I AM WOMAN! HEAR ME ROAR!
Women in music are a powerful force. A woman will typically deal with what life throws her way from an emotional viewpoint. Known traditionally for being nurturing, expressive, emotional and empathetic, this is our gift though music. Many of today's most successful women in music owe their success to their ability to capture their emotions through their words and their music. This is an ability that comes naturally to most of us and should be embraced and celebrated as women continue to make headway in what was once a male dominated industry.
I am woman! Hear me roar!
So how do we take what has been naturally given to us and express that through words and music? How does that transition occur?
For every professional and aspiring artist the process is different. Some will start will a poem, other a journal entry and some with a melody or chord progression that captures the mood they are trying to convey.
I can't share with you the secrets of other women's success in songwriting. I can only share my own story, of how I found my voice and let my true feelings shine through in my music.
When I was seventeen, something happened to me that changed my life and shook me to my core. Like many other women, I was a victim of sexual assault. I was taken advantage of because of my youth and my innocence. I was used.
I carried my secret with me for many years. I always knew I wanted to write about what had happened. I knew I needed to express myself through music to allow myself to let go of what had happened all those years ago. But I was scared. Tackling a subject like this through song was no easy thing. How do I express what I am feeling without revealing to the world what had happened to me?
I was still trying to keep it a secret.
I wrote many rough drafts of the song. All of them seemed to come up short. They were all missing something. I tried over and over again for nearly six years.
Then it came to me one night.
I had been censoring myself.
I was still being victimized.
I wasn't telling the truth.
So I sat on the floor with my paper, pen and guitar and I let the truth flow out of me and into words and melody and rhythm. It came so easily. I felt free. I felt lifted. I no longer felt ashamed. It was the first time in seven years that I realized that I was not to blame. This was something that had happened to me, and I was standing up, facing the world, and letting them know that this was not my fault! I was free.
And the result of this freedom and this truth was one of the best songs I have ever written. The song is called "That Day".
I cried many times looking back on that day. I don't cry anymore.
Throughout my career, with all the new songs I have written, and all the shows I have performed, "That Day" is the one song that has touched at least one person every time I sing it. I have seen men and women brought to tears, and every time, they have a story of their own and are thankful for the honesty and the emotion that I let out through my song.
"That Day" taught me how to be an honest songwriter.
I think censoring and editing ourselves is one of the worst things we can do as artists. If the message isn't true, why would anyone buy it or believe in it? Music is our outlet to be who we are and say what we have to say. This is why we do it. Sometimes the truth will make people uncomfortable, but that means we are doing our job right. We are provoking thoughts and feelings. We are compelling and drawing out emotions. My favorite songs, happy or sad, are the ones that draw emotions out of me, make the hairs on my arms stand up and make me want to listen to them over and over again. That is art. That is music.
The only advice that I could give to young songwriters would be to say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't write what you think people want to hear. Write the truth as you know it, and you will be amazed how many people feel the same way that you do.
We all have struggles and victories in our lives. And while no two people's experiences are ever exactly the same, there is always a common thread that binds us together. As a writer, you have the potential and the ability to really affect somebody's life. So never water down your words, your thoughts or your feelings. Let your truth's become the truths of tens, hundreds, thousands, and maybe one day millions.
Truth is a powerful thing. A woman's emotions are a powerful thing. This is our gift. Use it to its fullest. Never take it for granted.
Amanda Bentley
www.amandabentley.ca