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Gender: Male
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 34
Sign: Libra

City: BROOKLYN
State: NEW YORK
Country: US
Signup Date: 10/5/2005

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Tuesday, April 29, 2008 

Current mood:  determined
Okay, so I've kinda stayed out of the Nuke controversy. Mainly because I know how difficult it is to get ANY kind of social issue story to the screen in this day and age (which is the greatest shame of soaps today, but more on that later), and also because I have no idea what's happening in the ATWT writers' room, but clearly there is some kind of internal struggle going on in regards to what they can show, or what they can't show - and since I have so many close friends and so many people I respect at the ATWT studio, I don't want to comment on rumors or speculation. Yes, to be perfectly frank - I am gay, and am currently in a VERY committed, VERY monogamous relationship, and have been for over two years now. But I also know I live in a very liberal city (NYC), and this is America, and I need to be open and respectful of all opinions, even those I personally might find offensive and ignorant. Because we live on a continent where people don't get hanged for disagreeing, and that's something most of us, including myself, take for granted, so I always try to remind myself of the bigger picture in situations like this.

Today, I heard from a friend at the studio in regards to Procter and Gamble's 800-number to poll America on whether or not they should further the Noah/Luke love story. (1-800-331-3774) My friend at ATWT says it's been difficult for TPTB at ATWT to do this story justice, but they are committed to it. She encouraged all of us to call the 1-800 number and support continuing the Luke/Noah love story.

Okay, so before you get on me about religion, or your stance on homosexuality, or any of that - consider this for a moment: Did you enjoy the Stone/AIDS story on GH? Or Marty overcoming the horrors of what happened to her at Spring Fling on One Life to Live? How about Beth confronting her step-father (Thanks for reminding me, K!) on GL, or Erica Kane facing the toughest choice of a woman's life in the 70's (before history was rewritten two years ago with Josh of course, but that's irrelevant to my point)?

As long as I've been alive, soaps have always been telling stories that teach, that show all perspectives, that are on the cutting edge of what's going on in YOUR world today. Lately, there seems to be this desire to move further and further into escapism - stories that take place in worlds where silliness reigns, and as such, soaps are starting to be taken much less seriously than they were twenty years ago.

Supporting "Nuke", to me at least, is about a lot more than just supporting gays on TV. It's about supporting television that makes you think, that forces you to question your own beliefs, see a different side of the story you might not always agree with - it supports the idea that yes, we watch TV to escape reality sometimes... but we ALSO watch TV to sometimes see realities we might not have any other access to otherwise. We want intelligence in our stories - we want a reflection of what we see in our day-to-day lives. We want to see the human struggle.

Please call. And let them know that yes - even if you do disagree with the story, you still support it because sometimes it's okay to be a little uncomfortable. People were uncomfortable when slavery came to an end, they were uncomfortable when women started working full-time, and they were uncomfortable when Maude got an abortion or when Archie Bunker used the N-Word. And you know what? It's OKAY that you're a little uncomfortable with two guys kissing on TV. I applaud TV that makes me squirm a little, because it opens up new worlds to me, and helps me become a more tolerant, more understanding person, to question things I've accepted at face value, to wonder what I would do in that situation or if I can learn something from my reaction to what I just witnessed on the screen. This is a society where we are constantly learning and growing - and a genre that once upon a time, prided itself on being a serious learning tool. Don't let it become a joke.

Damn the man. Save the empire.

Donna

 
Amen!
 
Posted by Donna on Tuesday, April 29, 2008 - 4:47 PM
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Crystal

 
WOW! What an amazing blog. Thank you for the info, and I am caling as soon as I get done writing this.

You know, it always amazes me that we can live in a country where progress is the first thing on everyone's mind, no matter who you are, but then be so hypocritical about it when it comes to other matters. My father (miss you daddy!) was one of the wisest men I will ever have the privilege of knowing. Believe it or not, he was a Southern Baptist Minister. I grew up in the Bible Belt, my friend. Now, with that being said, I also wasnt to add that this was also the man that taught me to LOVE everyone! This is the same man who looked at my best friend, who happened to be a gay man, and said, "I love you like a son!" and welcomed him into our family with open arms. Some of the most moving words I ever heard him speak were about this topic. If others judge merely because their lives and lifestyles are different, then no one will ever like ANYONE! ALL people have differences...and all people deserve to be portrayed equally. Ignoring the very existence of others, because they love differently, does NOT make it any less of a reality. It's the same as saying you don't want to see people with blonde hair on television...in other words, it makes no since! (I am of course adapting his words to the topic at hand now.)

No one should have to hide because of fear of judgment. It is that same emotion, the fear, that causes the small minded ones to hate. When others cave into the mentality that some divisions in society should be hidden away, when all they are guilty of is living and loving just like everyone else, then we have done our society a SERIOUS injustice.

Quoting my father again (bear with me here...this is a subject close to my heart) all we can do is teach by example. Show those that don't know how to love unselfishly that it really takes less energy to love and accept others than it does to hate them. What I THINK TPTB are afraid of is the backlash from the community. And just as you said, this has happened sooooo many times in the past. That is what is GREAT about our country. We are free to progress, and this is progression. The day my friends can walk down the street, be accepted as just another couple holding hands and kissing in the park at lunch time, be able to legally marry each other and have all the rights that every other couple in this universe has will be the day that my heart will feel full.

And here I go again....my last quote from my father... "All of us are God's creatures. All of God's creatures deserve the right to love and be loved without being judged." Is it fair to say that only some deserve a fair representation? I think not.

So, I am going to teach by example...even more than I already have.
 
Posted by Crystal on Tuesday, April 29, 2008 - 5:05 PM
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indigolden

 
This is awesome. You are awesome. That's all.

Thank you.
 
Posted by indigolden on Tuesday, April 29, 2008 - 5:13 PM
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George
George Hinds

 
So well written, and so well argued. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this. You've nailed it spot on!
 
Posted by George on Wednesday, April 30, 2008 - 4:06 AM
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Stephen

 
I agree, i'm a huge Nuke fan and i think ATWT is getting alot of crap for trying to tell a story the way it should be told.
 
Posted by Stephen on Wednesday, April 30, 2008 - 5:14 AM
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Rustyroo - a conservative in exile

 
Great post! The only soap I followed from time to time was Days. I think there is an issue with what is presented on TV. We're in a real world and not the old time sit comsm which was not real life. I think emotions and relationships should be featured, but not all the gore and violence. The only times I see that is on TV shows or the news. The times I see people in relationships (loving, lacking, heartbroken, reuniting, forming new, whatever) is everyday.
 
Posted by Rustyroo - a conservative in exile on Thursday, May 01, 2008 - 3:05 AM
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