The sad thing is that nice guys eventually learn this stuff the hard way.

Whatcha said about Bill Gates & Donald Trump is crazy TRUE too....   if you're NOT running a church, then you've gottabe a selfish asshole in order to achieve their kinda success & you've gottabe focused on YOURSELF.  Sure, Bill Gates donates alotta money nowadays---- but, he DIDN'T turn Microsoft into a giant by being nice.  And just think of how many sexy women would sleep with BOTH of them, b-cuz of WHO they are [when these women know damn well that they WOULDN'T sleep with them, if they were regular guys reciting poetry & professing their undying love].

It's messed up the way that things REALLY are....   I'm gonna teach my son to RESPECT women, but I'm NOT gonna lie to him about the way that most women operate & he's gonna understand that I married his mother b-cuz she was the ONLY woman that I'd ever dated [outside of my high school] that WASN'T on the same ole I DON'T WANNA NICE GUY bullshit.

So true once again...You gotta shit on women so they wont shit on you....I learned it the hard way myself....If youre a good guy they will run over you and use you.....If they think ya dont give a fuck theyre all up on you.....

Signed,

James aka a former nice guy

Well, one thing that my closest friends would tell you is....   I have a talent for figuring out whether a woman's a skank, regardless of how she's packaged.  No matter how hard a woman tries to hide herself, I've gotta skeleton key.

I've bugged out my buddies with my ability to tell them exactly what their girlfriends were doing to them in bed [without my ever being there].  I admit that it's an acquired talent.  But, it's also one that's earned me alotta respect among those closest to me.  It's sorta like an unwritten rule, "Before you mess with a woman, it's best to ask Emery what to expect".

True dat.  There's some high class skanks out there.
However, I have to side with Mr. Dangerous here.  I've given this same advice to many a "good" guy out there who can't get a girl.  We females don't always make it easy to say the least!

Re: "I hope the guys that are reading this are smart enough to know the difference between real women and the type of bitches that you're talkin about in this blog. Cuz if a guy uses these methods on a real woman, it will get him nowhere besides kicked to the curb".

Here's the problem....   when you 1st meet a woman, it's impossible to tell whether she's REAL.  In order to get the info that you'd need to figure it out----you've gotta have a getting-to-know-you kinda conversation [for instance, the 1st phone call that you make AFTER getting her phone number].

There are GOOD women that act like bitches, b-cuz they think that it'll ONLY keep assholes away & that a REAL man will go outta his way to knockdown the barriers.  But, this strategy actually keeps ahelluvalotta GOOD men away [b-cuz they're turned off by the woman's attitude].

There are also BAD women that act nice, just to lure men into a trap [where they can use & manipulate the guys].

You're right, these methods WON'T get you anywhere with a REAL woman....   but, that's exactly the reason why I'm telling guys to wait until they've gotten the info that they need BEFORE deciding whether to take the good guy approach OR the jackass one.  You DON'T just walk into the situation saying, "I'm gonnabe a jackass to her 1st & figure out whether she's a good woman later".  You've gotta figure out what kinda woman that you're dealing with BEFORE you execute anything.

Re: "What works for one woman will not necessarily work for the other. We are not all programmed the same".

No, women are NOT all programmed the same.  But, it's still NOT complicated to decipher who's good from who's bad early on. 

GOOD women will ALWAYS respect you for doing nice things for them.  They WON'T punish you for being a gentleman, abuse your niceness, or take advantage of your generosity.  They'll adore you for doing the nice things that a man SHOULD do.  They won't make you feel bad for telling them that you're serious & realize that they're someone that you wannabe with.

BAD women, on the other hand, DON'T appreciate nice gestures.  They'll string you along after you've shown that you're a kind person & their attitudes change the moment that someone does ANYTHING even remotely nice for them.  They refuse to focus their attention towards you [choosing instead to date other men simply b-cuz they feel that THEY CAN].  They're the kinda women that'd make you regret ever admitting that you have feelings for them & will act like you should've just let the relationship progress WITHOUT saying anything.

Re: "The best advice I can give a man is to BE HIMSELF. Because if he acts like anything other than himself, it's all a waste. The chic will eventually discover he's a "good boy" in a bad boy disguise and discard him quickly".

Well, my method IS telling men to be themselves to a certain extent.  You can't help but to be yourself, when you spend the 1st phone conversation finding out things about HER.

I'm simply telling GOOD guys that it's NOT wise to be yourself with a woman that's obviously NOT the kinda woman that'd ever appreciate anything nice that you'd ever do.

You really DON'T realize how LONG men would go WITHOUT dates or a lovelife, if I told every guy, "ONLY deal with the nice women that you meet.  DON'T even bother messing with the BAD girls @ all, even as a booty call".

But, that seems to be the thing that women expect men to do----JUST BE ALONE until you find a GOOD woman [& every guy knows that it's NOT easy].  The problem with that is alotta women [good & bad] think that something's wrong with a man if he says, "I haven't ever been in a serious relationship before" OR "I haven't dated anyone in 2 years".  Shoot, you'd be better off messing with the bad girls just so that you'd be able to say, "I've dated alotta women.  But, I just can't seem to find a woman that respects herself.  That's what I need".

