Gender: Female
Status: Married
Age: 29
Sign: Libra
City: Casa Grande
State: Arizona
Country: US
Signup Date: 1/17/2006
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Thursday, December 20, 2007
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Current mood:  bitchy
Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities
As Deborah Siegel nicely details in her review of the movie, it doesn't quite distance itself, in the end, from all - or maybe even any - of the problematic characteristics for which Disney movies are constantly - and rightfully - criticized in the academic world. I recognized that immediately when I saw the pivotal role that the Evil Stepmother was going to play. (And Jessica says to herself, "A-gain I think I'm watching a movie for fun, and it turns out to be homework.") A witchy mother - who, as Nick Schager astutely points out, is also literally a monster during the movie, "an evil dragon lady borrowed from Sleeping Beauty (Susan Sarandon) who likes to pose as the old hag from Snow White" - seeking to keep her son from falling in love with another woman in order to keep all of the power for herself. Let's see, does that sound familiar? Number One, portraying what you're seeking to mock does not usually effectively do so; in my experience, it actually enables you to more distinctly present the stereotypes that you have in mind - and thus, rather than really attacking them, actually makes those stereotypes more distinct for viewers. Number Two, I question why anyone thought that Disney was really seeking to mock any of those old ideas of theirs anyway. All that they do seem to be attempting, according to this New York Times article, is to find "new" ways to make money without hurting the rich old ways that they already have. As the caption there best describes, it's just another Disney movie with an added "modern touch" - but nothing is gone or has changed.
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Wednesday, December 19, 2007
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Current mood:  productive
Category: Life
To our dearest friends and family,
We have had two years full of blessings. They've been so full, in fact, that I haven't had time to do a holiday letter for two years. So this one is a big one - in more ways than one.
At first, though, 2006 was more of a mixed bag: It began in Arizona, as Alex and Jessica were visiting Dennis here for the previous Christmas, and Dennis and Jessica brought in the New Year with some of our GenX Mensan friends in the Phoenix area. Then Alex and Jessica flew back to Florida so that Jessica could finish her Master's degree in English. Even that didn't go as planned, though, taking all the way until August to be done. In the meantime, Jessica learned that she hadn't gotten into most of the Ph.D. programs to which she'd applied (which is to be expected in her field in the current economy), but she did get into University of Arizona, which she liked for its stellar placement record (double the national average), its attention to its graduate students, and its proximity to Dennis's workplace, so she began to plan a cross-country move for that summer. In early April, she and Dennis met in San Antonio, where she was presenting her paper on Zora Neale Hurston's Seraph on the Suwanee at the annual College English Association conference. On their first evening together there, Dennis proposed. A month later, all of Jessica's and Alex's belongings were in a truck driving west, and Jessica and Alex flew to Michigan to visit with Jessica's parents. Jessica also had another academic conference to attend – this time presenting two papers at an Association for Research on Mothering conference in Toronto – and Jessica and her mom made a quick trip to London, England. In five days, they saw five shows – Chicago, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, Blackbird, Movin' Out, and The Producers – and did some touring and shopping as well. (I blogged in depth about that trip earlier on this site.)
Once in Arizona, Jessica immediately interviewed for a job with The Princeton Review, a national test preparation company locally sited in Tempe. The next day, she was on a plane to Berkeley to train to teach the Verbal section of the MCAT, and her first course began shortly after her return. She also flew to Oakland for the National Women's Studies Conference that summer, and on both trips she enjoyed getting to see some of her family who live in the area – particularly her cousin Kim's daughter Sophia, whom Jessica had never gotten to meet before. Because on their first visit they went for ice cream, Sophia remembered her afterward too. Jessica also flew back to Florida that summer for her elusive thesis defense. She celebrated her success with some of her school friends and much enjoyed seeing them again before leaving Gainesville for the last time. She continued revising her thesis all the way into August, while we all were in Oregon so that Jessica and Alex could meet Dennis's mom Sandy and some of his friends before the wedding in November. Alex stayed in Oregon with Sandy and her husband Rene while Dennis and Jessica went to Seattle for a day to meet with some of the English Department faculty at the University of Washington, to which Jessica would make a third graduate school application by the end of the year. Jessica finally got her M.A. on August 12th. Jessica also trained for LSAT and SAT teaching and tutoring and was working for TPR for as much as 25 hours a week in the fall. Between that, her academic pursuits, the wedding plans, and her continuing, vaguely successful attempts to get organized in our apartment, her editorship of the Mensa GenX newsletter fell by the wayside, and she only got one issue out all year. She had also accepted an appointment as the Treasurer of the local Mensa group and was working on getting its finances in better order at the same time. Dennis started off 2006 with a trip up to Winter Park, CO, for several days of skiing and catching up with an old friend from high school and her husband. Winter Park and Mary Jane were just covered in snow and Dennis had a great time … though he was exhausted by the altitude. The wedding plans were stressful – but not so much so as to prevent the wedding! – but the wedding day itself was wonderful. We loved getting a visit from so many of our out-of-state relatives – and a few of our friends – and only wish that we could have spent more time with them. The weather was perfect: Arizona at its best. Dennis took a trip to Israel shortly after the wedding. Intel was building a new chip manufacturing facility in Kiryat Gat, and the network group there asked for him to come over to audit and provide training on some of the new network designs being implemented at that new facility. (More on Dennis's Israel trip in a separate post.)
Meanwhile, Jessica and Alex had gone to Michigan to spend Thanksgiving with her parents and help them pack before their move to Novato, California, where they had bought a condo that fall (the same fall of their only daughter's wedding and Mom's knee surgery – so now you see where Jessica gets it). They had already brought Jessica's cat to Arizona when they came for the wedding – initially temporarily, although once she had her cat back, Jessica couldn't bear to give her up again – but they had plenty of other things to move, many of them belonging to their daughter and grandson. It was, needless to say, a less restful vacation than Jessica had hoped it would be. Jessica and Dennis took their honeymoon in Napa just after Christmas while Alex got to visit with his grandparents once more, this time at their new place. (More on that trip in a separate post.) In 2007, Dennis passed the test to renew his lapsed CCNA (Cisco Certified Network Associate) certification, and Jessica trained to teach the GMAT as well. Then it was just plenty of work for both of them until Jessica heard back on the new grad school applications (and on the initial one to UA). Suffice it to say that our decision was an easy one. In the spring, we made two trips to Victorville to visit with our niece, Kiera, and her family. The former trip concluded for Jessica and Alex with a ride to Las Vegas with Jessica's parents to visit with her grandmother and her grandma's boyfriend at their condo there. The latter trip was also planned to coincide with our nephew Bryce's high school graduation party. Now they owe us another trip – and we have a place for them to stay this time as well! ;-) Alex enjoyed playing some sports over the 2006-07 school year. He played First Timers Football in the fall, which was more about throwing, catching, and tagging than actually playing. Then he played two seasons of soccer, which seemed more appropriate for him at that age and with which he thus became relatively comfortable. This summer in Casa Grande, he took eight hours of swim lessons, after the first half of which he graduated to Level II, which he'll attempt again next summer. Here is the update on Alex: He is now more than 43 inches tall, weighs over 50 pounds, and wears at least a children's size 1WW shoe. He is 6 years old. He is quickly learning to read, write, and even do a little arithmetic. He enjoys watching "Scrubs" and the Discovery Channel with his stepdad and loves books, games, movies, and music, learning the words to songs very quickly, just like his mom. He's also shown himself to be rather adept at small building projects, as we learned when Jessica enlisted his assistance assembling her new office furniture and then during his first Home Depot kids' workshop, where Dennis hardly needed to help him build a model biplane. His latest interest is Harry Potter, which interest Dennis heartily shares. We enjoyed watching all four of the extant movies together over a period of a few weeks this summer, and we eagerly went to see the fifth one soon after it came out. Alex still enjoys playing with dinosaurs and matchbox cars. And even after four years of the obsession, he still loves Thomas (the Tank Engine) & Friends. In honor of that, we all took a weekend trip up to north Arizona to enjoy another Day Out With Thomas event this past spring. We also got to drive through Sedona and spend a couple of hours walking around the Grand Canyon on that trip as well. It was exhilarating for Jessica, who cannot remember having gone there before. She hopes that we can visit the Grand Canyon again soon. (She and Dennis will already return to Sedona - for an actual stay this time - to get some one-on-one time this weekend.)
