we're coming down to the nitty gritty of the wedding planning.  found out that more out of town relatives are coming than i thought would give a shit.  on the one hand that's wonderful.  but it also means that we're left with like 6 openings for local friends.  narrowing down the guestlist will be much harder than i anticipated.  rough plans are in the mix for a kick ass post wedding party just for friends that will happen once we get back from the honeymoon. 

in the meantime, i need feedback on a protocol question.  is it rude to invite someone to the bridal shower and then not invite them to the wedding due to the size limitations?  what about the bachelorette party?