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Gender: Female
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 31
Sign: Gemini

City: LOS DIABLOS
State: California
Country: US
Signup Date: 12/20/2007
Thursday, January 31, 2008 
That's what I said to NPR's Terry Gross back in early December when she suggested we avoid discussing something potentially awkward. It was the briefest of moments-- a single filament of a surprisingly hairy broadcast-- but it was surprising how many people later told me it was their favorite part of the program. We can talk. It's all right. I'm actually in a phase where I'm really, really into talking about it.

I get asked a lot why I've chosen to be so confessional as a writer. I've publicly documented aspects of my life that most people wouldn't reveal to their shrink, spouse, girlfriend, or partially deaf Dachshund. The stuff that polite folks confine to the pages of padlocked journals, I've treated as a matter of open discussion. I mean, I described my pussy in Candy Girl. I didn't do it just to be confrontational or freaky, even though I'd proudly tape both adjectives on my forehead. I did it because I thought there might be other girls reading who'd go, "Hey, I have an outie too!" (Not everyone has an adorable porno pussy, boys; someone's gotta rep for the outies.)

I think that's what it's all about. When you possess the courage-- or blunt, gourd-smacking stupidity-- to be totally candid, you silently amass thousands of allies. It's the "me too" effect. As Steven Morrissey (Esq., Demigod) says, there is no such thing in life as normal. And if you walk around pretending to be normal, hiding your scars and incisions and putrescing wounds, you only further the Conspiracy of Normal, which exists to make us all feel like shit.

I ain't having that. I refuse to act like I have it together, because I don't. Last night I unearthed a couple of horse pills left over from my BOOB JOB (note caps!), poured a nice Syrah and got myself fucked up with Special Guest Star A Pack of Cigarettes.*

*I like to make my vices sound like Love Boat cameos. Luckily, this wasn't the episode where they wind up in Cedars-Sinai.

Oh yeah, there was crying. Fuck yeah, I cry all the time. I'm an almost-30-year-old woman in knee socks who cries. I also piss myself when I laugh too hard. How about you?

I know I have to be wary of mines these days. Have to be more cautious. I won't expose the people around me, especially friends that I know to be Private Benjamins. I probably won't write about my love life ever again (which is a shame because I enjoy ruminating on the soul-ripping muscle-taxing mindfuckery of relationships.)

So I gotta be more quiet from now on. Things are changing. This I know. But that's not saying much.

We can talk. It's all right.
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mew

 
"..if you walk around pretending to be normal, hiding your scars and incisions and putrescing wounds, you only further the Conspiracy of Normal, which exists to make us all feel like shit."

thank you!
 
Posted by mew on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 8:48 PM
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Ferdinand
Ferdinand Trussoff

 
yes,
i like that too.
am i norml then? (kiddin')
 
Posted by Ferdinand on Friday, February 29, 2008 - 7:58 AM
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Sarah {✂}

 
You're the coolest.
 
Posted by Sarah {✂} on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:03 PM
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Sarah

 
I used to be viciously candid. I'd talk about anything.

It got me into trouble with my now-ex-fiance. He took everything I told him and used it against me later.

I'm trying to remember that person that I used to be. She's slowly coming back, each time I button only the bottom half of the buttons on my sweaters or flirt scandalously with a classmate. She was a great girl, that old me.

What I'm trying to say is don't lose the candor with the fame. Plus, there's always a difference between the person who's willing to talk intelligently about their train wrecks and the person who has them ingloriously exposed for her in the tabloids. ;) If you tell it all first, they can't 'discover' it later.

(Though some can and will hold it against you, in my new single state, I say "fuck those people anyway.")
 
Posted by Sarah on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:04 PM
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Patton
Joshua Patton

 
Sadly though, few of us are prepared to be as forthright and "real" as we all should be. I have worked, since returning from Iraq, in two corporations. In the first I was me and I said what I thought and acted as I felt -- there is not a phony bone in my body. I was summarily fired after two months.

In an effort to keep my daughter insured and the paychecks rolling in, I kind of keep a lower profile now. I am not false, my character is not fabricated, nor are my actions contrived in any malicious way. I just keep people on a need to know basis and try to sleep at night....