Re: " Why not just be yourself until a respectable girl comes along and can appreciate you for YOU and not for the games that u play"?

Well, I could ask....   why can't women just be themselves, instead of changing just b-cuz a few assholes did her wrong????  The GOOD guys are expected to NOT change, while women go about putting barriers around their heart as time goes on.  Isn't that changing who you are & playing games too?  Y'all call it PROTECTING YOURSELVES right????  And that's basically what I'm teaching men how to do in here [protect yourself & use the bad women to quinch your thirst until Mrs. Right comes along].

Most women that've been hurt DIDN'T start off being cold towards men....  so, why do y'all change & make it difficult for the good guys to get to know you [just b-cuz the bad guys DIDN'T appreciate you]????

Again, I'm NOT telling men to NOT be themselves.  What I'm telling men is to treat a queen like a queen & a ho like a ho.

I just think that it's unrealistic for people to expect GOOD guys to run around treating every woman like royalty [if that's the kinda guy that he is] & NEVER change when they get fucked over dozens of times for doing just that.

Re:  "I'm young, but maybe I'm different from the other young chics that you speak of.  Because nothing on this list appeals to me AT ALL. Especially the no-call back thing. I've fired dudes over some shit like that. Time is money baby! I aint bout to be sittin up waitin on no REPLACEABLE dude's phonecall. Shit... NEXT!!! lol"

Based on what I know about you so far, I WOULD say that you ARE different.  So, I can see where this stuff WOULDN'T work on you.

But, on that note, I'd also like to say that if I met you somewhere & got your phone number....   you know darn well that you AREN'T gonna punish me for calling 2-3 days later [when it's the 1st time that we've spoken on the phone]. 

ALL OF MY BLOG is based on what you've determined about the woman AFTER you've had the 1st major 1-on-1 conversation with her [b-cuz that's the ONLY time that you'll really be able to find out anything meaningful about her].

There just AREN'T enough genuine women in The World for me to even endorse men having the mentality of "Be alone until a good woman comes along".  There'd be alotta men WITHOUT any experience, if I told them to take this approach [& we ALL know that MOST women DON'T wanna man that DOESN'T have experience or they'll look @ him weird if he admits going more than a few months without having sex].

Nah, I can't say anything about your friends when I don't even know them.  So, I'll take your word for it.

But, I also know that if alotta women REALLY believe that "all of the good men are either gay or taken"....  then, men could legitimately make the argument that "all of the good women are either taken or too busy wasting their life away on the WRONG guys".

Also, NOT every woman who fits the description of those that I described for you has issues with a jacked up childhood, absence of a father, or low self-esteem.  Alotta these women just have a fucked up mentality PERIOD where they think "I can only live once, so lemmie experiment while I'm young & then, find that good guy when I get to that point in life when it's difficult for me to compete against younger women".

It's the same mentality that alotta men have [when it comes to women], where they say, "I'm gonna fuck every hot woman that I can while I'm in my 20's & then, start looking for a wife when those 20-something chicks start telling me that I'm too old for them". 

I've heard women say what you were talking about with the "He was too nice" BS....   but, I've yet to hear a legitimate explanation about what the fuck that's supposed to mean.  Whenever I get one, the reason always justifies the things that I've told men to do in my blog.

Now that I think about it, I've communicated my phone calls rule INCORRECTLY [so, in a moment, I'm gonna make a slight adjustment to it].

Ever since I was young, I'd say things like, "I wanna have found the woman that's gonnabe my wife by the time I'm 25" & my uncles would tell me that's too early to settle down.

Even though I was just a kid, I always had the feeling that it'd become increasingly MORE difficult to find a wife as I got older [so, it was best for me to commit myself to finding one early while the other guys played around].

But, as I got older, I couldn't see how it was possible for a man to have a good chance of even finding a wife [in his 20's] when so many women will eliminate candidates for doing the smallest thing [like calling too soon].

first I have to say i haven't read all the comments so i hope i don't repeat something already here!

first as a female i have to say i totally agree some of us women do gravitate to the asshole...so it is cool to give the good guys a chance to get on top.

second now do one so us women who ain't doin some of the stuff that men gravitate too can get on too to...or is that possible?

as someone who morphs between the asshole and the nice guy depending on what i can tell the woman wants and how she expects a guy to act.. I can say first hand that 90% of women out there want the guy with asshole in them.. I don't know what it is..but it's almost like you have to fullfill their expectations of being let down to get closer to them... as far as sending mixed signals... I've fround the best way to do it is be the nice guy one day and the asshole for a few days and that get's em so worked up they can't wait to spend more time with ya so they can hang out with their friends and talk about ya while they all guess what's goin on in your head... the secret here tho is.. to meet their friends... asap... make them like you ... then you can be the asshole to her but only when it's just her... that way you have her friends on yourside.... sneaky i know.. but it works wonders....

michael