We all also spent a weekend in the mountains in a beautiful "cabin" in Overgaard in honor of the 40th birthday of one of our fellow GenX Mensans. We played lots of games – probably our favorite family pastime, besides reading and watching movies – and encountered several new ones that we wanted to add to our own collection. (One of which, Blokus, we already have gotten since then.) We will continue to be involved in Mensa going forward as well, as Jessica actually ran for re-election as local Treasurer this summer – and won – and Dennis also ran, unopposed, for Assistant Local Secretary (Mensa-speak for Vice President of the local chapter), and he won too. (We're especially looking forward to getting to try more new games at next year's Mind Games®, which will be held here in Phoenix.) The Big News came in April, though: If you haven't heard already, we bought a house! It's a new build in Casa Grande, Arizona, about half an hour southwest of where we'd been living in Chandler, and with four bedrooms, two bathrooms, and a den, it's finally big enough for the four of us (Dennis, Jessica, Alex, and Sophie the cat). In fact, it's so big that we decided to make it six of us! We adopted two retired racing greyhounds: in late July, Celia, who is 63 lbs. and 2 years old this month and actually never raced - too much of a scaredy-puppy - and then just earlier this month, Crosby, who is 85 lbs. and 3 years old and now spending the rest of December back in foster care to finish getting house-trained and be observed and corrected on some other minor issues. Both dogs accept their subservience to Sophie, though. You can see new photos of the pets here on MySpace.
If you don't have our new address yet, please contact us, and we'll be happy to share it with you. Our 480 number didn't change, so it will still work to reach us. We also have a new 520 number, which is what you'll see on your Caller ID when we call you. This way, our friends in both the Phoenix and Tucson areas can make a local call to our home. With this change in numbers, the 503 number no longer works, so family and friends in Oregon now have to call long-distance. (Sorry.) The rest of the Big News is that we moved because Jessica finally got funding to the University of Arizona and thus started her Ph.D. program there this fall! She loves the other people in her department already and is very happy and confident about her future there. (She also just found out, as of this very moment, that she got all A's this term - for her first 4.0 cumulative GPA since middle school! Hooray!!) Dennis, meanwhile, continued working at Intel in Chandler and returned to school himself, taking one class at Arizona State University in Tempe (and also earning an A), thus necessitating a middle ground, which Casa Grande offered quite beautifully. It's also a growing community, with more schools, homes, and a big new mall being built as we speak – exciting developments for all of us. Jessica has had other professional successes this year: getting a couple of pieces of her work published and serving in some small capacities in the academic discourse community that have garnered her some experience and recognition already. She plans to return to conferencing (now that she has new work to discuss again) this year, and she hopes to continue to work on getting published, as always.
Alex, of course, was most excited about kindergarten, which he started on the same day that his mom began new graduate teacher orientation at UA. He has been disappointed by the approach and the pace of his class, though - but he has been able to make some new friends to play with him in his new bedroom and in our new walled-in backyard. There's even a playground just half a block away, at the end of our street. We're pleased to see that there are already two boys within two years of his age among our nearest neighbors, and only maybe half the houses on this street are inhabited so far – but that won't be the case for long! We even have a guest room for whenever our friends and family want to visit us! Jessica's parents have already stayed there, on their way back to Michigan to sell their own house, and thus got to be the first to see our new place. (They visited again in October to help with Alex during his week-long fall break, and they'll be back again this week to spend Christmas with us.) We also had a housewarming party for our local friends in late September, and we look forward to welcoming Dennis's mother and sister for the first time in about a month. After Christmas, we look forward to celebrating our niece Kiera's second birthday with her and visiting briefly with Dennis's family in California before we go to Disneyland as a three-day late birthday/Christmas celebration for Alex (and, let's face it, for us too). Then we will all return to school - this time with Dennis taking two courses and Jessica three (instead of only two, as she did in the fall). She is also only teaching one section of freshman composition instead of two, though, so hopefully she'll be able to pull it out. They are all theory courses that will end with a term paper, though, so she'll have to manage her time better than ever. She also continues to work for The Princeton Review - although she's doing as little as possible of that during the school year because of her obvious time constraints. TPR has been good to her, though, and the extra income - especially in the summer - will continue to come in handy.
Jessica has recently updated our website with some family pictures (and will try to get the rest of the wedding photos online before school resumes in mid-January for her next term). Please stop by there as well, if you're not sick of us yet: http://www.clinefelter.com So what's new with you? Love and blessings,
Jessica, Dennis, Alex, Sophie, Celia, and Crosby
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Wednesday, December 19, 2007
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Current mood:  busy
Category: Travel and Places
Dennis went to Israel over Thanksgiving week last year. [Dennis wrote most of this part, in case you can't tell.] Intel was building a new chip manufacturing facility in Kiryat Gat, and the network group there asked for him to come over to audit and provide training on some of the new network designs being implemented at that new facility. The flight to Israel was a nightmare. Getting to Newark from Phoenix was no problem, and after getting the boarding pass and locating the gate for the flight to Tel Aviv, Dennis decided to get a drink or two to help him get to sleep on the flight. However, the scheduled 10:00 p.m. boarding didn't occur, and then the 10:30 p.m. announcement that the passengers would get an update at 11:00 p.m. did not bode well for a Friday night departure. At 11:00, they found out that the airline was giving the Tel Aviv flight's plane to an even more delayed flight to Paris that had been waiting for a couple of hours, as repairs were continuing on the Paris plane, although repair completion was expected at any time. As it turned out, "any time" meant any time other than that night. At 12:00, the passengers learned that the repairs were still continuing … and they would have another update shortly. Finally, at 12:30 a.m., the airline admitted that the flight would not be going out that night and that the airline was looking for hotels and transportation. At 1:30, the hotel had located a hotel and told the passengers that buses would be in front of the airport shortly. Dennis decided to not bother with the hotel since it would be a 45-minute bus trip to the hotel, followed by check-in, meaning that at best it would be 3:00 a.m. before he could settle in for a long winter's nap … with the requirement that everyone had to be back on the bus by 6:30 a.m. for the return trip. (He called Jessica to tell her as much too. It was 3:30 a.m. Arizona time at that point ... but to be fair, she asked him to call.) So Dennis stayed, got some food vouchers to get a very late dinner and some pillows and blankets, and made a bed under several chairs in the boarding area. At 9:00 am on Saturday they learned that the plane would be ready for boarding at 9:30 a.m. with a 10:00 a.m. departure. At 9:55, the captain informed everyone that there were some radio issues and that he was going to try a reboot of the system (which means powering off the plane!) to see if the radios would stabilize. After that failed, the passengers were allowed to deplane and get some lunch. Finally, at 1:00 p.m. on Saturday, they were in the air, thus arriving in Tel Aviv about 14 hours later than planned. Once in Israel, besides doing the "boring" work stuff, Dennis went to a barbeque in a settlement near the Intel campus. The directions given to him were all in English, but after arriving in the settlement, he found that all of the street signs were in Hebrew, which made the directions somewhat useless. He drove around for a little while and attempted to ask a couple of people for directions – yes, he did! – only to find that they did not speak English. He did finally manage to locate a family that not only spoke English but also actually lived on the road he sought. He arrived at the correct house and surprised everyone by actually making it there. He then enjoyed an Israeli barbeque: lots of meats, hummus, pita, and vegetables. (Afterward, he went back to the rental-car agency to get a car with a GPS system as well.) Over the next couple of weeks, Dennis visited the old city of Jafa, the Dead Sea, Masada, and Jerusalem – twice. One of the guys from work there also invited him to enjoy the Sabbath with him and his family. It was a very enjoyable trip from a sight-seeing perspective and a great work experience, but after getting married just a couple of weeks earlier, Dennis was anxious to get home.
