Since my breakup I've gone into hyperdrive on the self awareness and self esteem quest. Here are some of the lessons I'm learning in my new accelerated maturation. Lessons I'm trying to apply all the time:

In all relationships, even (especially) with yourself, strive for integrity (excellence), honesty (what do you really want?), love (do you feel happy and like you belong there?), faith (what if things go wrong, will they come out ok later?) and devotion (commit or quit!). You'll know things are in place if these feel easy, and you're on the road to a beautiful and truthful relationship.

Nobody wants to be invisible, even me, although I feel that way from time to time. We just need to react to each other in a more specific, honest way. Descriptions and reasons are way more helpful than evaluations if you're praising or criticizing  someone's actions.

Protection is just a way of preventing the lesson.

Fear is your heart's way of saying "not yet". But maybe you need to feel the fear and do it anyway!

If you know you want the best for yourself, if you really listen to what you want, if you really care what happens to you in the short and long term, if you can forgive yourself, if you believe in yourself whatever happens and if you remember you are the only one truly responsible for yourself, then you'll know it is the right choice.