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Gender: Male
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 34
Sign: Cancer

City: CHARLOTTESVILLE
State: Virginia
Country: US
Signup Date: 3/2/2005

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Tuesday, April 17, 2007 

Category: School, College, Greek
image by Ben Lansing

Yesterday Gwenn and I were just about to leave our house and drive to Philadelphia to speak at Drexel University. After I made sure that TiVo was up to speed on our TV-watching needs, I turned on the news.


1 dead, 17 wounded at Virginia Tech.


Some madman with a gun had gone on a rampage, but there weren't many details beyond that. We wanted to get more info, but had to hit the road to avoid DC traffic (the halfway point to Philly). By the time we got to Drexel, there were over 20 dead and close to 30 wounded, the worst on-campus act of violence in U.S. history.


Virginia Tech is about 3 hours away from where we live, Charlottesville. Everyone here knows someone who goes to Tech, or knows someone who knows someone that does. There's a rivalry between the schools, which in reality just gives everyone who follows college sports around here some fun dinner table fodder. (I don't follow college sports, but I know enough to never drive in town when there's a football game, particularly between Tech and UVa.)


Of course, yesterday you couldn't be a college speaker and not mention what happened. AIDS, in that moment, seemed inconsequential even to me. A cakewalk.


There were over 200 hundred students there, and I started by speaking into a lavalier mic that wasn't working. It seemed appropriate, a moment of almost-silence. Gwenn gave me her mic, and I stated the obvious: that everyones' minds and heart were in Virginia.


Speakers, you should know, can be fixated on their topics, but I avoided doing any lame kind of tie-in, which would have been disrespectful and inappropriate. I got a little choked up, but spoke as elloquently as possible. After I acknowledged our collective grief and worry, I was left me with only one possible segue into the program: "Now on to the fun topic... of AIDS!"


Go Hokies,


Shawn
Radha

 
Shawn you really are so wonderful!  What a great entry. Thank you.
 
Posted by Radha on Wednesday, April 18, 2007 - 8:20 AM
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Ben

 
That's me on the left and Ryan on the right!  What a horrible day.  Kind of surreal, being 2800 miles away and having something that happened back east in Virginia be the first thing on everyone's mind out here.  What a dreadful event.

 
Posted by Ben on Wednesday, April 18, 2007 - 8:20 AM
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Mina

 
My Daughter goes to SU in NY... Her roommate and her good friend Alex have been comforting one another.  Alex a native Virginian   lost his friend and classmate from HIghSchool..... Mary Karen Read in that horrific act of insanity.     Alex who might have gone there but chose Syracuse.  

Just one of millions of tie-ins and stories.  Each of us in essense is affected.   I worry a little more for all the dear ones i love so far away.      And my heart  goes out to Alex.   He has gotten the chance to head home now, leaving tomorrow to head into the thick of sadness and grief,  to pay solumn respect to his friend who lost her life at the hands of that insane gunner.    This should help somehow,  with a sense of closure...though the pain lasts for all times.   

Thank you for not making light or being disrespectful, though i could never imagine you being such anyway.  

XOXOX    And to all those that lost anyone at all... My heartfelt hopes that some how some way we find a way to honor those people, and find a way to make our world just a little safer and a littel happier.  

 
Posted by Mina on Wednesday, April 18, 2007 - 5:45 PM
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Marci Geller

 
I have no words for this one...it's just so shocking and sad. Thank you for being as eloquent and wise as you always are. Those lost and their familes are in my heart and prayers.
MG
 
Posted by Marci Geller on Thursday, April 19, 2007 - 4:42 PM
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Shawn you are an absolutly amazing speaker and so influential to us all! You give hope to us all!
 
Posted by on Friday, April 20, 2007 - 6:22 AM
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