Life is for living
Are you alive or existing
embracing or resisting
Does your heart sing of joy
or is something missing
Is your spirit dancing in bliss
feeding off pure love
an abyss
or does your ego keep you famished
ravaged, hungry, starving for love
adrift
a lonely sea of fear
where you seem so seperate
yet everybody is near
trapped within the chains of a mangled mind
constant state of stress, no rest, a mess
spirit trapped behind the walls dying to shine
twisted thoughts from deliberate paradigms
eyes tightly wide shut
still searching to clarify
will fight to die than to open your mind
strive to be right than shatter a destructive paradigm
change is not only constant
it is necessary for evolution
growth without change is an impossible solution
love nurtures and grows the conscience
fear disables and kills the progress
the collective in that state leads to all predicted revelations
the emergence of love and spirit will drive the elevation
that will lead to all life preservation
that will sprout forth after mass devastation
inevitable to come from what is the current representation
of the masses fueled by fear hate judgement and condemnation

This is a long read...real deep...thoughts to ponder

either you will completely understand it
or
a light bulb will go off in your head
or
you will think its a crock of shit

You, Me, God and the Devil


The pen is to the paper and I simply write what I hear
Let me explain to you the truth about GOD, Love, the Devil and fear
Good and evil
Let’s paint the picture clear
Is needed in this world to balance the sphere
If GOD is all, the everything, the one
Including Us, Nature, the Moon, the Devil and the sun
That means then
You, Me, God and the Devil are one

God is everything good, the feelings of joy, bliss, peace, serenity
Nothing but love
You don’t have to leave this world to experience heaven above
But God is also the devil and from him we run
Yet
Let’s not forget
You, Me, God and the Devil are one

We don’t have to leave this world to burn in hell for sins
We still haven’t figured out the devil dwells within
We fear our demons that live in our deepest darkest shadows
And to some place we deem sacred
We run like a trackstar, and herd up like cattle
Instead of facing up to humanity’s most important battle
To tackle the demons in us
One by one until hell is dismantled
But we run as far away as we can to GOD
And we pray
To be kept safe
Save me, rescue me, please don’t make me go
To that God awful place
And fear engulfs our whole being
We are scared to death of hell
Again I say
You, Me, God and the Devil are one
We run from the devil
We run from ourselves

We try our damnest to be good,
Only
Because we fear the bad
Not because the feeling of being good
Is all we have
Fear is debilitating
And will stop your journey to heaven and block your path
See for those who "try" to "be" good
Seem to always struggle with things they did
Beat themselves up
For not being who they wish
Not realizing a person who is good
Clearly
Just is
You see because while you are "TRYING", you are still lying
While you are "TRYING", you are still fighting
While you are "TRYING", you are still crying
While you are "TRYING", you are still pining
To feel that desirable feeling of heaven and bliss
And wonder why you are not climbing
Why in the world aren’t you finding
The light of GOD’s love
That shines so bright that it’s blinding
Engulfs your whole soul so
You can’t help but start shining

I will tell you why, it’s because we are consumed with fear
And fear and love are polar opposites
Fear induces hate, intolerance, war, envy, bloodshed and wraths
But we are not yet strong enough to tackle it and topple it
We bring it into our churches
We teach it to our kids
Carry it throughout this blessed journey of an experience
In which we live
And we have yet to understand
So I say one mo gin
And again and again
You, Me, God, and the devil are one in itself
We shun a part of the whole
We shun a part of ourselves

And what is the whole you ask
It is You, ME, GOD and the Devil for sure
The universe, the stars, the sun and more
The moon, the day, the rain, the night
The earth, the flowers, the animals, the light
As well as water
The essence of life
That is
Until we damage, kill it and pollute it galore
And everything else in nature
That is able to cure
We deny our GOD given natural instincts
And needings
Dismiss our inner guides
And torture ourselves for our natural feelings
Despise our life energy that is sex
The greatest life-force energy in which without
None of us would exist
Because we feel we are above the nature that is GOD
We have not a clue on to what is the real meaning of love
To cherish the ground, water and the air we breathe
Is foreign and will aid in the downfall of us indeed
It is why we seek to destroy our earth
Because we don’t see we are one with it as well
We don’t embrace our life core
We don’t embrace the self
We treat it the same way
We tend to treat ourselves

