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★Chrissy★
Wednesday, August 19, 2009 
After a few years in this biz, I am pleased to say that I have learned a few things.  For example:  Don't sit next to Brandon the morning after he pulls an all-nighter.  Always be grateful for the opportunities you have.  Gargle with saltwater right before you go onstage.  Laugh, always.  Speak up for yourself-nobody else will!  Be kind to your friends, fans, and strangers.  Avoid most gas station pre-cooked food.  NEVER, NEVER, NEVER read reviews or comments that people leave about you in public forums. 
Guess which one I did tonight?
I am good with constructive criticism.  If you can tell me what I'm doing wrong and how I could do it better, I am all ears.  (I'm kind of all ears anyway, thanks to my genes..you should see my kindergarten picture..gives Dumbo a run for his money.)  But I'm a little (okay, overly) sensitive.  When I see other people cry, I get a lump in my throat (they don't even have to be real people-tv and movies work too, including that ad campaign Kleenex ran awhile ago..choked me up every 10 minutes or so).  Once I drove past a homeless lady with a kid and a will-work-for-food sign and I felt so bad that I went back out 3 hours later, bawling, with McDonald's and some money and drove around until I found her.  Not because I am such a noble person-because I'm a sucker for a sad story.  And even after all this time, when people say mean things, it still hurts my feelings.  (Clearly I am well-suited to a life in the public eye, eh?)  Tonight I stumbled upon something accidentally.  I was online letting my mom hear a version of one of my songs recorded by somebody else...a version I happen to love, for the record..and I made the critical mistake of scrolling down (ugh-I KNOW better!)...came upon an argument between multiple people over which one was better.  And of course, though lots of people said nice things about me, the nasty ones are sticking in my gut.  And of course, once I started reading, I couldn't stop.  You would think after many years of criticism AND positivity, I'd be over that crap bugging me..which is why, for the most part, I just avoid it.  But alas, here I sit, like a big old turtle without a shell.  ('Cause I'm a softie.  Not because I'm naked.)

Actually, just writing this is making me feel better, because now instead of thinking about that, I'm thinking about you guys and how great and encouraging you always are.  Way earlier today, mom and I were talking all the hate in the world.  Let's face it, people..life is hard.  For ALL of us..no matter what color we are, how much money we have, what we weigh, and who we choose to love-these are tough times.  And I guess I just don't see the point in putting more ugliness out there.  Occasionally, when I feel like I'm sinking low, I do challenges with myself..I go 72 hours without saying anything that's not positive, or if I think something bad about somebody, I make myself think of 2 good things about them.  Frequently I lose..but the point is, though I can be a jerk too, I'm trying.

This is getting really long, and I guess what I want to say is, let's put more love into the world.  I'm sick of haters and unhappiness, including my own.  Some of you guys will comment on this-it would be awesome if in your comment you could tell me something good about somebody..anybody..someone you know, someone you don't..so we can all share it.  In the wise words of those poetic geniuses, Ren & Stimpy:  HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY!

And also, if you ever have a day where you are a shell-less turtle and you get stepped on, you just let me know and I will break their legs. Er, wait..that's not nice.  What I mean is that I will give them a stern talking-to about turtles and kleenex commercials until they are either so bored or so guilty that they will never be a butthole again.

xoxoxoxo
M
4:24 AM
 
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Saving Jane

 
p.s. I'll go first..my mom gives the best hugs, my dad tells the best jokes, and my bff Julie always listens to me (as evidenced today, when it was raining, and I got out my umbrella with a giant duck face on it, that I only have because one night I was rambling about how I like happy-looking umbrellas, so the next day she went and bought me a duckbrella, which is really for children, but she knew I would love it because I mentally vacillate between the ages of 6 and 13..)
 
Posted by Saving Jane on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 6:02 AM
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~*Prizmatix*~

 
This is personal so I doubt you will put this up on public forum but when you said think of two nice things the person I thought of was you. Yeah yeah family and all. A couple nice things I thought of was your ability to be courageous in the face of trials and tribulations. Most notedly at Mammies funeral. I know what kind of courage it had to take to sing that day and I can say I could not have done it because I couldn't have been brave enough to hold my composure together long enough to get through a song. The second nice thing I thought of was your general thoughtfulness where your family is concerned especially and absolute strangers. You tend to be kind to people first and foremost and that is all too rare these days. The third thing comes from knowing you growing up and seeing it here on this blog. You are no less out spoken here than you are face to face and the ability to be yourself and stand for what you believe in is also a good thing. While I know we never get to talk as I live no where near the rest of the family now I as always wish you nothing but blessing and prosperity.
~K.

