Hoes Never Get Shown ANY Love Nor Respect, So How Do You Expect to Keep a N*GGA in Check!?

I got this Spanish chica, she don't like me to roam
So she call me cabron plus marricon
Said she likes to cook rice so she likes me home
I'm like, "Un momento" - mami, slow up your tempo
I got this black chick, she don't know how to act
Always talkin out her neck, makin her fingers snap
She like, "Listen Jigga Man, I don't care if you rap
You better - R-E-S-P-E-C-T me"
I got this French chick that love to french kiss
She thinks she's Bo Derek, wear her hair in a twist
My, cherie amor, t£ est belle
Mercy, you fine as fuck but you givin me hell
I got this indian squaw the day that I met her
Asked her what tribe she with, red dot or feather
She said all you need to know is I'm not a ho
And to get with me you better be Chief Lots-a-Dough
Now that's Spanish chick, French chick, indian and black
That's fried chicken, curry chicken, damn I'm gettin fat
Arroz con pollo, french fries and crepe
An appetitite for destruction but I scrape the plate

*Sighs*  - I'm going to take you for a trip down memory lane...

When I was about 13 years old, both of my parents found out that I was sexually active after my mother asked me if I had - had sex. I was honest and replied yes. She wasn't upset nor did she begin to shelter me and put her foot down to limit my activities nor did she chose to restrain my actions by monitoring what I was doing 24/7.  Instead, she called my father at work and said, "Curtis, did you know your daughter is sexually active." This was NOT a conversation I was trying to have! I wasn't embarassed or anything of that nature but I was afraid of what was going to happen to me because of my honesty with my mother.

A few weeks later, as I always did in the summer, I went to visit my father in Indianapolis. He didn't enquire any information regarding my sexuality or about what led to me becoming promiscuous. Instead, he decided to let some Dr. Dre reach me. He played every song he possibly could have which degraded women, told a story about every hoe he had slept with, what he thought about them, and so forth. From that moment on, I vowed that - that would never be me. I became more conscious about who I was and who I was doing it with; I thank God for that. Had it not been for my father, I'd probably be the same girl I look down upon...girls like Karrine Steffans... just classless, shameless, and obviously lack normal levels of self-esteem. Although I didn't appreciate his methods of showing me what I was doing was wrong and wasn't worth it then, I appreciate it now. I am so grateful that I recently wrote him a letter explaining to him how he influenced me to not want to become one of these girls who are easily manipulated and motivated by material possessions in search of love in something that can be either reposessed or returned.

I don't understand how "WOMEN" can ever place a price on their bodies. Don't you understand that once it's gone it is something that can never be replaced? We all wanted to be treated like Queens but our actions display whore-ish mentalities that doesn't demand for respect.  I am honestly disappointed and embarassed with the mentality of a lot of women (both young and old)!  It's disheartening to me that so many young women in society really believe that it is so "cool" to be a wh*re.

To men, we come a dime a dozen. When you don't demand respect you'll never receive it. Respect is earned and is not given to anybody. When women are hoes, you're credibility is completely shot. It takes you twice as hard to prove yourself and even then you're still being labeled as being someone you're not even if you DID try to change from the person you once were. Although Karrine is always saying how she's not that person anymore, she's still that person in the eyes of many of her readers. Although she wrote the book to show a lot of girls what not to be, she's still that person she's trying to prevent others from becoming.

Even around college campuses nationwide, many girls get caught up in a man's status - rather it being fraternal, athletic, or organizational - to the point that they just don't care about the message that they are trying to send. I see grown women still maintain this nonchalant, carelessness, irresponsiblities as if they don't know that AIDS is real; Sexual Transmitted Infections exist, babies are lifelong commitments, etc. What do you gain from being a hoe besides a hoeish reputation.

Granted some people are just sexually out there; they'll do any and everything because they enjoy sex and that's cool if that's you. Just remember, a man will never trust a hoe and you'll never move up; you'll always be at the bottom of the barrow. Some women misconstrue sex for love thinking that it will be born out of many miscellaneous one night stands and wonder why thinks never worked out between man A, B, C, D, E, F, and G.

I cannot stress enough that if a man is going to love you, he'll love you regardless because he loves you for who you are. You should never sacrifice your body nor your character just to impress a man; if he was very much into you then he'd been impressed just because you are who you are. You don't have to be a hoe to win a man's attention. Having your A+ game gains a man's attention, not having A+ sex game because all that will give you is a phone call between one and four AM Monday - Thursday during normal whoring hours. Then once he's done with you, you're the butt of the jokes.

For example, I was searching for videos on YouTube.Com and this is what came up for Karrine Steffans: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5qJI3hWavPg&search=karrine%20steffans

Although Karrine is trying to make something positive out of her life, she's still be disrespected. Sadly, she laughs it off as if it's cute or something to accept. If you watch the video, you'll see how no matter what she does, she'll always have a slutty reputation.

So, for my ladies out there who are doing things such as this, please stop! For one, you're making it 10X as hard for me to  make it in society as a DECENT black woman and for two, you're only making things harder for yourself. It's a time and place for everything and at this age, I'm going to need for us to know that being a whore is NOT cute. You'll never be respected and you'll always have to fight twice as hard to prove yourself and even then... you'll still be a hoe! So, slow down and take your time... and always remember that sexual exploitation does NOT equal LOVE!