A separate being in the clouds
Where we think there is a form of escape
Doesn’t cause us to create war, wraths, hate, and separate
And if we don’t fear it will send us to hell
We have not a problem at all creating all of that
For ourselves
We say the devil comes to us in disguise
You would be very taken aback when the mask is removed
And you stare back into your own eyes
That’s why we feel the truth is brutal
It hurts
Burns to the core
And it’s so much easier to pretend it’s not there
So we just ignore
When we run from hell we run from ourselves
Were not scared of the devil
Were scared of ourselves
So instead of facing the darkness with love and light
We cower in fear, judge, condemn, hate and fight
We say GOD judges and punishes us well
If You, ME, GOD and the Devil are one
We only judge and punish ourselves

Balance is the key
Truth is the light
We can heal ourselves
If only we can be rid of the fright
Face ourselves for who we are, love and accept unconditionally
Fix what we do not like
And turn everything that’s wrong
Into a right
Words from a pen can never describe
The feeling of freedom, truth, love
And everlasting light
But you can feel it from all those who have experienced before
Jesus, Buddha, Allah and many many more
Whose essence was felt
But whose words were distorted
Whose teachings are taught
But where truth is aborted
Years of human error interpretations
Egotistical specifications
False insertations
Misguided information
Of the GOSPEL that lead to
Hateful conversations
Wars and death for durations
When the bottom-line of all
Have the same relations
The kingdom of heaven is within you
Listen to your heart, Look inside yourself
Step into the darkness of your soul with faith
And you will find yourself to face yourself
To accept yourself, respect yourself, be yourself, and understand yourself
And unconditionally love yourself
And your truth will shine
On you and everybody else
Running from yourself, hating yourself, condemning yourself, feeling sorry for yourself
Abusing yourself and judging yourself, blaming yourself
Will only lead to eternal fires
Uncontrollable unhealthy desires
And make you a miserable liar
While facing the truth of your whole self
The good and the bad
Removing the masks
Battling the demons
And conquering them will free you to fly higher

How you feel about yourself is how you feel about others
Everything you do to yourself is what you do to others
God to you is what you are to yourself
If you feel GOD punishes, judges, doesn’t forgive, kills separates and hates
Your interpretation of GOD is an interpretation of yourself
And what you do to yourself
You do to everybody else

When its undenialably realized
You, Me, GOD and the Devil are one and the same
And you can face, be honest, love, honor, respect, cherish,
Accept, forgive, trust and heal yourself and learn to not blame
Even for the darkest of the deadest soul
You will be able to do the same
Because love revitalizes, nurtures and resurrects life
Restores the sight of GOD and brings back the light
And sometimes to reach the highest height of the high
You may have to go to the lowest of the low
Dig deep into the darkest coldest areas of your soul
Trudge thru the trenches of dirt to find the gold
Fight thru the flames of hell for your wings to unfold
Hence to get to heaven
We must find the right track
Maybe that entails going to hell and back

But if you go, I go with you, God Goes and the Devil is already there
Look around us and everywhere
Hell isn’t beneath us, its right here
Heaven on earth is possible if we all start to care
And heaven starts with battling the self
With courage and strength, and not being scared
Because GOD didn’t cast Lucifer to hell
We cast ourselves there
The reason being
We didn’t like that part of ourselves
And as much as we hate and run
Hide and divide
Hell follows us on earth and dwells
Because You, Me, God and the devil are one
And the light is the truth
We all enjoy the healing light that radiates like the sun