As indicated in our holiday letter, Alex stayed with Jessica's parents while Jessica and Dennis were in Napa on their honeymoon. (We all also got to see Jessica's aunt and uncle and visiting grandmother in Mill Valley the night we arrived.) The trip from Novato to the first city where they were staying took them across the Golden Gate Bridge and down to Fisherman's Wharf for some tourist activities. They saw the sea lions at the wharf and ate crab. (They do seem to leave destruction in their wake wherever they travel; as with this year's oil spill in SF Bay, Katrina visited horror on New Orleans not long after their visit there in July 2005 as well.) Then they drove to Napa for a couple of nights at a bed & breakfast called the Blackbird Inn. There was champagne, along with a stuffed bear, waiting for their arrival in their room. The bear has since been christened Flummox due to the way that he appeared to be regarding them at times. :-) The B&B was beautiful: a huge stone fireplace in the common area, wine and finger foods every afternoon, and wonderful breakfasts in the morning. They enjoyed three nights there with the only downside being that a planned trip on the Wine Train didn't happen. (Dennis had made a reservation online through the hotel, but when he called to verify as much, they couldn't find the reservation. Rather than following up by checking his e-mail on the hotel computer, as Jessica suggested, they simply didn't go – even though it turned out later that their reservation had indeed gone through, and then he had to get them to give him a refund.Dennis has yet to learn to trust his wife's judgment....) On the upside, instead they drove around the Napa Valley in an area that Dennis had never visited before and found several great wineries. Dinner each night was a new experience. First, they found a little Italian bistro (to satisfy Jessica's craving) that featured open mic night that evening. They stayed to see some of the local talent and had a great time. They also enjoyed good Vietnamese and the standard California cuisine. After moving to the second B&B, Maison Fleurie in picturesque Yountville, they continued drinking wine, eating wonderful food, and relaxing. The only excursion away from the Napa Valley area that they made was a visit to the Jelly Belly factory. Dennis was wonderful enough to stand outside for an hour and a half in the line for the free tour – yes, in the cold, although he loves that, believe it or not – while Jessica went in to get herself some food. She was amused by all the jellybean-shaped foods (pizza, hamburgers) available in the cafe. They toured the factory and tried some beans afterwards, including the "recipe" of simultaneously chewing both Garlic and Buttered Toast flavored jelly beans (which does taste just like garlic bread). Alas, the fun had to end, so they returned to Novato to spend some time with the family before going out for New Year's Eve. Not knowing what was good in the area and not wanting to attempt to head into the city, they went to a little restaurant nearby that had advertised a New Year's Eve special, including a cabaret show. It was a fun night. Best of all, it was their first New Year's together as a married couple.
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Thursday, November 29, 2007
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Current mood:  annoyed
Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities
While looking for something else entirely tonight, I came upon this site asking viewers/readers to vote as to whether Brit or her new ex should get custody of their two kids (despite the fact that very few kids go 100% to one parent or the other, which fact is surprisingly obscure in this country: Even I, while pregnant, thought that I was deciding between parenting with my son's father's help or without it - but it never occurred to me that I might have to deal with something in between). While reading the comments, I found several remarks that merit comments of my own in response. They subtly demonstrate, I think, the depth and breadth of the absorption of mistaken ideas about parenting that have deep negative consequences in our lives. And actually, there were only really three of them: 1. "Britney is the mother and she carried the kids for nine months, so she deserves the kids!" Um, why? It's not as though there's any other way that things could have come to pass (unless she used a surrogate). We need to stop buying into the idea that women are somehow inherently/biologically better at parenting than men - which all of the demonization of mothers and celebration of involved fathers these days seems to belie anyway and which doesn't jive with the contemporary realities of ultra-effective formula and the like either. If there's any scientific basis for mothers being better parents than fathers, it's impossible to separate it from the fact that mothers and fathers are SOCIALIZED to think so - thus likely making it a self-fulfilling prophecy - and/or that our society (sometimes combined with biology) simply FORCES mothers to do more parenting than fathers, which ultimately would still make mothers generally better at it simply due to their getting more practice. But of course, in order to do that, we would also have to get away from our similarly misplaced notion that biological "parenthood" a better parent figure somehow makes. In this world, having a role in the split-second creation of a child - which act we ought to know by now has nothing to do with one's ability to be an appropriate parent - nevertheless makes one woman and one man the only people entitled to any rights to and responsibilities for a child unless and until a ridiculous standard of proof to the contrary is met. For a country that stands behind preemption, we sure don't apply it to child abuse. As another commenter wrote, "Hell, neither one of those crazy bleep dip sticks need those kids." 2. "No real man runs out on his pregnant wife for another woman." This perspective is just as problematic as the "welfare-reform" notions that involve coercing women into marrying or not divorcing their kids' fathers, even if those fathers are abusive, because either 1) the women have reached the imposed-from-outside limit of their temporary assistance or are otherwise being denied aid and can't survive without a second below-the-cost-of-living wage earner in the household, or 2) the government is going to deny them assistance UNLESS they do so. (It's easy to find sources to back me up on this issue, by the way. Try a Google search on "welfare" and "coerced marriage," for starters.) Why do we still have this bizarre notion that keeping families together (even when those families defy all of our idealisms as to what constitutes families) is the solution to the world's problems? Back when few had the opportunity to do anything else, the murder rate was higher than it is now. Why do you think that is? (Here's a hint: "THE DECLINE in marriage is having another unexpected effect on Western society - a decline in the murder rate as fewer husbands have fewer opportunities to kill fewer wives.") 3. And then we have the good ol' Selfish Mother myth: "Aren't the nannies going to raise them anyway?? In typical Britney fashion where was she on Easter?? Well,she was shopping and going to the basketball game of course (without her kids) maybe dad had them.... isn't this [what] any good mother would do on Easter?? (sarcasm)... How selfish can you be grow up Brit and put your kids 1st instead of yourself." Maybe they WERE with K-Fed. That's common among separated parents: One gets most of the "regular" time, the other gets most of the holidays - or they split them. And then what parent wants to hang out at home while her kids are gone? I had to take pains to distract myself while Alex, as a baby, was with his biological dad - especially because I had concerns about what kind of dad he could be. But what if they weren't? Must everyone see Easter the same way? Must a "good mother" be with her kids all the time - even if that means that such constant proximity makes her lose her mind and act like a "bad mother"? Why do we continue to criticize mothers for being away from their kids when, with incredible and yet unremarked-upon consistency, it's the stay-at-home moms (or the ones who "only" work part-time) who end up making the big headlines for killing their kids? Is getting away sometimes - or even regularly - really 100% NOT in kids' best interests? The other irony in that remark is that being rich is supposed to be the goal and the ideal in this country - especially if you're considering having kids (hence another comment that "she's definitely the better choice if for no other reason but her financial stability") - and yet it simultaneously assumes that the rich never raise their own kids and thus are "bad parents." In fact, in Britney's case, much the opposite has been evident. While she has made mistakes with her kids that have made major headlines (which have not always corresponded in magnitude with the magnitude of those mistakes), she's made them because she's been trying to take care of her kids herself, without a nanny doing it all for her. (I'm not the first one to make that point, by the way.) Bottom line, as far as I'm concerned: Ain't nothin' cut-and-dried here - as is pretty much always the case, I would argue - so the appropriate court decision wouldn't be either. As one family court judge said while my own kid's custody case was on the docket for the day: His goal is to make sure that no one goes home happy. And isn't that a good thing? At least the kids will always know that both parents were willing to fight for them when it came right down to it. And so will mine.
