Update: Just got word from Eve Ensler (the author of the Vagina Monologues) that the suspension for the three girls who said "Vagina" has been waived. Victory!
Okay – are you ready for another are-you-kidding moment?
Read this article: If you're not allowed to say the word "Vagina" in school what message is that sending?
I had a similar situation to this when I was still at the magazine. We ran a health feature called Vagina 101 that was created to help our reader feel more familiar with that part of her body. What made this piece different was that it contained medical pictures of vaginas to show what's normal and what's not. Some conservative groups and parents TOTALLY freaked out – and one supermarket chain actually pulled the issue from the newsstand. I got letters from mothers who said things like, "My daughter does NOT need to know what her vagina looks like!" Ummmm…okay. Most of the readers really appreciated the info – and so did a lot of staffers!
Listen, I realize that putting the medical pictures in there was taking our health coverage to a new level of seriousness, but that's what I intended to do. Think about it: if a boy wants to look at his penis, all he has to do is look down. It's harder for a girl - her vagina is more hidden. Unsurprisingly girls were asking me very basic questions about their anatomy and that was the a sign that they were too uncomfortable actually taking a look down there.
Not wanting a girl to be familiar with or even SAY the word "vagina" sends the signal that her sexuality is something to be ashamed of. I'm not suggesting to run out and have sex left and right. I'm saying that you don't have to be ashamed that you're a woman and a sexual being. That has nothing to do with actually having sex. Clearly some people are not comfortable with that fine line. The lack of proper sex education in schools isn't helping matters much either.
If you ever have questions about your body, you should try this website. It's got a "teen's health" section too – but the "women's health" section is much more thorough. Big surprise. Okay – I'm done with my rant. Just want you to know: Who you are is very precious and I don't want people out there making you feel dirty just because you want to understand your body.
How do YOU feel about the topic? I'm always interested in hearing your take on things.
Have a great weekend.
xx
atoosa