On Myspace, alotta people seem to be asking the same questions about LOVE. 
Even though I've only been responding to people's blogs, for a few weeks now....
I can't help but notice that I'm repeating my answers SEVERAL times, in a day.

So, instead of typing the SAME OLE RESPONSES over & over....
I've decided to create a blog where I'll answer ALL of these questions
[for people to reference whenever they ask one of them].

The questions that GUYS have been asking are in BABY BLUE,
the PINK ones are those questions frequently asked by the LADIES, &
I've also included a PURPLE unisex question.
BTW - my lady came up with alotta the WHAT I WANNA SAY answers. 

1.  Why don't women like to date niceguys?
What I wanna say:  "Because the women that you're talking about are STUPID"
The REAL DEAL:    It's OK to be nice, but do you have anything else to go with it?
You've gotta have some kinda personality to go along with your niceness.  You can't just
bank alone on being a niceguy.  My lady says that women DON'T wanna wuss or pushover,
no matter how nice he might be.  Now, it's always been my belief that MOST women chase
after the WRONG kinda men between age 18-29 [they have a tendency to waste their most
precious years on guys that AREN'T gonnabe there for them].  Alotta women assume that
a nice guy's gonnabe readily available when she hits age 30 & finally decides to settle down
because she realizes that it's hell trying to compete against younger/prettier women....
but, THAT's NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!   Usually, by that time, the good guys have been
snatched up by the FEW women in The World who truly appreciated them.


2.  Where are all of the good men?
What I wanna say:   "They went onto find a good woman AFTER you dissed them"
The REAL DEAL:  More than likely, they're the ones that you're either IGNORING,
passing over, or are currently your male friends.  If [for some reason] you keep
discovering that the guys that you typically go for are CONSISTENTLY proving to be
assholes, then you need to changeup & start going after guys that're THE OPPOSITE.
You CAN'T keep working with the same FAILING system that's attracted the same tired
crop of men.  Think about these guys & figure out what it is about ALL OF THEM that you
were attracted to.  After you IDENTIFY that characteristic, then ya need to change
the pattern [you can't keep going after assholes & then, complain about attracting them].
Also, in regards to dating friends, alotta women have this CRAZY belief that it's gonna
"RUIN THE FRIENDSHIP" [or that he knows her too well].  But, why WOULDN'T you
wanna date somebody that knows you, is comfortable around you, honest, &
fun to hang with????  It's a CROCK OF BULLSHIT to think that dating a friend is gonna
ruin the friendship somehow.  I've dated my female friends before & I can honestly say
that NOTHING was ruined when we brokeup [if anything, our friendship was STRONGER
because we'd invested so much time into each other & didn't wanna lose what we'd built].
Only a PUNK acts like he CAN'T keep being friends with a lady that he was cool with before. 
But, when you breakup with somebody that WASN'T a friend to begin with, then ya DON'T
have any incentive to stay in contact [other than booty calls & easy sex].

3.  Why do women date thugs & drug dealers?
What I wanna say:   "Cuz they've been watching too many rap videos"
The REAL DEAL:  Because they've bought into the FALSE notion that a thug can protect
them from harm [even though there's always somebody who's BADDER than your man]....
when in actuality, these kinda guys are putting women MORE in harm's way!!!!
Thugs have beefs & NOTHING's gonna stop his enemies from raping their girlfriend. 
Also, a BAD attitude NEVER stopped a bullet.  I know alotta thugs, but I CAN'T name
one who'd roll up on a dude & shoot him without killing his girlfriend too [do you REALLY
expect a thug to bust shots & then say, "I'm sorry ma'am, you're free to go now.
I apologize that you had to witness this.  Pardon me for killing your boyfriend"].
  The MAIN rule of street killing is "ELIMINATE ALL WITNESSES"!!!!  Let's also NOT forget
that alotta guys ACT thuggish because they REALLY CAN'T fight & are trying to avoid
conflict altogether [by making people think twice about fuckin' with em'].  Hell, I've whooped
dudes' asses that rapped about bustin' guns before [all that gunplay DOESN'T mean shit].
Only a punk bitch would bring a gun to a fistfight anyway....   think about it.
If a guy's gotta TELL you that he's a thug, then he most likely ISN'T one.
Logically speaking though, any guy that's over age 18 SHOULDN'T be fighting.
The law DOESN'T care if you got hit 1st, they're just gonna throw you in jail....
& let's be for real, how TOUGH can you be in jail????  You can be buff all that ya want,
but you'd better NOT drop the soap.  Still, most girls that date thugs are just looking
to smoke weed for free.

4.  Why does every guy cheat?
What I wanna say:   "Because pussy's addictive"
The REAL DEAL:  NOT every guy cheats....   but, if you're consistently being cheated on,
then you need to changeup the kinda men that you date [like I said before].
SOME guys will cheat on you for no reason @ all.  But, if you nag your man, don't trust him,
withhold sex as a means of controlling him, or like to cause drama, then you should
EXPECT to get cheated on.  Also, if you're attracted to badboys, then what the fuck do
you expect from them????  They're BAD for a reason.

