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Betsy Voorhies


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Gender: Female
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 53
Sign: Capricorn

City: TALLApASSEE
State: Florida
Country: US
Signup Date: 1/7/2007

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Thursday, May 10, 2007 

Category: Life

Everyone knows what pain is, right? The pain of neglect, exclusion, abuse, depression. No? Maybe not. Some people just seem to be at ease, comfortable. So, what's the difference? Is it a genetic predisposition to pain and suffering that plagues some of us? Is it our environment? Nature vs. Nurture re. Pain?

Well, if you nurture your pain, it will surely have it's way with you then throw you down on the floor and make it extremely difficult for you to get up. If it's you're nature to be in pain, can you overcome it?

Some people experience severe physical or emotional pain from the day they're born. Others develop painful conditions during their lives. I don't think that anyone lives entirely free of pain but I know that some suffer much more than others.

In my case, the pain started pretty early. I could never sit in one position for a long time without my joints hurting. And I noticed this when I was a young kid; 7 or 8 maybe. By 9, I had a pretty crippling depression at times. I hated school, though I was good at it, and I often made excuses so I wouldn't have to go. It was the social interaction I wasn't good at. And being smart didn't make it any easier. Actually, it was being a smart-ass that didn't make it easier. Sarcastic I was. I guess it was a defense mechanism. At any rate, until late in Junior High and then High School, my emotional state was shaky at best.

When I was in medical school one of our professors, David White (a brilliant man and incredible physician, rest his soul) took account of my symptoms of lax joints, easy bruisability and fairly prominent scarring from minor wounds and diagnosed me with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. The benign, hypermobile type. Benign my ass. I now have 3 or 4 ruptured discs in my neck (I can't remember) to prove that it's the farthest thing from benign. And bursitis or arthritis in all the rest of my joints to boot. I'm waiting for my head to just fall off 1 day even though there is a titanium plate to hold 2 of the vertebrae in my neck together.

And then my back started to 'go out' when I was 19. The first time it happened I was standing, leaning against a table. It wasn't like I was lifting great weights or anything, I was just standing there. And my back went out; I couldn't move very well. The next time it happened I couldn't move at all. I had to crawl to the bathroom. It was then I found out that my last lumbar vertebra was congenitally fused to my first sacral vertabra on the left but not the right. Ding! My back was fucked. Permanently. I've since asked several surgeons to just fuse the right side but they demure. I don't have enough symptoms. Not that constant pain and suffering and occasionally being stricken so that I can't move at all isn't enough symptoms!

Everyone, I'm sure, has suffered some kind of emotional trauma resulting in pain and suffering so I won't go into that here. Suffice it to say that at times, I am the emo poster adult.

So what pains do you suffer? Could you be rid of them just by changing you're attitude or are you permanently afflicted? How do you deal with pain?

Me, I go as long as possible, take pain meds that make me sick to my stomach and occasionally go to my chiropracter. I've been down so long, it looks like up to me.

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Carey Lenehan

 
<P>Hey there girl. Don't let the pain get you down. Long time ago, someone taught me to visualise pain, give it colours. Once you can see it, you can change its colour. Wierd but true. I also suffer a lot of joint pain (pretty much every where) and have done since my mid 20's. Something to do with a life of getting pulled around by big horses and working in all weathers taking the knocks but never taking care of myself. Now I'm pretty crippled, hands, elbows, back, neck, knees, hips (really bad) and feet, but I have a high pain threshold and don't stop for anything. Probably because I can't imagine how to stop, or what would happen if I did. (i.e who would pick me up and get me going or rescue me....?). I'm on my own and so just have to keep going. So I ignore the pain, until, like you, it gets me down or I can't sleep or I wake up in the morning and can't get out of bed without crying. Then, big pills and get on with the day. However, it helps when you know others have similar problems. Keep strong. You aren't alone. XXCarey</P>
 
Posted by Carey Lenehan on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 07:13
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Bad Monkey
Betsy Voorhies

 
It does get me down on occasion but I keep going. I'm like you, I have to keep moving or I'll freeze up. I'm doing renovation on 2 homes which is tough and everything I do hurts but if I don't do it, I won't be able to do it, so I keep doing! Good idea about the visualization. I'll try that and I plan to resume taking glucosamine and chondroitin. They have helped in the past so I'm going to try again.
 
