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Gender: Female
Status: Single
Age: 93
Sign: Virgo

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Signup Date: 11/8/2007

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Tuesday, December 11, 2007 
I am 43 years old, and suffered through teenage depression back when it wasn't even 'recognized'. I was called 'spoiled', 'shy', 'disruptive', 'talkative', 'quiet' (yeah, go figure..lol..) and so many other labels I felt like my own dictionary. The days of solitude, crying in my room -- but not knowing WHY???, what did I have to feel so desperately empty about, so lost inside, and like a fake on the outside?

There were no "up" days for me. I was either really down, or what I called 'flat line'...just existing. I became a 'cutter' for awhile, just to "feel"...that got me labeled as an "attention getter".

It wasn't until I was 16, and the Time magazine report on Prozac came out. OH MY GOD...there it was...ME. I wasn't the only one on the planet that felt this way!! I rode my bike to the doctor, walked into his office (suddenly bold, so unlike me.. lol!) and said, "I want this, or I die today." He knew I meant it. I had one suicide attempt already so, it was no idle threat.

I remember to this day, waking up two weeks into the Prozac therapy....the world was clear, as if someone had outlined it in black crayon!! I could feel the water when I showered. I used to have it so hot, I'd get out with bright red skin every time, and my mother swore I was burning myself. I might have been, I just didn't feel it, until that day. Suddenly, food had flavor, I could hear the leaves in the trees....it was as if I had been released from a sound proof, feel-proof box. I knew at that point I needed to start therapy...and I did. I had to learn how to deal with this illness, to learn all I could about it. It took awhile, to learn how to become "who I truly was", and to not expect the medication to handle everything for me.

In time, I finished school, with better grades than I ever imagined, and went on to a nursing career... later on leaving that to go into medical research of brain chemistry, because if there is ever going to be a 'cure' for depression...that's where it will be, and I want to be part of it!

My advice to teens suffering with depression is to NOT SUFFER IN SILENCE!! There is so much stigma attached to depression, and medication, that many feel that if they just ignore'it, it will go away. It won't. If your parents tell you that this is "just a phase you're going through", tell someone else -- a guidance counselor at school, a trusted friends parents, or call a local help hotline. Don't give up. You deserve to be treated, and you deserve to feel better! This is an illness, and just as if you were diabetic, you need to see a doctor and be treated.

Don't expect instant results. As well as any medication you may be prescribed, recovery is also going to take work on your part. Be honest with your therapist about what you're feeling. You cant be helped if you hold back. If you're angry, happy, sad, or suicidal, you HAVE TO SAY SO. Acknowledge your illness, name it if you want to, I know many that have, as a way of dealing with it. "Fred's here today" was a way of saying I'm having a really bad day... it sounds sort of crazy, but for some, seperating the illness from yourself, gives you a bit more control over it.

- Ellen, 43
~~Cheryl~~

 
Ellen, my friend, I am so proud of you. Your boldness, your depth, your determination to help...
I absolutely loved the words you wrote, sad, but open & honest, just like you, open & honest, the real you.
You are really opening up deep layers that have been buried for years, hidden from the world, telling your "hushed secrets" to those that may need your help. Those "secrets" helped me open up to you; helped me trust you. I hope that your words can help someone else that needs help, as they have helped me.

Ellen is really an open, honest person. She is not a fake, snake-in-the-grass, stab-you-in-the-back kinda person. She has helped me in ways that most people couldn’t even try to understand. She has ears that listen for hours on end, days if that's what's needed, never gets "tired of listening to your problems", never makes your problems seem less than they are, and never once has she ever said that it was "all in my head". She has a heart the size of Texas. Her compassion is limitless. She has experienced most aspects of abuse, so she is not just a sympathizer, she actually UNDERSTANDS, and for me, that made it easier for me to open up to her... She had been there; she knew how I felt; she knows how I am feeling...

If you need a friend to talk to, Ellen is a good person to confide in. If you choose not to talk to Ellen, please, talk to someone. You may feel like you can hide the darkness & pain, but even if you succeed in your youth, it will follow you into your adulthood, invading your marriage, your job, your friendships, your parenting... there is no aspect of your life that depression does not interfere with. Depression has no compassion, it does not care what path your life takes, and it just follows. I know, I was one of those "troubled youth" that didn't get help until years into my troubled marriage.
I realize now how "black" my teenage years were, how empty, and I promised to make my children's lives colorful. I was having trouble with that promise until I met Ellen. She helped me "paint" my children a better childhood, a better youth, teenagers that are happy, not sad, alone, and living in darkness that they feel, only, they know.

Ellen, I will always be thankful to you for that...
Thank you will never be enough...
I love you deeply, my friend.
~~~Cheryl~~~
 
Posted by ~~Cheryl~~ on Thursday, December 13, 2007 - 6:19 PM
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