5.  Why do girls only want guys with fancy cars & money?
What I wanna say:   "I would too, if I were a female"
The REAL DEAL:   If she's a girl that grew up rich & pampered, then she chases after those
kinda men because it's ALL SHE's EVER KNOWN [her spoiled rotten ass just wants a man to
continue doing what Daddy did for her, since she was a little girl].  I've had millionaires in my
own family, but they ALWAYS told me that "Money can disappear tomorrow"!!!! 
MANY rich girls have NEVER even thought of the possibility that money DOESN'T last.
Now, if she's a poor or ghetto girl that's always talking about dating rich guys or
marrying into money, then she's only saying these things BECAUSE SHE's NEVER HAD SHIT
TO BEGIN WITH.  She CAN'T rap or play basketball, so she's gotta get the money somehow
[because you aren't gonnabe a millionaire from stripping].  She's probably NOT smart enough
to make her own money & better herself, so she wants to take the easy way out & leech on a
man.  Women like that USUALLY end up UNHAPPY, because MOST men with money had to
claw & cheat their way to it.  They deal with sharks 24/7 & aren't gonna be cool with coming
home to a woman that's giving him lip service [especially when he could call the escort
service or pickup a prostitute off the streets in that fancy car].  Rich guys usually want an
arm piece & NOTHING MORE [they expect a lady to just look pretty & shut the fuck up].
He doesn't care if she's stupid or intelligent, as long as she DOESN'T show him up or
make him look bad [which is why they only wanna woman to open her legs, NOT her mouth].

6.  Why do men NOT wanna good girl?
What I wanna say:   "Because they dunno who the REAL freaks are"
The REAL DEAL:  I'd argue that MORE men wanna good woman, than you think.
But, there's a LARGE segment of the male population that wants to fuck The World &
then, find a virgin after they've got 10000 notches on their bedpost [which doesn't work].
Alotta men wanna good girl, but they dunno what to do with one when they find her....
they feel guilty for all the things that they've done, in their past & this guilt causes them to
throw that good girl away outta fear of hurting her [which he MOST LIKELY would do].

7.  Why can't I find a good girl?
What I wanna say:   "What makes ya think that you deserve one"?
The REAL DEAL:   You've gottabe patient [because if you're REALLY a good guy,
then eventually you'll find a good woman who appreciates you].  When you're dealing with
women as a single guy, you've gotta take the "Hope for the best, but expect the worst"
kinda attitude [because when you set your expectations high, then you're only setting
yourself up for a MAJOR letdown].  Just enjoy life, relax, date around, & DON'T settle
down with any woman that DOESN'T fit your standards for a long-term partner.
If ya want sex, then plenty of women will give it to you with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. 
But, NEVER FORGET that alotta pretty women go dateless [they happen to be really nice
people that're looking for a man who wants em'  to be something OTHER than his sex object]. 

8.  Why do guys focus so much on looks?
What I wanna say:   "Why would a guy wannabe with a BUTT UGLY girl"?
The REAL DEAL:  Men are just visually stimulated creatures, by nature.  In order for our
 johnsons to function optimally, we NEED a woman whose physical appearance arouses
us sexually.  Think of how difficult it would be for a man to GET IT UP & sustain the erection,
if his sex partner looked like Smeagol from Lord of the Rings.

9.  How long is it gonna take for me to find somebody to SETTLE DOWN WITH?
What I wanna say:   "How long do ya got"?
The REAL DEAL:  First, you've gotta understand that there's a MAJOR difference between
WHAT YOU WANT in a sex partner & WHAT YOU NEED in a spouse....
most people just assume that both are the same [even though they're NOT].
You might wanna lover that's rich, but all that you need is somebody that cares for you.
You might wanna lover who'll give you 3somes, but whatcha need's reciprocated love.
You might wanna lover with a Ph.D., but all that ya need is a lover who can communicate.
You may wanna lover that's great in bed, but all ya need's someone who'll grow WITH YOU.
Once you can separate whatcha want from whatcha NEED, then nature has a funny way
of throwing that person right into your hands.

10.  Why do women stay with men who treat em' like shit & then complain?
What I wanna say:   "Because it's foreplay"
The REAL DEAL:  Girls who LET guys treat them like shit & then complain about it are just
DRAMA QUEENS [with LOW self-esteem] who wanna feel like they're important.  Because
they've gotta feel like the center of the universe, they're ALWAYS seeking MORE drama &
people that're willing to listen. They WON'T take your good advice or do what they know is
right, because [if they did] there wouldn't be DRAMA anymore & nobody would be there to
make them feel like they're important.