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Monday, September 17, 2007
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Current mood:  contemplative
Category: Writing and Poetry
[The first part of this article I posted on my Gather.com page last Wednesday.] Like Monster-in-Law, the bad J-Lo movie whose title explicitly replaces "mother" with her more common image in American culture, as I discuss in my thesis, Gregory Maguire's novel Son of a Witch - the sequel to Wicked, which made a splash as a Broadway play - implicitly suggests another name for the title character Liir's mom. Yet when we start reading the book - the series began as a clever interpretation of The Wizard of Oz - we realize that Liir is not even certain that Elphaba, the Wicked Witch of the West, was indeed his biological mother, although he was apparently with her as long as he can remember from his childhood to her death. It is not until he joins the military (since he has nothing better to do and must eat and stay warm somehow) that he begins to criticize her as a mother (without still being certain of her actual maternity), partially in comparison with the stereotypically affectionate, good cook moms of the other soldiers - one of whom out of jealousy and spite he frames for a crime, the ramifications of which culminate in that soldier's suicide - but primarily because he feels his lack of education - in the traditional sense, yes, but even more in obedience (she herself was only obedient to herself, he notes), and most of all in how to be a man. Thus we hear the classic criticism of the single mother - the powerful single mother - from the character of a young man who was written by a man. Usually I find such illustrations penned by women. But Maguire does make a point of indicating that the witch - frightening for her power to use words to make things happen, we learn (and what of that wouldn't be frightening for any patriarchal society?) - was not hated and/or feared by all - that she even had allies and was respected by those who, after her murder at the hands of the feckless Dorothy, seem mildly interested in revenge. Yet those are all outsiders, marginal to society and suspicious to the civilized, the law-abiding, the religious - with whom Liir has taken up by the time he begins to criticize his mother. Mainstream society is not kind to mothers, we see. Elphaba was apparently not affectionate, not kind, not nurturing, not self-sacrificing, not involved - not maternal, Liir concludes, wondering if that alone might prove that she's not his mother - and further, she had green skin and a biting wit and enjoyed studying her spell-book late into the night. All inappropriate characteristics for an ideal mother. All she asked of Liir, we learn, was to keep himself safe. That alone might define an ideal mother from my own feminist perspective, though. The interesting thing is that - at least at this point in the story, about halfway through the book - Liir is an ideal American man: handsome, independent, reserved, somewhat intelligent, basically obedient, mildly ambitious. In fact, single mothers have a tendency to produce that type, I've found. They appreciate women because they've seen their contributions in a situation in which none of it can be appropriated to a man, and they know how to work and take care of themselves because they've had to. The Oedipus complex, on the other hand, can only arise when there's a man in a heterosexual relationship with a boy's mother to give the boy someone of whom to be jealous. (Or, as Hegel would have it, someone to Desire in hopes of fulfilling the boy's homoerotic Desire for recognition from the man.) Otherwise, the boy actually has his mother all to himself, as society idealizes. Granted, single mothers often work, but that keeps them from becoming as dependent on their children as the Bad Mother myth suggests - and really, despite the mothers most often demonized, it's only the stay-at-home moms who actually end up hurting their children (probably because they have no way to escape their postpartum depression and/or the endless, mindless drudgery of caring for young children). It's sadly ironic in retrospect that Mrs. McCann was celebrated as undeserving of losing a daughter because she's a stay-at-home mom (see my earlier post on the subject) - and yet now it appears as though she killed her daughter herself at the time. [I'll directly explore Freud's take on the Oedipus complex someday soon, I'm sure. Now that I've finished Son of a Witch, though, I'll finish my discussion of this book:]
Liir got worse before he got better. In line with Maguire's allegory for the United States government (he actually indicated in an interview that one of his inspirations for this book was the Abu Ghraib incident), the military influence in Liir's life causes him to commit the one act that he regrets more than anything else in his life. Then he goes through a frustrating period of hopelessness in which he denies his connection to and shared plight with the rest of the world. (Sound familiar?)
It is only when he starts to follow Elphaba's example that he stops failing at every task to which he sets out - and angering Maguire's readers (or me at least!) with his stubborn self-absorbed careless inaction - and begins to succeed. Even after death, we learn, Elphaba is keeping alive many people's - and animals' - hopes for freedom from tyranny, whether as a symbol, through remembrance of her actions while she lived, or through those whom she knew in her life.
Despite that glowing recommendation, Liir still appears to follow the typical path of the son of a Monster Mother: He cannot feel the way that he thinks that he should toward an attractive woman who might care for him in return. His body reacts as it should to bring about reproduction, but he cannot ever consciously follow through on that impulse. Instead, [Spoiler Alert!] he experiments in homosexuality with a man that he met in the military - in accordance with the typical homoerotic relationships that arise in such situations - and seems to be more sure of that identity in himself than anything else.
Now don't get me wrong: I'm not equating having a homosexual son with being a bad mother. I'm getting to the point, in fact, where I think that raising a child who so clearly does not fulfill societal expectations would be the foremost indicator for me of success as a parent in this society. But I am seeing, over and over again, stories in which that first equation is being made. Perhaps Maguire only means it here as a further indicator of the damage that war can cause to those forced to participate in it, in a long line of similar texts including, for instance, Hemingway's The Sun Also Rises - and indeed, the inability to function sexually is a common and documented effect of combat. Ultimately all that is certain, though, is that Liir himself does not feel entirely satisfied with his sexuality at the end of this story, and so neither does the reader - and thus we're left with that negative impression to apply where we will.
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Monday, September 17, 2007
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Current mood:  stressed
Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities
[first posted on my Gather.com page earlier today]
Monty Python member Terry Gilliam's 1985 film Brazil is uncanny in its prediction of the present. It depicts a totalitarian society in which the incredibly invasive Bureau of Information Retrieval "never makes mistakes" in pursuing terrorist suspects - or just those "selected for questioning" - who the movie shows us are usually if not always citizens and usually if not always die or otherwise disappear, regardless of their guilt or even their true identities. The main character, Sam Lowry, initially seems to be more aware of the problems inherent in his world than later, as he begins to haplessly destroy his own life and the lives of those around him in selfish pursuit of Jill, who resembles the woman of his idealistic dreams - literally. In that he is clearly influenced by the classic movies that hypnotize most of the members of this society into compliance with their horrific government. Meanwhile, his widowed mother, Ida, repeatedly tries to force her son into a relationship with her friend's ungainly daughter and into a promotion to Information Retrieval, neither of which he wants. She accomplishes the latter by "pulling strings," she says, but her power clearly comes to a large extent from her sexuality, even though her high-ranking husband is dead. She basically admits to sleeping around with at least one high-level government official, a man at least as young as her son, and her plastic surgeon, who ultimately makes her look so young that her son sees Jill's face instead of Ida's - and that's right after he makes love with Jill in his mother's bed (while she's wearing a blond wig that makes her look more like the damsel in distress of his dreams). "Don't call me that," Ida says, as Sam cries repeatedly, "Mother! Mother!" The obsession of, it seems, all matronly women in this society with plastic surgery and lingerie are meant to further illustrate the failures of this fictional world - but the trope that's used to do it, the Monster Mother (controlling, powerful, sexual, and self-absorbed) is nothing new. And the result - the destruction of her son and everyone connected with him - is common as well. [Another interesting sidenote: Sam's boss at the beginning of the movie is named Kurtzmann. I was instantly reminded of Kurtz from Heart of Darkness - but I also feel as though I've encountered another character named after Kurtz in my movie-watching of the past couple of years. Anyone able to help me with that?]
The film, though reminiscent of other futuristic cautionary tales, such as Blade Runner, only partially succeeds, due, I suspect, at least to some extent to its perplexing inconsistencies in characterization. Those may be due to Gilliam's Monty Python roots: He sacrifices consistency for humor, but in consequence the plot suffers. Still, its prophetic qualities are fascinating. Of course, it was purportedly inspired by George Orwell's 1984, so that shouldn't be surprising either. My source for some of these details was Wikipedia.