 
Posted by ~*Prizmatix*~ on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:00 PM
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Honneywell
Terri Honneywell

 
In a day in which I'm about to call into work(again) because my grandfather died Monday morning and I'm sure they'll fire me...I just can't deal with it today.  You post made me laugh for the first time in 68 hours.  I do love your music, but your blogs always make me smile.  I wasn't going to read it because we get stuck and addicted to these lonely "down" times, but I'm glad I did.  There will always be something wrong.  Life is Dukkha...Aka Suffering.  Understanding that, is the key.  Thanks for reminding me....and Thank you again friend!
 
Posted by Honneywell on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:01 PM
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Kelli Laine. A Memorial
Killed by A Drunk Driver

 
i just adore the way you write & how your mind works.

at least once a week someone posts something mean & hurtful on my daughters memorial page.
which serves zero purpose other than to crush my already broken heart.    people tell me to just ignore it-  but that is impossible.  it's my child they are talking about.    eff that.  i will always fight for my daughter.   i am very upfront about Kelli participating in her own death by drinking that night- however i will not let her take the blame for the two underage drunk drivers or the 3 moron adults that sold alcohol to high school students.   

on the possitive side,  Kelli has thousands of fabulous friends that help me make sure her life AND death matter in the world by saving lives.     i absolutely could not be more grateful.  

i've also met the most wonderful moms, dads, sisters & brothers who have also lost a loved one to the insanity of drunk driving.    we all hold eachother up-- especially on those days when we dont think we can take another step without our kids--   we lend a hand and take another baby step together down this horrible path we have been forced to travel on.      i love these people so much and i love their children 

much love & gratitude
Pam, Kelli's mom

PS: GO BUCKS!!!


 
Posted by Kelli Laine. A Memorial on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:02 PM
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ruby

 
righteous babe... ;)
something nice about you:  you saw us leaving(hello SHY) and made it a point to stop what you were doing and run over and say hi...

something nice about somebody else... theres this lady i know, no matter how busy she is with her own crap she will help YOU, so its hard to ask her... cos you know she will say yes and i don't want to take advantage of her... so because of her i try to give back more
and also, everything about this post makes complete sense... i do the goals thing too, but for me it doesn't work out so much...but i try

 
Posted by ruby on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:02 PM
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Chrissy
Chrissy Arthurs

 
I agree.  We as humans can be so mean.  If we all could just be a little nicer each day, we would so much further ahead at the end of the day!  Smile, say thank you, pay it forward.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts and be being so real and honest! Such a rare trait these days!
 
Posted by Chrissy on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:02 PM
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Atrina & Jeffrey
Atrina Good

 
My son and daughter give the best hugs, my mom is the best friend you could have and you guys are the nicest band I have ever met.
 
Posted by Atrina & Jeffrey on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:02 PM
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Yo Momma

 
I happen to know this awesome girl with an amazing voice and quite a flair for writing blogs!  But enough about me.  :P  Just kidding.  :)

In short, you can't please everyone.  And if you try to, you'll become a pushover and end up losing yourself in the effort.  And look at the bright side; whether good or bad, at least you're doing something worth talking about!  And hey if nothing else channel your hate and anger into a song.  It works for Pink and it worked for Alanis!  LOL! 

Chin up!
 
Posted by Yo Momma on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:03 PM
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Murphy

 
I can find a song of yours for any kind of mood that I am in. I read your blogs and listen to your music and think you are an amazing writer... AND My best friend is the most wonderful and honest person I have ever had the fortune to meet.

 
Posted by Murphy on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:03 PM
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NELSON

 
I like your version of The Pretender way better than Jackson Browne's.  No offense to Jackson.
 
