I may have written about this before... but whateverz itz been on my mind...
What I've noticed is that everyone wants to feel important, irreplaceable, special... The need to be and feel loved is probably the greatest need anyone can feel, more than money, fame or fortune... To be treated like a king yet loved like a sibling, to be admired as a role model yet on the same level, to be called a friend with the word "best" before it... I dare say that is the most important and most sought after form of acceptance and friendship that every person on this Earth feels. Whether it be spending time with your significant other, playing with your domestic dog since you were a child, or just chillin with your friends since high school, the feeling of belonging and holding a special spot in someone's heart is priceless.
What I've noticed is that there are those who are so insecure and caught up within themselves, that they tend to let that need to feel loved overwhelm their senses and lose all recognition of of what their doing. They put themselves out there so much, that it becomes "TOO MAHTZ!" (a term coined by Danny... yeah picture him saying that haha). In this case, less is more... you can't put yourself out there in the very beginning and expect people to love you instantly. It's like food: Best eaten in moderate portions.
What I've noticed is that there are those who want to be important and significant to a certain person soooooo badly, that they deny themselves and give their all to the other, even though the other doesn't even give back half of what is fair. "We adore the ones who ignore us, and ignore the ones who adore us." I heard that quote awhile back, and it's so true. It's a vicious cycle. It hurts, it burns, it cuts to the core... But it's only because they allow themselves to be hurt, burnt, and cut... They allow themselves to be used and abused, taken for granted, walked all over, only because in their mind they think the other will realize how important they are to them. But 99.9% of the time, it never does (Unless it's a movie. Then the percentage become 84.91%).
What I've noticed is that there are those who don't even try to feel loved by others, because others already love them from Day 1. A mystical aura that surrounds them draws people in. Some kind of magnificent odor that stirs up the blood in people's veins that causes them to approach the lovely 'just because'. And in some ways this is great, but it causes one to feel numb emotionally. It makes one lazy and inadequate to maintain a solid, reliable relationship, because they just never had to put much effort into a it since they've never had to start one. They were always the one to be approached, the one to be ooo'ed and aww'ed at, and if anything, it causes them to feel superior, to feel like they don't need anyone, because everyone needs them...
What I've noticed is that there are those who are just right. They walk the thin line between needy and content, jealousy and understanding, hard-working and lazy. Not "TOO MAHTZ!", not too little... but just right. Just like the bowl of soup your mom used to make you when you get sick. Not too hot, not too cold, not too salty, not too spicy, but perfect for that warm-hearted tasty feeling. And those are the kind of people that I want to be surrounded with, the ones who are just right. The ones who can make me feel warm without feeling out of place, the ones who can make me feel irreplaceable without stressing time spent together, the ones who can make feel special without all the gifts, the ones who can make me feel important because the feeling is mutual...
God bless
Shalom
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