anything has affected us to the point that it blocks us at the gut level, we can reconnect with our power, our raw instincts, our organic yeses. Here, at the core, lies our truth. Our core is our foundation that supports us and what we'd like to build our authentic life upon.
When we examine ourselves to these depths, we are able to find what we wish to bring to the surface and what we wish to let go. When we remember what lies beneath our layers, we can look at what was floating on the surface, causing blocks and pains, and understand the purpose that they served. Oftentimes, it is the built up debris that causes us to go deeper, so we can search for the truth. Go deep, live life from your truth within, and watch your innate beauty manifest outward.
What do you think?
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January 5, 2009 - Monday
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Current mood:  angry
Category: Life
There are countless African Muslim WOMEN being raped and called Black Dog by Arab Muslim terrorists in Darfur hiding behind the good name of Islam. Why is the ummah PRETENDING her soul and body is less valuable than our sisters in Palestine? Numerous families being slaughtered! This really pisses me off. We are all human, human tragedy is human tragedy and we (as Muslims) must begin to cry out and act regardless of the victims, until then our weakness and nationalism will continue to destroy Islam from the inside out.
Why is a brother offering $10 million for a pair of BLANKIN' shoes when countless people are starving, yes in Saudi too?! Am I the only one who finds this very disturbing and worse than spitting in ones face? What has happened to the Muslims? Humanity (which is too good a word for us, because our souls and minds are full of mud).
http://www.oxfamamerica.org/Plone/workspaces/emergencies/sudan/news_publications/darfur-slideshows
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January 2, 2009 - Friday
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Current mood:  touched
Noise as a Distraction
Our lives are typically filled with noise. There are the noises from the outside world that we cannot control, and there are the noises we allow into our lives. These noises, from seemingly innocuous sources like the television and radio, can actually help us avoid dealing with uncomfortable thoughts and emotions. However, using noise as a distraction hurts more than it helps because you are numbing yourself to what may be internally bubbling up to the surface for you to look at and heal. Distracting yourself with talk-radio, television, or other background noises can also prevent you from finding closure to issues that haunt you. Noise as a distraction can affect us in many ways. It can help you stay numb to emotions that you don't want to feel, allow you to avoid dealing with problems, distract you from having to think, and make it easier for you to forget reality. Drowning out the thoughts and emotions you find uncomfortable or overwhelming can complicate your issues because it allows them to fester. By tuning out noise and relishing silence, you create the space to experience and express what you are hiding. It is only then that self-exploration can begin in earnest and you can stare down frightening issues. In silence, it becomes easier to let your strongest feelings come forth, deal with them, and find new ways of resolving your problems. When you go within without the veil of noise to shield you from yourself, you'll be able to figure out what you need to heal. Embracing silence and introspection allows you to work through your thoughts and emotions and transmute them. Free of the need for noise, you can accept your pain, anger, and frustration as they come up and turn them into opportunities to evolve. What do you think? Discuss this article and share your opinion Want more DailyOM? Register for your free email, or browse all articles www.DailyOM.com | | ..table>
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December 30, 2008 - Tuesday
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Current mood:  focused
Category: Life
Prejudice towards Blacks and other non-Europeans
By Shalizeh Nadjmi April 9, 1999 The Iranian
Unlike the stereotypical slap-happy immigrant entering the Land of Opportunity through Staten Island, gazing in awe at Lady Liberty, my family flew in to the U.S. through the gates of the America's capital. It was here in Washington DC that I first gazed in wonderment at the majestic white monuments that marked the strength and foundation for the democratic ideals this country stands for. It was also here that I was introduced to another concept; a stark contrast that symbolizes the schizophrenia of America - racial prejudices.
Boarding my first American subway in Northwest DC, I was warned by our host - my mother's lovely cousin - to be wary of the Black Man. In fact, my second cousin sternly objected to my mother and I sitting anywhere near "them" for they were all armed and short tempered, and would surely hurt us if we got too close.
Fourteen years later, under unforeseen circumstances, I find myself back here in the great Western capital. Yet it seems that after all this time, I have not heeded my cousin's warning. Indeed, like a good Persian girl I did the very opposite: I tasted the forbidden fruit. In the twenty-two years since leaving my mother's womb, I have experienced two significant loves. Both of them have not only been Black, but they have been African, with skin the color of midnight satin. And although both were born in the U.S., each spent his life in his respective motherland, then migrated back to North America.
Revisiting my relatives, I had naively and optimistically hoped that in the course of fourteen years, my blood-kin would have learned acceptance of all people regardless of race, color, or ethnicity. Sadly, I was wrong.
In this city of a thousand and one nationalities, I had mistakenly equated diversity with understanding, tolerance with acceptance, integration with brotherhood, and tokenism with equality.