Posted by NELSON on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 2:03 PM
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George

 
Hi Marti,
 My name is George Johnson and live at Hanging Rock. I know a few of your family from around Rock Hollow. I use to see one of your aunts at the Ironton Family Moose center and always tell her how I fell in love with your music. I have played in music for almost 20 years in the tri-state area.
I remember missing the show you did at Green High and wish I hadnt. Now I always look to see when you will be singing close enough to come hear you in person. I wish there was someone in this area that had your song style, it sounds very unique and energetic. Mostly playing cover songs and a few originals by our lead singer Larry Pancake I was always gettin criticism for everything from the type of song, the volume, Larrys conduct and just stupid stuff.
I'll soon be 54 and would love to go see a Snoop Dogg concert even :) music is just entertainment for some and a passion for others. You seem to have that passion and have a beautiful voice and style.
Don't let any critics words get to you, Larry use to ask me what do you think they think of me or his songs and I'd tell him what was told to me once and if you keep it in mind it might help, "Its none of my business what other people think of me". You know what you have is a gift that was gave to you and some would love to have, they are usally the ones criticize. And the emotions and having a big heart is what gives you the inspiration to right songs, and to make that song yours.
So ignore what you read and do what you do best sing your heart and soul to the world, there is people needing that to make our lives happy.
I hope to come see you live someday, sorry for the long rant but I know what you are feeling and you should'nt be.
thanks for listening, and remember  "Its none of my business what other people think of me"
George Johnson 
 
Posted by George on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 6:57 PM
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*~Kara~*
kara ankrum

 
so, the positive...let me get the negative out first...i have been with a guy for 4 yrs...he proposed in Nov whie inthe carribean. i of course said yes and looked forward to spending my life with him. I have a 4 yr old from a previous relationship whom my fiance has raised since 4 months old. In march we found out we were pregnant. Scared and excited i was ready to take on the world.
......3 weeks ago, 6 months pregnant and a stay at home mom, he left me. I am 27 and moving back in with my mother with my 4 yr old and 6 months pregnant. This is me no shell and being stepped on over and over.
so break some legs...lol
the positive....i have a beautiful baby girl who i would do anything for. I wake up and put on a happy face for her. Every decision i make is for her.And now i have another one growing inside me to look forward to. Another little person calling me mommy and me being able to knoe that i would do ANYTHING for my children puts a smile on my face and keeps my head up.

i was told lately that " There is a reason why your past will not be part of your future"
I hope to know the reason soon enough.
More positive inthe world, less negative and please stay strong..someone else is always worse off!
Love you guys, this month i am playing supergirl! 
 
Posted by *~Kara~* on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 6:58 PM
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♥Brittany♥

 
I have the most amazing best friend, Autumn. (I know you can relate to best friends named Autumn being amazing...) We met in 2007, and within a couple weeks, knew we would be friends for the rest of our lives. She moved 3,000 miles away from me just 5 months after meeting. But everyday that's gone by she has still been there. We haven't gone more than a week without talking in nearly 2 years, and I don't knoe how I lived before I knew her. She is so compassionate and kind. She would give the shirt off her back for a stranger. She has an incredible sense of humor and is one of the smartest people I know. If there were more people like her in this world, things would be so much better. So, there's my nice comment. Also, there's this awesome girl singer I know with not only an incredible voice, but who is extremely gifted with writing skills, a sense of humor, and a heart of gold. (Not to mention that we share a love of Golden Girls, which makes you awesome on a whole different level.) Keep doing what you do, you change the world just by taking the time out to share these thoughts with us. You put a smile on people's faces more often than you know. God bless.
 
Posted by ♥Brittany♥ on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 6:58 PM
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Abby

 
I'm the same way, from one overly-sensitive person to another, you're wonderful don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Your music has helped me through so much in life, and I just wanted to say thank you.
PS. I know the Kleenex commercial, and it makes me cry too. I'm so glad I'm not alone :] And I can't sit through The Wizard of Oz without crying, so i usually watch it alone...lol
 
Posted by Abby on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 7:00 PM
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Darby

 
I went looking for inspirational quotes from musicians about criticism, to help make you feel better. Of course, the first one I came across was Lenny Kravitz, who said if he were white, he'd had received less criticism. Not really helpful, Lenny. But then I found this:

Criticism, even when you try to ignore it, can hurt. I have cried over many articles written about me, but I move on and I don't hold on to that. ~ Diana Ross

But then I thought, "why am I sharing a quote from a crazy person? That won't help."

Of course, you said we should say something good about somebody. So I'm going to say that I trust Diana Ross' opinion on criticism more than any other crazy person's.  Does that count?