Writing you say....sounds like a good idea.
 
Posted by Patton on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:16 PM
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Smelly Pirate Hooker

 
I have adored your writing style and honosty for years. I can relate to you even though I only know you through your words, but this is why....you are the real deal!
 
Posted by Smelly Pirate Hooker on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:19 PM
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Just... Matty

 
Things change Miss Cody, and we don't expect you to in the least. (sidenote: I personally like to make my vices sound like Family Feud Family Member Introductions)
 
Posted by Just... Matty on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:21 PM
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The Frisky Boy, Johnny Frisk~!
Frisky Boy

 
The candid openess is what I like most about your writing actually. I sometimes still catch myself being hard on myself because I don't fit "into the mold" of what everyone else is supposed to be. I have to take a deep breath and remind myself that the choices I've made are what actually make me different from those people that more easily fit the pattern, it seems to make a lot of things better. My own ex (we've been done for three years but still talk every day) reminded me that getting screwed up over what I'm missing out on now doesn't allow me to see what I'm setting up for the future.

Sorry for the long-windedness, just wanted to say thanks for sharing of yourself. It lets others know that they're not alone in their feelings.
 
Posted by The Frisky Boy, Johnny Frisk~! on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:22 PM
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Phil
Phil Grabar

 
Do what's best for *you* - trite I know, but you've been rushing through a heady roller coaster ride and tapping on the breaks is probably a good idea. I'm sure your readers/fans will understand if you don't chronicle every single bit of inside scoop. *s*
 
Posted by Phil on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:31 PM
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Annie

 
thank you.

i endeavor to cease "furthering the conspiracy of normal" from here on out.

in insecure times, like mondays, post-breakups, periods of unemployment, when hanging out with people who make alot of money, when we produce less-than-stellar work, get overweight, quit smoking, etc. we (I) make ourselves do stupid-ass things like pretend to be "normal", i.e. less interesting then we really are--

so thanks for reminding me that's all it is: pretending to be less interesting than you actually are.

you're a riot and a smart lady.
 
Posted by Annie on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:40 PM
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♫ Mandy

 
Awesome.

No, really. Awesome.

You speak your mind like I do with my friends. I've always been the one to reveal a little too much, if that's even possible. Only in the sense that I'm completely comfortable to talk openly with friends and family. Must be the way I was brought up.

Maybe you should write a book about how openly or non-open people are in this world.
 
Posted by ♫ Mandy on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:36 PM
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Adoresixtyfour

 
*hugs*
 
Posted by Adoresixtyfour on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:37 PM
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Kyle

 
I have an outie too...and it's plump.
 
Posted by Kyle on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 9:55 PM
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Nicole

 
I hope you stay as open as you are. I'd fucking hate it if you got all 'normal'. Be bold, be brave, be yourself. The freaks will follow.
 
Posted by Nicole on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:00 PM
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Nicole

 
I hope you stay as open as you are. I'd fucking hate it if you got all 'normal'. Be bold, be brave, be yourself. The freaks will follow.
 
Posted by Nicole on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:01 PM
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Nick

 
BOOB JOB! (Yay!)

I can't wait to read the next blog you write entitled, "WINNER: Best Picture, Best Actress and Best ORIGINAL Screenplay!"

GO JUNO GO!
 
Posted by Nick on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:06 PM
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Ambar ™

 
Well said, as usual. Honesty really is always the best policy.
 
Posted by Ambar ™ on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:07 PM
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JUKEBOX STORIES

 
I have outie pussy too!
 
Posted by JUKEBOX STORIES on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:09 PM
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The Malone Rainja
Sean Malone

 
I've got an innie penis, its all good.
 
Posted by The Malone Rainja on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:24 PM
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Kris Madison

 
I'll throw another "Me too!" on the heap. On all counts. ;)

I'm learning to edit what I say now & have had to curtail my open book blogging policy over the last few years. It's frustrating because I'd love to just write openly, but I'd have to put so many caveats to explain that no, I'm not talking about my sister in this particular post or that even though this story sounds good/bad/whatever, the relationship I'm referring to actually did have lots of bad/good/whatever times. Being cautious is exhausting.
 
