Who Gives Kudos: Walt (2) J3$$!C@ (2) K R I S T Y (2) (2) Clan Haggerty (2) Dr. Ang (2) Eddie (2) THERESA (2) Ally (2) Daisita, C... (2) Carrie Falq.. (2) Jenny (2) (2) xXJULIEXx (2) Looking for.. (2) (2) Racheal (2) Kristy (2) D.J. NIKKI (2) (2) (1) Amanda (2) ~Mz. Tanya~ (2) Terri (2) Paula-Jeanne (2) (2) Mrs B (2) Amiee (2) ☆Michelle☆ (2) Angela (2) ~*Christy*~ (2) Alisa (2) Sinfie (2) Alex (2) Sarah (2) (2) Dylan's.. (2) Carrie Scott (2) Jessica (2) S T O R M Y (2) ~Madam Kris.. (2) Katie (2) ~ L U K E ~ (2) Matthew McN.. (2) ~*Ultimate .. (2) Mommy of 2 .. (2) D.™ (2) ~Teeny~9-1-1 (2) ~*Mama Leah*~ (2) Talinda (2) Andrea (2) Anne (2) Tim (2) (2) ♥ Br.. (2) (2) tinkaliciou.. (2) Ambi Bambi®.. (2) Tina (2) (2) Gary ".. (1) Joan (2) Jenni (2) (2) ~Jaded~ (2) *alicia* (2) Helen (2) New Year .... (1) Deb (1)

	Emmett Ronan	dude thats fucked up..i'd slap a ho. but no seriously though, thats horrible! ..will that be the first time his wife finds out about her? oh man i wanna hit this guy!   Posted by Emmett Ronan on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 1:51 AM [Reply to this]

	Walt	Yes, Kai....I was thinking the same thing as I am sitting here watching the reunion show (which, I must say, is a total letdown). I am also, as you are, thinking...what about Marty's wife? So far, they have not stated that they started any kind of relationship at the ranch but, I have to say, that I would not be surprised if they do. Like most reality TV, rewrite the past all in the name of ratings and the all mighty dollar.   Posted by Walt on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 1:52 AM [Reply to this]

	On My Way-is almost there!:)	Yes it is interesting, I never hear any one talk about that aspect of it. I was there at the taping so I knew about it and have had conflicting feelings about it also.   Posted by On My Way-is almost there!:) on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 1:56 AM [Reply to this]

	J3$$!C@ Jessica Clay	Wow! I thought he was single-when he went home I dont remember his wife being part of the show just the kids at his school. That is so messed up! Media will do anything for ratings! I like the show but you have really opened my eyes to the B.S. and as I have 11 years of broadcasting career in radio-I know that everyone lies for ratings! It is so sad! Marty & Amy must have no conscience!   Posted by J3$$!C@ on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 1:58 AM [Reply to this]

	Jenna	I cant believe he cried. And NBC totally paid for the ring, you can tell how they showed off the retailer.   Posted by Jenna on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:06 AM [Reply to this]

	K R I S T Y Kristy Jordan	I thought he had a wife and didn't ever understand how he and Amy hooked up cause he did mention her on the show one time and I do agree, I think it was very insensitive, I like Marty and Amy yes, but like you said, to do that on national tv I think was very wrong, very disrespectful. I wish you had been on there, I just watched it and it was pretty good. I love Allison Sweeny cause I am a big Days fan, Matt looks like he's gained some weight back though. I think NBC should have brought you and Heather both back. Take care Kai! You rock!   Posted by K R I S T Y on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:12 AM [Reply to this]

	Clan Haggerty	I think they have both done wonderfully with their weight loss, but I have to agree, Kai, that it was in such poor taste for this to be announced on TV. The first thing I thought about was Marty's wife. I really don't remember his saying anything about her, (I didn't see all the episodes) but I did notice he was wearing a ring. Then when he was voted off, and they did his update, I saw that it was gone, and the only ones to greet him were his students. So that was all going on during the CRUISE? That seemed to be pretty early on! This is so sad. I mean, I'm by no means the moral police, but having been through a divorce myself, I know how devastating it is, and I just wonder where their heads are to have flaunted this engagement. As for the show, I thought it had too many commercial breaks, the new host's hair looks fried with bleach, and YOU weren't there! NBC seemed to have really dropped the ball with this one. But Pam looked gorgeous, and Pete and Nelson were phenomenal, too. Sorry if I've sounded too critical. But that's the way I see it.   Posted by Clan Haggerty on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:16 AM [Reply to this]