The ebony almond eyes, gentle flat nose, and voluptuous red lips of my boyfriend are unfamiliar and threatening to my great aunt and her family. Full of Persian pride, I am drowned in a sea of shame when I try to speak of him, and my tongue holds its silence. Dizzying thoughts of rebuttal swim in my head, but I give into submission when confronted by my elders, remembering that I must not disrespect them. My aunt's final comment on the matter is "Do you want Black children?"
How do I respond to a statement that reveals the unfortunate mentality of the great majority of Iranians. A statement that reflects the loss of identity for the migrant, the colonized and the subjugated civilization. I recall a mehmooni a few years back where my mother proudly informed her friends that an "American" colleague had inquired whether she was French.
In our struggle for success and respect on foreign soil, we have adapted the segregationist mentality that plagues this country - a country that has hailed the "equality" flag from its conception. Now Iranians have become afflicted with this virus that spread across all minority groups. We try our best to fit the European White mold, believing it to be the highest form of existence. We boast about our history and poetry, about our artists and mathematicians, yet we have abandoned the true nature of our identity in order to gain social acceptance. In an attempt to act and look "normal," we shun other races, viewing them as lower specimens.
Persians feel complemented when mistaken for French or Italian, but show great aversion to being mistaken as Arab or Chicano. We deem ourselves superior to all of Asia because of our "Aryan" ancestry and great Persian Empire. Even among our own people, we praise the fair, light eyed, and light haired over the siaah sookhtehs. We have accepted European superiority and wish to elevate ourselves to their level by purposely disassociating ourselves from other ethnic groups. But just as the White supremacist attitude views other minorities as inferior, it also views Iranians and Middle Easterners as inferior. We have not changed the perception of Iranians in their view, we have simply supported their superiority over ourselves. Prejudices against other minorities does not elevate the Iranian as a better people, rather it divides and conquers group of people that have been historically oppressed. By disuniting from our brothers and sisters, we have created a schism which feeds into the hands of the conqueror.
We hail our "Aryan" ancestry, hoping this will gain us favor among the White elite. Yet we are blind to the fact that the Asian Aryan is not the European Aryan. The olive-skinned Iranian Aryan has forgotten the deep culture and rich heritage of her ethnicity. Instead she strives to fit neatly within the yuppie, mass consumer of the status quo. She tries to defy her ethnic genes by mutating her body to fit the twiggy mold, hiding behind blue contacts, and bleaching her raven black locks into straight pigmentless yellow. The Esfahani boy gets a nose job, plucks his eyebrows, and changes Babak to Bob so that his colleagues will think of him as one of the guys. Exposure to ideas on racial equality at school are buried under racist mentalities perpetuated at home by parents and aunts and uncles.
In self-defense, many of my Persian friends claim that they are not prejudiced because they have an Arab/Latino/Black/East-Asian/Gay/Jewish friend. A relationship with an individual representative of a group does not equate acceptance of the group as a whole. Nor does it compensate for the racial slurs, jokes, and remarks that slip from our tongues time and time again. We have engraved prejudicial images into our inner beliefs. Subconsciously we believe that Arabs are dirty, Jews are conniving, gays are disgusting, and Blacks are ignorant.
Iranian Uncle Toms run amuck in American society, as well as the rest of the world. Selling out to the powers that be, we promote racism and European White supremacy, not realizing the inadvertent effect it has on ourselves. Discriminating against any race promotes discrimination against all minorities. As long as we as a group support prejudices, we will continue to be discriminated against as well. We are in effect supporting the Eurocentric ideology that European White is right. Diluting ourselves that we are a part of this exclusive club has robbed us of our identity. How can we gain recognition for ourselves as Iranians if we are constantly trying to assimilate as "Americans."
Unfortunately, we have missed the boat on what it is to be "American" as well. Through advertising and mass media's visual bombardment, we have embraced the European definition of "American" - white, blonde, and blue eyed. Yet how many Americans actually fit this image? American is a conglomerate of ethnicities. American is Afghani, Jewish, Swahili, Indonesian, Ecuadorian, Hindu, Polish, Kuwaiti. It is not simply Tommy-Boy and Chanel.
I am always grateful to my parents for having provided me with the opportunity to live in the U.S. I have been exposed to Western ideologies at school, and Eastern ideology at home. I have learned to choose treasures from each culture and place them in my own basket of values. Yet, I do not place one above the other, and I am always conscience and expressive of where I come from. And while my boyfriend is not Iranian, nor the piercing rod in my tongue part of Iranian cultural practice, I am confident in who I am.
Three weeks ago I ventured to the Lincoln memorial where on one beautiful summer August day just thirty-five years ago, Martin Luther King, Jr. had delivered the "I Have a Dream" speech to over one million people of all nationalities, of all denominations. As I stood across the water where a somber Mr. Lincoln sat solemnly on his towering throne, I wondered when that day would come. I was reminded of my grandfather standing erect on top of Flagstaff mountain in Boulder, reciting Hafez over the moonlit city. As the mad waters ran down my saturated skin, I felt the cleansing power of hope. One day we will wash this unnatural hatred from our soul and embrace our brothers and sisters as fellow humans.
