You Tend To Blame Others For Your Unhappiness

As a BLUE, you hold high standards for yourself and tend to have unrealistic expectations of yourself, your partner, and how things "should be," so when things go wrong, you turn to others, such as your partner, as the source for your unhappiness. You might say to him, "if only you were more attentive / caring / interested / loving (you name it), this wouldn't have happened." This is obviously not a great way to maintain somebody's affection.

It's Hard For You To Relax (You Require A Purpose To Play)

BLUES tend to be overly guilt-prone, and so if you are doing things that are not purposeful by your standards, you probably feel guilty about it. Ergo, you tend to require a justifiable reason to just play and enjoy life - which usually defeats the purpose and makes it feel unnatural or forced to others in your life. Your tendency to be high-strung in this way can be alarming to a potential mate who is stuck wondering if you'll ever be able to calm down enough to enjoy a life together.

Now that you know how others see you as a potential partner, you should also know that there are certain things that you subconsciously need from your relationships in order to feel fulfilled and happy. These are your very own little hot buttons. When you find a partner who can push them for you, you may just fall head over heels.

You Need Your Partner To Understand You

As a BLUE, driven by Intimacy, you seek deep, personal connections with your partner. That doesn't just mean that you want to understand everything about them. You wouldn't feel that your relationship was complete unless he understood you completely either. You should look for a partner who can move beyond superficial conversation and is willing to understand every bit about what makes you you.

You Need To Feel Appreciated By Your Partner

You love to give openly and always go the extra mile to please your partner. All you desire in return is that he appreciate the effort that you make to do what you do. You will be happiest in finding someone who is comfortable and open in expressing that appreciation and who doesn't take your 110% effort for granted.

You Want Security

You like stability and security in your relationships and in life in general. You want a partner who communicates in word and deed that he is committed to you so that you always feel on stable ground in the relationship. You also want someone who will establish a solid (and safe) lifestyle with you and not force you to take high stakes risks, although, I would recommend that you be open-minded in this area, because some risks will really do wonders to enhance the quality of your life.

You Want Autonomy

It almost seems paradoxical, because while you do seek meaningful relationships in your life, and enjoy the company of others, you also enjoy your independence to do what you like to do. This is true for most BLUES because you spend so much time caring for others, connecting with them, and worrying about making things perfect, that you like to have your free time not to have to worry about those things.

Love Potion No. 9

So we've spent some time talking about you and what makes you more (or less) attractive to the opposite sex, now the burning question in your mind at this point probably has something to do with what you can do to create some positive chemistry with each of the other colors. Knowing that the person you're interested in is a YELLOW, for example, you can know that there are certain things that you can do to better peak their interest in you; likewise there are other things that just may put you so far out of the game that no love potion could ever save you.

Of course, in order to sustain a positive relationship with any color, you must be sincere while following these tips. Manipulation will get you nowhere, and is the worst possible thing that you could build the foundation of your relationship upon. A strong relationship will come of you becoming a better person through increasing your self-awareness, acting out of clean motives (legitimate reasons for doing things; or acting in such a way that makes win-win situations possible), and stretching to get over yourself in a way that allows you to sincerely incorporate these tips so as to make it about your partner and not about yourself (i.e., getting what you want first; selfishness).

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