This ritual was written because my mother died and i needed a personal way to express myself through what i believe

the funny thing was that that i passed this ritual to none pagan relatives along with a single died red rose (you work out where it's place in this ritual belongs) who found that reading the ritual before placing the rose in a special place an aunt place hers on the grave of her dog found great sence of understanding

to my friends sorry that not been around but i think this explains i love you all

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Play moon on dark water (kate West – Elements of Chant)

 "I stand here alone before you my Goddess in both  sadness and joy. Sad because a chapter has closed, yet joyful, because, by the closing, a new  chapter begins.

I am here to mark the passing of my   mother, for whom this incarnation is ended. I am here to commend her to the care and blessing of the God and Goddess whom I served, that she may rest, free from illusion or regret, until the time comes for her rebirth into this world. And knowing that this will be so, we know too that the sadness is nothing and the joy is all."

Mum thing where never always good for us their where time when we let each other down I realize now that life must be lived fully and each day must treated as it last.

The sadness I feel that you are no longer here is hard to bare the regrets I hold in my heart have become a heavy weight.

I am joyful that you are no longer in pain and you have returned to the arms of the goddess.

I will never forget you and will hold your memory dear.

I also stand here before Goddess and her consult and swear to keep the promise you asked me to keep(peronal oath).

Play Eva Cassidy Danny Boy

"I call to thee, Ama, dark, sterile Mother; you to whom all life must return when its time comes, Dark Mother of stillness and rest, before whom men tremble because they understand you not. I call to you, Ceridwyn of the Cauldron, Dark Lady of Wisdom, whom men fear because your wisdom towers above their own.

I one of, the hidden children of the Goddess, know that there is nothing to fear in your embrace, which none escape; that when we step into your darkness, as all must, it is but to step again into the light.

Therefore, in love, and without fear, I commend to thee, myMother. Take her, guard her, guide her; admit her to the peace of the Summerlands which stand between life and life. And know, as you know all things, that omy love goes with Her."

I take my cauldron and hold it above and say:-

This is the symbol of life and death: ( I place the cauldron back on the altar)

The dozen red rose I bought the day my mum die and dried are then held above and say:

This is a symbol of my mother something of beauty cut down in it prime.

I remove the petals and place them in the cauldron -

I place the stems around the cauldron forming star of david.

I place some other personal items in to the cauldron spending sometime thinking of my mother.

 I then bind the stems into a solid star of david and hold it above and say:-

As with all things die something always remains this is a symbol of the loss I feel the thorns are a symbol of the pain I feel.

Chant Hoof and Horn

"then shall the dust return to the earth as it was, and the spirit shall return to the Goddess who gave it."

The Cauldron and star are, offered to the Lords of the Watchtowers of  the West (Lords of Death and Initiation), and then to the Lords of the Watchtowers of the East (Lords of Rebirth). The cauldron is left in the East. (Contents are used later in garden)

 "We call to thee, Aima, bright, fertile Mother; you who are the womb of rebirth, from whom all life proceeds, and at whose flowing breast all are nourished. We call to thee, Arianrhod of the Silver Wheel, bright Lady of Springtime and all things new.

We commend to you, …., my mother. Take her, guard her, guide her; bring her in the fullness of time to a new birth and a new life. And grant that in this new life he may be loved again, as we have loved her."

 "Let us now, as the Lady teaches, share the loving feast of Wine & Cakes and as we do so, let us remember ….. And with this communion, we place my mother in the hands of the Goddess."

 (The wine & cakes are consecrated, the Legend read.)

Legend of the Descent of Inanna

In ancient times, our Lord, the Horned One, was (as he still is) the Consoler, the Comforter. But men knew him as the Dread Lord of Shadows, lonely, stern and just. But our Lady the Goddess would solve all mysteries, even the mystery of death, and so she journeyed to the Underworld. The Guardian of the Portals challenged her…

 "Strip off your garments, lay aside your jewels, for naught may you bring with you into this our land."

So she laid down her garments and her jewels and was bound, as all living must be who enter the realms of Death, the Mighty One.

Such was her beauty that Death himself knelt, and laid his sword and crown at her feet… and kissed her feet, saying,

 "Blessed Be thy feet that have brought thee in these ways. Abide with me, but let me place my cold hands on your heart." And she replied,"I love thee not. Why do you cause all things that I love and take delight in, to fade and die?"

 "Lady," replied Death, "it is age and fate, against which I am helpless. Age causes all things to wither, but when men die at the end of time, I give them rest and peace and strength, so that they may return. But you, you are lovely; return not, abide with me."

But she answered, "I love thee not."

 "Then," said Death, "if you will not receive my hands on your heart, you must kneel to Death's scourge."

 "It is fate – better so" she said and she knelt. And Death scourged her tenderly. And she cried, "I know the pangs of love!"

And Death raised her and said, "Blessed Be". And he gave her the Fivefold Kiss, saying, "Thus only may you attain to joy and knowledge."

And he taught her all his mysteries, and gave her the necklace which is the circle of rebirth.

And she taught him the mystery of the sacred cup, which is the cauldron of rebirth.

And they loved, and were one. For there be three great mysteries in the life of man, and magic controls them all. To fulfil love, you must return again at the same time and in the same place as the loved ones, and you must meet, and know, and remember, and love them again.

But to be reborn you must die, and be made ready for a new body. And to die, you must be born; and without love, you may not be born.

And our Goddess ever inclines to love and mirth, and happiness; and she guards and cherishes her children in life, and in death she teaches the way to her communion. And even in this world she teaches them the mystery of the Magic Circle, which is placed between the worlds of men and of the Gods.

Blessed Be.

The Release

 "That which belongs to Air has returned to the East,

The wheel turns and Spring is over.

That which belongs to Fire has returned to the South,

The wheel turns and Summer has flown.

                        That which belongs to Water has returned to the West,

                        The wheel turns and Autumn passes.

                        That which belongs to Earth has returned to the North,

                        The wheel turns, the Winter has ended.

That which belongs to Spirit has returned to the Old Ones,

The wheel turns and Cauldron awaits.

That which belongs to fellowship and love –

That which belongs to Circle –

Remains with us.

Nothing is final, no farewell is the last.

The wheel turns,

And we, who tread the dance which never ends,

Will share the gifts of food and wine again."

Close

A tea light candle and place in the cauldron

And say:-

let that light guide her way to the Summerlands, where he may rest in peace until you all meet again.

Blessed Be.

Last Part

Music is played some of my mums favorite songs while Altar is clear cauldron and star are left in place until tea light burns out Music is turned off.

And I say:-

This was done for my mum and it is now time to start the new chapter this star will be a symbol that what remains are the memories of past.

The cauldron then picked up and lid put on and I say:-

This is a symbol of life and death and rebirth and the continuing cycle of life (and lid put) now it is symbol of the after life, its mystery of the after life the hidden a mystery a life in the womb.

I then take the cauldron in to the garden remove the lid and say this is the symbol of birth and rebirth the contents are then pour on to the garden and say.

What was symbols now becomes real these items will age and decay give way to new life and change this the cycle of life there is no escape.

By excepting this I except the death of my mother and allow her to withdraw