How'd you arrive @ that decision????  I had to remove my previous comment, because I forgot that husband "B" was the fertile one.

if those were the ONLY two options, sadly i guess, i would pick Husband A because of the following reasons: 1) you have to have good sex in a marriage (good in bed part), 2) you have to be able to talk to your partner (the funny & witty part), 3) i don't care if he does drugs as long as he would share them with me, 4) i would think my husband would cheat on me anyways, but at least when he was with me he would be good in bed (cheats on me repeatedly part), 5) just because he hits on all my friends doesn't mean he's gettin with any of them, my friends are too good for that and i trust them completely, 6) i have my own money so i wouldn't care about signin a prenup, i wouldn't want him to steal anything from me either!, and 7) i can take a hit, i'm a tough girl. I would also sacrifice having kids, since he was sterile and we couldn't adopt; I can always be a godparent to my best friend's kids!

why i would NOT choose husband b: obviously, all the opposite things that i listed above, and i want a man to protect me, especially if someone else touched me. i would want him to kill the sob and have his brother, the chief of police, cover the whole thing up. what do you think, and which husband would you choose?

damn it emery, i told you i HATE that name, it reminds me of my stupid ass ex...but i'll forgive ya...and ya, i'm really good at catchin mistakes and shit, but if he was sleepin with all my friends, they wouldn't be my friends anymore then right?! so i'd have no friends, but at least i'd still have my family

and ya, i'd take gettin hit every night for some damn good sex, i guess i'm a nympho and i just have a problem or somethin...and i figured that's what you meant about drugs, that it wasn't just weed, and ya, i'd stick with him only if he shared with me, (unfortunately?) speed/crystal/crack, whatever you wanna call it, is my favorite...

U brought up a very ethical question my friend . For me, its like choosing between a Lamborgini Diablo or a Ford Escape Hybrid. The Diablo being fast but not efficient with the latest technology and the Escape being not so technologically advanced, but u get 92mpg. My answer to your question would be neither, i'd stay single, with a live-in g/f. Why i came to my conclusion is because i'd be lying if i'd say looks doesn't matter, it matters a 100% to me, i may sound a bit selfish....but im a good looking guy and would want to be seen with a good looking girl . I'd wanna say that you could change someone...but i almost married the wrong girl twice. My first G/F of 4 years was Wife A..without the drugs and i dunno who she fucked, but when i was in bootcamp in chicago, she fucked some dude and got pregnant and decided to keep the kid...of course that guy is living with regret because i kicked his ass!!!! But yea, she seemed perfect, i've known her since i was 6yrs old, but still i didn't know her(u know what i mean). I've had a G/F of 2yrs like Wife B, but she was attractive. The reason is, she does not have a clue of what she wants in life...her parents were poor, her dad died....again i thought i could change her, help her get back on her feet, but she choose not to. What she did was...stayed at home, drink, thrash my place, never cooked, clean, or do nothin, didn't had a job, and waitn for me to come home so i could fuck her.....but she was loyal, i dunno bout devoted and so forth. So, now u see why i wouldn't settle for neither. I'd more wanna marry somebody in between those two cathegories.

Nigel

-Emery-

Okay, i would choose Wife A for the same reason i would choose a Lamborgini...why u may ask? Because u can impress the hell outta your friends with it....but in this case her. Sure enough, wife B is only devoted to u, and has eyes for only u, but theres a reason for that too, the reason is that she's unattractive...i mean honestly guys....do u even take the time out to look at a butt ugly girl????? which is why she would do anything to keep the relationship going cause she can't find better. Which brings me back to my choice...Wife A....! She has some issues, but with a little Rehab...things might prolly go a bit better. Compromise!! can take u a long way in a relationship.secondly, she says alot of things, but when it comes down to it, would she? maybe, maybe not? Pre-nup??? I don't care. Thirdly, now fellas....i know u feel for me on this one....which one of u guys out there can stand a woman that constantly nags???huh???? my guess is no one. So now u know why i'll marry wife A...she doesn't nag either. BRAGGING RIGHTS MY FRIENDS, THE SAME REASON I WOULD CHOOSE A LAMBORGINI, NOT EVERYONE HAS IT!!BUT EVERYONE WANTS IT!!! take care!!