There will be a war fought between Good and Evil
God and the Devil
Heaven and Hell
And that day will come when we are all ready to discard fear
And face up to ourselves
I’m ready to go to war with you, I’m already prepared
I’ve faced this battle before, so I’m not scared
Love will and does conquer all, that there is no doubt
And the only weapon needed to march into hell
And cast all the demons out
You see heaven and hell aren’t literal spots
They are places created in your conscious
Caused by literal thoughts
The devil in us exist solely to remind us
Who we are not
To nudge us back in the right direction
So we don’t get lost
Not to tear us down
Nor for our souls to rot
To despair in pain
Because we don’t remember our heart
And yet that is not the message
We are being taught
And until we stop being afraid of him/you/me/us
Our hell will never stop
Love is the answer and it’s what we call GOD
And Unconditional love is who we are
And still this whole FEAR of GOD
Makes no sense at all
Ask yourself the honest truth….
How can we fear LOVE?
How can unconditional love be capable of hurt and pain?
How can we ever use love in vain?
How can love ever turn its back on us?
And leave us in the pouring rain
But yet we are scared to death to accept love as who we are
We say it’s not us, it’s something else up somewhere in the stars
We separate ourselves from GOD
Create a tier of steps like "he" is somewhere afar
And we punish ourselves daily
For not accepting who we are
Were scared of GOD AND the Devil
Fear will destroy us all
Because we fear everything we are
GOD is us,
GOD is our heart
The Devil is us telling us to find our heart
Because when we meet the devil in us
It’s our inner alarm system
Warning us to stop
If we keep on this path
Our heart will be torn apart
You, Me, God and the Devil
Work together as one
Until we all realize it
The only thing we will ever do
Is run

We run from love
Or we attach to it conditions
And those which are not met
Makes us offended
And we close off our hearts
Turn our backs on love
Fear it like the plague
And wonder why GOD doesn’t save us
We can’t even love ourselves
Much less anybody else
We fear GOD who is love
We fear ourselves
We don’t embrace the GOD in us
Which is why we can’t find the love in us
We can’t seem to recognize that the GOD in us
Is the same GOD in all of us
We don’t see it in ourselves
We can’t see it in anybody else
We don’t give LOVE which is GOD to ourselves
We can’t give it to anybody else
And if we can’t find it in ourselves
We will have a very hard time trying to get it from someone else
Once it’s accepted
You, Me, God and the Devil are one in itself
We love and accept ourselves
And in turn we love and accept everybody else

Fear is what drives us to separate ourselves
From ourself
Makes it even easier
To see ourself
Separate
From everybody else
When the whole is divided from within the self
We divide ourselves from everybody else
And when we hate another for who they are
It’s because they remind us of a part ourselves
We didn’t like
And chose to discard
And that hate drives us to hurt and even kill
Run even further from the pain that we feel
And fear will rule our minds only until
We accept the whole of who we are
And that’s real
When you see, accept and love yourself as a whole being
You, Me, God and The Devil and all of everything
The Earth, Animals, water, air and all else
You will find it impossible to do harm to any of the above
Because you won’t do to them what you won’t do to yourself

These words are the truth, for you can hold me to
If you ask why I wrote them
It’s because GOD told me to

Who is the perfect mate for you...

For years I never knew exactly what I wanted from a man...My longest relationships lasted about 2 years or so at the most....I never had any specific guidlelines for what I wanted, mainly because I honestly didnt know, I was very non chalant and indecisive on the subject....and I think one of the reasons for not knowing is because I didnt know myself or what I desired and didnt desire

I honestly feel relationships help a person find out who they are...you find out what you do and dont want, what you like or dont like, what you can or can't deal with, how you feel about this or that....Relationships help you grow as a person and if you are with someone that you aren't growing with then you are probably "stuck" right now....Ive always known when to let go and move on, even when I didn't want to I was pulled forward and I would run across somebody else who would help me figure a little bit more about me and I started to notice that alot of folks were "mirrors" to me....when I really started to look at them, I saw "me".....its true that the things that bother u most about other people is what bothers you about urself.....so I started paying attention and recognizing that things that didnt set well with me in a mate are things that were in me that didnt set well with me within me....

anyways....I can write a book about that subject, but earlier tonite somebody asked me
"what would make a man want to have a committed relationship with me, what would I bring to the table"

My answer is

good question.....up until about a year or so ago i wasn't ready for a committed relationship...not a real one anyways....