	Clan Haggerty	Oops---that should be WYLIE, not Nelson. I think I need a nap....   Posted by Clan Haggerty on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:30 AM [Reply to this]

	Dr. Ang	Damn... That would really suck! I knew he was married, but i didnt know of any of this stuff... Then again, i didnt know there was a reunion show... so i guess i'm pretty clueless. I still think you kicked ass on there :) Wish i was able to do the show, but i can't figure out how right now. gotta help with my grandma and all that.   Posted by Dr. Ang on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:21 AM [Reply to this]

	Eddie	Yes I'm glad I missed that less-than-Kodak-Moment!   Posted by Eddie on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:44 AM [Reply to this]

	THERESA	What were they thinking?!?!?! That was just so dam messed up!!!!   Posted by THERESA on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:44 AM [Reply to this]

	chris	Marty, dude..he is a teacher too....you think he'd want to set a good example. shame yo. Tacky. Thanks to Kai for keepin it real.   Posted by chris on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:57 AM [Reply to this]

	Ally	I think it is in poor taste for NBC to pay for the ring. I'd rather have a smaller ring or whatever purchased by the person that was supposed to love me...but of course, that would show good taste and obviously that isn't a concern for anyone involved. Hugs Kai, you should have been included.   Posted by Ally on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 3:07 AM [Reply to this]

	Daisita, C.N.A.	I knew I wasn't going crazy, I remember his wife in that cruise episode. I thought that I just imagined it or something. But dude, that is fucked up.   Posted by Daisita, C.N.A. on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 3:31 AM [Reply to this]

	Carrie Falquist CArrIe FAlquIst	Kai, I wish you would just open up, tell folks how you REALLY feel...LOL. Just kidding. I'm about to watch the reunion show, even though you're not on it, which is lame. :)   Posted by Carrie Falquist on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 3:54 AM [Reply to this]

	Jenny	Right on!! I have been kinda wonderin what happened wit them, since the show first ran.. I then watched it when it re-ran about 2 months ago. I did see the Cruise episode, and ya, it just made me wonder, WTF? Interesting that it seemed to happen very early on in your guys' time at the ranch. But then again, with the wonders of editing, I guess you can never be too sure what exactly is going on. Thanks for the clarification tho, I love checkin' up on your page to see what you have to say!!   Posted by Jenny on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 4:04 AM [Reply to this]

	sienna	So with Marty & Amy, do relationships that start like this have a happily ever after to them. I know a couple that are having a tough time in marriage and they both have said DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION so we have to figure it out. What happen to the stick-to-it-ness we had as a society? I hear people say stuff happens, you fall in love with other people not unless you are spending time with the person all the time and that is a choice--a bad choice--if you are married!!! I'm trying to understand it all. When you say in your vows, til death do us part...what does that mean to people...until something better comes along. I agree with rangpure, that is why our society is so messed up--we are a "if it feels good and it's not hurting someone then do it society...oh even if it is hurting someone but it feels good to you....do it anyway. I'm trying to understand it all and I probably never will.   Posted by sienna on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 1:59 PM [Reply to this]

	xXJULIEXx	I agree with you, Kai. but quick question- wasn't Amy ALSO married during S3 as well?? I thought I recalled her saying during the first episode that she was on the show because her "husband" had told her he "wasn't attracted" to her anymore?   Posted by xXJULIEXx on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 4:08 AM [Reply to this]

	completely content kai	Nope, that was Erin from Rhode Islands husband. Amy was single.   Posted by completely content kai on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:49 PM [Reply to this]

	Shannon	wow...bad taste indeed!   Posted by Shannon on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 5:00 AM [Reply to this]

	Looking forward!	Wow, i didn't think he was married.. totally forgot about the cruise episode too.. geez. not kewl man!   Posted by Looking forward! on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 5:32 AM [Reply to this]