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Monday, August 20, 2007
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Current mood:  excited
Category: Writing and Poetry
In my continuing self-assigned summer homework (which obviously I've run out of time to finish) to ascertain for myself 1) why feminist theorists would have criticized Hemingway's work and 2) whether his treatment of mothers would accord with that judgment against him, I recently read A Farewell to Arms (Scribner Classics 1997), the story of an American who serves as an officer responsible for the ambulance service in the Italian Army in World War I and falls in love with a British nurse. Incidentally, Hemingway himself served in the Red Cross at the Italian front in WWI, and he also fell in love with a nurse there, but she ultimately rejected him as too young for her (according to The Cambridge Companion to Ernest Hemingway, ed. Scott Donaldson, Cambridge UP, 1996, ix). I personally suspect that it is because his own life had that disappointment in it that the comparable relationship in A Farewell to Arms ends so regrettably. It was the real emotions from Hemingway's own experiences that, once he imbued them in his characters, gave those characters the life that makes them so real to his readers, who may have felt those same emotions without even realizing it. But he was also a product of his time, as we all are. His depictions of ideal masculinity and femininity, as well as his perspective on mothering, perfectly represent those of the culture of which he is a part - and also perpetuate them, which is probably why his work fell victim to feminist criticism. The gender expectations of modern America were problematic, so his early 20th century depictions of them were as well. But his representations of mothering are less problematic, since even though the demonization of mothers dates back to the earliest written work in the English language (Beowulf), it probably had more to do with justifying the domination of women than it did targeting mothers themselves, since mother-blame in particular only dates back to WWII. The feminists who engaged in criticizing Hemingway, in fact, were more interested in enacting mother-blame than he was himself, as I already demonstrated in my earlier discussion of For Whom the Bell Tolls. In the two novels mentioned above as well as The Old Man and the Sea, Hemingway's protagonists are always brave and humble, and in Farewell and Bell along with one of his autobiographies (The Moveable Feast, discussed here), each has a potent sex drive (so that includes himself). Sometimes his men are decisive, but the rest of the time they go with the flow, reacting to life as it happens to them. They are neither always honest nor always loyal, respectful, or faithful, but they are usually honest with themselves. They are cerebral and astute and feel deeply. They protect their women from the truth and thus always remain at least a little aloof from them, only truly connecting with other men, which connection is more often than not understood rather than articulated. And of course, they're straight. That is the Hemingway ideal of a man. The ideal woman for Hemingway is best described as devoted. She is loyal and faithful, of course, and wants to serve her man sexually and support him professionally however she can - and most of all, she tries to make as little trouble for him and cause him as little concern on her behalf as possible. She is unaware of the true ways of the world and wants to remain that way. When her man is happy, she is genuinely happy, or tries to be, with no separate concerns for herself. The problems with this characterization should be clear. In Farewell, Catherine Barkley first displays idealized femininity when she questions protagonist Lt. Frederic Henry about his previous romantic relationships: "How many have you--how do you say it?--stayed with?" she asks. "None," Henry replies. "You're lying to me," Barkley states. "Yes," Henry admits. She responds: "It's all right. Keep right on lying to me. That's what I want you to do." Later she asks whether he has ever told "a girl" that he's "stayed with" that he loves her, and Hemingway writes (as his narrator, Henry): "No," I lied.
This time, Barkley appears to have believed him (99). There is Henry's idealized masculinity, protecting his woman from the truth. In response, Barkley promises to "do what you want and say what you want and then I'll be a great success, won't I? [...] What would you like me to do now that you're all ready?" Henry replies, "Come to the bed again," and so she does. "I want what you want. There isn't any me any more," she claims (100). Later Barkley seems to diverge from that when she refuses to marry Henry after they become intimate, but her explanation is completely in line with seeking to cause him as little concern on her behalf as possible. He asks, "Then nothing worries you?" and she replies, "Only being sent away from you. You're my religion. You're all I've got. [...] Don't talk as though you had to make an honest woman of me, darling. I'm a very honest woman. You can't be ashamed of something if you're only happy and proud of it. [...] I won't ever leave you for some one else" (108). And she doesn't. She does become pregnant, though, but she doesn't tell him for three months because, she says, "It doesn't worry me but I'm afraid to worry you." He admits once she reveals her secret that "I only worry about you," and she responds, "That's what you mustn't do. People have babies all the time. Everybody has babies. It's a natural thing. [...] I'll try and not make trouble for you. I know I've made trouble now. But haven't I been a good girl until now?" (128) Barkley continues to express similar sentiments throughout the rest of the book (142,268). Even while she was giving birth she worried about being any trouble: "I so want to be a good wife and have this child without any foolishness. Please go and get some breakfast," she said (282). She sounds much like Maria in For Whom the Bell Tolls who, for instance, is sore one night from previously repeatedly making love with protagonist Robert Jordan - to whom she's also unmarried because of the exigencies of wartime - but still asks him to make love with her because she only wants to be a good girl and make him happy. Neither situation may resemble Hemingway's true wartime romance, however, where the woman may have been the more experienced partner. As also demonstrated in my discussion of For Whom the Bell Tolls (linked above), his characters' situations don't always mirror his own. Henry also displays his idealized masculinity when he resists an affectionate kiss from his philandering Italian surgeon roommate Rinaldi when Henry returns from battle wounded (66). When it happens again later, Rinaldi remarks, "I know, you are the fine good Anglo-Saxon boy. I know. You are the remorse boy, I know. I will wait till I see the Anglo-Saxon brushing away harlotry with a toothbrush," as he apparently always did after the men visited prostitutes the night before (155). Hemingway's ironic (because he's far from a saint himself) homophobia is always clear. Likewise, he demonstrates his racism when he has Henry use the epithet "wop" to describe Rinaldi (65) and then say of the Japanese that they "are a wonderful little people fond of dancing and light wines" (74); later, he adds, in conversation with Barkley, that "Othello was a nigger" (232). When it comes down to it, the question is whether a writer deserves personal criticism for reflecting the problematic attitudes of his or her time in his or her work. I have previously discussed a work by a contemporary author in which he universally depicts women as untrustworthy; he defends that in the comments by essentially indicating that depicting is not endorsing. I have defended Zora Neale Hurston's Seraph on the Suwanee the same way (but that's because she was an anthropologist and so had set out to do just that). Even Shakespeare was an anti-Semite, like most other Brits of his time. Still, depicting is not only representing - it is also propagating. Satire is supposed to critique a trope by exaggerating it - but it also crystallizes it vividly for its audience, and stereotypes, as I discuss in most of my work, are powerful. Writing is a responsibility, and it takes vision to move forward rather than stagnate. Maybe I am right to judge. In light of these considerations, the final moments of Farewell are the most interesting to me. Henry, when faced with the reality of the dangers of childbirth, cares nothing for his child being born and only for Barkley. "What reason is there for her to die?" he tries to reassure himself. "There's just a child that has to be born, the by-product of good nights in Milan. It makes trouble and is born and then you look after it and get fond of it maybe" (287). The doctor, who thinks that they are married, asks Henry's permission to perform a Caesarean, and they make a decision regardless of Barkley's wishes (288). When Henry finally sees the child, he thinks, "I had no feeling for him. He did not seem to have anything to do with me. I felt no feeling of fatherhood." He did not feel proud of him, he says, since "he nearly killed his mother." He didn't even want a boy, he says (291). Then, as now, masculinity is not associated with loving children; men are instead socialized to be interested only in "good nights" and not in any of the consequences thereof. Idealized masculinity is supposed to represent awareness of the world and protecting women from that truth, but Henry was until the last in denial about the realities of childbirth, and he couldn't protect Barkley from them. It is the ultimate irony of our gender expectations that they so diverge from the truth in at least that one inescapable reality of our own physical creation. Had Barkley had the knowledge and ability to more reliably protect herself from conceiving in the first place, she could have been the untroublesome "wife" that she - and the world - wished her to be. But such power granted to a woman would simultaneously violate those ideals. And so all was lost.