Posted by Kris Madison on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:42 PM
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mayumi

 
what i love most about you and your writing is that you're so real! so raw. don't ever lose it.
 
Posted by mayumi on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 10:48 PM
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el B
Lee Burchfield

 
Eww. And yet, yeah.
 
Posted by el B on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 11:14 PM
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Matthew
Matthew Hegge

 
I aspire to be as open-book. My wife does at least ;) It's part of being part of the big communication which is damn hard when your smack in the middle of midwestern anal pucker-ville. Your escape to the "hills" is a turning point...just don't go all "Howard Hughes"!
 
Posted by Matthew on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 11:42 PM
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Matthew
Matthew Hegge

 
I aspire to be as open-book-like. My wife does at least ;) It's part of being part of the big communication which is damn hard when your smack in the middle of midwestern anal pucker-ville. Your escape to the "hills" is a turning point...just don't go all "Howard Hughes"!
 
Posted by Matthew on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 11:43 PM
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~*Angie*~

 
...so are you out of the "talking about it" phase?

well shit, I hope we can still talk! that's why I love you! ^_^
 
Posted by ~*Angie*~ on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 11:52 PM
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Simon
Simon Gribben

 
Dear Diablo, I do the honest thing too but I'm not in public spotlight the way you are. So I get your reticence. I just wrote a political screed to MoveOn and they sent it to my local paper who called and told me they were printing it as a letter to the editor. I couldn't remember what I wrote. But then I got scared; it's anti-establishment and I live in a conservative area. Coming out politically may not sound brave but for us wusses, its intense.
 
Posted by Simon on Thursday, January 31, 2008 - 11:54 PM
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Pokai

 
I wish I could be as courageous as you. Well, I'm trying to be as courageous as you. Candy Girl was excellent! My friend was a stripper so I've seen lots of the back room stuff, your book was very true. Also, I noticed at Book Soup you said something that implied that you wanted to keep your stuff, your notoriety separate (or not take away) from the success of Juno and Ellen and Reitman. I think the Academy nominations has done that. :)
 
Posted by Pokai on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 12:15 AM
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Erik

 
Well, don't be too much more quiet. That would be weird.

I've only ever seen your vulva on the Internet, but there's nothing wrong with it; it's perfectly nice. Good for you for being a better role model, in your way, than most professional athletes.

Also, it sucks to have a cough when you also have diarrhea. I'm just saying.
 
Posted by Erik on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 12:52 AM
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belsum

 
Kisses honey. Call me.
 
Posted by belsum on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 1:01 AM
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Jonny

 
Power to ya, Deebs.
 
Posted by Jonny on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 1:15 AM
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flaggirl

 
Jonny is an excellent argument for cloning, isn't he? I'm not ashamed to admit it, I LOVE you guys!
 
Posted by flaggirl on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 1:58 PM
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Ben Rai Films

 
Wow! I am so much in awe of you right now!!!!!!!!! Did I say that when I grow up------- I want to be just like you!!!! You're my HERO!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Posted by Ben Rai Films on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 1:16 AM
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Cletus McCoy

 
My penis is an outie. No shame in it.
 
Posted by Cletus McCoy on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 1:41 AM
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Vivian

 
amen sista!
 
Posted by Vivian on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 1:53 AM
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Robin
Robin schreiber

 
We can talk.......really, if you ever want to.
 
Posted by Robin on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 2:10 AM
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BElls

 
So what, no more discussing the thriving topics of dildos masked KY and Vulvodynia? What else are we gonna talk about? Politics?
 
Posted by BElls on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 3:52 AM
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Jean
Jean Hehn

 
This is just one of the many reasons I enjoy you as a person!

Share what you would like to share....keep to yourself what you need to keep secret, and above all, remember, you are a wonderful example to all of us.
( I know...a heavy load to carry, but hey, you have those brand new floation devices to help you out. :P )

Hold your head up high and change for no one but yourself!
 
Posted by Jean on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 4:05 AM
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Kathryn!
Kathryn Jensen

 
doing what you're doing (the whole truthful to the point of making staunch aristocratic wives fan themselves in distress) is what brought my immense respect and friend request upon you. please don't change too much, otherwise "they" win (see, you made me feel more confident of my paranoia!).
 