	Michelle Michelle Granger	once again I am happy you have the say thoughts as I did!! I sat and told my boyfriend during the show that I was sooo angery! he asked why and all I could think of was seeing them at Dr H's house at the party and how I had to do everything possible to not go up to them and tell them off! Thanks for being real!   Posted by Michelle on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 5:37 AM [Reply to this]

	Sheri Sheri Griffin	I am a wife of a bl4 contestant. I am so happy that a past contestant gets the crap that family members go through!!! I get that the show can help people lose weight and get healthy- but what they refuse to give a shit about is what it does to relationships with those left behind at home. All the "drama" that is made by refusing to let loved ones communicate unless it is to their benefit is BULLSHIT! I love my husband SOOOOO very much, but we are now in the process of rebuilding our friendship - because months and months of not talking - we were bound to grow apart. To me, that is not the way to help people get healthy. As for Marty and Amy, - How shitty can you get to flaunt everything evil. This poor woman gave up her husband - for what she thought would be several months - to really losing him. Then a year later gets it thrown in her face again!!! And Marty and the show get to profit from it???? How very sick.   Posted by Sheri on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 7:56 AM [Reply to this]

		Sheri..thank you for coming forward as a family member..I am Kai's sister and my heart was broken on many occasions for my sister and all that she went through. It was one of the hardest things our whole family has had to overcome. On the boards, people were mean to my sister for being outspoken but also for things skewed by the show. It was just unbelievable when strangers started attacking me when I tried to explain about editing and how it hurt to have complete strangers saying such hateful things based on what NBC/BL wanted people to see and to think. This Amy/Marty thing just shows that not everything you see is actually what happened. I wish you luck and my heart goes out to you and your family, as it does to all those past family members and future family members who are dragged through the trenches in the name of weight loss and reality TV, Bree   Posted by on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 3:49 PM [Reply to this]

	Mrs. "Mr. S2H" Ginger Rohlfs	Wow...that's some fucked up shit. I agree with you girl. Wow...   Posted by Mrs. "Mr. S2H" on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 12:35 PM [Reply to this]

	Jodie	Damn!!! I remember NOW the cruise episode and his WIFE. I can't believe it!!! I auditioned for BL once and from reading your blogs I am so glad that I didn't make it cause it seems like they are in business to ruin people for the $$$ instead of really helping people! I sure would have liked to see you on there last night!! You would have ROCKED!   Posted by Jodie on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 12:38 PM [Reply to this]

	Racheal	I so agree 100 percent! I was sitting there watching and thinking, damn, somebody lacks a sensitivity chip (as one famous actress once said about her famous ex-husband...). While it's true we as viewers don't know the whole story behind what was happening in Marty and his wife's marriage, I STILL think that him proposing to somebody he began a relationship with while still married to his wife, and all on national television(!), was tacky and mean and just plain ignorant. And of course, like everybody else, I wish you had been on the show! I would have liked to see a ho-hum show made that much more exciting by your presence. :o)   Posted by Racheal on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 1:59 PM [Reply to this]

	Kristy	Kai you hit the nail on the head w/ this one! My husband I watched the reunion show and I said the exact same thing to him!! I remembered Marty mentioning his wife in the "sand pile" challenge...how much it would have meant to him to receive the box from her!   Posted by Kristy on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:23 PM [Reply to this]

	D.J. NIKKI	Hey Kai, you should write a weekly "WAKE THE F**K UP PEOPLE" article kinda like a dear abby, but with way more attitude !!!!! LOL "LOVE IT" you know me always lovin' the honesty. you definately have a broader insite into the inner workings of "the system" than any of us. now I know why so many in Hollywood are so f**ked up ! It's the BIZ !!!!!!!! Hey girl, thanks for keepin' it real, ........"persue your happiness with appology, love strong, live long, and always be true to you and the one you love." HOLLA' BACK AT A FAT GYRL !!!!"   Posted by D.J. NIKKI on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:55 PM [Reply to this]

	Andrea	Completely agree, Kai. The proposal itself was full of cheesiness, and all I could think about was Marty's wife. That poor woman. I wish you had been on the show to spark it up a bit. It was boring without you!   Posted by Andrea on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 3:20 PM [Reply to this]