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Tuesday, August 07, 2007
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Current mood:  awake
Category: Movies, TV, Celebrities
James Bond: Casino Royale Although others have criticized this prequel as not being true to the Bond legacy or whatever - obviously I'm not someone who is all that familiar (or impressed) with that [whatever] - I really enjoyed it. The first time that I watched it, it made me gasp and/or laugh several times. It was especially nice to see a female character play such an active and pivotal role in the plot (rather than just being a "Bond girl") - and that, I think, was the point: to show why Bond thereafter went only for the "Bond girl" type. Even a mite thought-provoking. The Boondocks: Season 1 Episodes 1-5 Just as I expected based on the comics, this series' treatment of Black women - of all women, really - is universally negative. A vivid example is the R. Kelly episode, in which the only Black women are the young girl who testifies that she wanted Kelly to pee on her and an overweight protester who kills Rosa Parks when the woman throws at Parks the chicken bone which the woman has just finished gnawing. The next episode features a White prostitute - and yes, she is called a "hoe" - who manipulates Granddad into spending lots of money on her. Disappointing. Thank You for Smoking I enjoyed this movie's celebration of rhetoric, even though I find a little tiresome its typical idealized portrayal of a parent who sacrifices everything because he is unable to stomach a little bit of hypocrisy and/or contradiction, which as Sara Ruddick writes (in Maternal Thinking, which I'm reading right now) is central to real parenting. Ferris Bueller's Day Off This movie has always annoyed me, but this latest viewing finally enabled me to articulate why: Its primary protagonist is a careless, self-absorbed liar who, not surprisingly, therefore repeatedly uses the far more interesting other people in his life strictly to advance his own whimsical desires. The worst part is at the end, all of that is supposed to look as though it turned out to be a good thing for those other characters. Yes, let's teach our children to be like that. Sherrybaby I really, really enjoyed this movie and would recommend it to anyone. First of all, it stars the ever-impressive Maggie Gyllenhaal. But it's a story of a formerly drug-addicted mother who gets out of prison motivated solely by her hopes for a close relationship with her daughter. She quickly discovers, though, that one cannot rely entirely on a child for one's sense of purpose - especially because children are often unpredictable. It's also a story of the many realities of our society that can keep a good person from always being good. And it's a story of a family who has essentially adopted this little girl and their legitimate concerns for her interests - and their own. I can empathize with both sides of this story, so I was ever-alert to any standard demonization of either the mother or the stepmother - but it really wasn't there. Neither character was perfect, and both were often sympathetic. The movie is an excellent exploration of the complications of parenting in the real world and how they simply cannot be simplified into "good" and "bad" or "right" and "wrong." Margaret Cho: Assassin This DVD of one of Cho's appearances on her "Assassin" tour was disappointing. I'm not that familiar with her work except that I know people who love her. I found the occasional suggestions of racism - always against Blacks - to be most upsetting, though. As a friend of mine who had read some of her work astutely pointed out later, she tends to joke about issues but never quite go as far as you expect and actually say anything substantial about them. That being said, it was funny - but only for leftists in the company of leftists, at least for the first half. O Brother Where Art Thou OK, George Clooney does not a convincing Odysseus make. In fact, the plot's resemblance to the original Odyssey is skeletal at best - and thus sometimes simply frustrating, so it would be better to watch it without that expectation. It is, then, somewhat amusing. Its all-too-typical demonization of the wife/mother - a horrible debasement of the original, honored Penelope - further hurts the flick in my eyes, though. I wouldn't recommend it. Donnie Darko A professor in my new department thinks the world of this movie and recommended it to me. It was too weird for Dennis, but I enjoyed it once I realized that it was basically magical reality, like Salman Rushdie's work - and it packs an incredible emotional punch. It also demonstrates an awareness of societal constructions of ideal motherhood - which in this case particularly involve appropriate mothering behaviors, such as complete devotion, and perfect results in the children themselves - and subtly challenges them. I'll probably watch it again to take closer note of all of its nuances. Dead End I watched this movie thinking that it would be relevant to my mother-sons work, but the daughter's relationship with her father turned out to be the real focus. It was an enjoyable movie too, especially once I realized that, despite the frequent creepiness, I wasn't going to see anything truly nightmarish. It was always just suggested - sometimes rather humorously. The surprise ending also reminded me a lot of that of Donnie Darko, since in both movies your entire understanding (or lack thereof) of what you've seen changes - and your confusion resolves itself - right in the last few moments of the action. To be honest, Dead End still leaves some questions in the viewer's mind - but I'd still recommend it. Wanda Sykes: Sick and Tired Sykes provides comedy that proves that you CAN be politically correct while still being hilarious. Unproblematic enough to be unlikely to offend anyone - except perhaps prudes - and also really smart and subtle about some of the issues facing Americans today. Just wonderful. Keeping Mum With an all-star cast (including Rowan Atkinson of Mr. Bean fame; Kristen Scott Thomas; Patrick Swayze; and Maggie Smith, most recently known as Harry Potter's headmistress), this movie attempts to make what is quite serious - adultery, murder, and sermon-making - quite funny, with some success. If you take such things seriously, you might not be convinced, though. My husband certainly wasn't, and I had some trouble myself as well. The Holiday With another all-star cast (Cameron Diaz, Kate Winslet, Jude Law, and Jack Black), this movie succeeds best in its sometimes hilarious send-ups of movies themselves. It has a couple of really bad lines, and some plot moments and casting decisions are unconvincing, but it's nevertheless a fun, even unpredictable movie. Diaz shines. Probably worth your time. Mr. Fix It Starring David Boreanaz, best known as Buffy the Vampire Slayer's Angel, this movie appears to attempt to be a spoof but is only occasionally successful - we suspect because of a less strong cast than you usually find in such things - such as that of The Holiday, above, for instance. Thus it ends up being more cheesy than funny at times. If you can stick with it, though, a surprising twist late in the flick livens things up. Then it goes for over-the-top cheesy at the end. I've also watched most of The Inconvenient Truth and Sicko (discussed here) recently, and even though they're unapologetically liberal in orientation, what they both show is that mainstream American movies that present a viewpoint outside the mainstream 1) get that viewpoint honest consideration among the mainstream population and 2) do so much more successfully than do books, speaking tours, websites, or any other form of communication. That directly confirms my ultimate argument in my Master's thesis: that without positive visual representations (read: in movies) of feminist and so-called "nontraditional" approaches to mothering, even - and primarily - mothers themselves will be unable to take such approaches without worrying about their standard negative connotations in society and probably reacting to such worries. Such evidence makes me feel triumphant. Other movies that I've reviewed this year: The Lake House (discussed in passing here) The Last Mimzy (discussed here) Dancer in the Dark (discussed here) Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix (discussed here) Last year's movies
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Thursday, July 26, 2007
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Current mood:  cheerful
Category: News and Politics
I listened first to West's more recent Democracy Matters: Winning the Fight Against Imperialism, which probably first interested me because I've heard some criticism of West and wanted to discover for myself whether there was much basis for it. Democracy Matters struck me as odd in some ways for the directions that it took, starting with nihilism (which I later learned paralleled the organization of Race Matters, to which West constructed Democracy Matters as a sequel), spending a lot of time on religion (which is, I later realized, West's official field of study), and ending with his personal experiences with former Harvard President Leonard Summers (which I have to suspect that he included at least a little bit due to self-absorption). But besides that, I love West's work - or at least the written stuff. Perhaps the criticism that I've heard was mostly directed at West's musical creations, which I still have yet to experience myself. I'm working on that. This post, however, is about these two of his books. The best things about West, in my opinion, are as follows: 1. He does not seem to exclude any important perspective, from a scholarly standpoint, while addressing his primary issues of race and religion. For a well-known (in academia, anyway) Black male professor to consistently recognize and discuss relevant issues of gender and sexual orientation, with his background at Harvard and now Princeton, is phenomenal, I assure you. Even in the supposedly liberal university, male theorists - particularly those of religion and/or race studies - are frequently opponents of women's and gay rights. 2. Even though he problematizes a lot of aspects of America today, he is not entirely doom-and-gloom. In fact, he seems far more proactive and optimistic - a wonderful thing for those of us who feel eternally buffeted by bad news these days. (That's why I recommended Democracy Matters to my mom before I even finished it.) I think that the most important point from Democracy Matters is one that he suggested early on: That those who would make the best leaders in this country don't want to run for office, and that those who do want to run for office are by and large far from ideal - or really even acceptable - candidates. It's true. As my husband says (although he got this idea from a liberal friend of ours first), anyone who aspires to an office is thereby unqualified to hold it. Both my husband and I ran for offices in our local Mensa chapter this summer, but we did so because we learned that there was a need for people like us to do so - not because we want to drive up to Phoenix once a month to wrangle over issues that would probably seem ridiculous to outsiders. As West points out, in the early days of this country, the best and the brightest were groomed, more or less, for political positions, which they would ultimately take out of a sense of obligation rather than for any more ambitious purposes. That's why, for instance, elected offices are supposed to come with such poor salaries, as does the U.S. Presidency. But why don't more people in this country today see problems with it and then feel obligated to try to address them by running for public office? Why don't more of our bright high achievers take turns sharing their abilities with the people at large that way? West has inspired me to run for public office someday - which, like my ultimate degrees in English, my peers in high school predicted for me long before I ever thought such a thing possible - if only because I believe that I could do a good job, especially since I wouldn't see it as a career. I would run without being particularly desirous of getting re-elected so that I could do my job instead of worrying about keeping my job - so that I could reject corporate campaign funding if that would force me to feel an obligation to anyone besides my constituents and my country - so that I could be decisive without worrying about whom I might thereby make an enemy of. Or at least I plan to consider running someday. I've always felt that I was too outspoken and forthright to get elected to any office, though (even though of course those would be great characteristics once I was, I think). But do you see how inspiring the book was? After that I had to go back and read Race Matters, which I ought to have read professionally anyway, since race is one of my intellectual foci in my work. (I say that all the time, by the way. That's why my work is never done.) Some of West's best points in Race Matters (which, despite their incredible relevance today, as you'll see, was actually published in 1993): - "Pleasure ... has little to do with the past and views the future as no more than a repetition of a hedonistically driven present. This market morality stigmatizes others as objects for personal pleasure or bodily stimulation. Conservative behaviorists have alleged that traditional morality has been undermined by radical feminists and the cultural radicals of the sixties. But it is clear that corporate market institutions have greatly contributed to undermining traditional morality in order to stay in business and make a profit. The reduction of individuals to objects of pleasure is especially evident in the culture industries--television, radio, video, music--in which gestures of sexual foreplay and orgiastic pleasure flood the marketplace.... These seductive images contribute to the predominance of the market-inspired way of life over all others and thereby edge out nonmarket values--love, care, service to others--handed down by preceding generations. The predominance of this way of life among those living in poverty-ridden conditions, with a limited capacity to ward off self-contempt and self-hatred, results in the possible triumph of the nihilistic threat in black America" (17).