Now that Im in a different mindset I realize that for the type of man I desire that I must be that type of woman to compliment him

I desire a man who is sure and confident in himself and accepts and loves himself for who he is and isnt afraid to show the world the real him
Is health conscious mentally, spiritually and physically
Emits positive energy
Is open minded
Self sufficient but not so prideful that he won't ask for help when he needs it
Isn't afraid to love, let his walls down and be "vulnerable" and let a woman love him
 A lovemaker
An uplifter
Trustworthy, honest, accepting, respectful, giving, caring, nurturing, understanding, forgiving, appreciative and loves unconditionally
A man who will hold my emotions and my heart to his
A man who will take care of home and his
A man who will always stand by his woman
A man who appreciates true love

so I strive and work towards being all of the above to so I will be that woman that that man desires as well

plus I can cook too


One thing I've learned for certain is that no matter what level I was on mentally, I attracted people on my same level....so I know the higher I get the higher man I will attract

Don't expect to attract somebody worth a million dollars when you aren't worth a dime

Besides the hundreds of notes on excercise, I get just as many askiing me "how can I be a model"......or "how can I do what you do" etc.....Let me say off the bat first....If you feel you need to ask other people what they think about your appearance and let you know if you have what it takes then just go ahead and pick something else in life to do....because you won't get far and that insecurity will stick out like a sore thumb....this industry will eat up all insecure and ego hungry people and swallow them and then sh#t them out.....If you think you have what it takes then that is all that matters first and foremost...because you are going to run across people who may or may not like your look and you will be on an up and down emotional rollercoaster being upset over all those who don't like you and beyond confidence to arrogance over those who do....and those emotions will only hinder your progress or as ALLOOOOOOOOT  of people have found out...cut their careers short....

As in any lucrative industry such as politics, corporate america, and sports, entertainment is just as cutthroat as those.....its a game and you either are gonna play to win or get played....and we all know that there are only a handful of "winners" but alot of "players"...so you decide which one you are gonna be....and I would never tell anybody what NOT to do to get to where they want to be, but I would offer this advice....follow your heart and your faith in yourself....if a situation doesnt sit right with you whatever it is then let it go, other opportunities will come....when you have that faith and you listen to your instincts and follow your feelings you will get to where you want to be and all the fame, success and money will come along with it, and you will be one of those few people who actually enjoy all of those benefits.....people think that once they get a lil fame, or a lil money or some success then happiness will follow, so they are willing to sell their souls for the $$$ and then find out once they get a lil something they are still miserable in life.....you can choose to be happy at any point in life....you don't have to "get" there...and where you see yourself in life is where you will be...going back to that faith in yourself....so follow your own path with your self priorities and morals intact and you will find yourself a "winner" in the game....and remember pretty people don't get ahead in life, smart people do...

As far as modeling goes, Im only really familiar with the urban industry and I can say I don't care for it too much....women come into this game with zero to no respect and in the "mainstream" world of modeling we are at the bottom of the barrel...we get labeled with all sorts of negative stigmas even in real life and we are portrayed in the media in a different light especially if you do videos and men's magazines.....in mainstream women who do videos and magazines and even nudity are portrayed in a totally different way and projected to the world as "beautiful" and in urban media we are projected to the world for the most part as "hoes"..... and no ladies, don't get too discouraged because its not every instance, and there are people in this industry who are genuine and will look out for your best interest...but you have to be in control in how you are put out there....people always ask me how come Im not into it so much and I always say because I don't really have complete control of how Im put out there....on my website, which is my main focus and my bread and butter Im in control for the most part on how I want to come across...I think Im beautiful, sexy, alluring, and sensual...so thats what I like to put out there...although there are plenty of images floating around that have captured me in a less flattering light...but thats what I mean when you start to take control on how you want to come across to the masses of people who will be viewing you....and in the urban industry you can do it...just don't fall for the okey doke and speak your mind and your feelings and if you are not comfortable with a situation, then walk away....you will find yourself in a even better circumstance if you don't let the "setbacks" and  "rejections" get you down....