	Clan Haggerty	Just wanted to add, Kai, as someone else did earlier--THANKS FOR KEEPING IT REAL! I can see now why NBC decided against having you there: YOU'RE TOO HONEST FOR THEIR INDUSTRY! You tell it like it is, and they can't stand it. KUDOS to you, my friend! Karen   Posted by Clan Haggerty on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 3:36 PM [Reply to this]

	Amanda	I'm glad I read this. It's about time someone tells everyone the TRUTH!   Posted by Amanda on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 5:53 PM [Reply to this]

	~Mz. Tanya~ Tanya Batista	Glad u spoke up!!   Posted by ~Mz. Tanya~ on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 6:19 PM [Reply to this]

	Terri	Girl..you certainly ARE NOT the only one thinking that. I was sitting there thinking...."hmm thought he had a wife"...uhh it would be really hurtful to her..it's too bad cause I really liked him on the show (guess I was oblivious to all that was going on). I do agree, it was more of a publicity stunt for a) their business..and I agree with another poster...FOR SURE NBC paid for that ring..or else they wouldn't have shown off the jeweller (good point people!!). Pay for your own damn ring and do it without having to do it on national tv. Some of us care about family...apparently he doesn't..as this would be hurtful to his ex (he is divorced right??). I guess now that he thinks he's the shit...he can do and say what he wants...here's hoping I don't get like that when I'm thinner. I MISS YOU KAI...and I wish you would have been on there girl!! Seriously..you would have rocked the place...and what the hell..a little controversy never hurt ratings, no matter what the tv show lol. You rock..and I love that you speak your mind..keep it up!   Posted by Terri on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 6:36 PM [Reply to this]

	Dana Dana Martin	Kai that is just something, before getting on teh BL, did you knwo t.v could do this, i guess Amy and Marty made there bed and now they have to lay in it too! i didn;t know all of this!! wowsers. but like we tell our kids and as well know, you are reponsable for your own actions!! Dana   Posted by Dana on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 7:51 PM [Reply to this]

	 Rochelle	all i can say is "wow"...   Posted by  Rochelle on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 9:30 PM [Reply to this]

	Paula-Jeanne	AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I could NOT believe they gave that air time....what about his poor wife - I mean, ex-wife's - feelings, for God's sake? I am absolutely not passing judgement on their decisions and actions because I'm pretty damned imperfect -- I am passing judgement on the extreme lack of taste and tact and class that Marty & NBC showed. And wow -- I didn't even think about the cruise appearance -- my God, can you imagine how humiliated she must have felt later on when she learned about the affair? The ONLY thing that keeps me from weeping for her is that it's clear now that she was married to a total TOOL and she's better off without him in the long run!!!!!!!!   Posted by Paula-Jeanne on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 11:36 PM [Reply to this]

	Ash Ashley Willis	FINALLY!!! My husband and I have been thinking that since we found out they were a couple.. I am so glad that we finally know the truth.. we can always count on you kia! but holy hell... his poor wife so supportive of him to go off and change their lives and he repays her by cheating on him... once a cheater, always a cheater... good luck to amy   Posted by Ash on Thursday, September 06, 2007 - 5:08 AM [Reply to this]

	Mrs B	I LOVE IT WHEN YOU BLOG!!!!!! No shit! If I was the mrs ex I would sue NBC for public humiliation and emotional distress. They not only allowed the relationship to continue once it began, but then made a HUGE deal of it! I am of the opinion that if the players can't keep their pants on while on the ranch they should be kicked off and not allowed to finish! And I checked out Amy & Marty's personal trainer website. I thought, "what a great idea, they learned so much and now they can help other people." Yeah, right! They think they are so great that they've totally priced themselves out of helping the very same people they used to be -- teachers don't make much money and no teacher I know of could afford their rates! Karma, baby!   Posted by Mrs B on Thursday, September 06, 2007 - 6:21 AM [Reply to this]

	~Jaded~	Kai I not only love your blog but the bulletin was right on head also. If they wanted to mke it known all over tv, What ho like actions they took. Then that leaves it to us to say wtfever we want. Lets all just hope that the wife finds someone a million times better. Talk about forgetting the little ppl when you get to the top. Or in this case the weight of your goal.   Posted by ~Jaded~ on Wednesday, September 12, 2007 - 9:53 PM [Reply to this]

