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Let me preface this by saying I'm not sure which side of this I come out on. Many people look on the New Year as an opportunity to start anew. They make "resolutions" to better themselves that are, most of the time, lofty and ambitious but lacking in any real strategy to implement these changes in their lives.
"I'm going to lose 10 pounds".
"I'm going to quit smoking".
"I'm going to try and be more patient".
"I'm going to make more money".
Is the New Year really a big do-over or is it another in a sequence of days that make up a life? I imagine for some, an opportunity to partition a group of experiences allows for the cataloging of those experiences as "my past" and the illusion of a clean slate to move forward on. A disarmingly neat little psychological Hocus Pocus that will enable and empower one to "do better" in the coming year.
It's not a bad notion as self delusional notions go.
My question is this... should we waste a cycle of 365 days to catalog, move on and vow to do better in the next 365? Are we belittling the little triumphs and growth opportunities that happen between Jan 1 and Dec 31 by not taking full stock as they present themselves in real time in our lives?
With luck and a touch of wisdom, we learn from our mistakes. Do we need a bullet list, year end, Top 40 countdown of the best and worst moments of the previous year in order to make the following year a better one?
Or...
Should that list be an ongoing, month-end inventory? daily tally? hourly assessment?
Don't get me wrong. The idea of setting forth resolutions to better yourself is noble in its inception. I just tend to ponder the logic of establishing expectations that are out of realistic reach in the short term, or have no clear plan to achieve success. It sets us up for disappointment that compounds annually, turning us more bitter and jaded as the years wear on.
So what is my New Year's Resolution for 2009? You could say it's to make smaller, more timely resolutions as life presents itself and allow myself to grow or fail with more grounded expectations for both. To quote Doc Holliday from Tombstone, "It appears my hypocrisy knows no bounds".
"I'm your huckleberry".
Happy 2009!
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