 
Posted by Darby on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 7:00 PM
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Bama Girl
Krystal Ellsworth

 
I was reading your blog and then laughing b/c it sounded like something i would have wrote.I have a need for everyones approval and I am sooo with you on the crying thing.I think you are awesome and reading what some of the others wrote you really inspired them.
 
Posted by Bama Girl on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 7:00 PM
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Heather and Mike
Heather Rose

 
I love your music, but I think I love to read your blogs more!! You are so funny, think too much(too much like me!!)have so much heart and soul, and you are so down to earth, you could be me, sitting here writing. Let the little things make you happy, like the duckbrella(my 3yr old calls rainbrella, which actually makes more sense if you think about it...where did the un come from??).  That is a positive-"relish(not like pickles) in the little things" "Make the most of every moment"  Let your great friends and family know how awesome they are!!! Mine are!!! Don't know what I'd do w/out them.  The world is hard and cruel. People like us have to do our best to make it better!!! Another positive, I know a great band that makes me feel great by knowing they're normal people too!!!
 
Posted by Heather and Mike on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 10:38 PM
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dani ally
Allysa Ivey

 
one good person in my life is my ex boyfriends father.  My own father hasn't ever really been around and when he is hes not much of a father.  But my ex boyfriends father, has been there for me and helped me in so many ways.  Even after his son and me broke up he has continued to be there.  He baptized me, has shown me the wonderful person i am, and is helping me to move out on my own.  He has shown me what a real father is and i feel loved from him and the whole family, and his whole family is like my adopted family now. i am truly blessed to have them in my life

 
Posted by dani ally on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 10:38 PM
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Jim

 
Marti - read this before giving any criticism on the Internet any attention.
http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19/

Now on to the rest. You and the band make great music, and it means the world to me.
For something nice about someone who isn't you ;) - my lovely wife is my best friend in the whole world and my life would be much poorer without her.

 
Posted by Jim on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 12:56 AM
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TSAV

 
Almost everyone's heard of Saving Jane by now.  We've heard "SuperGirl" and "Girl Next Door" on the radio.  Both really good songs and I love music.  So when my friend Nate McDonough plays somewhere I try to always make the show.  Ask Nate, I've prolly been to more of his shows than anyone. Springfield. Kettering. Columbus. So last month when I heard he was playing at Station One I went to go see him. Little did I know that Saving Jane was playing the same nite.  So of course I had to stay. I was even down front right in front of the stage (camera phone pics on my page :) Here I go making a short story long, but that nite, I went from knowing who Saving Jane was to becoming a fan.  On MySpace you're my #5 friend and I added you to my updates so I can see when you post new blogs such as this. You guys were freakin awesome! I had "Better Day" on my profile for weeks and even yesterday, I put your picture slideshow "Once In A Lifetime" on my page.  Being in the spotlight, you'll always have people talking trash about you, but the bright side of this particular story is that one person was performing one of your songs that you wrote.  That's saying something right there.  There will always be haters but there will be way more people who love you. And the people saying the nasty things about you, tell them to write and record their own songs and have a couple albums under their belt before they start talking trash haha.  Love u guys. Hope to see you again soon.
Tony.
 
Posted by TSAV on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:18 PM
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Rock$tar

 
And when I said your song and video on my page, I meant this one, my personal page. TSAV is my music page.  No, seriously my name's not TSAV :)
 
Posted by Rock$tar on Friday, August 21, 2009 - 1:18 AM
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joyfulgrl35

 
You have sooo many songs that I love because it's like you looked inside my head & pulled out exactly how I was feeling. Butterflies is one of my current faves cuz everytime I hear it I think about my boyfriend & smile. I cry at all kinds of things on tv. I've almost cried twice in the past two hours over sad things I've seen. Some of my happy things include my brother's recently found sobriety & renewed friendship we have because of it, the fact that my boyfriend's favorite part of the day is when i walk in the door so he can hug me, my pugs because they always love me & are happy to see me no matter what, & my bf Andrea who is always ready to drop everything & listen when I need her.

 
Posted by joyfulgrl35 on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:18 PM
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Ginny

 
u r so fab! Never doubt yourself.
 
Posted by Ginny on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:18 PM
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Ginny

 
ey husband still tells me I'm pretty. My kids still think I know everything. My Mom and Dad are still together after 33 years and more in love than ever. My MIL is so amazing I cant stand it I LOVE her. MY JEsus rocks too with out him Id be nothing. Music feeds my soul and I pray you Know how important your music is to your fans.
 