	Amiee	I thought I was going crazy myself. I thought he was married. I didn't remember his ex on the cruise special, but I did remember seeing a ring on a significant finger. I would be really upset if I were the ex to have that flaunted in my face. It always worries me the when relationships start out like theirs. I have a friend and she was cheating on her husband. She ended up getting a divorce and marrying the guy she was cheating on him with. I would be worried that it could happen again. Thanks for clearing that up.   Posted by Amiee on Thursday, September 06, 2007 - 3:30 PM [Reply to this]

	*.:♥·*·:Karen:·*·♥:.* Karen Courcy	Okay I can totally see your point, and believe it or not, I am not a huge BL fan myself.. but I did watch that whole season... I do find it tacky to propose on TV, but only Marty and his wife knows what goes on behind closed doors... you only see one side of it.. but they probably had some marriage issues that only THEY knew about, and we did not see.. granted it was wrong for them to see other people when they were still married, BUT being a best friend to a woman who lives in a HORRIBLE marriage, I wouldn't BLAME her one bit for finding another man while she was still married and then divorce him... I see the pain my sister goes through with her so called "caring husband".. everyone see's my sisters husbans as LOVING SUPPORTIVE, does everything for her, but when those doors are closed, her life is HELL... maybe Marty and Amy are not happy in their marriage, that's none of our business.. BUT I agree with the Proposal on TV, that's a little tacky.... but if someone is unhappy in their marriage, it changes everything.... I agree with your point in this, but then we have to figure we dont know what is going on in each of their marriages.. we have no clue..   Posted by *.:♥·*·:Karen:·*·♥:.* on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 12:56 PM [Reply to this]

	Emmett Ronan	did those assholes bribe you to change this???   Posted by Emmett Ronan on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:23 AM [Reply to this]

	completely content kai	bribe would have positive connotations, see my fairytale blog   Posted by completely content kai on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:29 AM [Reply to this]

	☆Michelle☆	Oh DAMN! I was thinking the other night....didn't one of them have a spouse on the cruise episode. Guess so! That SUX! I hate Cheaters!   Posted by ☆Michelle☆ on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:25 AM [Reply to this]

	Stefanie	I love your honesty.   Posted by Stefanie on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:33 AM [Reply to this]

	Sarah Sarah Handy	Kai- I LOVE your honesty!!! Wish I could have seen you on the show! Take care!   Posted by Sarah on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:35 AM [Reply to this]

	Angela Angela Hutchins	Thank You!!!! I mean Dang!!!! Congrats to Amy--she has a guy who will cheat and Congrats to Marty--he has a woman that has no morals----so they think they fell in love--as we all know at first you only see the good in each other---pretty soon Marty will see the bad and then he will start to compare Amy to his ex--he may even regret it---Did you know that if you marry your misstress that there is only 90% chance that it will even last??? What Marty and Amy did was selfish---my heart goes out to his ex wife---knowing they are on TV--ugggg---I just don't have any repsect for anyone who cheats---but one changes his or her ways then that takes courage---Anyway, I could go on and on but I will leave with---Amy and Marty did not deserve to be on the reunion show----Was it just me or was Marty cocky????????? I think the top 4 should of been on the reunion show-----What comes around goes around-----Thanks for writing this blog---it takes courage to stand up for what you believe in--I don't know what is wrong with these people--We live in Korea now so I will have to download the reunion show and if you are not on it then that is just awful---You are one of the ones I like the most --   Posted by Angela on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:36 AM [Reply to this]

	Jules	Holy crap. I had no idea that Marty was married. I have completely lost all respect for him. And I never understood what people are thinking when they enter into an adulterous relationship. My feeling is that if this guy cheats on someone he vowed to stay faithful to with you -- what the hell makes you think that he will not do the same to you?? To me, it's completely obtuse thinking. Ugh...   Posted by Jules on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:40 AM [Reply to this]

	~*Christy*~ Christy lovett	i was wondering.. i was thinking didnt he havea wife and what happen to her.. weird   Posted by ~*Christy*~ on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 3:55 AM [Reply to this]

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