Nigel

DAMN GOOD ANSWER....   gotta hand it to ya, man.  Impressive points [ya even made me rethink my own pick].

But, personally, I'd have to choose NO KIDS over having one with a wife like that.  To each his own though.

ummm....i don't know that i can be a good judge of that given my situation....

about the kids, you gotta realize that just like men, a lot of the women on myspace just tell the guys what they want to hear, not the truth.  personally, i like kids.  my mother doesn't.  and in an Ann Lander's poll referred to in James Dobson's book Marriage for a Lifetime,  seventy percent of women said that if they could do it over again, they would NOT have children. 

for me the deciding factors were being treated like a ho versus not being treated like a ho, being abused, and drugs.

although i have never lived with a man that treated me like a ho or that i knew was cheating on me, i have been in abusive relationships and also drug relationships, and i would never go back to either situation.

Why do you think that 70% of women would say that they WOULDN'T do it all over again [in regards to children]???  What do YOU think would cause such a HIGH number of women to NOT wanna do it all over again????

Is it the stress of raising them?  The changes to their bodies?  The way that their husbands viewed them?  The pain of childbirth?  The effect that it had on their sex lives?

I'm curious....   did the article cite women's REASONS for saying so, or was it another one of these polls that cites statistics WITHOUT going into the reasons why those polled gave the their particular answers?

Me, personally, I can't see those as good enough reasons to NOT wanna have children [if they could do it all over again].  I just feel that your kids are MORE important than your spouse anyway [you love them equally, but your children are a DIRECT extension of YOU].

Now if I was just gonna be sleepin' with this girl I would choose Wife A.......Since I have to choose one to MARRY, I would have to pick Wife B.......I say that because I would never want to MARRY and HAVE kids with a woman like that, besides eventhough I am not a CHEATER I could always have a kid with another woman as bad as it sounds it is still better that Wife A..............

@ Alicia,

Yeah, even I can admit that looks don't mean shit [to the overall spectrum of a relationship] when there's no substance to go along with the outward appearance.  Money can disappear overnight too.

I also agree with one being able to teach someone how to be better in bed [despite it also being my personal belief that, when it comes to being romantic, you've either GOT IT or YOU DON'T].

But, TRUE LOVE does conquer all.  Thanks for your contribution.

Ok I would take Husband 2 and here is why

I. Looks are not everything and there is more to a person then what is on the outside, I know you have to be somewhat eye pleasing to get the first conv going but after that look under the skin.

2. I can and will make my own money and at no time need a man to support me.

3.I can teach him to be better in bed hell if he is bad then you can train him to be just want you want.

4.Boring is a state of mind and also something that can be worked out if you yourself can come up with ideas.

5. I am enough of a bitch for both of us

6. Romance is also something that can be taught

7.Who does not tell corny jokes at some time or another

Any woman that would pick number two and allow herself to get the shit beat out of her each night is not a woman but a whore selling herself to a man for money. If she would let him cheat and still keep then still just a whore he has bought with marriage

Yea I know last part might sound mean but really what else can you call it? I don't  see anything wrong with being whore/hooker or what else you want to call it. I myself don't want to go that way but I have more respect for the women that at least say hey that is what I am now pay up. I think that women that marry for money are very hypocritical when they think they are better then the ones that come right out and say you get this for this amount of money. Have to respect the women that are right up front with what they want and what it is going to cost ya LOL

Guess I am just not into the whole game playing and dance around the subject girl. That is why I said I am bitch enough for both of us lol is the truth.

so husband b for a few reasons:

1)once a man beats on you it will NEVER change. so fuck a life of being smacked around like some rag doll and fighting like ike and tina.

2) things like passion, appearance, and corniness come and go with time. with the right trip to the look for less studio someone can go from ashy to classy in a matter of hours plus i like to be the one that tells the dick and fart jokes and i dont need no man to fight for me. i keep myself out of shady-niggerish situations anyway!

3)COKE HEADS MAKE BAD BOYFRIENDS. im addicted to enough shit on my own i dont need to be taking on the magnificent responsibilty of someone elses addictions, especially if one of those addictions is beating my ass!

4) and lastly, hes probably sterile cause hes cheatin ass has herpes. so NO on that