Posted by Bad Monkey on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 15:53
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Nenge Marcus
Marcus Trawick

 
<P>I'm staring to get problems in my hand & arm joints from the arthritis that runs in my family. </P><P>I'm a hairdresser & sometimes I will actually drop things because of it.</P><P> Also an unusually well endowed ravager can be painful momentarily.</P>
 
Posted by Nenge Marcus on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 10:15
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Bad Monkey
Betsy Voorhies

 
You're a nut! Do you have osteoarthritis or rheumatoid arthritis?
 
Posted by Bad Monkey on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 15:54
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Vallorie
Vallorie Kelly

 
Wow...    After that I hesitate to speak of my own 'pain', as it seems rather trivial now.
 
Posted by Vallorie on Saturday, May 12, 2007 - 05:17
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Betsy Voorhies

 
When I was your age, I didn't feel so bad, either. It's much more chronic, now that I'm older!
 
Posted by Bad Monkey on Saturday, May 12, 2007 - 06:11
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Mother Gemini

 
I wrote a 2 page comment last week and hit cancel by mistake! Anyways, I live with the same situation that you have only it's with my Mom.  My parents live 2 doors from me.  She has old compression fractures in her back and can hardly walk.  Ortho's, pain management, phsyical therapy and pain meds don't do it for her.  This has put a damper on our daily living.  It stresses me out to see her pain, if I do get her out, how long can she stay?  how far it is to sit in a car?  Can she sit down right away once I get her there?  The next step is Mayo clinic.  Actually, in honesty, your blog is my biggest problem put down on paper, only my Mom is the subject.  I wish i had a happy positive thing to say and spread but I dont' because I'm frustrated myself.  Her birthday is on 5/26, and I have this delimnia as to what activities to plan for the family ALL designed around her constant back pain.  I'm having the party in the morning becasue by afternoon she needs to lay down.  geeeeeeze, okay I'm done ranting. 
 
Posted by Mother Gemini on Monday, May 14, 2007 - 13:56
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Betsy Voorhies

 
You know, I've never tried it because I can still get around well, I'm just in pain, but talk to your mom about hydrotherapy and pool therapy if they haven't done that already. And see if you can find a Homeopath in your area. I practiced Homeopathy in my pediatric practice and it can do things you woulldn't imagine. Just message me if you need details. Best of luck. I can see myself on that same road and it is very scary!
 
Posted by Bad Monkey on Monday, May 14, 2007 - 15:35
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Mother Gemini

 
It's funny you should say pool therapy, I even went back to see if I wrote that anywhere.  She has NO PAIN in the pool.  She can walk in the pool.  I have taken her the last 3 days  and she says to me "Linda, I know you think I'm crazy to say this but I don't have any pain when I'm in the pool".  I was thinking maybe it relaxes her or something, but now I definitely want more info on specifically pool therapy.  Homeopathy is something I've never looked into.  We are completely open to ALL avenues, we don't care if it comes down to sticking a pencil in her ear, if it helps her with her back--we will do it!  Thanks for giving us some hope. 
 
Posted by Mother Gemini on Monday, May 14, 2007 - 20:29
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Betsy Voorhies

 
That's wonderful! Talk to her doctor. The physical therapy place at my orthopedist's office complex has a pool and they do therapy there. I'm pretty sure there is a Homeopath in Tampa or at least near there. Let me see what I can find out and I'll let you know.
 
Posted by Bad Monkey on Wednesday, May 16, 2007 - 00:48
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