There are all types of modeling you can do, fashion...commerical....glamour...print ads....pick one thats good for you and go for it.....and always keep your confidence in yourself and display it to everyone you run across....

so to make a long blog a lil shorter....if you are gonna get in the game play to win....don't get played

This blog is for all of you ladies who write me daily asking me what my excercise routine is....
First let me say that genetics plays a major role in how you will look...You need to learn your body type and shape and keep in mind that you need to work out to compliment your body type......so for all of you who write me asking me how to get "thick"....if you are naturally petitie or small framed you may not carry weight well, I've seen a few people put on pounds on purpose and the weight didn't look good on them and likewise seen bigger people lose too much weight where it wasn't very flattering either.....Accept your body for what it is.....Me for instance....Im a long person..Im not that tall, but everything on me is long....My arms, my legs, my torso, my neck even my butt is long.... (I just know how to flex it and pose it in pics...lol).....and no matter how much I work it out, it stays long.....so everybody's routine and regimens are going to be different....some may have to work out longer and harder, some hardly ever, some more weights and strength conditioning some more cardio.....it all depends on you and your body type and what works for you....investing in a trainer for a session or two would be a great start ...

So secondly, now you have to get your mind right...you will need a healthy state of mind first before you will ever achieve a healthy state of physical health...why, because how we think and feel about ourselves are the way we will act physically....actions speak louder than words....If you look at yourself and always describe yourself as "fat" "disgusting" "ugly" etc, then thats how you feel about yourself inside and trying to stay motivated to stick to a excercise routine will become very hard....you will always go back into that self hate mode....start eating bad again, stop excercising, self obsessing and pitying yourself , fall into depressions contemplate every plastic surgery procedure and all types of other destructive behavior.....so first start looking at yourself in a different light....you don't have to wait until you get to that perfect weight to "start" feeling good about yourself.....start now, right now......look at yourself in the mirror and see the reflection of who you want to be and how you want to look....start thinking good thoughts about yourself....."I look good now, but just wait until I finish gettin it together"...keep that picture of how you see yourself at your best and don't let it slip away....don't pay attention to what you see today in the mirror, focus on what you will see tomorrow in the mirror....when you start having feel good feelings about yourself you will start to act differently....motivation, discipline and patience will come very easy.....you will start to treat your body better and feel better all around.....

Lastly let me say, your diet goes a long way in how your body will look...today we eat so many "bad" foods that our bodies are working overtime trying to keep it running right.....for those of you who tend to get a lil "gut" think about all the food you eat...fast food, processed food, preserved food, chemically injected foods, etc can sit in your stomach for years.....if you eat food thats designed to stay "fresh" for years, think how long it will take to digest those foods....to be healthy is really a lifestyle change....since I changed my food intake to mostly natural and organic foods I've noticed that Im not as hungry as I used to be and I don't need as much excercise...in fact I dropped about 15lbs and my workout routine is mainly yoga 4 or 5 times a week and some light cardio and body weight excercises a couple times a week......and yes I still eat most of the same foods I used to eat, I just eat a better, more natural fresher version of them....and I cut out fast food, soda, candy bars and processed foods..and meats with hormones and antibiotics injected into them....