Note that West doesn't criticize the genres above themselves - for instance, he later points out that even though "listening to Motown records in the sixties or dancing to hip hop music in the nineties may not lead one to question the sexual myths of black women and men," at least "the Afro-Americanization of white youth--given the disproportionate black role in popular music and athletics--has put white kids in closer contact with their own bodies and facilitated more humane interaction with black people" (84)* - but the industries that exclusively favor, say, the oversexualized version of hip hop over the more politically aware kind which inspired it - and which still exists. That "market morality" can also be seen in our society's vast indifference to those whom we're able to write off as not directly benefiting us (even though the very lowest contributions to our society are still contributions to the society from which we all benefit). - "Escalating black nationalist sentiments--the notion that America's will to racial justice is weak and therefore black people must close ranks for survival in a hostile country--rests principally upon claims to racial authenticity.... Black nationalist sentiments promote and encourage black cultural conservatism, especially black patriarchal (and homophobic) power. The idea of black people closing ranks against hostile white Americans reinforces black male power exercised over black women (e.g., to protect, regulate, subordinate, and hence usually, though not always, to use and abuse women) in order to preserve black social order under circumstances of white literal attack and symbolic assault" (24).
- "What is black authenticity? Who is really black? ... In short, blackness is a political and ethical construct" (25-26).
- "Unfortunately, most black leaders remained caught in a framework of racial reasoning--even when they opposed [Clarence] Thomas and/or supported [Anita] Hill.... The debate evolved around glib formulations of a black 'role model' based on mere pigmentation" (31).
That, as I see it, is one of the problems with some of the current discussions about Barack Obama. The consequences of such reasoning are chillingly depicted in Toni Morrison's incredible work Paradise, about an all-Black community, reminiscent of Zora Neale Hurston's Eatonville, that ends up demonstrating the same kind of racial reasoning - excluding all who are or associate with those who are not the darkest shade of Black - against which they originally sought to defend themselves, with disastrous results. Hurston, incidentally, writing in the early twentieth century, was a segregationist herself - she's been demonized for it - because she too fell into that trap. - "In [Glenn Loury's] book, Free at Last, he ... holds that black liberals adhere to a victim-status conception of black people that results in blaming all personal failings of black people on white racism.... Loury argues that black liberals truncate intellectual discourse regarding the plight of poor black people by censoring critical perspectives which air the 'dirty linen' of the black community.... Unfortunately, and ironically, Loury deploys the very rhetorical strategies he denounces in his liberal adversaries. For example, he casts black conservatives and neo-conservatives like himself as victims--victims whose own failings to gain a fair hearing and broad following in Afro-America he attributes to a black liberal conspiracy to discredit them in an ad hominem manner. Yet surely the black community is not so gullible, manipulable, and downright callous. It may simply be that the real merits of the case put forward by the new black conservatives are unconvincing and unpersuasive" (50-51).
That reminds me both of conservatives' criticism of the university, which fits exactly the same description, and of White men's cries of reverse racism and sexism, which are given as much credence as they deserve when the evidence still points in completely the opposite direction. On affirmative action, then: - "Mobility by means of affirmative action breeds tenuous self-respect and questionable peer acceptance for middle-class blacks. The new black conservatives voiced these feelings in the forms of attacks on affirmative action programs (despite the fact that they had achieved their positions by means of such programs).... The need of black conservatives to gain the respect of their white peers deeply shapes certain elements of their conservatism. In this regard, they simply want what most people want, to be judged by the quality of their skills, not the color of their skin. But the black conservatives overlook the fact that affirmative action policies were political responses to the pervasive refusal of most white Americans to judge black America on that basis. The new black conservatives assume that without affirmative action programs, white Americans will make choices on merit rather than on race. Yet they have adduced no evidence for this" (52).
That's the same problem with arguments for voluntary charity rather than tax-funded government assistance programs, as I've discussed before (see my first comment below my article). Here's West's take on that subject: - "We indeed must criticize and condemn immoral acts of black people, but we must do so cognizant of the circumstances into which people are born and under which they live.... The ideological blinders of the new black conservatives are clearly evident in their attempt to link the moral breakdown of poor black communities to the expansion of the welfare state.... The new black conservatives claim that transfer payments to the black needy engender a mentality of dependence which undercuts the value of self-reliance and of the solidity of the black poor family. They fail to see that the welfare state was an historic compromise between progressive forces seeking broad subsistence rights and conservative forces arguing for unregulated markets. Therefore it should come as no surprise that the welfare state possesses many flaws.... But simply to point out these rather obvious shortcomings does not justify cutbacks in the welfare state [which] will only produce even more black cultural disorientation and more devastated black households" (57).
- "With the added competition for jobs resulting from the entrance of new immigrants and white women into the labor market, semi-skilled and unskilled black workers have found it increasingly difficult, if not impossible, to find employment. By 1980, 15 percent of all black men between the ages of twenty-four and forty-six reported to the Census Bureau that they had earned nothing whatsoever the previous year. Often the only option for young blacks is military enlistment. (Indeed, the U.S. army is nearly one-third black.)" (54)
That was one objection to the visiting worker program that Congress recently considered as part of its attempt to address the illegal immigration issue. But that would only serve the big corporations that want an unlimited supply of cheap labor to use but not care for, while it would further lessen the work available to unskilled American citizens. Thus we return to affirmative action: - "Progressives should view affirmative action as neither a major solution to poverty nor a sufficient means to equality. We should see it as primarily playing a negative role--namely, to ensure that discriminatory practices against women and people of color are abated. Given the history of this country, it is a virtual certainty that without affirmative action racial and sexual discrimination would return with a vengeance" (64).
Indeed, there is plenty of evidence today - take the recent SCOTUS decision in the case in which the woman sought redress for decades of pay discrimination - that it persists nonetheless. As West concludes:</p> - Although many of my liberal and progressive citizens view affirmative action as a redistributive measure whose time is over and whose life is no longer worth preserving, I question their view because of the persistence of discriminatory practices that increase black social misery, and the warranted suspicion that good will and fair judgment among the powerful does not loom as large toward women and people of color" (65).
