A few weeks ago I get a call from Luis Castaneda around 10pm, Luis is a very good friend and musician who grew up with me in Nogales Arizona, He tells me he has bad news, Joe Tamayo another musician who was part of the music scene in Arizona in the 80s and 90s had just hung himself, very shocking news, apparently Joe had been suffering from a depresion and chose to take his life, I am not qualified to comment on his medical or mental condition,or the reason he chose to take his life, but he leaves behind his wife and 2 kids, and that is very sad. Joe had a successful career as a musician, his bands were well known , he had a major record deal at one time, the Tigres and other bands recorded his songs.
Friday May 2nd was the wake, Ramon Torres from Telemundo, Eddie and Tony from my band ,we all went to Nogales Az in Ramons new BMW.I never imagined that I would hook up with so many musicians from Nogales and Tucson in one spot, I would have prefered a diffrent stage but the cards were dealt for that moment, all the musicians rehashed our adventures with Joe, some good ,some bad, some exagarrated some possibbly made up as musicians are known to improvise, I offered my condolences to Tamayos wife named Irene, she was in High school with me, she and her sister Gloria would take me to Skakeys for pizza my senior year, and I also met Tamayos kids, I really felt bad for the family, they were showing Joe Tamayo pictures on a big screen and playing his music. I went outside and chatted with more musicians and then the musicians who played with Joe in his band Jassmin we all went over to Sonny Peters for Pizza and beverages and caught up with the news of our musical adventures.
On the way back to Tucson it hit me as we were listening to some recordings of Tamayos songs that Ramon had recorded that I never said " Goodbye" to Joe, I've been thinking about it all week, and this morning Tamayo was in my dream, I introduced him to my ex girlfriend Christina who happens to be in Balad Iraq with the Navy, and I said " Christina, this is my friend Joe Tamayo, I emailed you about him hanging himself, then the dream hit me like a punch, I said Goodbye to Joe, and snapped out the Dream, it was as real as it gets. All day the dream has been on my mind, its been very hard to imagine why he chose to do what he did.
I truly believe that God had has given us the ultimate blessing, which I believe is Life itself, you can enjoy life and all its blessings, The Sun shines for all of us, how much sunlight you want depends on you,
I'll never know why Tamayo chose to leave the world, "Goodbye Joe Tamayo"