Why so many people ask me about relationships I don't know, but sometimes I feel like Doctor Tiara on Myspace.....young women are always seeking my advice on their relationships with men.....well speaking from a woman's standpoint I tend to go by the motto of "My name is NOT Neo, and Im not the one"...that means Im not the one for the bullshit, Im not the one for the lies, Im not the one for the fakeness, Im not the one to be stepped on, Im just not the ONE that is gonna stick around and put up with anything less than what I feel I deserve....

I recall once a female told me to my face "you just think you are too good" because I was tellin another young lady the type of situations that I wouldnt stand for and I looked at her and said...."you're right, I do think Im too good, and you should too"  You should really feel that you are too good to put up with dumb shit in life period and thats coming from anybody you deal with whether its a significant other, a family member a boss or co worker, whoever...you let it be known you are not THE ONE.....

But as far as dealin with love and relationships all I can say about it is first you have to choose somebody who you feel is on your level....when you keep dealin with somebody who aint about shit over and over again u need to take a look in the mirror and re examine yourself first....because as you get older you go thru situations and you learn from the bad experiences and know that there are certain types of people and situations that you will NEVER find yourself in again.....negative energy attracts the negative energy around, so you have to make sure you are full of positive energy and you will attract positive people into your life....I have been in several relationships and I have never had my heart broken nor have I been in a "bad" relationship....there was a guy about 10 years ago where he tried his best to make it bad but I had to let him know that I wasnt the one he was gonna act a fool wit so he had to keep it movin....and always keep in mind that actions speak louder than words....a person can NEVER use the word LOVE and it will be so obvious how that person feels by the way they treat you, and there are those people who TALK a good game, but their actions never seem to back up what they say....so stop fallin for the game....

People have to learn to look at their own relationships in an objective way, be that person from the outside looking in and stop makin up excuses for somebody elses actions....you know damn well when somebody is mistreating you , using you, abusing you etc....and just because they say they love you or they are sorry you keep putting up with how they treat you....

Me personally ....I pay attention to people's actions and act in accordance to what they are showing me, and since so many of us hold others to expectations, you can't expect too much from me when you don't treat me in a way I don't wish to be treated...you can't tell me you miss me and think about me all the time but I only hear from u once a month....you not gonna live in another city and think I'm gonna be your LA booty call whenever youre in town.....Im not gonna be your chick on the side whose givin you "time" to leave ur wife or girlfriend....Im not gonna be the one you can call up out my name when you get an attitude then wanna turn around and say "sorry" and think its gonna be all good....The first and only guy who tried to put his hands on me, let me just say that whole situation ended with him tryin to press charges against me.....I mean there are alot of people who can treat anybody any which way because people let them.....Put your foot down and decide what you will and wont accept from anybody.....and don't settle for somebody who aint worth it.....and remember this....treat others how u want to be treated...how they treat you back shouldn't be an expectation of them...just know that what you put out you will get back and if you keep tryin to force somebody who doesnt want to treat you "good"  or "love" you when you are giving that out, you are probably blocking out the person who is really trying to give "love" back to you....
a good relationship will be based on friendship, trust , honesty,  and compatibility for the most part....and if you can find that then just go with the flow and live day by day.....dont stress about all the "if's" in life.....you know people change, feelings change people grow apart or closer....just accept it for what it is....you can't keep anybody who doesn't want to be kept and the longer u try to hold on the harder its gonna be when they do leave....just keep it movin....people always ask me how come its so easy for me to get over a relationship and its because I know when to let it go, I know when something is not workin or somebody isnt treatin me the way I think I deserve to be treated or its just not what I want..so I just let it go....

***EDIT*** lol...I was dating somebody when I wrote this blog, and it came to a point where we talked about what we wanted and both decided we wanted different things.....it was time to let go and move on, no hard feelings, no regrets, no betrayal or hurt, just a "it was fun and I wish u the best" and we had a great relationship.....today I know im  still happy ....if he knows he can't be the type of man I want, then I  definitely dont want to "make" "trick" "trap" or "beg" him to stay, that would be insulting myself....if more people were honest with themselves and others there would be alot less drama goin on in relationships.....just remember....people can and do change, but they have to want to change for themselves, not for somebody else.....



