It's getting late. I've been sitting on this couch in the lounge with this girl for about an hour. She's had a martini, I've had a double-bourbon, and we are both feeling good and sitting closer and closer.

If you watched the date on a time lapse video, you could actually see her body and mine turning towards each other as the night went on and inching in bit by bit. It's like magnets. Our bodies and our eyes are pulling in and making it like this bungee cord tension built up for what we both really want to do.

But I'm a bit of a cruel bastard.

I want the tension even MORE.

See, when I'm with a woman I like, I think of the whole interaction as foreplay. Some guys spend years learning all these little moves and worrying about going spot by spot around the body like they are following some pirates of the Caribbean treasure map. Left at the palm tree, stumble 20 paces, roll in the sand and say
"arrrr!"

It aint' like that, Jack. Turning a woman on is a slow, deliberate process. Women are best served slow roasted, not flash friend. I mean, who wants fast food when you can have the real deal anyways, right?

So we're back to the action. I can feel her looking and waiting. She's been playing with her hair and licking her lips since 30 seconds after we met for the date. It's not like the signals aren't there. If she were a third-base coach, she'd jumping up and down waving me home.

But I'm slick like that. I want her more than a little eager. I want her more than turned on and waiting to act on it.

The biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain. And I want her THINKING about it. I want her FANTASIZING. I want her to see and feel and taste it long before it happens.

Time to turn on the low flame. Time for a little of what I like to call, "Third-Person Late-Night Skinemax."

Now, if you didn't grow up in sassy America in the sassy 80s or 90s, you may not know about late-night Skinemax. But you should. Before there was free wonderful dirtiness on the internets, you had to watch movie stations very late to see a lil' sumpthin' sumpthin'.

And it's that kind of scenario I want in her mind when she's with me.

This is the start of the Foreplay.

"Mmmm... it's too bad there's no sparks between us, you know," I saw, snuggling in close and running my hand through her hair as I look in her eyes.

She gets my teasing. "No, none at all. Damn shame." She's got her hand on my chest and is lightly digging her nails into my skin.

This is the key. Our words say one thing and our bodies say another. We're teasing the hell out of each other. It's a classic role-play, the kind you drill over and over till it's instinct in the Art of Attraction workshop. I'm using my words and my teasing to express affection to her in a very creative way. And it's fun.

Now it's time to make it hot.

"We can be friends, tho," I say as I nuzzle her neck at the spot just below her ear and breathe slow. I can feel her breath getting deeper. "Matter of fact, I know a guy who might be perfect for you."

"Really," she says. "that is so great, because I know a girl that you would love!"

Now we're really getting to the fun. We're talking in the third person about ourselves like Bo Jackson, and that means we can say ANYTHING.

"That's perfect! I should warn you about this guy, though," I say, kissing her earlobe very gently, "he's kind of a lot to handle. He's an amazing kisser, he's got a lot of, stamina and creativity, and I should mention, he's a great f***. Matter of fact, he just texted me and told me he can't wait to feel how amazing it will be to be inside you."

"Urmmmm..." she mumbles as her body goes faint, "she
might like that."

"Yes, I suppose she might."

The fire is lit.

You want more? You want to know exactly what to say and do to throw some gasoline on that fire?

That's why we bring the real stuff to you.

You can talk about anything in a creative, sexy way once you learn how women really communicate. You listen to her body and your words can say whatever you want. That's the heart of this week's Podclass, "Foreplay: Sex the Way it Should be" and you can learn it step-by-step so you know her body like you know your favorite book.

Foreplay: Sex the Way it Should be

And this book is even more fun, because once you learn how to turn her on by reading her, you can start to write your own adventure.

Wishing you peace, love and classic women,

Written By Sean Messenger