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Gender: Female
Status: Married
Age: 28
Sign: Aquarius

City: Corbin
State: Kentucky
Country: US
Signup Date: 10/13/2006

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Tuesday, June 09, 2009 
It's so funny, I was going to put this off, seeing that there's way too many other things that I should be doing, like sleeping, or planning vbs crafts, or more importantly  finish writing my term paper for school. I just felt like getting something out there...It's been way too long since I have shared. So, on with the show! Hope you enjoy.

This is for the blog group A*N*D (A New Day)
As they keep changing MS...I am getting worse and worse @ making links...so, you'll have to search my friends...or copy and paste the following into your browser if it doesn't work.
http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendId=445587134&blogId=493097557

I don't know exactly when, but at an early age, I learned about sterotypes. I didn't know that was the term, but I knew none the less.
For those of you who know me, you know that I have a brother who has some physical abnormalities...he was one of triplets, the only survivor, and he was born with a lot of things wrong with him. I remember how he would complain about people staring at him. I remember children asking so many questions, to which neither of us knew the answer....But most of all, I remember how hurt he was, that he wasn't considered "normal" like everyone else.
I think that is why I was always nice to everyone. I never wanted to cause pain for someone else, like the pain I saw my brother experience.
Although this may seem like a nice thing, it pretty much bit me in the butt in my adult years. I was quick to accecpt, always forgiving, and easily fell in love w/ people whose "flaws" I had overlooked.
Then, I dated someone who helped me change my opinion somewhat. He stereotyped EVERYONE!!! I would argue with him for hours about total strangers. About "all women" or "all men" and many other things.
I realized that humans like to categorize things, and that is why we have sterotypes.
I do feel that at times, sterotypes can be okay. Like if you were bitten by a chihuahua everytime you came near one, you might sterotype them as "mean" or whatever.
There are limits to them though. Not all people who are fat are lazy, not all people who go to school are smart, not all women are helpless, not all men are "knights in shining armor" not all people who wear glasses are smart or nerdy...and on the opposite end sexy. (but boy do I want to pull that off) If you're reading this, you have more than likely thought of dozens of stereo types that you have, have heard, or have been accused of.
I think that the important thing is that we should realize that no one "thing" be it person, or other, is "always" something or "never" something. Generalizations are bland. I would rather get to know the person, before I judge. Wouldn't you?

Personally, when someone puts me in a catergory that I don't like, I either try to prove them wrong, or do things more drmatically to "prove them right" like being called a "hick" I will turn up the southern drawl. =0P It's my own personal..."go procreate w/ urself."

*It is now 4am so, if this isn't exactly making a lot of sense, plz. forgive me. I will edit as soon as I have had a bit of sleep! =0)

Do you give people a chance?
Are you quick to put someone in a category based on looks or ethnicity?
How did being sterotyped make you feel? Did you do anything about it?

I would LOVE to hear what you think about this.
A*New*Day

 
I think you have a great positive outlook on this.  If more people in the world weren't so judgemental.....well, think what a difference that would make. 

I am guessing your relationship with the guy who stereotyped everyone didn't last long. 
 
Posted by A*New*Day on Tuesday, June 09, 2009 - 3:37 PM
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Mis♥N8

 
Thanks, I try to always have a positive outlook.
As for the relationship...yeppers...you're right, it didn't last long.

(for one thing, I think that he wanted to be the next Tucker Max [PIG])
 
Posted by Mis♥N8 on Tuesday, June 09, 2009 - 3:39 PM
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Eileen (G) ~ Legacy Writer~
Eileen Eldred

 
Very insightful blog, hon!  Well done! 

I try really hard to not judge people and I'm really tolerant of people.  Hell, I'm the original "Every day of my life is a mistake!" moaner, so how dare I judge others?!  heh heh...