*"More and more white Americans are willing to interact sexually with black Americans on an equal basis - even if the myths still persist. I view this as neither cause for celebration nor reason for lament," West explains. "Anytime two human beings find genuine pleasure, joy, and love, the stars smile and the universe is enriched. Yet as long as that pleasure, joy, and love is still predicated on myths of black sexuality, the more fundamental challenge of humane interaction remains unmet" (85). "Black sexuality," West explains further, "is a taboo subject in America principally because it is a form of black power over which whites have little control--yet its visible manifestations evoke the most visceral of white responses, be it one of seductive obsession or downright disgust. On the one hand, black sexuality among blacks simply does not include whites, nor does it make them a central point of reference.... This can be uncomfortable for white people accustomed to being the custodians of power" (87). That reminds me of a story told me by a friend and former colleague of mine who presented a paper at last year's National Women's Studies Association conference (my own posting about part of which I'm sad to admit is still a work in progress). Before the panel began, a White woman came into the room, asking in a deep Southern accent whether this was the panel about Black people having sex. After my friend's presentation (on the work of Zane), this woman asked what was so special about a Black world in which Whites do not figure? After all, she said, Whites often write about the world as though Blacks don't figure in it. Heheh. "On the other hand," West continues, "black sexuality between blacks and whites proceeds based on underground desires that Americans deny or ignore in public and over which laws have no effective control. In fact, the dominant sexual myths of black women and men portray whites as being 'out of control'--seduced, tempted, overcome, overpowered by black bodies. This form of black sexuality makes white passivity the norm--[again] hardly an acceptable self-image for a white-run society.... Yet there is a 'brazen' side--a side perceived long ago by black people. If black sexuality is a form of black power in which black agency and white passivity are interlinked, then are not black people simply acting out the very roles to which the racist myths of black sexuality confine them?" (87) This question brings to light the nature of "this Catch-22 situation in which black sexuality either liberates black people from white control in order to imprison them in racist myths or confines blacks to white 'respectability'" - like in the rejection of affirmative action in favor of White respect, as above - "while they make their own sexuality a taboo subject" (88). This "Catch-22 situation" manifests itself via hip hop culture in that "for most young black men, power is acquired by stylizing their bodies over space and time in such a way that their bodies reflect their uniqueness and provoke fear in others.... This young black male style is a form of self-idenitifcation and resistance in a hostile culture; it is also an instance of machismo identity ready for violent encounters. Yet in a patriarchal society, machismo identity is expected and even exalted.... In this way, the black male search for power often reinforces the myth of black male sexual prowess--a myth that tends to subordinate black and white women as objects of sexual pleasure. This search for power also usually results in a direct confrontation with the order-imposing authorities of the status quo, that is, the police or criminal justice system." That, in a nutshell, West indicates, is "the prevailing cultural crisis of many black men" (89).
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Thursday, July 19, 2007
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Current mood:  working
Category: Writing and Poetry
I recently finished an unabridged audio version of Salman Rushdie's Shalimar the Clown, wonderfully read by Aasif Mandvi, which was my second Rushdie book. Between it and my first, Midnight's Children, I'm getting a sense of Rushdie's style: chronologically fluid, satirical, politically aware, epic, occasionally fantastical. Both books follow fictional characters through lives positioned, like Forrest Gump's, in places such as the former Bombay, Kashmir, and Los Angeles at significant moments in recent history. In Shalimar, that includes the German occupation of France during WWII, the Rodney King fiasco(s), various acts of extremist Islamic terrorism, and the destruction of the tolerant people and the beautiful land of Kashmir at the hands of India, Pakistan, and those terrorists. There are many far more in-depth reviews of his book available online - most of them somewhat critical of the book, which perspective I don't share. For my part, about the whole book, I will simply say that I loved it. I also love Rushdie's style, which reading two of his books has helped me better understand, and I will read more of his work as soon as I can. (I met him once, but that's a story for another time.) My particular purpose in this post is to discuss my feminist perspective on certain aspects of the book. There is a moment in Shalimar in which the title character's mother, Firdaus Noman, blames herself for her son's anger, which begins when he learns that his wife has cuckolded him - although it should be noted that he had very early indicated to his beautiful Hindu future wife, Bhoomi/Boonyi Kaul, that he would be violent if he ever had reason to be jealous - and results in his murder, first as a terrorist and then as a vengeful husband, of countless victims across the globe. (By the way, I'm not giving anything away that you can't learn in either the most standard online review or the first few chapters.) Firdaus, however, tells herself, on recognizing her son's anger, that she would never be quarrelsome again. Yet another of her sons, Anees Noman, is essentially a hero in a brief but incredibly emotional part of this book - and even without that it's clear that what becomes of Shalimar (nee Noman Sher Noman) has little to do with his mother. Rushdie demonstrates his awareness - and, I think, his disapproval - of the world's mother- and woman-blaming tendencies in this way in this book. Of course the adulterous Boonyi - and the consistently adulterous Max Ophuls (who, interestingly enough, shares his name with a real person) - deserve blame for their dishonesty in those choices in this book. But the magnitude of events for which she is blamed - and, ultimately, punished - is way out of scope in terms of her error. However, stepmother-demonization is also very present at times in this book, and Rushdie does not do anything that would cause or allow readers to question that. Max's wife, Margaret "Peggy/The Grey Rat" Rhodes, we learn, is (and always has been) frigid and barren - and also understandably bitter over her husband's incessant philandering. Impelled to some extent by a prophetic (and thus self-fulfilling) dream, Peggy connives to compel Boonyi into giving up her daughter, whom Peggy takes to America to raise by herself. When the inevitable questions arise, she lies to her "adopted" daughter as much as she can about the child's own origins, thus keeping her from her birth mother and almost entirely from her (thus beloved) father. Perhaps to some extent driven by those questions, Peggy ultimately becomes disinterested in the child, who as a teenager acts out in almost every imaginable way. It is only after Max's murder, when the daughter, India Rhodes (later Ophuls, nee Kashmira Noman) has already learned of her birth mother's identity, that Peggy tells her daughter a little of the truth - and provides a photo of Boonyi during her brief period of obesity. It is the only photo of her natural mother that India ever sees. The portrait of the stereotypical stepmother/single mother/nontraditional mother - from the barrenness and frigidity to the conniving, hateful, controlling, lying, unloving behavior related to "her" child, all of which is usually used to indicate unwomanliness and unfemininity - is unmistakable and disappointing. By chance, the next long audiobook that I'm "reading" - and also vastly enjoying! - is Zadie Smith's On Beauty. I think that I read part of her White Teeth before, but I don't remember whether I ever finished it. Both Shalimar and Beauty feature interracial and adulterous relationships and are set both in and outside of the U.S. The days of "outsiders" not understanding the States are over: You'd never know that Smith and Rushdie weren't American citizens by the way that they seem to "get" the nuances of our culture. Rushdie has, of course, lived in the States, but Smith, it seems, hasn't. Beauty is not postmodernist, like Rushdie's work, though; for instance, so far it's proceeded in chronological order. Intriguingly, it does seem to be a modern take on the themes of Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? which my mom and I saw, starring Kathleen Turner, in London last May. Academia, relationships, disappointment - it's all there. There's a mother-son moment in the play, too: As I noted in my blog after first seeing it last summer, in Virginia Woolf, the wife expresses her awareness of the controlling mother/screwed up son ideology, even though neither is actually relevant to the woman's life, since she doesn't actually have a son. I'm only maybe a third of the way into Smith's book, but I've already found a mother-son moment here too: one of the main characters, Kiki Belsey, congratulates herself for producing "a young black man of intelligence and sensibility" - although she was then "mildly annoyed" to find that hers was not the only young Black man at the free Mozart concert (pt.1 ch.7). Smith goes on: Undeterred, Kiki continues her imaginary speech to the imaginary Guild of Black American Mothers: And there's no big secret, not at all. You just need to have faith, I guess. And you need to counter the dismal self-image that Black men receive as their birthright from America - that's essential. And I don't know, get involved in after-school activities, have books around the house, and sure, have a little money, and a house with outdoor--
Despite the Belsey family's determined liberalism, they are not, as you can see, free from unfortunate biases. They are most of them a little racist toward Black people darker than the half-White Belsey children. Kiki is clearly a little classist. Jerome, the boy of whom Kiki was feeling so proud above, seems to take his mother's side when his father neglects her, but her daughter Zora blames Kiki for Howard Belsey's affair more than Zora blames Howard himself, citing Kiki's weight and non-intellectualism - and thus turning off a smart, handsome, talented young Black man who otherwise might have been interested in her. It's an interesting family portrait so far. Incidentally, I'm apparently not the first to notice the connections between Shalimar and Beauty. Barnes & Noble Online lists On Beauty as the book most frequently purchased by those buying Shalimar the Clown.
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