The rumblings of discontent in Asia and Africa are expressions of a quest for freedom and human dignity by people who have long been the victims of colonialism and imperialism. So, in a real sense, the racial crisis in America is a part of a the larger world crisis. -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
http://www.iranian.com/Opinion/April99/Siaah/index.html
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December 29, 2008 - Monday
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Category: Life
Okay, so it's not really a secret, ask any Black person at the masjid - SMH
Wednesday, December 3rd, 2008
By Mona Eltahawy
From Qatar's Al Arab
I was on my way home on the Cairo Metro, lost in thought as I listened to music when I noticed a young Egyptian taunting a Sudanese girl. She reached out and tried to grab the girl's nose and mouth and laughed when the girl tried to brush her hand away.
The Sudanese girl looked to be Dinka, from southern Sudan and not the northern Sudanese who "look like us". She looked black African and was obviously in distress.
I removed my headphones and asked the Egyptian woman "Why are you treating her like that?"
She exploded into a tornado of yelling, demanding to know why it was my business. I told her it was my business because as an Egyptian and as a Muslim who was riding the Metro, her behaviour was wrong and I would not stay silent about it. I knew she was Muslim because she wore a scarf.
I told her that the way she was treating the Sudanese girl made the scarf on her head meaningless. Her mother asked me why I didn't cover my hair and I replied that I didn't want to be a hypocrite like her and her daughter.
As distressing as I found that young woman's behaviour, I was even more distressed that the other women in the Metro car with us watched passively and said nothing. They made no attempt to defend the Sudanese girl nor to defend me when I confronted the Egyptian woman.
After the Egyptian woman got off at her station, I asked the other women why they didn't do anything. One woman said she stayed silent because the racist woman would've yelled at her and told her to mind her own business too. So what, I asked? If enough of the women had confronted her, she would have been outnumbered.
I apologized to the Sudanese girl for the Egyptian woman's behaviour and she thanked me for defending her and told me "Egyptians are bad". I could only imagine other times she'd been abused publicly.
We are a racist people in Egypt and we are in deep denial about it. On my Facebook page, I blamed racism for my Cairo Metro argument and an Egyptian man wrote to deny that we are racists and used as his proof a programme on Egyptian Radio featuring Sudanese songs and poetry!
That's like a racist white American denying he's a racist because he listens to rap and some of his best friends are black.
Our silence over racism in Egypt not only destroys the warmth and hospitality we are proud of as Egyptians, it has deadly consequences.
What else but racism on Dec. 30, 2005 allowed hundreds of riot police to storm through a makeshift camp in central Cairo to clear it of 2,500 Sudanese refugees, trampling or beating to death 28 people, among them women and children?
What else but racism lies behind the bloody statistics at the Egyptian border with Israel where, since 2007, Egyptian guards have killed at least 33 migrants, many from Sudan's war-torn Darfur region, including a pregnant woman and a 7-year-old girl?
The racism I saw on the Cairo Metro has an echo in the Arab world at large where the suffering in Darfur goes ignored for two main reasons – firstly because its victims are black people and we don't care about those with dark skins and secondly because those who are creating the misery in Darfur are not Americans or Israelis and we only pay attention when America and Israel are behaving badly.
International experts say that fighting in Darfur has so far killed 200,000 and driven 2.5 million from their homes and yet nobody cares in the Arab world.
My argument on the Cairo Metro was a also a reminder of our double standards. We love to cry "Islamophobia" when we talk about the way Muslim minorities are treated in the West and yet we never stop to consider how we treat minorities and the most vulnerable among us.
The U.S. television network ABC recently staged a scenario in which an actor worked in a bakery in Texas and refused to serve an actress dressed as a Muslim woman in a headscarf. The scene was an experiment to see if other customers would help the Muslim woman.
Thirteen customers defended her by yelling at the clerk, asking for the manager or walking out in disgust. Six customers supported the bigoted clerk and 22 looked away and did absolutely nothing.
I cried when I watched that episode and I wonder now which Egyptian television channel would dare to stage such an experiment? And which Arab television channel would dare to stage a programme which so boldly looks at our racism and confronts us with the question "what would you do?" as the ABC show did.
For those of us who move between different worlds – where one day we are a majority as I am as a Sunni Muslim in Egypt and another we are a minority as I am as a Muslim in America – it is clear that to defend the rights of a Sudanese girl on the Cairo Metro means to defend my right on the New York Subway.
We live in a world that is connected in unprecedented ways. And that connection now extends to rights. If we want our rights to be respected we must do the right thing, everywhere.
http://www.monaeltahawy.com/blog/?p=93
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