I always get told I'm a push-over, a doormat, too easy on others, because I give them so many chances.  Over the years, though, I've learned to pay attention to my animals AND my kids!
If my dogs and cats didn't like someone, sure enough, sooner or later, they'd show their true colors and I'd withdraw my friendship.

In their late teens and onward, my kids wouldn't let people take advantage of me, either.  I'd be trying to be nice, and they'd be goin': "Mama, she's a user, a loser, a bitch!  Get her out of your life!"
So, yeah, I'm stereotyped as "too nice," but to me, that's not a bad thing to be!  I just have to remember to temper it with some common sense and self-preservation! 


 
Posted by Eileen (G) ~ Legacy Writer~ on Thursday, June 11, 2009 - 6:35 AM
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Mis♥N8

 
Isn't it sad that being too nice is a bad thing? I know exactly what you mean about dogs and cats not liking someone. I used to have some really good four legged friends who could see right through people. (Oh, that reminded me of "There's something about Mary")
Anyway, I can tell that you're a nice person, through your blogs and comments.
Oh, and I had a revelation...I am the most guarded with the person I trust the most. Is that bad?

Thanks for the comment. I hope that life is treating you to a few good friends!
 
Posted by Mis♥N8 on Thursday, June 11, 2009 - 4:12 PM
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@m@nd@ Twisted

 
I get stereotyped all the time at work. Because of my job I must be stupid or lazy....even worse when they assume I am uneducated. I just ignore them because there is no point in trying to talk someone out of a belief they based solely on my job title, to me that just means they are the stupid small minded ones.
 
Posted by @m@nd@ Twisted on Friday, June 12, 2009 - 3:09 PM
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Mis♥N8

 
I used to be treated the same way when I worked at a gas station. I would always bring other things to work, like my photography, or a craft project and people would act stunned that I had other intrests. Especially, if I was reading a book, or studying something. When they asked if I was in school and I said "no" they acted like it was a crime to want to learn on my own. It was kind of funny to me.
I know exactly what you mean about it being a waste of time to try and change people's minds.
One day, I hope that you are surrounded by people who treat you as intelligent as you are.

 
Posted by Mis♥N8 on Friday, June 12, 2009 - 3:42 PM
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Barn01

 
I don't stereotype anyone. Unless they piss me off than i will grumble to myself (cause it makes me feel good) about what an a-hole (stereotype) (stereotype) he or she is.  I wooul dnot say whatever to the person as i am not confrontational, and i might be nervous they would call me a dumb scaredycat Frenchman.

 
Posted by Barn01 on Tuesday, June 16, 2009 - 7:34 AM
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Mis♥N8

 
Oh, the number one person that I can't stand sterotyping me is my husband!
Other than that, people can grumble all they want! LOL
 
Posted by Mis♥N8 on Thursday, June 18, 2009 - 4:02 PM
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Barn01

 
Well yeah, you count on your spouse to stand by you, or defend you or get your back.

 
Posted by Barn01 on Friday, June 19, 2009 - 4:22 AM
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Barn01

 
well yeah , you count on your spouse to stand up for ya and "get your back"

 
Posted by Barn01 on Friday, June 19, 2009 - 4:22 AM
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Mis♥N8

 
that's exactly right. He calls it "old school" but I call it being a jerk! LOL
 
Posted by Mis♥N8 on Friday, June 19, 2009 - 4:24 AM
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Xtreme DIY Girl

 
I try not to form first impressions 'til I get to know someone, but a first impression is hard to avoid.  I try to base my first impression on something other than a stereotype.  However, stereotypes exist for a reason, and some folks use 'em like a playbook. 
 
Posted by Xtreme DIY Girl on Wednesday, June 17, 2009 - 1:02 AM
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Mis♥N8

 
Yes, it is true that some people use them as a play book. I tend to form generalizations about people, but I keep an open mind and let their actions speak for themselves.

 
Posted by Mis♥N8 on Thursday, June 18, 2009 - 4:08 PM
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