Posted by Kathryn! on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 4:19 AM
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Johnny Anarchy: Chairman of the Bored
Johnny Anarchy

 
It's good to talk about the things inside, I agree. It's like lancing a disgusting, pus filled boil: It's cathartic and it makes people around you that witness it go "ohgodno" and recoil in amusing horror. That is always fun. Everybody wins. Hallelujah. Jesus Christ. Where's the Tylenol?

PS- We totally have something in common. My penis is an outie! ...though not much of one.
 
Posted by Johnny Anarchy: Chairman of the Bored on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 5:40 AM
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Age
Age Axx

 
It's difficult to give all your personal secrets to the world. Most of the world sucks. Your fans will love you for it. But like you said, your close personal people might have trouble with the exposure.

Love the outie.
 
Posted by Age on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 5:53 AM
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atiny_dancer

 
You rock, that's all I've got to say!
 
Posted by atiny_dancer on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 7:10 AM
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the hopeful ~jolene siana~
jolene siana

 
Awesome.
I just bought Candy Girl!
:)
 
Posted by the hopeful ~jolene siana~ on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 7:12 AM
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The DVD Marquee
Jeffrey Rosado

 
When I bust my gut laughing, I don't wet my pants, but something transpires that's a bit more unusual....I assume the position of an atypical baseball catcher, cover my face with both hands for approx. 10-20 seconds...after which time, I take them away...and I'm more red than a beet until I regain my composure...which can take a minute or so based on the impact of a joke, funny story or the latest installment of Great Moments In Presidential Speeches on Letterman.

I hope it's "all right" that I shared that with the rest of the class...

Do what you gotta do, Diablo as far as being cautious and all that obligatory Hollywood jazz that goes along with being a sought after screenwriter, being in the public eye, etc. -- But don't ever change who you are at heart, because your kind doesn't come along every day and you are a beyond refreshing change in my book...and I can't wait to see what's next on your creative agenda...Juno blew me away last weekend and I'm heading back for a second helping in a few days...first time I've done that for a movie in years...

Jeffrey
 
Posted by The DVD Marquee on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 10:14 AM
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The Secret World of Comic Book Artists

 
Is this your way of asking me out?

Howard
 
Posted by The Secret World of Comic Book Artists on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 10:27 AM
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Nate the Greater
Nathan Schulz

 
I've always been a kind of quiet guy by nature. But I've never had a problem with people that are very candid. People are going to be the way they are, and the way they are is different. But that little fact keeps getting forgotten.

-Nate
 
Posted by Nate the Greater on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 11:07 AM
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JaiPea

 
People who have come to know you, love you for being you. I just turned 52 and I still write about my nocturnal emissions. So keep growing, but don't ever change.
 
Posted by JaiPea on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 12:29 PM
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G. Wrecks

 
I'm sure you can't possibly read all of these comments, but just in case you do...

Thank you. For doing what you do, for being who you are, and for saying "fuck you" to Normal. For all of us.
 
Posted by G. Wrecks on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 2:56 PM
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LAURA

 
I love everything about you. Especially your unnormalness.
 
Posted by LAURA on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 3:01 PM
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Terrence
Terrence Dellinger

 
I am also a very honest person. My approach when people ask me personal questions border on 'shock and awe.' I give them everything. I don't do it because I'm starved for attention or I don't know when to stop (that's my girlfriend), it's because I want them to think I'm somewhat edgy.

People spend so much time polishing stories about themselves to put them in a better light that when they hear my unfiltered stories they'll think one of two things: Either 'Holy shit, this dude has been in some messed up situations', or 'Holy shit, this guy must have done some fucked-up stuff if he's telling me these [supposedly toned down] stories.' Eithe way, I'm guaranteed a 'Holy shit' reaction when I tell people about how I cursed out a six year old in a bowling alley in front of her mom.

-- I was ten at the time.
 
Posted by Terrence on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 7:21 PM
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Tabula

 
I think this can best be summed up by my favorite quote from Dr. Seuss.

- Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

At the end of the day you will never please everyone, so you might as well make yourself happy. Who knows, maybe it will rub off on someone else.
 
Posted by Tabula on Friday, February 01, 2008 - 9:11 PM
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