Posted by Ginny on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:19 PM
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Casey

 
I'm with you on constructive criticism. I feel that you can't make something better until you know what's wrong with it. But I also get very defensive of my work, whether it be art or music. As much as it sucks to hear people put you or your work down (and as a fellow artist, I know how closely related they are), the important thing is that you've got the people here that do the opposite. I have a lot of respect for you, personally. For one thing, you and the boys have managed to stay my favorite band for over four years now...in that four years, a million things changed. But not my favorite band. I've seen you three times -- all three times you came out after the show and treated your fans like friends. I've never seen that before. So a few jerks can talk as tough as they want when they're hiding behind their keyboards. Turn it into something positive. Write a song about 'em. Tell 'em to suck it when you cash the check =) As for something good about somebody -- my best friends are absolutely amazing. We have our fights and have treated each other like crap on occasion, but we've learned something from each one of those occasions and used it to make our friendship stronger. I honestly couldn't imagine not having them by my side. -PS- I'm having some issues submitting this...I apologize if it went through a billion times.
 
Posted by Casey on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:19 PM
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lady

 
heheheh...yur awesome girl! the guys are awesome too! 2 things!!!! loved ur concert in reynoldsburg. : ) be very, very well, and very, very blessed!
 
Posted by lady on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:19 PM
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Dale the Primetime Hitman
Dale Jones

 
I would love to sit and have a drink with you (alcoholic or nonalcoholic) and talk to you.  You can lean on my shoulder and talk to me anytime, and I hope I can do the same.

 
Posted by Dale the Primetime Hitman on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 2:19 PM
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Matt

 
Yo kid, over the last few years of running into folks like you. The first night I played with y'all you made me feel welcome, and like I was part of yer show. Unlike some of the local bands who don't get it and believe they are more than what they are.

More important I have enjoyed getting to know you over the last few years, there is never a time I have read a post, or been around you that I did not smile (no matter how pi**ed off at the world I was).

ALSO I always thought due to the fact I am from a small town, knowing yer proud redneck side...I have been given hope, and persued (and won bid) for some events I would never have thought of.

So basically...thanx for puttin in all out there, and just being the great person who you are. Beyond the stage, VH1, Disney-etc...this is what I like most, you and yer warm heart!

M
 
Posted by Matt on Friday, August 21, 2009 - 1:18 AM
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julia

 
IM THE SAME WAY!  I know that it hurts when people say things that deep down we may think is true but I want you to know that tonight as I was sitting here in tears because of a MAN ( of coarse) that its YOUR music that helps see me through. So never doubt yourself my love you have a gift that you share with the world. You give a piece of yourself to us with every song and you can borrow my shell anytime you need it cause lord knows that I dont use it enough! 

 
Posted by julia on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:07 AM
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Walking by my Wild Lone
Megan Lacey

 
You have a real gift and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
And just look at how many people have commented because they wanted to help you feel better?
And you know what- after a crappy day when everything that can go wrong does- I put Saving Jane on, and I feel better- because you have this marvelous insight that makes people think- "I'm not the only one who feels this way... and it will get better."

(PS- I cry at all sorts of weird, random things... you are not alone!)


 
Posted by Walking by my Wild Lone on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:07 AM
[Reply to this] 
RokandRole

 
I love your blogs!  You can always count on a supportive word from me....
 
Posted by RokandRole on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:07 AM
[Reply to this] 
Kiki

 
I dont get on ms much anymore but got on today and glad I read your blog. I know you dont know me from any other fan you see at all your events but... still felt the need to say, I relate a lot to your songs, your blogs and just always enjoy you. People are mean and they must have really crappy things going on in their lives or just suck at life to say nasty things!
You are awesome!
 
Posted by Kiki on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:08 AM
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b e c k i ♠

 
you rock =)
whenever i feel like a shell-less turtle being stepped on i listen to "open happiness", that song off the coke ad. makes me feel so much better
something nice about someone... my mother. she is my best friend, i can tell her anything and she never judges me. she works so hard and i hardly ever appreciate it even though i try and i should. i shall give her a big squishy hug later =) 'cos everyone needs a big squishy hug, no matter how they're feeling
xx
 
Posted by b e c k i ♠ on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:08 AM
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*~Lillia~*

 
People just like to be mean sometime because they're jealous or they want to push buttons. It's stupid.  It's takes wayyy too much effort to be mean and nasty. I'm like you, a big softy. It's hard putting yourself out there infront of the public. I'm a singer too and I have reservations before going out for talent contests because I'm not the "type". I'm not a size zero so I worry what people will say. It's hard. Most time I don't want to read the new comments I get on Youtube cause I'm afraid it will be a hater. :) Stay positive!