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*Edit*

Thank you for all the responses and some of you have made great points....and I did take the suggestion I change the title to pertain to my individual view :)

On my message board somebody asked me what would define a real man to me......so i thought i would share it on my page here too......

In my opinion....a real man is somebody who accepts responsibility for all of their actions and try not to blame other people or circumstances for their behavior...somebody who can think on his own and not be influenced by other people on how to act.....somebody who has enuff sense to realize that reality is not in rap songs and that being a real man is not somebody who can take a life away from an unarmed person or brag about having been in prison....

A man who has character and depth underneath all of his outside possessions and physical attributes

Somebody who has a good sense of self worth and thinks he is too good to become a statistic of any sort regardless of what his circumstances are and that success is measured in his own eyes not n e body elses....hes not intimidated by people who he think "are better than him" because he doesnt think anybody is better than him no matter how much they have or how little he has....

A real man can respect and love himself  and will be able to respect and love a woman worthy of that and be able to walk away from those who aren't with out a second look back....A man with all the money in the world who is generous and giving doesn't have to pay to keep a woman in his life and does know the difference of being appreciated vs being used, because he knows what genuinity and good character is in others

And sometimes a man has to hustle to make sure his bills are paid and to get ahead, but doesn't have to spend it all on "the bar" or the biggest most expensive rims he can find to go on the smallest car, or jewelry that he wants to wear all at once everyday....if a man has to hustle then hes also investing in a home or homes for himself and his family, investing in his childs future or in his child, or tryin to open a business...Its okay to enjoy and buy things you enjoy but there is a difference between doing it because it's truly enjoyed vs doing it to show off or present false images to others

I am fully aware how the male ego works and a real man isn't necessarily free from ego....but he KNOWS the difference in his actions and whether they stem from his ego or his spirit and he owns up truthfully to those actions and makes conscious efforts to work on himself

A real man knows its okay to just be himself and that he doesnt have to prove anything to anyone at anytime...hes secure with himself and who he is and hes honest and trustworthy.......a real man will attract a real woman

He is the man who a real woman not only can't run over but doesn't want to run over, challenge or try to dominate and who will let him drive in the drivers seat and the one who will treat that real woman like the queen she is, respect her, listen to her, work with her

He is the man who whether up or down a real woman will stand next to, step up for, bring back up, uplift him, nurture him, love him, grow him into an even stronger man and he does the same for her

And pretty much vice versa for a real woman, so for all you men who claim u cant find a good woman or women who feel they cant find a good man or a real man...look at yourselves in the mirror first and see if the problem lies in you....

Good men, Good women are out there....if you seem to keep running into no good mates, its time to look in the mirror and look at yourself and see truthfully what type of person you are

We are all a work in progress, the way to grow, build character, evolve and overcome ego is to be honest with ourselves, change what we don't like, enhance what we do like

and that Real man resides in every male imo, just the process and patience and learning to bring him out

Girls vs. Grown Women

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits in.

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

Girls hold grudges, stay mad for 40 years, and don't get mad but get even
Grown women confront the situation and don't get mad but get ahead

Girls envy those who move ahead and hate the players
Grown women shares her knowledge and help other move ahead by not hating the players but teaching the rules to the game

Girls try to put a man 'on lock' by using sex.
Grown women know that it's the sex of the mental kind that makes a man want to 'Lock' you down.

Girls fake-moan, lay there and take the stabbing.
Grown women say, "Just stop", get up, get dressed and walk out.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it--using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come.
Grown women make you come home.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e. don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special and goes to kick it with her own friends!

Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women show him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate w/o fear of losing his manhood.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that's was just one man.

Girls fall in love, chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all signs.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, doesn't always love you back and moves on without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other grown women!!