 
Posted by *~Lillia~* on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:08 AM
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Little Miss Mary Sunshine

 
First you are so awesome--please come to Phoenix.
Okay..we've been feeling really lonely here...we have no family and really started to question if we had friends.
Our son ended up in the emergency room and it was very serious.  We called friends....and were blown away by their quickness to be there for us.  It very needed and appreciated.  And we were blessed with great doctors and nurses to take care of our child. 

Saving Jane rules.
xoxo
Your friend in Phoenix
Carolyn.
 
Posted by Little Miss Mary Sunshine on Sunday, August 23, 2009 - 3:08 AM
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Corinne
Corinne Snyder

 
You are right, this world is filled with hate. Why people choose to add to the fire, I will never know. Some people will find fault in anything, weither its valid or not, instead of looking at the fault in themselves. But I do know that your music has helped me get through some very rough times. My youngest son is special needs and when he was in the hospital for months your music helped calm me and him down. I would sit and rock him for hours listening to your lyrics. Thank you for being a light for me during a very rough time. Instead of thinking of the negativity that you read, think of the difference that you have made in the lives of so many others. After all, isn't that whats more important? You make a POSITIVE difference in the world by offering lyrics that actually mean something!!!!  Thank you so much for that. I know that I'm not the only person that you have offered comfort to. Keep On Rockin!!!
 
Posted by Corinne on Wednesday, August 26, 2009 - 3:30 AM
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Dave E
David E

 
Marti:  No need to make this one public, but feel free if appropriate.  We had to audition new bassists today since Shorty suddenly moved to Akron to run the Guitar Center there.  We actually took a guy that Jeremy suggested even though Jerm never heard him play!  The guy fit in well.

After the auditions, I asked Dak how his week was without his son and he said it sucked.  He really, truly and genuinely missed his son.  I thought it was just the most wonderful thing!

 
Posted by Dave E on Wednesday, August 26, 2009 - 3:30 AM
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~+Fallen_Fairy+~
Valerie E

 
After reading your awesome blog I have a few words of my own to say. As I sit here I think of all of the good times I had with my mom. My mom was my inspiration, she passed away at 42 due to Lupus complications leading to a massive stroke. I was with her when she passed away, we were in the house and my last words to her were, "You are my best friend!". It was almost as if she wanted or needed to hear that before leaving this world and going to a place where judgement isn't placed upon anyone.
Words often hurt so many people. Such as when I was growing up I wasn't very close to my mom. Words were exchanged in a not so nice tone often and I was bitter toward for for numberous reasons. However, when it came down to it, I knew that she was the reason I was placed in this world, and I grew to respect her in my teenage years.
Moral of this is, no matter what you say, or hear, sometimes it's what makes us who we are. We can't go through life thinking we're doing great all the time. We somehow need the mean words to mold us into who we become. Even if we're hurt by words at times, we have to focus on what it is that is really important to us.
Family is number one even when pain is associated with it at times. Then comes fans and friends and additional loved ones. Stumbling upon insults of those who don't appreciate who you are, aren't something to focus on because they've not taken the time to know who you are. Judging people without giving them the opportunity to introduce themselves isn't fair to you or them or those who you are loved by.
We're all only human! This world is full of cruelty, and not only to people anymore. I <3 you and your band Marti! I've always thought of you as an inspiration to me.
xoxo
 
Posted by ~+Fallen_Fairy+~ on Wednesday, August 26, 2009 - 3:31 AM
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Rachel Rose

 
Hey Marti,

Don't let those people get to you. There are so many fans out there that love you and your music (myself included), just remember that. I totally respect and look up to you, you're such a great person. There will always be negative people out there, but you just need to prove them wrong. Prove to them that you're the better person. If that seems hard, just ignore them. After all, the people that matter are the ones that care about you.

Hope you are in a better mood and I can't wait to see you and the band at UWSP!

 
Posted by Rachel Rose on Friday, August 28, 2009 - 11:14 PM
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Amy
Amy Granger

 
I know what you mean. I had some stupid little random kid's comment to me on twitter bother me a few weeks ago. Its hard to deal with at any age. I'm blessed with amazing friends though who are always there for me when I need  them. I remember telling my bff Annmarie right after it happened and within minutes she had me laughing a her sarcastic comments :) Nothing can keep you down for long when you surround yourself with awesome friends.
 
Posted by Amy on Monday, September 07, 2009 - 10:50 PM
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Phoenix

 
Hey Marti, I just wanted to let you know how deeply our music has affected me.  You're SUCH a talented songwriter--if I can be half the songwriter you are, than I'll be good to go. :) I love reading your blogs cuz they're always so funny and witty.  That's my positive--when I feel down, I read your blogs.  When I'm feeling empowered, I put on your CDs at full blast.  (I have to say nothing compares to dancing around my bedroom to "Loser" "One Girl Revolution" and "SuperGirl" with a hyper sheltie puppy jumping everywhere to) 

I can (sort of) relate--once I posted an honest question online (yahoo answers, ugh) and immediately got mocked and shot down by four different people.  It was so disheartening.  

I love you!  I hope to see you in Evansville, IN!!!

 
Posted by Phoenix on Thursday, September 10, 2009 - 5:52 AM
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1 of the 15 million unemployed
Erin Kinnaird

 
Ok, my something good....

My best friend lives 3 1/2 hours away from me and sometimes we go for months without talking because our schedules are so crazy but whenever we do get to talk or hang out, we just pick back up where we left off.  It's like all the time between didn't even occur.  I can be having the worst day and just hearing her ramble on about the randomness of her life lifts my spirits.  She's the kind of person I wish I was. 
 
Posted by 1 of the 15 million unemployed on Wednesday, September 16, 2009 - 1:45 PM
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;) the shiney one
Kandice Ray

 
the kudos you will get from me are inmeasurable cause this is my dilema i cant get back to the happy me.saying and doing nice things cause im so bitter....prayer.thanks for putting your self out there in this blog and your music may god bless you always
 
Posted by ;) the shiney one on Thursday, September 17, 2009 - 3:06 AM
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əıɹɐɯ ɐsıl

 
Oh, I love you, Marti!  You have such an amazing way with words.  Your blogs always feel like you're just chatting with your friends (and I love all the little bits you add in parentheses), and your songs are so clever with so many different depths.  Thanks for sharing your amazing gift with all of us.  

PS. (I can't wait to hear more songs like Grace and You Said)

 
Posted by əıɹɐɯ ɐsıl on Thursday, September 17, 2009 - 3:06 AM
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Shad
Shad Hester

 
Hey sister lou, Im the lead guitarist for the band Bliss,we opened for u guys a few years back in Tupelo Ms..I really liked ur style,and the version of people get ready..Any way,I really like ur views on being kind to to people. No matter what,always be kind to people. People are gonna hate,and have bad opinions,no matter what we do..Dont let that change what we are or how we think..Hope to bump into u guys again..Shad...
 
Posted by Shad on Sunday, September 20, 2009 - 10:10 PM
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Nurse Kim

 
I so love reading your blogs!  We all hurt when someone says something negative about us, and it has got to be even harder when you are in the public eye because absolute strangers are judging you.  It's funny what you said about saying two positive things for each negative because I have recently started doing that with my kids.  Everytime one of them insults someone I make them say 2 nice things about that person.  It's a work in progress.  Don't let the haters get you down.  There is far too much hate in the world.  You have an amazing talent and the world is blessed that you chose to share it with us.  :)  Thank you!
 
Posted by Nurse Kim on Sunday, September 20, 2009 - 10:10 PM
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brooke[loves]conor ♥

 
i agree =] first of all YOU are super talented. ok i'll go. my boyfriend, no matter how annoying he can get (ha) he always knows how to make me feel better. my best friend is my anchor. my other best friend always listens. my sister cracks me up after we fight. my mom occasionally gives me gas money even when she said she never would. and i'm lucky the people around me hate drama as much as i do =]
ps...i'd never put a bad comment about you anywhere. =]]
 
Posted by brooke[loves]conor ♥ on Wednesday, October 07, 2009 - 3:45 AM
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